Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

13+ Months Out, Still Struggling



Recommended Posts

Are there post-bariatric surgery support groups in your area? One of my surgeon's requirements is that his patients stay "in his program" for at least five years after being sleeved (same for lapband and RNY patients). There are support groups that meet once a month, along with lots of seminars with information about post-WLS issues (how to get enough Protein, making lifestyle changes, etc.). A newsletter delivers the topics, dates and locations--does your hospital have any resources you can tap into?

If not, don't despair. I've only been on the VST forums for a week, I'm pre-op, and I can already sense how supportive this community is. You've done the very hardest thing already--owning up to your feelings and actions from the past. That should help you feel strong enough to conquer whatever's in your way.

You're not a passive spectator to life any more; you've been given exactly the right equipment to jump in and grab your happiness back. You may have to wrestle for it, but you'll win, I know you will!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Awwww, I feel for ya, sugar pants!!! After the "honeymoon" was over- my old demons reared their ugly heads and we've been in a battle ever since. I started at 349. I'm now at 248 and have been there for months and months. I exercise like a fool. I use My fitness pal to track food. Right now, that's all just keeping me where I am. It's a war, honey. Fight it. Win it. No one can do it for you, and no one can do it for me. I'm in this trench and only I can get me out. That's what I had to realize. I hope you find your inspiration and motivation to push through. Only you can find what that is. Hugs to you.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm in the same boat! I'm six. I'm six months out and I've only lost 40 pounds and I've been stalled for about two months. I'm doing everything right...... It's so maddening!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Omg im so glad i saw this post. I thought I was the only one that had struggels. I was sleeved July 11 2012. I have only lost 53 pounds. It has not been a easy road. My husband is over weight. And like you say he supports me but not really. He wants to eat out all the time. And i hate to cook so it does not take much to get me to go . I hate to exercise. I do like to ride bikes. So i bought me a spin bike. And i listen to my music while i ride my bike. I started just doing it for 10 min each day. Then i worked up to 60 minuntes 6 days a week. I can tell you I get grumpy if i dont get my ride in. I think it just makes my head feel better. Its a way to get away from all my worrys. I have been trying to figure this out, I try to eat at least 80 grams of Protein a day. I have to really watch the carbs. I feel like im addicted to them again.

For the first time in my life I am putting myself first. I told my husband we can only go out to eat 1x a week. And I have stuck to it. I am tired of being unhealthy, and if he does not want to join me then he will pay the price for it.

I work from home and food is all around me. I did go and buy a small tote for my husband and it sits on my frig. I put his junk foods in there. If i dont see it im ok not to eat it.

I buy skinny pop , Peanut Butter , rice cakes, Protein Bars, almonds. I try to make them my snack food if i have to have something.

I eat my protine first , i eat off a small plate and i use a childs fork to eat with.

Just this week i started to only eat at my kitchen table and i turn everything off and i just try to focus on my food. I am a fast eater and I dont chew my food up. So I hope maybe this will help to jump start my weight loss.

Im on my fitness pal and i log my food on there. Its nice to see the diary's of other people that will give you some ideas on what to eat. Im only friends with people that have had the surgery on my Fitness pal. Except for my daughter. If you deside to sign up my name is

lowe1961. Good luck , I know we can do this. However it is much harder then I thought. I guess I really didnt expect it to be hard.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I can honestly say I use to hate exercise but since the sleeve 1/23 I joined the gym with a year membership and somedays I can't wait to get to the gym and other days you have to pry me off the couch. But just losing the 91 pounds I have I feel I owe it to my body to tone up and exercise. I do drink VERY little pop almost everyday but that's my limit. You can't feel completely torn from the high calories u do need to reward yourself along the way. I refuse to try chocolate or any junk food I just assume it will make me sick because I really don't want to know because I don't wanna put myself in that situation. I did try some icecream but threw it away after 2 bites because I didn't want to make myself sick or like it to much to make myself want it all the time. I did notice my weight loss slowed down alot since I added some pop daily but I don't wanna feel like I can't be like others and enjoy. I know its hard but deep down inside u have to really want to change your ways of eating. I have my mind set and will only allow myself to go so far. My boyfriend eats fast food a lot and it actually makes me sick now. Good luck and I can try to help in anyway possible.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm glad you posted. It takes courage to admit that you're not perfect.

Try to focus on your goal. Perhaps take a walk or 2 a week. Small steps will help you go miles!

And choose lower calorie things to eat. Your taste buds will adjust again.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Prdgrdma

      So I guess after gastric bypass surgery, I cant eat flock chips because they are fried???  They sell them on here so I thought I could have them. So high in protein and no carbs.  They don't bother me at all.  Help. 
      · 1 reply
      1. NickelChip

        It's possible for a very high fat meal to cause dumping in some (30% or so) gastric bypass patients, although it's more likely to be triggered by high sugar, or by the high fat/high sugar combo (think ice cream, donuts). Dietitians will tell you to never do anything that isn't 100% healthy ever again. Realistically, you should aim for a good balance of protein, carbs, and fat each day. Should you eat fried foods every day? No. Is it possible they will make you sick? Maybe. Is it okay to eat some to see what happens and have them for a treat every now and again? Yes.

