Women!

[ngory07 22]

Ok so I went to this party last night and saw a group of women I haven't seen in awhile. One has not seen me at all since my weight loss. She didn't speak to me at first and I was kinda upset b/c we had a falling out when I was considering surgery more than 1 1/2 ago and haven't spoken since. Then she came up to me and said she didn't know who I was until she asked and that I look great. She is a big girl like I was and told me she's jealous and was going to look into the surgery for herself. Lol. But said it in a nice way!! The second girl I saw hates me now!! She's not very big but has put on some weight and I used to be so much bigger than her! She wouldn't talk to me and gave me the fakest smile and laugh I've ever heard. Can't stand people like her!! And the last has seen me as she works at Walmart which I frequent but has never mentioned my weight loss before. She told me I looked good but I took the "easy" way out. I put the biggest smile on my face and said yep I did and 150 lbs later I feel great. Easys awesome!! Lol! She is also obese. Now I know this isn't easy but heck if that's what you want to think go ahead. It was a hell of a lot EASIER than being hungry all the time and doing good for a week before getting so hungry I ate everything in the house. It amazes me how different these womens reactions were!! The first one pleasantly surprised me as I was upset we had fought about the surgery. The woman with the chip on her shoulder pisses me off because she always used to moan about losing weight and how thin she used to be. Can't other people get healthy too?? Or do you have the monoply on that? And the last cracked me up with her ignorance. And how she gave me a compliment and then boom there's the catcher "easy way out" do you walk when u can drive? Do u sew your own clothes when you can go to the store? Do u churn cream into butter??? Didn't think so. I am happy with my weight loss and the sleeve has given me back my life. Actually ya know what?? It has given me a life. I was never thin, never healthy, never happy. And if I can help one person who believes its hopeless like I did I will gladly take the insults!!!

[Lissa 2,631]

You do know that all three are jealous of you, right? The "easy way out" woman is the worst of the bunch! She KNOWS it wasn't easy, but she can't admit that or she'd have to face her own demons about food.

You did right, just smile and be agreeable and keep on rockin' that sleeve!!! You go girl!!!

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,280]

Women can be really catty with each other. I've never understood this, as I've always been under the "stick together" umbrella. I guess I just don't let the envy we can feel lead my emotions. Of course, its natural to feel jealousy in some ways... but for me I use that as a catalyst to emulate that rather than allow it to turn me into a mean nasty person.

The easy way out... sure. I admit yes, this surgery though the first few months were close to torture it HAS been easy. Easier than NOT having it, but so what? What's wrong with that? I always ask them that. Why WOULDN'T I take the easier route? Then I always follow it up with, and I'll keep it off too and smile. Have a great day!! Now go have your cookie.

Be blessed. You have given one out of three hope - even if it is all wrapped up in ugliness. If you have helped and given hope to even one, it was worth it.

[Shanny 70]

I get it all the time. Now people are saying, "You're getting too skinny." or "You need to stop losing weight." I'm like, can you mind your damn business, please? Keep doing you, girl! You look fabulous!

[frumpynomore 204]

You know what? I can't wait for someone to approach me like those women did yo u! I hope I can remember what you said, "

Do you sew your own clothes when you can go to a store? Do you walk when you can drive? Do you churn cream into butter?" You couldn't have put it in to better words! THIS IS NOT THE "EASY" WAY OUT! Would any person in their right mind choose surgery if they could fix it on their own???!!! I don't believe so! Good for you and keep on standing tall.....YOU DESERVE IT!!!

[AV8ORnTX 14]

From a guy's perspective, it's unfortunate but this behavior isn't isolated to women. I met up with a close friend a couple of weeks ago to watch a football game and he mentioned that it looked like I had dropped quite a bit of weight. I explained about my surgery and I could sense that his attitude instantly changed. The rest of the game he was a bit stand-off-ish and since that day, I've tried a few times to get in touch but I've not heard a word from him. He's gained a LOT of weight in the past few years and I kinda feel like maybe he's pissed, jealous, etc. that I'm not part of the 'fat fraternity' anymore. It's sad.

[ngory07 22]

Women can be really catty with each other. I've never understood this, as I've always been under the "stick together" umbrella. I guess I just don't let the envy we can feel lead my emotions. Of course, its natural to feel jealousy in some ways... but for me I use that as a catalyst to emulate that rather than allow it to turn me into a mean nasty person.

