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I've had regrets ever since doing it I had a bleed a day later had 4 lots of blood transfusions spent a week in icu almost died. My surgery was 3 weeks wednesday and I spoke to my doctor and told him I'm having sharp pain when I breath and in my back and and shoulder he said it was muscular found my self at the hospital today they gave me morphine and sent me to the private and admitted me did a Ct scan and it showed Fluid under the lungs and a huge hematoma on my stomach which they think may be a leak from my stomach incased or from the bleed I had. So here iam today laying in the hospital bed getting I'v fluids and antibiotics and nil by mouth. So I've being regretting it from the Start. I didn't realise how big the change was and I wish I didn't do it as I'm 18 years old and struggling. Good luck to everyone hope I get to that stage where I appreciate it and not regret it anymore.

Lozzad read my sleeve,story. We had the same issues. I'm home now but facing six weeks in bed. On day five they gave me Valium.....heaven....all spasms stopped! Insist on a muscle relaxant if you aren't on one.

So OP you can probably guess that I too have regrets. I am in constant pain and can not take care of my child. I lay in a drug induced haze most of the time. I gained 20 lbs in surgery and haven't lost it a week out. I'm lucid when everyone is asleep. I've completely lost my life. food? Who cares! I just don't want to die.

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I regret that I didn't know how weight loss affected your gallbladder.

I regret that I don't have much money to buy new clothes.

I sometimes think I regret telling sooo many people.

I do somewhat regret that I didn't do it sooner.

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I regret that I have this amazing tool to lose weight and I don't use it to its fullest, since it's so hard to eat in one sitting, I tend to graze all day, a shake takes me 3hours, I only get 30min for lunch but I eat 7/8 small bites and I'm starving 2 hrs later so I have a few bites of almonds, and then graze from the time I get home to bed, I'm hungry every two hours like clock work. My grazing makes me feel guilty like I'm overheating. I hope I'm not wasting away this great tool to lose weight, I can't get past 155

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I guess everyone on this forum has had a regret or two at some point. This phase will pass....hang in there. Think positive! Mind over Matter.

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My wife had trouble with after the gastric sleeve, the problem was her gallbladder she labored through for 3 months. She had a feeding tube and spent 29 total days in the hospital. After her gallbladder was remive everthing was good wirh her.

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I know I'm 12 days sleeved an I I feel like I'm looking it I keep wondering will I be able to eat normal again I'm not saying I wanna stuff myself with the bad stuff all the time but what if I wanna a go have wings and rotate with my friends can I still do this right now I can hardly drink 64oz Water daily when does it get better I feel like I have no control

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I know I'm 12 days sleeved an I I feel like I'm looking it I keep wondering will I be able to eat normal again I'm not saying I wanna stuff myself with the bad stuff all the time but what if I wanna a go have wings and rotate with my friends can I still do this right now I can hardly drink 64oz Water daily when does it get better I feel like I have no control

You will. :)

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Do you loose your hair with the gasify sleeve? Also will you ever be able to eat and drink at the same time.

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I woke up out of anesthesia to major regret and this lasted about 36 hours until the nausea dissipated. I am now four weeks out and overall I feel good about my decision. There are moments where I feel mild regret; this occurs typically when I'm at a restaurant with family or at a work lunch (last lunch was carne asada tacos ). At the time of surgery I weighed 240 and I'm down to 216. I'm starting to feel it in how my clothes fit, how I am able to get around easier, and how much my face has thinned up. I also am surprised by how much energy I have now despite still getting in under 800 calories. The first 2-3 weeks after surgery I was tired. Now that I'm getting in more Protein and starting to eat soft foods, I'm feeling better. I think it is normal to have regrets at times though.

Following the surgery, I was so miserable and felt the nausea would not go away. I remember remarking on how awful I felt and a nurse said something like "it will get better but it is a big change to your system having 90% of your stomach removed. It was then that it really hit me that I had elected to have them remove almost a full body part. I was pretty scared and regretful at that moment.

But, now four weeks out, I feel back to myself. I wish the best for all on here and hope you keep us posted.

To the folks who have had complications, I'm so sorry to hear this. That would be scary and I would totally have regrets. I hope you are able to get medical and emotional support to cope with this and move forward with recovery.

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While I have not had any regrets after surgery, I can share with you something my surgeon said when I asked her this question during my first consultation: "Have you had lots of patients regretting this surgery?" - Her response: "Yes some people regret not being able to ever eat with reckless abandon again."

That's never left me.

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I am very glad I ventured into this topic. The more I thought I knew about the sleeve and other things regarding the process, the less I actually knew. Thank goodness I've had this as a reference.

I'm trying to mentally process each step of recovery and not get caught up in mental drama. I am only one week out and experiencing many thoughts addressed here. I am not knocking anyone for regrets or anything they are feeling. I am really looking at the long term and thinking why I did this in the first place: I do not want to be that person who stops living life to the fullest. I want to avoid any potential knee or hip pan and replacement. I don't want to be that person on blood meds or potentially type II diabetes medication.

I know I am going to cross many of the bridges/phases/thoughts mentioned here. So reading and listening has been most helpful.

I have a ton of support from my husband because he has seen me through all attempts and should unconditional love regardless of my weight. I am so fortunate.

I had a few hernia repairs that were done while I was having the sleeve. I had been waiting almost 15 years to take care of this because I put everyone and business before me.

Now this may sound bizarre but I honestly didn't tell anyone but my sons and husband I was having this done. Probably because I didn't want to people checking in or talking about it incessantly.

Is there anyone else who chose not to tell their friends etc?

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No regrets at all except not doing it sooner.

First weeks can be tough!! Hang in there, it keeps getting better

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@@Tiff187, girl I am right there with you. I'm having the hardest time with these nasty ass Vitamins and getting my Protein in. I'm 2 wks out too and balled my eyes out yesterday because I kept dry heaving and throwing up foam. I feel exhausted and weak and have to go back to work tomorrow. I hate feeling sick like this. When researching you never hear any one talk about this stuff. Now that I'm post op I see all these cons and I'm thinking, awwwe sh*t... What did I do! ????

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Very inspiring!????

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I don't mean to make it sound terrible. But where I am right now isn't flowers and roses. I'm just trying to be real. This was major. The body went through something traumatic so for all the pre-op ppl. I would want them to know it'll definitely be trying... Dont try and hold back any tears, just let them flow as they come. I have lost over 20 lbs with the first 2 wks... right now that's the positive I'm holding on to.

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