Lost my way

[MrsM 31]

Hi everyone-

I have not been on the boards in awhile. I had surgery on November 12th and my starting weight was 250...today, I am 213. Although this of course is better than nothing, I am so disappointed in how I have let bad habits sneak back into my life. I find as soon as I am upset about something, I go for food..and I pushed the envelope alot since surgery to see what I could get away with, and so with that, I know there's alot I can actually eat and not get sick on that isn't exactly healthy.

I know this rubs many of you the wrong way..trust me, I am upset at MYSELF for allowing this to happen. Surgery was not easy..and I started with such high hopes. I had a feeling I would be one of those that had trouble sticking to the rules, and I was right.

My surgeon seemed disappointed in my weight loss at my 3 month visit, and reiterated that it is just a tool. I know this is true...I think I really just didn't want to have to work at all and truly did see this like a miracle way to lose weight! Lazy I know. I also had some physical issues (sciatica with my back and some foot issues) that made exercising difficult (I still have them) and that also made me lose my focus I think, since I had such high hopes of feeling better after surgery from the weight loss.

In any case, I am def remotivated. I am only not quite 4 months out and know I can still lose if I quit screwing up and REFOCUS. So I'm doing it. And I wrote all this in the hopes that it will keep me accountable. Thanks for reading and if any of you were stupid like me but got out of it in time to make a difference, I'd love to hear from you. Also, I am very curious at 4 months what most meals are looking like for most of you folks?

Thanks..............

[sramos89 260]

All is not lost, your sleeve can still work for you. It is simple- Protein and Protein first. Whenever I feel like I might have gotten off of the path I go back to lean protein and make sure I eat it first. It always fills me up, I eat less and then I see it on the scale. Make sure you are drinking enough to stay hydrated so you don't mistake thirst for hunger. The "fall" pre- sleeve is so much shorter than "post" sleeve- I think you will be amazed how easy it is get back on track. You said it right, it is just a tool- but it is an amazing tool! Don't waste it- work it! You are not upsetting or putting anyone out but yourself. What size shorts are you going to wear this summer? It won't matter to me if you wear a size 20 or 10, but I bet it matters to you! You can do this!

[theshrinkingchef 61]

I agree. You still have this tool. It's not broken. I'm like you. I have a broken leg I'm still nursing. I went through this whole process in a cast. Now I'm in a boot. I'm still far from being able to exercise. I have to rely solely on diet, as do you. You can do it! It's never too late! Sending you positive energy!

[missjegga 12]

I think it's a good thing you recognize that you are sneaking back into your bad habits the hardest part is admitting it you know what you need to do it just needs to be immplemented. You can do it !!

[MrsM 31]

Thank you all so much...I appreciate not getting the lecture but instead some support. I really really appreciate it!!!! I'm gonna do it!!!

[SMO 193]

It is not as easy a it looks from the outside. And the upside is, you are still down weight. Pre-sleeve, you might have gained under the same circumstances. I wish you the best of luck in the future.

[MrsM 31]

It is not as easy a it looks from the outside. And the upside is, you are still down weight. Pre-sleeve, you might have gained under the same circumstances. I wish you the best of luck in the future.

Oh I am quite sure I would have gained had I not done the surgery...so true! I was gaining each week! (Peri-menopausal here...fun times!!) Good luck to you as well!

[JerseyGirl68 1,172]

Hi everyone-

I have not been on the boards in awhile. I had surgery on November 12th and my starting weight was 250...today, I am 213. Although this of course is better than nothing, I am so disappointed in how I have let bad habits sneak back into my life. I find as soon as I am upset about something, I go for food..and I pushed the envelope alot since surgery to see what I could get away with, and so with that, I know there's alot I can actually eat and not get sick on that isn't exactly healthy.

I know this rubs many of you the wrong way..trust me, I am upset at MYSELF for allowing this to happen. Surgery was not easy..and I started with such high hopes. I had a feeling I would be one of those that had trouble sticking to the rules, and I was right.

My surgeon seemed disappointed in my weight loss at my 3 month visit, and reiterated that it is just a tool. I know this is true...I think I really just didn't want to have to work at all and truly did see this like a miracle way to lose weight! Lazy I know. I also had some physical issues (sciatica with my back and some foot issues) that made exercising difficult (I still have them) and that also made me lose my focus I think, since I had such high hopes of feeling better after surgery from the weight loss.

