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So lately I have been wondering if this was the right decision to make I was band 3/21 and im really not liking how I have been feeling lately I get sad when I look at my scars constantly having this feeling of phlemge in the back of my throat not sleeping well at night because of constint adjusting I just wonder was thus the right decision I made im just really on eased about this right now

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Have you talked to your Dr about the throat feeling? Did they put Fluid in the band at surgery?

I have read that this feeling of "what did I do?" is common after WLS. Just think towards the future and the real reasons you got this.

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No Fluid till about the 6th week i just hope I'm not alone in this feeling and can't wait till it goes away I hate feelin this down

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I had that around day four but 30 lbs down? How could fixing my health be a bad idea?

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Don't give up Girl! You can do this. About a month before my surgery I was trying to wrap my head around this thing, so I wrote a very embarrassing two page letter to myself. It is all the negative things that I need to remember of why I got banded. I always heard that if you put your thoughts on paper it helps, also when I get down I can pull it out of hiding to reread it to "keep it green" Personally I'm not going to all this trouble to give up easy. I knew this thing was going to be more mental then anything. That is why I'm on this site, to get that support from my peers ( other lap band patients)

Hang on, Fight for yourself, You can do it!!!!!

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i think we all go thru that at one point. my "what the hell did i do" moment hit the second i woke up from surgery. but i can tell you this is not an easy road, but soooo worth it. this time last year i was in 18/20's and today i shopped on the "regular" side of the store and have be barred from Lane Bryant cuz their clothes are too big for me! it is worth it!!!! feel free to PM me anytime

jennifer

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I had that around day four but 30 lbs down? How could fixing my health be a bad idea?

mandagay.. hang in there.. you are going through a real down period and it wont last. just try and concentrate on all the positives. Talking about putting things down on paper... why dont you do two sections on paper and write down all the positives that will be happening for you.. against the negatives?? give yourself time to really be honest about it all. im sure that the positives will well and truly win out for you.

im already having such a tremendous relief from pain and swelling in my feet and lower legs and the same huge benefits and more besides are coming to you as well. Try and look at the positives. i understand how down you must feel.

sometimes this does happen, being down and depressed after any surgery, ive been there and dont it many times before so i know.(about 20 surgeries since i was 15 )

what you have had done is potentially life changing and for the better... so try and look on the brighter side. bless you.

mandagay.. hang in there.. you are going through a real down period and it wont last. just try and concentrate on all the positives. Talking about putting things down on paper... why dont you do two sections on paper and write down all the positives that will be happening for you.. against the negatives?? give yourself time to really be honest about it all. im sure that the positives will well and truly win out for you.

im already having such a tremendous relief from pain and swelling in my feet and lower legs and the same huge benefits and more besides are coming to you as well. Try and look at the positives. i understand how down you must feel.

sometimes this does happen, being down and depressed after any surgery, ive been there and dont it many times before so i know.(about 20 surgeries since i was 15 )

what you have had done is potentially life changing and for the better... so try and look on the brighter side. bless you.

this should be reply to Dellaland... sorry about that.

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i think we all go thru that at one point. my "what the hell did i do" moment hit the second i woke up from surgery. but i can tell you this is not an easy road, but soooo worth it. this time last year i was in 18/20's and today i shopped on the "regular" side of the store and have be barred from Lane Bryant cuz their clothes are too big for me! it is worth it!!!! feel free to PM me anytime

jennifer

Yea for you!!!! I can't wait for that opportunity. I bet that feels great.

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thank you guys so much for support the weather here is really cloudy and grey which is really not helping me either but your support truly does help

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I, too had that moment. I was getting in bed with my husband who I love dearly and it hit me. I want to be healthy but I also want to feel sexy at the same time. So, as i put my sleep mask on (UGH) and looked at my incisions, I thought wth did I do. Now that I am losing weight, and enjoying small achievements-I know that I did the right thing. Everyone has to decide what they are willing to sacrifice. This is my sacrifice and I plan to make it work. Is it and will it be tough at times-absolutely but so is anything that is worth having. Give yourself some more time. Everything will get better. Look at your small achievments. :D

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I remember thinking the third day after my surgery... "what have I done"... then I realized my acid reflux was gone.

I had suffered from acid reflux since I was 14 and it went away soon after I was banded.

Take it one day at a time... it does get better.

For me I still get support from other bandsters... I meet a group for coffee every month... and I still get weighed in every month with my family doctor. This keeps me motivated and helps me stay on track and at goal.

Tom, Toronto

Banded July 6 06

Wt. Loss: 140 lbs

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Good luck. I have not Been banded yet and I am having second thoughts. I look so fat in pics though and its only a matter of time before the health issues come. Stay strong. You can do it.

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In the grand scheme of things having a few small incisions which will fade over time to me is far more preferable than stretch marks and rolls of fat, and that doesnt even go anywhere near the health benefits side of this. Never lose sight of why you had the band done in the first place. Its very easy to look back with rosy coloured specs on and think 'things werent that bad before i got banded'.

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Don't give up Girl! You can do this. About a month before my surgery I was trying to wrap my head around this thing' date=' so I wrote a very embarrassing two page letter to myself. It is all the negative things that I need to remember of why I got banded. I always heard that if you put your thoughts on paper it helps, also when I get down I can pull it out of hiding to reread it to "keep it green" Personally I'm not going to all this trouble to give up easy. I knew this thing was going to be more mental then anything. That is why I'm on this site, to get that support from my peers ( other lap band patients)

Hang on, Fight for yourself, You can do it!!!!![/quote']

Good advice!

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I have the cloudy day lap band blues here in Los Angeles today. But let me tell you it cheers me up to know my struggle is onward and upward unlike last year when I would comfort myself with food and end up in that disasterous cycle.

Good Luck to you. Remember its something we all go through in all our different ways but this is a place we can ask for help and support without shame and without judgement.

Lots of luck and good energy being sent your way.

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