The easy way out... sure. I admit yes, this surgery though the first few months were close to torture it HAS been easy. Easier than NOT having it, but so what? What's wrong with that? I always ask them that. Why WOULDN'T I take the easier route? Then I always follow it up with, and I'll keep it off too and smile. Have a great day!! Now go have your cookie.

Be blessed. You have given one out of three hope - even if it is all wrapped up in ugliness. If you have helped and given hope to even one, it was worth it.

I agree!! I have never understood it either. What's odd to me is the women that have been most supportive and congratulated me are the naturally thin women who have never had a weight problem. Or you get the people who tell you congrats how did you do it and as soon as you tell them you can sense them pulling back and the weight loss is suddenly not that impressive. I have never been one to lie. Some chose to say Portion Control and exercise which I could understand because of attitudes towards wls but I'm honest about it. I never want someone to think well damn if they could just cut down and lose why can't I. It wasn't that easy for me which is why I chose surgery.

[ngory07 22]

You do know that all three are jealous of you, right? The "easy way out" woman is the worst of the bunch! She KNOWS it wasn't easy, but she can't admit that or she'd have to face her own demons about food.

You did right, just smile and be agreeable and keep on rockin' that sleeve!!! You go girl!!!

Thank you for your support!!! Jealousy from women is something so foreign to me I sometimes have trouble noticing it but its been happening and it makes me very uncomfortable. Part of me was comfortable being fat because I wasn't a threat. No one noticed me. I was just the big girl. Now I stand out more which is funny because I've lost a whole person!!

[ngory07 22]

You know what? I can't wait for someone to approach me like those women did yo u! I hope I can remember what you said, "

Do you sew your own clothes when you can go to a store? Do you walk when you can drive? Do you churn cream into butter?" You couldn't have put it in to better words! THIS IS NOT THE "EASY" WAY OUT! Would any person in their right mind choose surgery if they could fix it on their own???!!! I don't believe so! Good for you and keep on standing tall.....YOU DESERVE IT!!!

Thank u!! And it will happen one day and I hope you put them in their place!! Lol! You are totally correct. If I could have lost it the "natural" way I would have. But food is complicated and I needed our wonderful tool.

[ngory07 22]

I get it all the time. Now people are saying, "You're getting too skinny." or "You need to stop losing weight." I'm like, can you mind your damn business, please? Keep doing you, girl! You look fabulous!

Thank u so much!! And actually my pic is from 3 months out I had lost 50 lbs I have to update it. 100 lbs more than that now and I look really different!! Lol. And yes I have been getting that too. Isn't it frustrating?? You didn't say anything when I was getting fat but now that I'm trying to get healthier you wanna speak up?? Puhleezz!! Ridiculus. I started at 304 and my goal is 140. I'm 157 now so when people say that I explain my bmi won't be healthy til at least 150 and the range is 125-150 for my height. Most people trust doctors so that usually shuts them up. But if I want to be a little mean and mess with them ill say oh I have at LEAST 60 more lbs to go and then they will ask me how much I weigh now. I tell them and they will start doing the math and look horrified as I walk away laughing!

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,280]

Thank u so much!! And actually my pic is from 3 months out I had lost 50 lbs I have to update it. 100 lbs more than that now and I look really different!! Lol. And yes I have been getting that too. Isn't it frustrating?? You didn't say anything when I was getting fat but now that I'm trying to get healthier you wanna speak up?? Puhleezz!! Ridiculus. I started at 304 and my goal is 140. I'm 157 now so when people say that I explain my bmi won't be healthy til at least 150 and the range is 125-150 for my height. Most people trust doctors so that usually shuts them up. But if I want to be a little mean and mess with them ill say oh I have at LEAST 60 more lbs to go and then they will ask me how much I weigh now. I tell them and they will start doing the math and look horrified as I walk away laughing!

LOL you just cracked me up!! Thanks for the laugh! Cheers girlie you've done it. You're within pounds to where you want to be, if anyone else can't be happy for that, well they can just go kick rocks. BTW... picture updates!! I loooveee to see those.