In any case, I am def remotivated. I am only not quite 4 months out and know I can still lose if I quit screwing up and REFOCUS. So I'm doing it. And I wrote all this in the hopes that it will keep me accountable. Thanks for reading and if any of you were stupid like me but got out of it in time to make a difference, I'd love to hear from you. Also, I am very curious at 4 months what most meals are looking like for most of you folks?

Thanks..............

The best move you made is to recommit. Have you tried using a tracker like My Fitness Pal? If you log everything, it might help in keeping things in check. I have made sure to keep 'good' Snacks around if I feel the need, apple slices and a little Reduced fat Peanut Butter is my favorite. I spend a little more and get the single serve. Keeps me very in check with my portions.

Check in often and get encouragement when you need it. We all need a boost now and then.

Good luck,

[Misty_eyes 79]

Hi everyone-

I have not been on the boards in awhile. I had surgery on November 12th and my starting weight was 250...today' date=' I am 213. Although this of course is better than nothing, I am so disappointed in how I have let bad habits sneak back into my life. I find as soon as I am upset about something, I go for food..and I pushed the envelope alot since surgery to see what I could get away with, and so with that, I know there's alot I can actually eat and not get sick on that isn't exactly healthy.

I know this rubs many of you the wrong way..trust me, I am upset at MYSELF for allowing this to happen. Surgery was not easy..and I started with such high hopes. I had a feeling I would be one of those that had trouble sticking to the rules, and I was right.

My surgeon seemed disappointed in my weight loss at my 3 month visit, and reiterated that it is just a tool. I know this is true...I think I really just didn't want to have to work at all and truly did see this like a miracle way to lose weight! Lazy I know. I also had some physical issues (sciatica with my back and some foot issues) that made exercising difficult (I still have them) and that also made me lose my focus I think, since I had such high hopes of feeling better after surgery from the weight loss.

In any case, I am def remotivated. I am only not quite 4 months out and know I can still lose if I quit screwing up and REFOCUS. So I'm doing it. And I wrote all this in the hopes that it will keep me accountable. Thanks for reading and if any of you were stupid like me but got out of it in time to make a difference, I'd love to hear from you. Also, I am very curious at 4 months what most meals are looking like for most of you folks?

Thanks..............[/quote']

MrsM,

It's good that you are acknowledging your bad habits, and am motivated again. Your loss of -37 pounds in 4 mos still averaged about 9lbs/month.

So it is still not too late, I'm no expert since I am only 7 weeks out, but my surgeon said the average weight loss is about 10pounds/month. It's great that some people lose a lot, but not everyone is the same, and losing 37 pounds is a big accomplishment. Good luck on your weight loss journey and stay motivated!

[No game 14,436]

You and I had surgery a day apart (mine was on 11-13-12) I think this is the time frame (3 to 4 months) that I always start to back slide when I'm on diets! I think about that daily because I really want to eat like crazy sometimes, but I can't if course. But it doesn't stop my head and my mouth from wanting it!

You and I are not that far apart weight loss wise... So I do not think its "to late" or you have "blown it"

I still struggle with my 64oz of Water everyday but I try!

I have a Premier Protein shake for Breakfast (I'm lazy)

lunch is usually something along the lines of chicken and string cheese or hummus

dinner is something like a turkey patty with cheese and a veg like broccoli

snack cheese, yogurt, sometimes a Protein Bar. Or some almonds.

I keep it pretty simple and always make sure I get at least 60 grams of protein...

Oh and I track everything I eat!!

[MichiganChic 3,262]

Good for you to realize what's going on and be accountable to yourself! I think once the swelling goes down and food is tolerated better, it takes more effort than it did at first to stick with it. Don't be so hard on yourself, because that is counter productive. I am just under 3 months out, and I'm finding the need to be very fastidious about eating, because I know I could graze all day! (haven't done it, but know I could ) You mentioned you have a hard time with rules, and I have to tell you, I don't like them either, lol, but I follow them. If the day comes that I don't do so well, I hope I'm as brave as you to come here for support.

My diet is super simple. I don't want to spend any time focusing on food, either thinking about it, shopping for it, preparing it, etc.

Breakfast: Premier Protein shake

Lunch: lunch meat, chesse, egg, yogurt, etc

Dinner: chicken, turkey, other lean meat, veg or fruit

Snacks: string cheese, yogurt, hummus/pita chips or veg, fruit

I use fitbit to track every bite I eat, and have been eating 800 calories per day. My weight loss slowed in February, so I'm bumping up my calories a little to see how it goes. I decided there is no sense in eating 800 calories a day if I'm only losing 1-2 pounds a week. I could do that on 1200+ before!

Good luck!