I am furious with my surgeon at the moment... This is NOT my fault!

[Daydra 345]

Everyone here is different but the commonality is that we are sleeved. I averaged 400-500 calories a day for the first 6 months or so. Its all I could eat. I never worried about it. I had good success and it did slow down after the first three months. My surgeon didnt worry about it either and they never pushed me to eat more calories. It gradually increased as I could hold more food. I was 100% successful in my weight loss and hit my goal at 13 months post op. The moral is.. do not make it your GOAL to eat a prescribed amount of calories. Shoot for as much Protein as possible 70-100 grams and that's it. No need to push it. You will not be as successful as you could be if you do that. I am shocked you can hold 1100 calories right now unless its high calorie Protein shakes. I have a friend who is also sleeved and her doctor harps on her about not eating enough. I think its all BS. I think you should eat Protein first and not worry about calories. Lets face it, If you are eating lean meat, cheese, etc.. good protein sources, there is no room in there for carby foods and junk or anything else really. You cannot really compare how you eat now to how you used to eat presleeved. Its totally different and your body is now totally different. If you get enough protein and hydration, you will not feel weak even if it seems impossible to live on that few of calories. I didnt purposefully eat so few. I ate protein and I could not hold much. I was so full I was nearly sick each time I ate. I only snacked on protein as well. I ate no bread or Pasta or rice because it filled me up with one or two bites and made me uncomfortable. Good luck to you and I think that you should try to stick to mostly protein and always eat the protein first. Dont worry about calories, only protein. The weight will come off as long as you are following that simple rule. Good luck to you! You can do this!

Thank you! I appreciate your well wishes and sharing your experience. Excellent example of how everyone and every program is different! I would like to respectfully point something out in your response. As I read it, it seemed like because of your specific experience or paradigm, your statements allude to the exact kind of judgement I received from my surgeon that infuriated me so, though I'm sure you didn't mean for it to come off that way. You state that you can't imagine how I can make it to 1100 without eating high calorie Protein Shakes and remind me (more than once) that I should eat protein first. You state that if I were doing that, there wouldn't be any room for any of that carby foods and junk. You can't know what I have room for, because you can't know the exact size of my sleeve, and you can't know what and how I eat, because I haven't told you other than the number of calories and macronutrient ratios over the week previous to my appointment. I'm not offended, I just wanted to point it out, because my recent interaction made me particularly aware of this. I also know that I have unintentionally made judgements based on my own paradigms and am going to have to work at identifying and stopping it whenever I can in the future.

Intake not even as low as yours didn't work out for me too well. I was managing to get my protein minimums in most of the time (though, admittedly, my tracking was beginning to get a bit dicey. It seemed hardly worth doing when my intake was so low.), and my lab results showed that dehydration wasn't the issue, so that pretty much leaves me with calories as the culprit, as my doctor also believed.

I do make use of a protein supplement most days to make sure I get it all, but no, they are not particularly high cal. If I make something higher calorie like a smoothie, it balances out because it replaces a midmorning snack and takes me until afternoon to finish it. Some solid protein sources still feel a bit like rocks, so I'm still relying somewhat on plain greek yogurt, kefir, cheese, and milk. Not ideal, but it gets the job done. My nutritionists plan provides some servings of carbohydrates, and some carbs come with protein-rich foods as well (dairy, beans). Also, your surgeon may have made your sleeve smaller than mine. I discussed sleeve size with my surgeon before the procedure, and she stated that she feels that going slightly larger reduces risk of stricture. A goal I can enthusiastically get behind, and since I would prefer to lose slower rather than faster, that was a-ok with me. I believe I read an article that stated that ultimately, the capacity of any one person's sleeve is someone affected by their height, basically due to the slightly longer length of the stomach in taller people (I may be off on that statement because it seems like it was one of the early things I read when I was researching, so if someone recalls a paper that said something different, I apologize.) I also recall reading an article that stated that the size of the sleeve doesn't indicate patient success. This paper states that there is "no clinical advantage" to reducing caloric intake below 800 cal. in a VLCD http://ajcn.nutrition.org/content/55/4/811.short

My original post really wasn't about my diet or intake, so I'll just stop here, except to say that I'm not comparing the way I used to eat to the way I can eat now. It would have been extremely foolish to think that I would eat the same after surgery. My calorie comparison from before surgery was simply to illustrate the idea that the surgeon seemed to be under the impression that my body virtually instantly took a nearly 60% crash in it's caloric expenditure (if we take the possibility of me lying off the table). If that were truly the case, it would warrant more investigation that simply being told to eat less.

