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I had my surgery last Monday, so 7 days post op now. Still on full fluids with some apple sauce and yogurt and such added in.

I felt fine up to yesterday when I just had NO energy at all and then again today, along with some nausea. Haven't been able to eat much of anything today, just trying to keep liquids in.

I know people says its normal to feel regret in the first couple weeks. Did you? Does it really get better? I just want to eat a normal (smaller) meal.

I do want, and need, to lose weight. And I'm trying to keep reminding myself why I did this but it's getting really damn hard and depressing.

How did you feel early post op? How is your life farther out now?

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Ok I felt like **** in the beginning! I know you will see some people here say "oh girl I felt great the day after and I went on a cruise and everything a week out" :P

Ummm... Yeah it's major surgery and to tell you the truth the first month was hard! And no I'm not a baby!

Give yourself time and know that you just had MAJOR surgery so go easy on yourself.

Oh and yes it gets a lot better, I promise :)

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I TOTALLY get what you're saying! I found out a week after surgery that I had a leak @ spent the next 3 weeks in the hospital. I had SOOOOOO many regrets... I felt guilty for putting my wonderful boyfriend through all that & felt like I was being selfish. I cried... A LOT!! I can tell you that it does pass though. Im starting to feel better now & the weight has finally started coming off & THAT'S what will change your mind. It's not easy to get into the routine of eating according to this procedure but it will happen & your definition of a "normal meal" will be different but gratifying. Just be patient & it'll all come together. All the research I did pre-op led me to believe that others were dancing in the streets just days after surgery & suddenly I was in the massive minority but my direction is changing & Im seeing the positive a lil more each day. Keep your chin up!

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Just give yourself time sweetie. Take it day by day. You may have some times of wishing and wanting for the way you used to could eat and drink but just wait until those pounds start falling off and people start noticing and those thoughts will stay away for most of the time (sometimes they still creep in when I am stressed or lonely but I am more prepared to face it now) But know, that the decision you made is going to hopefully improve your health and life! You can do this, just take a walk, a bath, read a book or talk to a friend. You can do it!!!

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YES! it does get better, and what you are feeling is totally normal. The first month after surgery just sucks, but after that it does start to get better. I do still have times when i wish i didn't have the sleeve so i could pig out on pizza and pop, but then that's what got me in this mess in the first place! Hang in there and it will get better, i promise!

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I had my surgery last Monday' date=' so 7 days post op now. Still on full fluids with some apple sauce and yogurt and such added in.

I felt fine up to yesterday when I just had NO energy at all and then again today, along with some nausea. Haven't been able to eat much of anything today, just trying to keep liquids in.

I know people says its normal to feel regret in the first couple weeks. Did you? Does it really get better? I just want to eat a normal (smaller) meal.

I do want, and need, to lose weight. And I'm trying to keep reminding myself why I did this but it's getting really damn hard and depressing.

How did you feel early post op? How is your life farther out now?[/quote']

Have u lost any weight yet

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Have u lost any weight yet

Down 12lbs. Yes I'm happy about that but right now it doesn't feel worth it. Maybe because I can't see the weightloss yet or maybe my hormones are going wild. I dunno. Just feeling miserable today.

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It gets better with time. Most experience some regret the first few weeks out, and then, once you begin to feel better & eat things & feel more normal, the regret will subside.. I hope you fall into this category. I wish you all the best. Good luck!

If you continue to regret your decision after the first few weeks, you are not alone. There's a few of us with true regret on this site & we will be here to help you through.. if you fall into this category.

Again, good luck! Hang in there!

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Good days. Bad days. High energy enough to go shopping. Next day, can barely get out of bed. A few days later, walking in the park, pushing a wheelchair, feeling really good! Then another funky day. It's an ebb and flow. The extremes get less and less, though.

Our bodies are going through a DOUBLE shock, you know. Recovery from surgery is big enough. We are also piling on a huge change in the familiarity of how our bodies are nourished. Blood sugars are probably thinking, "What the hell?!?" And, that plays a part in our spirit.

This, too, shall pass.

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i had regret and depression in the beginning wondering what the hell had i done. 13 weeks post op and 75 lbs later i love my sleeve. i love the restriction and the tool the sleeve is in controlling what i eat. couldn't have done this on my own

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Yes, for most of us it does get better. For myself it wasn't so much how I looked but it was how I felt. I feel incredibly healthy now. I can do things that I haven't been able to do in years. I am so happy with my choice to have WLS. I'm not saying that I don't have moments when I really miss being able to dive into a great big hunk of prime rib, but those are just moments that are far outweighed by my increased mobility and overall feeling of health. Hang in there, it should get better soon:)

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It does get better with time. It's different for everyone, but it's a major surgery and for most people six weeks is about how long it takes for healing. It is hard to think you did the right thing when you can barely stay upright.

I had three c-sections and those, along with new babies were easier than this surgery for me. I remember one day i was so weak and tired I couldn't hold my head up. It's no wonder, how could I expect to feel good eating 300 calories a day?

So now, 4 months out I'm feeling pretty good and not sorry I did this. Just take it a day at a time.

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Poor thing! Yes it gets better! I remember thinking the same thing! My surgery and recovery (as far as my body goes) went very well, no problems but I was tired a lot. I took lots of naps and just felt blah. I did have a few days of "what the hell did I do to myself" but for me it has gotten so much better! Once you can eat real food again things start looking up. You just gotta make it thru this short time and things will get better. Good luck and hang in there! :)

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Good days. Bad days. High energy enough to go shopping. Next day' date=' can barely get out of bed. A few days later, walking in the park, pushing a wheelchair, feeling really good! Then another funky day. It's an ebb and flow. The extremes get less and less, though.

Our bodies are going through a DOUBLE shock, you know. Recovery from surgery is big enough. We are also piling on a huge change in the familiarity of how our bodies are nourished. Blood sugars are probably thinking, "What the hell?!?" And, that plays a part in our spirit.

This, too, shall pass.[/quote']

Thanks for this! I was running around yesterday, and sleeping all day today! So glad I'm not alone!

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