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I am really tired of Reading Post about So Discouraged, Down in the Dumps, Slow Loser….Then find out you have LOST 30 or 40 lbs. in a few weeks or even a few Months. We are all here because WE could NOT lose weight. So Who ever lost and kept off 20, 25 or 40lbs in as little as a few Months…. Sorry to sound harsh, But Enough of the Complaining. Stop Weighing every few days, do what your Doctor said and look at yourself in 6 months…Lets Keep this Positive it is about a Life Style Change and the weight will come off in time………..OK, I am Done Venting

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When I see those posts, I don't read them so it doesn't bother me......The people who post those are dealing with their fears and anxiety and are looking for some relief. There thoughts are telling them that their a failure and had made a big mistake......A lot of people don't know how to go back a search for past topics so they are looking for support from others today, in this moment.... This is a support group and there will be a million more posts like these. So I recommend just not reading them and going to a post that interest you. You are doing great on your weight loss and have most likely experienced stalls and what not...... CONGRATS! :)

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I love the threads where people complain about stalls and slow loss but in the same post write about their lack of Water, Protein and exercise ect; They create a thread looking for answers when the answer to their problem is in their post. geezz I'm an ass :P

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My pet peeve is when I read someone complaining about other people complaining...

LOL same here.. I will never understand. People if you don't like something don't read or respond to it. I promise it's that easy..

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LOL same here.. I will never understand. People if you don't like something don't read or respond to it. I promise it's that easy..

Guess the SAME goes for YOU, So, Why are you POSTING....SMH

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Guess the SAME goes for YOU' date=' So, Why are you POSTING....SMH[/quote']

Seriously grow up! Was I talking to you or even about you? Ya didn't think so..

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My pet peeve is when someone makes a post and then gets bitchy about the responses.

If you can't respect people's posts, then don't create a thread.

Ms Skinnines has nailed this one, BTW

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Seriously grow up! Was I talking to you or even about you? Ya didn't think so..

I started the Post so in a way you were....Ya seem a little cranky, it is a Beautiful day Just SMILE.

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I am really tired of Reading Post about So Discouraged, Down in the Dumps, Slow Loser….Then find out you have LOST 30 or 40 lbs. in a few weeks or even a few Months. We are all here because WE could NOT lose weight. So Who ever lost and kept off 20, 25 or 40lbs in as little as a few Months…. Sorry to sound harsh, But Enough of the Complaining. Stop Weighing every few days, do what your Doctor said and look at yourself in 6 months…Lets Keep this Positive it is about a Life Style Change and the weight will come off in time………..OK, I am Done Venting

I posted this on another thread a little while ago. In light of this new thread, I think it bears repeating.

While I can somewhat appreciate what you say, if it was that easy there would be no needs for boards such as this. The truth is that slow losing can be very discouraging and can cause people to throw up their hands and consider themselves a failure and go back to the old habits that got them here to begin with. I've been in a very slow losing slide for the last month, losing a total of 5 pounds in the last 30 days. I've eaten my calories, watched my carbs, done the carido etc, but the weight is just coming off slowly. I wasn't discouraged early on, but now it is starting to come and I can see myself creeping back into where I was before. Weightloss, regardless of how it is approached, either surgically or through the old fashioned methods, it tough. Don't you feel that it we were all eating the right number of calories and doing the right number of jumping jacks that we would be skinny in no time flat? It just isn't that simple for some. It is tough to come on here and read that someone who was sleeved after me, has lost 70 or 80 pounds. It's hard to read that someone is losing 4 to 5 pounds a week for 5 to 6 months and you are busting your hump to lose 1. This is where I was before, I'm losing the weight that I've lost maybe 10 or 15 times. Yes I expect better results and a faster weight loss and I don't think that is totally unreasonable. So I can certainly empathize with the OP. Hopefully that will give you some perspective to "understand people" a bit better.

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I think some people are just looking for a little encouragement. I don't see anything wrong with that. This is a life changing event & if we can't lean on each other (who are all going thru the same thing), then who else can we lean on? I don't know...sometimes a little compassion can go a long way. Maybe they NEED to be reminded to drink their Water or whatever the other rules are. (I don't know yet since I am still going thru the initial steps.) I'm just worried now that if I come here looking for encouragement, someone will start a snarky thread about me & that would just break my heart & not make me want to come back to ask questions.

As I say to my children all the time, be kind to people, so they are kind back to you. Just a little kindness goes a long way.

~ Peace

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I started the Post so in a way you were....Ya seem a little cranky' date=' it is a Beautiful day Just SMILE.[/quote']

Lol I am far from cranky! It's a public message board so anyone is free to post whatever they want. I was just agreeing with another poster. I was not talking about "you" personally.

Truth is there is tons of post just like yours complaining about the same thing. So all I was saying is it goes both ways.

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Here we go again! Haha!

Ms. Skinniness always knows what's up!

I'm guilty of this too. Not posting about it but thinking gaw, this may not work for me! I only lose weight a couple days out of the month and have gone a whole month without a loss. Sometimes I just want to scream! I guess I thought I'd be down 100 pounds in 3 months, haha. But when I look at the whole picture, I've done amazing! 58 pounds in 4 1/2 months!

We've all took extreme measures to lose weight. I think it's pretty normal if not expected to have some anxiety about whether or not we made the right choice. My point is, I understand where those people are coming from and know they are just wanting someone to tell them this is going to work.

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I think some people are just looking for a little encouragement. I don't see anything wrong with that. This is a life changing event & if we can't lean on each other (who are all going thru the same thing), then who else can we lean on? I don't know...sometimes a little compassion can go a long way. Maybe they NEED to be reminded to drink their Water or whatever the other rules are. (I don't know yet since I am still going thru the initial steps.) I'm just worried now that if I come here looking for encouragement, someone will start a snarky thread about me & that would just break my heart & not make me want to come back to ask questions.

As I say to my children all the time, be kind to people, so they are kind back to you. Just a little kindness goes a long way.

~ Peace

I did not mean to be Snarky, just saying that Loosing 30 to 40 lbs in a couple of months is GREAT.... NOT a slow loser....I felt irritated, cause It is all I have lost and Think it is Awesome could NOT have done it before surgery. That none of us gained ALL the Weight in a few Months and NOT gonna lose it all in a few ... Just me Venting, Thats all ...No harm Ment.

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I just wish you would have posted this over in the Rants and Raves forum instead of the Tell Your Story forum ...

People looking for encouragement are instead greeted with this ...

Another pet peeve of mine ... folks not posting their threads in the appropriate forum ... :D

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