What are the 10 do's and don't's so I can get back on track?

[Delajuana 2]

I had to have my portal replaced three days ago. Apparently I had no restriction for over two years and did not pay attention due to personal tradegies. I lost my husband to stomach cancer and my father almost to the day the next month. I've neglected my health and I need to get back on track before my next visit for a fill.

I have been watching what I eat and excercise about thirty minus Mon-Friday. Saturday and Sunday about two hours. I belong to a fitness club and enjoy it.

Please help, all responses would be appreciated!

[2muchfun 8,927]

Here are 8 rules to live by. But your doctor may have a different take on your situation?

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[marfar7 1,528]

1st of all, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband and dad. 5 yrs ago, I also lost my husband at age 46 (I was 40), so I know the depression and weight gain that it causes. Please try to find a support group for widows - it helped me tremendously.

Ok, you want the top ten things? Here you go:

1. Don't drink while you're eating or for 30-45 minutes afterwards. They say it's because you wash down whats in your tummy before the fullness feeling. I can't drink while eating because it caused me to vomit.

2. Make sure you only eat the amount directed by your dr. Some say 1 cup, some 3/4 of a cup. Follow your drs advisments. snack only if directed by your dr

3. AVOID VOMITING AT ALL COSTS! For 2 yrs, I ate way too fast and caused myself to vomit (not really pb'ing, as it's much more violent but only food comes up) about 4-6x a week. My band finally had it last year and slipped. I'm still paying for that decision.

4. Exercise. Looks like you're already doing that tho!

5. Don't drink your calories. Like grape juice has like 100 calories a cup, Water has 0.

6. Get your Protein in. If you have a choice between Protein and carbs, choose the protein first

7. Make sure you get fills when necessary. The band doesn't work if you're not adjusted properly

8.Watch your calories. With only eating 1 cup per meal, the calories should be fine and you probably won't need to count them, but I do in my head anyway.

9. I don't do this but keep a journal of everything you eat. Studies say that people who write down everything they eat, lose more weight.

10. Don't drink soda! Whether it's diet or not. The carbonation wreaks havoc with your band.

Hope that helps a little. I'm sure there's more "rules" but I'm not one for many rules and break them all the time! You shouldn't need to "diet" while the band is actually working, but until you get proper restriction, you may need to.

Good luck to you! And you will be happy again someday. I promise. I thought I'd never be happy again after losing my husband. 5 yrs later, I'm remarried and loving my new life. I still thik about Kevin with fond memories, but I'm so happy now I could burst!

Marci

[Delajuana 2]

I truly appreciate the great responses and the eight rule video provided by 2muchFun. I am taking it slow and refocus on me now. Unfortunately I have no children so the lonelines and guilt for being alive weighs heavily on me.

A personal thank you to Marci for the wonderful advise, I hope I can be happy again.

[Mrs. Curtis 42]

I truly appreciate the great responses and the eight rule video provided by 2muchFun. I am taking it slow and refocus on me now. Unfortunately I have no children so the lonelines and guilt for being alive weighs heavily on me.

A personal thank you to Marci for the wonderful advise' date=' I hope I can be happy again.[/quote']

I am so sorry for your loss-

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[wannabefitagain 1]

Hi dela

thought I would say hello, feeling a little depressed myself and just wanted to let you know I am not really religious but I will say a prayer for you so that you might have some peace.

[♕ajtexas♕ 3,771]

Dela, sorry for your loss. Glad to hear that you are starting to take care of you. Keep it up and you will be happy again. I truly believe that.

You asked for ten do's and don't and you got some great advise. The one thing I would add is get support, whether it is hanging out here everyday or a local support group, or family and friends, whatever just find good support. That was/is the key to my success and I feel is one of the most important elements in this journey. BTW - I still hang out here everyday for support, it is a great forum.

Good luck to you and know that we are here for you.