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Did someone add Globetrotter? I've been meaning to PM her, anyway, and ask where the hell she's at. You can't go starting a 5:2 thread and then wander off!! :)

~Cheri

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Did someone add Globetrotter? I've been meaning to PM her' date=' anyway, and ask where the hell she's at. You can't go starting a 5:2 thread and then wander off!! :)

~Cheri[/quote']

I've invited her and it looks like she hasn't picked it up yet.. I really hope everything is ok.

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Cheri I read your three year update and I thank you for taking the time to reflect and honestly putting it all down on "paper" it's helpful to so many.

You have been through a lot of changes in a short amount of time and have come through it all with grace I'm my book!

Sometimes you just have to slow down and breath..

It's funny, but if someone were to ask me the most important thing I've learned in all my years of therapy? I would say learning to be in the moment, and BREATHING! Slow deep cleansing breaths in and out.

Don't tell my husband that though he'd be pissed at thousands of dollars spent on just learning something that should come naturally :P

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Cheri, I read your post also about your 3 years anniversary, Congratulations! As I was reading this it reminded me of my daughter. Her husband is in the Airforce and its coming around that time again for his deployment. They live in Kansas with no family up there. All of their family lives in Texas and she is alone when he goes. I always hear the sadness in her voice when she calls. I just want to say Thank You for being a great military wife. I know for a fact it is the hardest job for a wife and mother to do this alone and not knowing how long your loved one will be gone. You my dear are a great inspiration for so many of us on here, if you can do it with all that goes on in your life I know there are no excuses for the rest of us. I don't know if you are religious but I am and I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

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Are you going to go with him or will you be separated from your husband when he goes? I am so sorry. That owuld be so stressful.

I'm doing pretty good today. I am not fasting today. I'm not clear on how many calories I'm supposed to eat on non fast days.

I read one of the links and it said to feast on anything you want. That doesn't seem right? I'm not sure I guess I get this plan yet!

I'm 2 lbs lower than I've been in a long time so I am really happy! I'm actually looking forward to fasting tomorrow.

Plus I am having a root canal done so I don't think I'll be able to eat much tomorrow afternoon.

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ouch oregondaisy, those are so painful. On fast days we are not to have more than 500 calories. And on non fast days we eat regular. What some of us are doing is having supper around 6:00 at night and not eating again for at least 12 hours. And then during the fast day we only eat 500 calories and stop eating at around 6:00 that night so we have another 12 hours or so fasting. I hope this makes sense. Then the next day is normal again with eating what you normally eat. Just make sure that you have at least 12 hours of fasting in the beginning and ending of your fast day.

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From the website.. But of course most of us are not eating 2000 calories..

Do I need to calorie count on Feast Days?

Or is it really true I can eat whatever I like?

This is one of the most common questions – it has both a simple and a complicated answer! The simple version is: yes, you can eat what you like including all your favourite foods. There is no need to calorie count on Feast Days, as research shows that bingeing is unlikely, and it’s very hard to eat so much that you exceed the calories you’re not eating on Fast Days. The slightly more complicated answer is that many 5:2 people do keep an eye on their calories. This does risk boredom as one of the benefits of this approach is you don’t have to obsess about portions all the time. Many of us find that calorie counting and limited eating on Fast Days is more than enough to help us a) appreciate the foods we can eat on Feast days so we naturally eat slightly less or pick healthier options and B) understand how much we need to sate our hunger. In general, try to allow yourself to enjoy food on Feast Days. But if after a couple of weeks of following this plan, you’re not losing weight, you could try adding up the calories you’re eating on an average Feast Day, If it’s more than about 2000 calories for a woman or 2400 for a man, you may want to think about how you can cut back a little.

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Thanks for the kind words everyone.

If he goes, he'll deploy to a combat zone, so nope, I'll be here with the kids while he's over there. It's part of the life. We'll manage. At least we're in the US now. Had this happened from Germany or Kyrgyzstan I would have a hard time seeing family and friends, but this way we're only nine hours from family. It may sound like a lot, but we used to be two days of travel away. :)

Oregondaisy, I am going in for my crown tomorrow. My root canal was fine - no pain whatsoever. In fact, I fell asleep while the dentist was working! Then I went in a few weeks later to get a cast done and a temporary crown put in, and I'll finally have the finished one put in tomorrow. The worst part? Paying my share of the insurance. Yikes! My share was $1,600 for this one tooth!

Laura, great reminder. I, too, have had my share of therapy and I often forget to just stop, focus and BREATHE. I'm a crazy planner - I have to have everything down on paper, I schedule and make lists for every task or goal...I just try to be on top of everything. It helps me feel more in control if I'm, well, a crazy control freak. But life can't be planned or predicted and I find myself at a total loss and completely off kilter whenever something unexpected crops up.

So tonight, I'll try to just focus on breathing. :) Actually, DH and I have discussed a lot of our plans and how we'll handle things and I'm feeling a lot better. It's that control thing - I just need to feel like I'm okay with something and that I have all the bases covered.

Is anyone else losing hair? It could be that I just spawned a little person, because I think I vaguely remember something about losing hair after pregnancy. It's been nearly four months, though. I am losing wookie sized hairballs each time I brush my hair or shower. I'm back on Nioxin and hoping it slows down, and fast. My hair never fully recovered from all those years overseas in countries with crummy Water, or the original weight loss. It's way thinner than it was when I was large and I'm a bit worried that I'll have bald Patches soon.