    • NovelTee

      I'm not at all hungry on this liquid pre-op diet, but I miss the sensation of chewing. It's been about two weeks––surgery is in two days––and I can't imagine how I'll feel a couple of weeks post-op. Tonight, I randomly stumbled upon a mukbang channel on YouTube, and it was strangely soothing... is it just me, or is this a thing? 
      · 1 reply
      1. NickelChip

        I actually watched cooking shows during my pre-op, like Great British Baking Show. It was a little bizarre, but didn't make me hungry. I think it was also soothing in a way.

    • Clueless_girl

      How do you figure out what your ideal weight should be? I've had a figure in my head for years, but after 3 mths of recovery I'm already almost there. So maybe my goal should be lower?
      · 3 replies
      1. NickelChip

        Well, there is actually a formula for "Ideal Body Weight" and you can use a calculator to figure it out for you. This one also does an adjusted weight for a person who starts out overweight or obese. https://www.mdcalc.com/calc/68/ideal-body-weight-adjusted-body-weight

        I would use that as a starting point, and then just see how you feel as you lose. How you look and feel is more important than a number.

      2. Clueless_girl

        I did find different calculators but I couldn't find any that accounted for body frame. But you're right, it is just a number. It was just disheartening to see that although I lost 60% of my excess weight, it's still not in the "normal/healthy" range..

      3. NickelChip

        I think it's important to remember that the weight charts and BMI ranges were developed a very long time ago and only intended to be applied to people who have never been overweight or obese. Those numbers aren't for us. When you are larger, especially for a long time, your body develops extra bone to support the weight. Your organs get a little bigger to handle the extra mass. Your entire infrastructure increases so you can support and function with the extra weight. That doesn't all go away just because you burn off the excess fat. If you still had a pair of jeans from your skinniest point in life and then lost weight to get to the exact number on the scale you were when those jeans fit you, chances are they would be a little baggy now because you would actually be thinner than you were, even though the scale and the BMI chart disagree. When in doubt, listen to the jeans, not the scale!

    • Aunty Mamo

      Tomorrow marks two weeks since surgery day and while I'm feeling remarkably well and going about just about every normal activity, I did wind up with a surface abscess on on of my incision sights and was put on an antibiotic that made me so impacted that it took me more than two hours to eliminate yesterday and scared the hell out of me. Now there's Miralax in all my beverages that aren't Smooth Move tea. I cannot experience that again. I shouldn't have to take Ativan to go to the lady's. I really looking forward to my body getting with the program again. 
      I'm in day three of the "puree" stage of eating and despite the strange textures, all of the savory flavors seem decadent. 
      I timed this surgery so that I'd be recovering during my spring break. That was a good plan. Today is a state holiday and the final day of break. I feel really strong to return to school tomorrow. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • BeanitoDiego

      Now that I'm in maintenance mode, I'm getting a into a routine for my meals. Every day, I start out with 8-16 ounces of water, and then a proffee, which I have come to look forward to even the night before. My proffees are simply a black coffee with a protein powder added. There are three products that I cycle through: Premier Vanilla, Orgain Vanilla, and Dymatize Vanilla.
      For second breakfast on workdays, I will have a low-fat yogurt with two tablespoons of PBFit and two teaspoons of no sugar added dried cherries. I will have ingested 35-45 grams of protein at this point between the two breakfasts, with 250-285 calories, and about 20 carbs.
      For second breakfast on non-workdays, I will prepare two servings of plain, instant oatmeal with a tablespoon of an olive oil-based spread. This means I will have had 34 grams of protein, 365 calories, and 38 carbs. Non-workdays are when I am being very active with training sessions, so I allow myself more carbohydrate fuel.
      Snacks on any day are always mixed nuts, even when I am travelling. I will have 0.2 cups of a blend that I make myself. It consists of dry roasted peanuts, cashews, pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds, pistachios, and Brazil nuts. This is 5 grams of protein, 163 calories, and 7 carbs.
      Breakfast and snacks have been the easiest to nail down. Lunch and dinner have more variables, and I prepare enough for leftovers. I concentrate on protein first, and then add vegetables. Typically tempeh, tofu, or Field Roast products with roasted or sautéed vegetables. Today, I will be eating leftovers from last night. Two ounces of tempeh with four ounces of roasted vegetables that consist of red and yellow sweet peppers, sweet potatoes, small purple potatoes, zucchini, and carrots. I will add a tablespoon of olive oil-based spread, break up 3 walnuts to sprinkle of top, and garnish with two tablespoons of grated Parmesan cheese. This particular meal will be 19 grams of protein, 377 calories, and 28 grams of carbs. Bear in mind that I do eat more carbs when I am not working, and I focus on ingesting healthy carbs instead of breads/crackers/chips/crisps.
      It's a helluva journey and I'm thankful to be on it!
       
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×