Thanks again for your thoughtful response.

[Daydra 345]

I feel just like you. I am always doing battle with doctors. Yes, they are the professionals but they are not in my skin, or yours.

Absolutely! We always have to decide how much to trust, which advice we're going to take, what recommendations we can live with, the list goes on and on. At the very base, we have to be willing to learn enough and be confident enough to be our own advocates when we feel like something is off. We should never be made to feel that there is a question we shouldn't ask or a concern that we shouldn't voice.

Thanks!

[Daydra 345]

Mea Culpa.

Sorry, folks. I guess I came across too harshly. <insert guffaws here>. Sometimes I get carried away by my line of thinking and wind up not saying exactly what I meant. It reminds me of a saying by Robert McCloskey:

" I know you think you understand what you thought I said but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant."

What I meant was see if this topic has been previously covered by someone else on this site or another site. I was suggesting just research. The main reason I wrote this is that it seemed (from my perspective) that some people were being harsh and negative. (Something that I clearly cannot relate to. ROFL

The other reason I wrote this ... and I'm sure you can all understand and sympathize ... is that it was Day One of my pre-op diet. Enough said?

Pre op was rough! Thanks for the support.

Truly, though, my post wasn't intended to ask for advice, though I am always willing to considering something offered in good spirit. I was primarily just throwing my bad experience with my surgeon out into the universe to vent, but I always hope that whatever I share might in some way benefit someone else (if only in that misery loves company...) I have been doing a ton of reading. I actually bought the books my surgeon suggested. The one I didn't list was "Why We Get Fat" (I forgot about it until I went back over my notes from my appointment). Turns out, this one seems like I may find it valuable. However, I found it hilarious that the first couple chapters seem to be dedicated solely to how doctors have been blaming patients for their obesity for decades when there is a significant amount of research that directly contradicts "calories in/calories out" and that most research indicates that neither calorie restriction, nor increased exercise actually works to keep weight off, except rarely. Yet there she was, adamant that I must be doing something wrong if my body wasn't responding the way we expected. I don't know... maybe she was sick the day she read those chapters... Just like I was sick that day in Kindergarten when we learned sharing...

[Daydra 345]

Just my two cents worth, and it's only my opinion, but the lower the calories the better. I couldn't get in 700 until almost 6 months out. I reached my doctor's goal in 5 and mine in 6.

The PhD doctor that speaks at a support group I attend said that unless we are in a POW camp, we aren't going into starvation mode and low calories will not alter our metabolism. You can take that for what it's worth, but I went from who knows how many calories a day to starting out post op at 300, and never more than 800 when I was losing.

I was very cautious about what I ate, that whole honeymoon period thing was forefront in my mind. This has worked for me, like this doctor told us, we had surgery to eat less. I've been maintaining for over 2.5 years. At 1300 I maintain, at 1400 I gain. If i drop back to 900 - 1050, I'll lose. It's a fine line, but I'm finding it easy to do, knock on wood.

Thanks! I appreciate the response. I linked an abstract in a previous response stating that there wasn't any clinical benefit to going below 800 cal. Not likely to be true for every single one of us, but it was true of their test subjects (obese women).

I have heard the "starvation mode is a myth" statement before. This 2013 article from Clinical Science states otherwise, well depending on how you define "starvation mode", but I think of it as the reduction in TEE as described in the paper. It's under Energy Expenditure in "Physiological Adaptations to Weight Loss" http://www.clinsci.org/cs/124/0231/1240231.pdf

Leibel, R. L., Rosenbaum, M. and Hirsch, J. (1995) Changes in energy expenditure resulting from altered body weight. N. Engl. J. Med. 332, 621–628

Sorry, that tiny font was the citation for the article that was used to support their claim. I tried to make it bigger, but the copy and paste just doesn't seem to want to play nice. Now I've got funky font size that seems resistant to change in my regular text, too!

