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I have been married almost 22 years. Since I have lost the weight 2 1/2 yrs ago with surgery I finally have found out what a true orgasm is. Not that I didn't have them before, but I think im more in "tune" with what's going on when they happen. The only thing is it takes a vibrator plus my hubby to get there, and its freakin amazing! I hope my hubby doesn't think that he is not good enough for it to be just him? Anyone else have to have a toy to get there?

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TMI for public broadcast. I will send you a private message.

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Been married 21 years and toys are the spice we added quite a ways back. Sometimes they're used sometimes not. At first it was me including them and he is totally into it

Really communication is the key. Make sure you're both good with it. And then get the toys you can use together.

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Ha - good for you! Totally normal to need a little help to get there.

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Been married 21 years and toys are the spice we added quite a ways back. Sometimes they're used sometimes not. At first it was me including them and he is totally into it

Really communication is the key. Make sure you're both good with it. And then get the toys you can use together.

Can you recommend a toy that you can use together? I have to have one too and it would be nice to have something that was more for both of us.

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Can you recommend a toy that you can use together? I have to have one too and it would be nice to have something that was more for both of us.

Absolutely I will PM you

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Pm me too!! lol I might have used it already but I would like to know as well. I have found just a mini vibrator that has super strong vibrations works wonders for me and my hubby.

Can you recommend a toy that you can use together? I have to have one too and it would be nice to have something that was more for both of us.


Absolutely I will PM you

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could you possibly PM me too?

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Athena's makes toys for couples.. Specifically ones that a man wears around his penis and there is a small vibrator attached to the top of the ring ,so that when he is inside you the vibrator is resting on your clitoris !! I highly recommend those , they have a few kinds/shapes .. Even one that is USB rechargeable!!

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The problem arises when the guy refuses to have anything wrapped around his penis. I have a bullet but I find it to be a pain because it makes my whole hand vibrate when I'm trying to hold it there and I find it distracting. I'd like to find something that is tiny or mini that Tiff was talking about.

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Check out the Lelo line. A little more expensive but Fabulous. I think the Ida is for both.

They have a great warranty too. I've had mine for two years and it still works as well as the day I got it

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Its perfectly normal. We need a little extra considering where are "button" is. I took an anthropology class and learned that happened because we stand on two feet. I learned that some species of primates have their clitoris much closer to their opening.

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I use toys I have a whole bunch for all sorts of things lol
I don’t need double stimulation but toys are fun everyone should have them so I do!
I added a pic of one it’s a good toy to have for inserting or a clit stimulator you hold and can have your hand further up out of the way so to speak.
And it’s a strong little bugger too its called the multispeed slimline G-spot vibrator

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Check out the Lelo line. A little more expensive but Fabulous. I think the Ida is for both.

They have a great warranty too. I've had mine for two years and it still works as well as the day I got it

I second the Lelo... :) pricy but the other toys just never seem to get any play time after getting one. lol.

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I use toys I have a whole bunch for all sorts of things lol

I don’t need double stimulation but toys are fun everyone should have them so I do!

I added a pic of one it’s a good toy to have for inserting or a clit stimulator you hold and can have your hand further up out of the way so to speak.

And it’s a strong little bugger too its called the multispeed slimline G-spot vibrator

I have one of those but I've never thought to use it as a clit stimulator. That would be good because the bullet makes my whole hand vibrate and it's annoying.

Thanks for a good idea. I am going to try it.

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