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Did your VSG make you "EMOTIONAL"?



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Ladies and Gents,

Hold on to your true selves. Though the emotions do subside, there are other avenues that we must prepare ourselves for.....

Like - those unusual comments that people are making about or weight loss. Hummmmm you are getting skinny. What are you doing Weight Watchers? HCG?

. Hummmm don't you think you are loosing too much?

- <humph> she don't look good little....

Come on people chime in with me--make yourself feel better, because we know people love you fat and are jealous of you when you get thin--not to mention down right hate you when you become Skinner than them (but don't know how you did it...lololrofl)

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I get extremely emotional when I think about how wonderful this surgery has been for me, I can't explain it wothout crying, and every time I hit a mini milestone I'll have a sob beside the scales!

The main difference i found was an inability to deal with stress, as soon as I couldn't silence things by smothering them with food I realised I had no coping mechanism, its been getting better, although my co-workers notice my stress levels more now, so they may not think its a good change! ;)

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I'm so glad this topic is on here!! The first 2 weeks after surgery I was in a HUGE funk. I likened what I was feeling to the hurt that I felt when my father passed away. I was angry at myself for "mutilating" (oh yeah- I said it) my body. food was my best friend for 35 years and we went through a nasty break-up. During the time I was only allowed liquids but still had to prepare meals for my family, which caused more tears to fall. Once the JP drain was removed and I moved along to more palpatable foods I started thinking that this may not be so bad after all. Once that first month was over and I found some sort of normalcy in the day-to-day I was back to my happy-go-lucky self!! Thankfully for me, I have no ovaries to blame for my depressed state, I was mourning the loss of my BFF- FOOD!!!

Now I'm 61/2 months out, almost 100# down, at my doctor's suggested goal weight, and wearing a size 8, and eating a healthy diet. I think that 1st month freak-out was a small price to pay for feeling & looking healthier!! Oh sure, the tears still roll from time to time. Now its always when I'm in a dressing room and the pants I took in are too big & I need to go down a size!!

Good luck to everyone who will be going, is going, or has gone through the 1st month meltdown!!! It really is the hardest part of the process!!

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YES!! Happy to hear others who have dealt with this. I am 3.5 months out and have lost 70 lbs with a LOT still to go. I have struggled with depression for the past 2 months. Not being able to eat whatever I want whenever I want has been very hard for me. I mourn for certain foods like lost friends. I have had to learn how to cope with life without food. Depression and anxiety have increased but this surgery forces me to deal with it. Even if I try to eat certain things I can't. The surgery is a blessing but it also forces the issue of emotional eating to stop. And that can be very tough.

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