Your statement of your calorie balance actually lends support to my belief that there should be no reason for me to drop any lower in calorie intake than where I am to lose weight. You weigh almost 100 pounds less than me, are 2 inches shorter than me, 18 years older than me, and I can all but guarantee you are built (what... finer than me? Smaller boned? Less stocky? None of that sounds good...) At any rate, I probably have a bigger bone structure, yet you lose at up to 1050. Yet, my doctor believes that I was telling her that I wasn't able to lose at 1100 (not exactly the impression she would have been left with had I been allowed to finish any of my attempts to explain my concern or answer her questions.) Her response was that I should eat less than 1100. I just can't buy that without some proof, because I don't believe that is the problem.

[Daydra 345]

I love this! Why bother to ask experienced people when you can do research until you find what you WANT to hear. I have been a part of these boards for 2+years and I have been sleeved for the same amount of time. I do know MUCH about the sleeve. My sister, niece, best friend and husband are ALL sleeved, so its not just my experience I am basing my comments off of, its that of my entire family! I really think that 1100 calories would be damn near impossible to take in if you are newly sleeved AND its from a good Protein source- besides shakes that is.. I'm talking solid food. All I can advise is to follow the Protein first rule and you will be successful, and be patient. Trying to cram in more calories just doesn't make sense to me, I don't care how insane it sounds to only be eating 500 or so. Its not insane for a sleever! Our tummies are tiny! No need to go trying to stretch what you paid good money to make smaller! but,, I digress.

Okay... 2 things.

1 - I hope you are not implying that by looking for information from professionals and published resources, I am somehow searching for the answer I "want" to hear, because I feel that it would be foolish to blindly accept advice on my health decisions from someone on a forum that I have never met or particularly noticed the quality or tone of their posts, just because they say they know what they're talking about. Perhaps that part of your response wasn't directed toward me...

2 - You seem to indicate here that you believe I must be gorging or stuffing myself when I eat. You stated in your previous post that you often were so full you felt sick after you would eat. I admit to having made some mistakes on tolerable volumes and the appropriate speed which I can eat without discomfort during the learning process, but I currently rarely feel ill or any discomfort when I eat and am especially careful when eating any dense protein because I am still adjusting to that. Perhaps you assume I am doing the same thing you did?

Okay, maybe 3 things... I actually do take offense to the implication that I am somehow trying to "cram" in calories. I am eating under my nutritionists guidelines. If you think it's silly to follow that recommendation, so be it. I would recommend that you don't follow it. Let me be very clear here. I understand that you believe you are right. And since you have been very successful, you clearly are right for you. However, I've never me you. To me, you are "a random". I'm unlikely to take your advice over someone I know to have a degree in nutrition, and that I found to be reasonable after lengthy discussion.

[Daydra 345]

I am 5'9" as well, have a large build, and my doctor's nutrition program has lifetime caloric intake at 800-1000 cal/day. No changes for height. Your body probably can't handle more than that, and 700 cal/day should not cause you to go into starvation mode. Have you seen the dietician? The therapist? They'll probably give you a better insight that the MD.

Thank you, I agree that the dietician would likely give me better insight than the surgeon, however, she's already given me her recommendations, so I'm sticking with them. I think I indicated in my post (if not, I did in one of these responses) that I didn't believe that I actually need a change in diet. I believe it's some combination of increased hydration and my body's reaction to the calorie normalization. But, at any rate, the post was about the interaction with the surgeon, not any "failure" to lose weight. The entire issue was that I was angry at being marginalized. I saw a therapist for a few months before surgery, but we determined that there wasn't really a need for me to continue seeing her unless I ran into something I felt I needed to work out. All of my closest friends are therapists and social workers. I talk to them about everything. It will be pretty easy for me to identify when/if I need to see a therapist. So far, I haven't had the emotional sh*tstorm I expected. No tears, no increase in depression, no sense of loss or grief. Short tempered at times, but that's pretty much my baseline. I used the clinic therapist for my psych eval. I would not consider seeing her for therapy. She was very nice, but her idea of a psych eval was a 25 minute telephone conversation. Thank you very much, $275, please! I didn't know that was what I was in for until she didn't make it to the scheduled appointment and rescheduled me for a phone "interview". I would have used my regular therapist, but she couldn't do it, so I just used the one at the clinic because I figured it would be less hassle. That part was definitely true... All of that is neither here nor there. At any rate, a therapist isn't going to tell me all the deep dark secrets of how the metabolism works, and I'm not stressing over weight loss. I'm just angry about my interaction with my surgeon during this appointment.