Yeah, I'd rather be thin than have gorgeous hair, but I'd also rather not look like I'm suffering from an illness. I think it's almost thin enough that it's time to cut it and boy, won't that make the husband grumpy!

Hope everyone is well. I have a few PMs to answer and then I'm off to bed. That little cutie still likes to wake me at a random time between 3:30-5:30 in the morning. I wish she'd pick a time and stick to it. While I'm wishing, couldn't she make that time seven am?

~Cheri

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Cheri, the hair loss is probably baby related I am guessing. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I had beautiful, thick hair because it hardly fell out! Then I gave birth and for months afterward I lost my hair...I was so sad :(

I know how you feel about struggling with insecurities. Somewhere in my head, I thought it was all my weight and if I lost it, I would feel better. I have also been through counseling and hold onto many of the things I learned, but still struggle, even after the weight loss. Its a work in progress I guess. It seems that many of us are in the same boat, so it sometimes makes me wondering if our insecurities were a result of our weight, or the other way around...

Today was a normal day for me. There were Pioneer Days where I live, we did a lot of walking today! I didn't eat great, but not horrible either. So we will see what the scale says in the morning. Tomorrow is my first fast day of the week!

Have a good night everyone!

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Cheri it makes me sad that your DH might be deployed. I'm going on a road trip for a week and I will miss my husband real bad. Ccngrats on your 3 year anniversary too. You have done really well especially having a baby too boot. I am amazed on how much you as far as baking and cooking. I can hardly get myself to plan.

I need to be eat home cooked meals and stop the processed premier shake and Protein Bars .

Anyways tomorrow is my fast day and the next week I will not even attempt to fast being on the road and visiting friends :P

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Everyone should cook!! I guess I say that because I enjoy it so much, but it's true. I know everything that's in my food, I can adjust/tweak recipes to meet my needs and it's so much more enjoyable. It doesn't matter if I can only eat 5 pieces of that chicken I made (roughly 2 oz.) when I'm at the table with my family and I'm really enjoying my food. Same calories in a Protein Bar, but not nearly as satisfying.

I'm sorry that my hair loss is due to my little one, but I figured as much. I hope it slows soon.

Supersweetums, I'm firmly of the belief that I was to some extent 'destined' by genetics to be fat. I mean, I come from a family where even at 250 pounds and a size 20 I was the skinny one. But I also think that what started the gain and kept me gaining was emotional. I think my weight was just a big external sign of the special kind of messed up I was (am?) on the inside.

I forgot to report yesterday that I was down 4 tenths of a pound. Week three on 5:2 loss: 2 tenths of a pound. That, my friends, is my old loss pattern. I hope I have a better week!

Fast day today. Was down 2 more tenths on the scale. I hate crawling to goal. I'd like to fly there, thank you.

Hope you gals have a great day.

~Cheri

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I also come from a family where virtually everyone struggles with weight. But I also had a very difficult childhood as well, so I think it is a bit of both for me as well. I have always felt like I had to work way harder than other people to lose weight. And I also know that I have used food to cope. It's like a double whammy!! And I still use food to cope, so I just cannot keep anything in my house that is bad or I will eat it.

I love cooking as well! I also love baking, but I don't a lot because I eat it. I bake mostly healthy muffins for my family, and I am not a big muffin eater, so they don't bother me. We eat out sometimes, but I mainly cook at home, 5-6 days a week. I grew up always eating home-cooked meals and my mom taught me to cook, it is just part of me I guess. And I find that it usually tastes way better and is way more satisfying! If we end up eating out too much because of events or holidays, I can't wait to get home and make a meal!

We are going away next week for a holiday, so I am pretty nervous about that. I am going to try and not let it get to me, we haven't been on a vacation with our kids in 2 years, so I just want to enjoy it! Hopefully I won't gain any weight!

Today is my fast day. The last few I have been struggling a little, but always make it through. I will see how today goes! It doesn't help that my husband is telling me that I am grumpy on my fast days :( Oh well, he will just have to suck it up!

Have a great day to everyone today!

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Fast day today. I will be working at the State Fair, home of the deep fried mars bar and its relatives! I'm going to take some blueberries and a cheese stick.... drink a Protein Drink in the AM. Fingers crossed! I'm up 1.9pounds, so really want to stick to the plan today....

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Genetics..... My family is a mixed bag when I had this surgery I was definitely the biggest in what's left of my family.

Addiction issues run rampant in my family. So I know it's a coping mechanism for me.

I can trace it back to being 5 years old (and very skinny) and watching my then almost separated parents fight about me. My mom would force me to sit at a table and eat, my father would yell at her for "forcing" me to eat. My father would have me over and yell at me about what she was doing.

He became obsessed with my weight in the years to come. He left me to live with the woman who was a drunk and all sorts of other things.. I would only speak to him once every couple of years (my moms fault he would say) I still remember standing in my moms kitchen on the phone with him asking if I was "still fat".

I saw my father at my brothers funeral 6 years ago. At that time he told me about a cousin I used to like when I was a child. He said she was coming to the funeral soon. He told me about what a beautiful woman she turned out to be bright and pretty! The funny thing? When she walked in? She was bigger than me!!!

I wonder what would of happen if my father had told me all those years ago that I was pretty or at least not called me fat??

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