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I am glad you are going there, you guys are going to have a blast. You are doing the right thing too. This is what you need to do for YOU

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Have a great time, Daisy. I have a feeling this will be just what you need.

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Oh Daisy,

I know that you will have a good time. You really are going to get through this rough patch in your life. You are doing the right thing by getting out of town and having some fun. Life dosen't last long so don't waste your time being so sad.

One day I might get the courage to tell you about a terrible tragedy that happened in my life. My faith in God is why I'm still living today. Be happy Daisy. We care about you. Hugs, Judy

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You are all so sweet. It means a lot to me.

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I have been doing much better today. I have been more in the "screw him" mode rather than remembering all the good times.

His whole family is crazy. I have 3 different friends who are therapists and they all said the same thing. Everyone in his family is so self absorbed, they think everything is all about them.

the guy I started this thread about and I have been emailing. He is messed up too. he seems really nice , but not anyone I would want to meet.

I think there is a reason these men my age are single. They are too screwed up to be in relationship.

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Glad to hear you are feeling better. Once you get to the "screw you" stage, it can be very liberating.

Just remember, don't let a few guys spoil it for all of them. There are still a lot of really good men out there and I am sure you will find one that is perfect for you.

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My daughter tells me I need to see the therapists that she and her husband saw when they did marriage counseling. They are a husband and wife team. I am going to call them tomorrow.

I have gone to counseling off and on throughout life and I think it's time for me to go again.

There must be some reason why I think I NEED a man to be happy, and why I always seem to pick losers. The last 2 were both mamma's boys.

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You dont need noooooooooooo stinkin man...just a good B.O.B.

Good woman do not need a man, good woman would like a man to help fulfill there life. Good woman enhance a mans life.

So long 'we' (big people) have thought of ourselves as second class citizens. WE ARE NOT.

YOU are a strong vibrant good looking (I seen pictures) woman.....OWN that thought~~~

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You know what they say,,, the best way to get over one guy is to get under another. You will find one soon.

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Well said but what is a B.O.B. I have an idea or two but not sure I am right.

Battery operated boyfriend = B.O.B.

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I wouldn't beat yourself up too bad about having relationship that don't work out either. Most relationships don't work out. It's just the nature of the beast. You said it was fun at first so it was good at first. You can't know everything in the beginning so you can't avoid a few loser.

Now if you constantly hook up with emotionally abusive people or addicts or something... then, yeah, you need to change. Or if you jump into relationship too quickly (I used to do that) and then realize it's a bad situation, but if you'd taken your time, that would have been obvious...

But otherwise, having relationships go bad as you get more into them is just life.

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Hey bearded, I like those kinda of bf's. They are pretty much perfect for the most part.

Always ready when you need them and they don't talk back, expect you to cook and clean for them .. you just need to be sure you have an ample suppy of batteries on hand :thumbup:

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