[Daydra 345]

To be blunt and to not waste anyones time.. Asking a surgeon for a detailed response about the effects of bariatric surgery on an individuals metabolic rate (particularly as we're all different) is like asking a baker to fix a rare sports car. In short, you need an endocrinologist.

As for the impeded weight loss. You sadly had a bit of a rough trot of it immediately after your surgery - so this would definitely have short-circuited the system - giving much credence to the points made by our learned friends on this site, that you may have to wait it out and see how your body normalises.

As far as references for current academic research go, please see below. As you'll know, academic research is normally very narrow in its focus, so you'll have to go through quite a few of them in order to assimilate a potential 'ground truth' for yourself. However, there are some articles which offer the generic information you seek which might at least allay your current fears. Naturally, this comes with the caveat that without full knowledge of the endless subtleties and nuances the endocrine system plays on our bodies, it might appear attractive to propose one hypothesis for your current predicament, for it to then be incorrect because of a previously unidentified and unevaluated interaction.

Consequently, if you want your rare sports car fixed? Go see a specialist mechanic

Hope this helps. Any questions or queries, please do not hesitate to ask. Best of luck, Daydra x

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bariatric surgery

require indefinite, regular follow-up care by physicians who need to follow laboratory parameters of macronutrient as well as micronutrient malnutrition. Physicians who care for patients after

bariatric surgery

need to be familiar with common postoperative syndromes that result from specific nutrient deficiencies.

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bariatric surgery

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[AmandaRaeLeo 2,145]

Jeez I read that whole thing. Whatever else you do' date=' get your BMR tested. That's the one thing you mentioned that makes sense. With that information you do not have to guess any longer. Your BMR test results will tell you exactly how many calories you're burning. The problem with the fit bit/body bug devices is they estimate your calorie burn based in non sleever information. Everything changed the day you got sleeved. It has been well documented the metabolic "reset" that VSG causes....and they are still not 100% sure how and why. But such things as diabetics being able to go off meds immediately even before they lose the weight...these instances happen frequently. Point is what worked before sleeve doesn't necessarily work the same way now. Also, curious about your hospitalization. Was it lack of calories or lack of hydration? Cause most people suffer from dehydration immediately after surgery, but lack of calories does not usually cause problems. Our bodies will happily burn fat at that point. But even drinking the 64 oz of Water maynot be enough for someone like you with a large athletic frame. It's not for me. I drink double that. It's always a shock to people how much of our daily Water needs are obtained through food prior to surgery. After surgery, that's no longer the case which is why they push us to drink so much.[/quote']

Yes. I agree.

[Forensikchic 528]

Okay... 2 things.

1 - I hope you are not implying that by looking for information from professionals and published resources' date=' I am somehow searching for the answer I "want" to hear, because I feel that it would be foolish to blindly accept advice on my health decisions from someone on a forum that I have never met or particularly noticed the quality or tone of their posts, just because they say they know what they're talking about. Perhaps that part of your response wasn't directed toward me...

2 - You seem to indicate here that you believe I must be gorging or stuffing myself when I eat. You stated in your previous post that you often were so full you felt sick after you would eat. I admit to having made some mistakes on tolerable volumes and the appropriate speed which I can eat without discomfort during the learning process, but I currently rarely feel ill or any discomfort when I eat and am especially careful when eating any dense Protein because I am still adjusting to that. Perhaps you assume I am doing the same thing you did?

Okay, maybe 3 things... I actually do take offense to the implication that I am somehow trying to "cram" in calories. I am eating under my nutritionists guidelines. If you think it's silly to follow that recommendation, so be it. I would recommend that you don't follow it. Let me be very clear here. I understand that you believe you are right. And since you have been very successful, you clearly are right for you. However, I've never me you. To me, you are "a random". I'm unlikely to take your advice over someone I know to have a degree in nutrition, and that I found to be reasonable after lengthy discussion.[/quote']

You are absolutely right. You shouldn't take my advice or any other successful sleever for that matter. You seem like you already know everything and have it all figured out. I should have picked up on that when in your original post you were mad at your surgeon and took no responsibility for your weight gain. I will refrain from ever commenting on a post from you or one that you added your thoughts to previously. I don't have that kind of time to spend online arguing with a person who asked for advice but already knows it all. Good luck to you. I'm sure you will be a success however you define the term.