[Ms skinniness 3,003]

women are amazing. One of my closest friends continues to tell me how she eats M&M's all day, has one big meal, and grazes though out the day and has lost 7 lbs. I am astonished at her unhealthy eating habits with high carb intake. And yes, since I've know her, she has gone up 3 pant sizes. When I told her i was going to have this surgery, she told me I didn't need it. It got to the point where I don't feel safe sharing with her about anything personal. So I don't. I do get frustrated when she talks about how wonderful she is with her weight loss. Then again, my world is all about me and I love it....

To all of you, keep up the hard work,,, we have given up alot to be here. I had a taco from Taco Bell because I was craving it and I hated the Taco...... Feels good.

[NEWLEASEONLIFE 1]

I am glad I have chosen not to talk about my surgery. It is very personal to me. I have been told to my face others are trying to guess what has happened. They are going to talk either way. I would rather not talk to them about it.

I am shocked at people's rudeness. I would NEVER flat out ask people if they had this surgery. And yes people have been loud and rude asking at my job, grocery store, gas pumps, etc. I mean LOUD. I would consider it as rude as asking someone how much they make. There are enough people who are willing to share their surgery...I don't have to and I really don't want to be open with it.

[sleeve 4 me 910]

Girl don't pay them any attention!!! I refuse to be bothered with that negative energy! Too happy, too content and too blessed to bothered with folks like that! I do not understand people like these women and never will!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CELEBRATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[SKCUNNINGHAM 298]

Ok so I went to this party last night and saw a group of women I haven't seen in awhile. One has not seen me at all since my weight loss. She didn't speak to me at first and I was kinda upset b/c we had a falling out when I was considering surgery more than 1 1/2 ago and haven't spoken since. Then she came up to me and said she didn't know who I was until she asked and that I look great. She is a big girl like I was and told me she's jealous and was going to look into the surgery for herself. Lol. But said it in a nice way!! The second girl I saw hates me now!! She's not very big but has put on some weight and I used to be so much bigger than her! She wouldn't talk to me and gave me the fakest smile and laugh I've ever heard. Can't stand people like her!! And the last has seen me as she works at Walmart which I frequent but has never mentioned my weight loss before. She told me I looked good but I took the "easy" way out. I put the biggest smile on my face and said yep I did and 150 lbs later I feel great. Easys awesome!! Lol! She is also obese. Now I know this isn't easy but heck if that's what you want to think go ahead. It was a hell of a lot EASIER than being hungry all the time and doing good for a week before getting so hungry I ate everything in the house. It amazes me how different these womens reactions were!! The first one pleasantly surprised me as I was upset we had fought about the surgery. The woman with the chip on her shoulder pisses me off because she always used to moan about losing weight and how thin she used to be. Can't other people get healthy too?? Or do you have the monoply on that? And the last cracked me up with her ignorance. And how she gave me a compliment and then boom there's the catcher "easy way out" do you walk when u can drive? Do u sew your own clothes when you can go to the store? Do u churn cream into butter??? Didn't think so. I am happy with my weight loss and the sleeve has given me back my life. Actually ya know what?? It has given me a life. I was never thin, never healthy, never happy. And if I can help one person who believes its hopeless like I did I will gladly take the insults!!!

I am so proud of you! You are a wise woman! That is a great attitude to have. Don't let others pull you down with their bad attitudes. I love taking the easy way - automatic washers and dryers for my clothes, refrigerators and freezers for food storage, buying soap rather than making ot over the fire, and all the wonderful ways we have of communicating with each other rather than writing letters with fountain pen. I tried all of the "hard ways" to lose weight before - and they didn't work.

Thank u so much!! And actually my pic is from 3 months out I had lost 50 lbs I have to update it. 100 lbs more than that now and I look really different!! Lol. And yes I have been getting that too. Isn't it frustrating?? You didn't say anything when I was getting fat but now that I'm trying to get healthier you wanna speak up?? Puhleezz!! Ridiculus. I started at 304 and my goal is 140. I'm 157 now so when people say that I explain my bmi won't be healthy til at least 150 and the range is 125-150 for my height. Most people trust doctors so that usually shuts them up. But if I want to be a little mean and mess with them ill say oh I have at LEAST 60 more lbs to go and then they will ask me how much I weigh now. I tell them and they will start doing the math and look horrified as I walk away laughing!

That is a great answer - not only are you a wise woman, but witty, too! I may steal that when people tell me I am too thin!

Good luck with the rest of your journey - you are bound to be successfull with your attitude.