Should I put off dating for a year?

[300PoundsDown 101]

I know everyone says you don't change on the inside after weight loss but I think it depends on the person and how much your weight has affected you on an emotional and psychological level. Some people have not been very affected by it but others have built up defense mechanisms because of it. I have been extremely overweight for many years and I believe that much of my overeating is grounded in emotional/psychological issues which I am working on changing along with the surgery. For me, this is a process of changing who I am both inside and outside. I do believe that I will be the same person at my core but a lot of things about me are changing and will continue to. I don't think that is a bad thing. Change can be good. However, I think someone who knows me next year this time will know a slightly different person that the one I am today. As far as dating goes, I believe you can take that day by day. You really have no idea if any of your fears will come true regarding whether the relationship will affect you negatively. If it does, then break it off. But it's hard to anticipate what will happen before it has happened!

[smkeller 3]

You are already on a journey, why would you want to start on another one?

haha yeah, it was reaaallly awkward. I get the impression that she didn't even have something she WANTED to be passionate about.... she was quite content to be in her little bubble, and more power to her.

But that's not where I belong

[Anakin Jay 39]

I know everyone says you don't change on the inside after weight loss but I think it depends on the person and how much your weight has affected you on an emotional and psychological level.

I think this is a *great* point I hadn't considered.

GAINING weight definitely changed who I am inside. I'm less outgoing, less social, more fearful of being judged...

Maybe we're looking at it wrong, maybe WLS won't change who I am inside, maybe it'll just let me get back to who I really am?