[AmandaRaeLeo 2,145]

You are absolutely right. You shouldn't take my advice or any other successful sleever for that matter. You seem like you already know everything and have it all figured out. I should have picked up on that when in your original post you were mad at your surgeon and took no responsibility for your weight gain. I will refrain from ever commenting on a post from you or one that you added your thoughts to previously. I don't have that kind of time to spend online arguing with a person who asked for advice but already knows it all. Good luck to you. I'm sure you will be a success however you define the term.

Um, do I detect a facetious undertone here?

[Forensikchic 528]

Um' date=' do I detect a facetious undertone here? [/quote']

I've grown tired of this whole subject. I tried to help by saying what made me successful but alas my suggestions of Protein first and not overeating the sleeve were unwanted and unwelcome so I just wished her well. It's obvious she knows the secret to success and is not really here seeking advice from those who have already done it. It's seems that she merely wants to argue her point of view and I'm not going to engage in that further. It's a fruitless endeavour. I do genuinely wish her well. I am not a mean spirited person. I know when my thoughts are not welcome and that's fine. Sometimes in these posts you can't tell a person's intent and I was only trying to give advice that I was given. No harm meant but No use in beating a dead jackass. See you on another thread! I'm out! :-)

[gamergirl 4,609]

Daydra I read your whole post and I can so relate. You don't know how hard I have been working to NOT do exactly what you are doing, which is exactly what I used to do before the surgery: try to find my own answers.

I'm a problem solver. I'm well-educated. I know more about my body than any doctor who doesn't take time to understand me. Only I can help myself.

And then I hit 230 lbs by trying to solve my own problems my own way.

When I decided to have the surgery, I didn't worry about food funerals, not being able to eat, social life, etc etc. I worried that I wouldn't follow the plan. That I would continue to to think I could educate myself and customize and tweak things for myself.

For me, getting mentally ready wasn't about food. It was about giving up control. About subjugating myself to a plan, not overthinking it, and just DOING it. Super hard for people like us! But there is a plan here.

In broad strokes, it's to eat between 600-800 calories, get at least 60 gms of Protein and drink at least 64 oz of Water. That's it. Don't question it. Try it.

Your doc is right, our metabolism isn't like that of people who have not yo yo'ed. Some studies suggest our metabolism is up to 40% slower! But there I go again--using my knowledge and science to justify something.

I don't need to. For once, I don't need to know. I don't need to be the expert. I just need to follow orders. As much as I HATE following orders, that's what I need to do. I don't even need to understand why, even though half my posts are all about why why why.

Your admission to the ER was due to a stricture and dehydration. Don't relate it to calories. Eat your Protein, drink your Water and keep your calories between 600-800 while losing. Just do it for a few months.

FYI, my husband is 6 tall, big burly man, was 298 at his highest, 278 DOS and is 225 now. Very muscular. And he follows the same plan as I do. Eat between 600-800 calories, get at least 60 gms of protein and drink at least 64 oz of water.

I hope I didn't sound harsh because I say this to you with love. Let go my dear, and let the plan take over.

[gamergirl 4,609]

Aaand I probably should have read the other pages before I posted because I read you weren't asking for help or advice but rather sharing your frustration with the surgeon.oops. I can delete my post if you'd like?im kinda half man so I always look for solutions even when people are just venting.

I will say the reason I didn't automatically delete my post is because I do think for people like us, letting go IS part of the issue. It's also part of your issue with your surgeon thinking she knew better what was good for you and ignoring your input. I would respectfully like to suggest that while her bedside manner may have sucked, maybe she does know better. Maybe.

[Butterthebean 8,146]

Aaand I probably should have read the other pages before I posted because I read you weren't asking for help or advice but rather sharing your frustration with the surgeon.oops. I can delete my post if you'd like?im kinda half man so I always look for solutions even when people are just venting.

I will say the reason I didn't automatically delete my post is because I do think for people like us' date=' letting go IS part of the issue. It's also part of your issue with your surgeon thinking she knew better what was good for you and ignoring your input. I would respectfully like to suggest that while her bedside manner may have sucked, maybe she does know better. Maybe.[/quote']

Don't delete....it's a good post. It indeed may ring true to others....even if not the OP.

[Madam Reverie 2,958]

Show off.

<shakes her tail feathers>