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I think the piece of explanation I am missing is that basically you can say anything and then claim you were joking and thus abdicate responsibility for saying it. Just try joking about whats in your luggage at the airport these days and see how that goes down!!! :)

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Loopy, my mom taught me that saying only it went like this, "more truth is told in half jest" and Im telling you what, it is so true!

You know whats interesting? Watching spouses when one of them starts to lose weight. I was married twice before and in both of those marriages I had to deal with the subtle sabotage. I've heard all kinds of theories about this but I think it probably boils down to (1) Fear of change in the spouse. (looks, attitude, whatever.. but I think looks is a big one) and (2) Loss of a partner in crime. (for the spouses that dont want to do anything about their weight).

This is where good communication comes into play again. Tempting with food and teasing like thise about one's weightloss could (and I emphasize the word could because I dont want to assume anyone's motives) be signs

of an insecure spouse that is afraid of the changes this "new you" will bring into their life. Just a thought.

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Don't feel bad...I threw a bag of Orea Cookies at mine....they smashed all over the place and the dog had a field day! Needless to say...we don't have Oreo's in the house any longer!

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You girls are a trip! It is noce to know though, that we are all in a pretty similar boat....our husbands just don't think before they open thier big fat mouth's. Now my husband is a little different but still just as annoying. Now whenever we go out to dinner he always has to complain that I am no fun to eat with because I only take a few bites and I am done. I am so sick of hearing this...so what if I only take a few bites...doing this has allowed me to lose 80 pounds and I don't really care. He keeps on eating till he is done so what does it matter if I don't clean my plate? Soetimes I just want to strangles him!

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