BayougirlMrsS

Following you.... Hoping to have your success as we are about the same status.... are at least my "original" ones.
42ish y/o 5'2" Banded in 2009 HW: 232lbs. SW 223, Weight are band removal (3/2017 due to slip) 143
51 y/o Revision to sleeve Aug 28, 2019 SW: 173.5, Day of surgery 165, today 144.2
I am very inspired by your results. I would love to start a dialogue with you if you're interested.

Happy anniversary my friend! Congrats on your success. Thank you for the advice and encouragement over the years.

Congratulations on your 4 year anniversary!

if you look at success in the dictionary i read.......it says eye candy in boston
love ya GF

I don't mind reiterating something to anyone who is really interested in figuring it all out. I am not the quickest to learn either, I'm too stubborn for my own good sometimes. It's not that sort of poster that bothers me, so please don't think that it's at all what I'm saying. It's more those who, for example, insist that they need to be so tight they can't do anything but drink protein shakes because that MUST be how people lose weight with the band, or get angry because the band magically didn't take every shred of hunger away, or are pissed off because they don't understand why they need to get fills because surely it should have worked and made them lose 50lbs straight after surgery that make me cringe. Wanting to learn is one thing, making mistakes and admitting them is another thing, but not knowing anything but pretending like you know everything? Yeah, no, I have no more patience for that. And you know when it's time to take a break when you see those posts and it feels like they're EVERYWHERE, when they're probably not.

OMG..... My friend.... i could not have said it better myself. I feel exactly where you are coming from and completely agree with everything you said.
I wrote a post like this a while back, some people were supportive of what i had too say... some not so much. And to them i said.... Too Heck with you all.
But you are right, we come here to talk about our experiences with other and they say.... WOW you look great, tell me how/what you did.... you tell them and they then get so offended and or jealous of your success.
Im not here to compete with anyone... just to read, encourage, chat, discuss, and yes Vent sometimes..... but in all that i believe speaking the truth is the most important. But some people can't handle the truth.
You are amazing and still one of my encouragers..

i will give you some tan for some of those gorgeous sexy bod you got....
i see that as a fair trade GF
**you are a walking/talking/looking success story**
from one biker ole lady to another....YOU f**king rock

wow so you have concerns about being 45.. lol wish I was only 45 again.. but my daughter reminds me that every day is a gift.. She treats terminal cancer patients every day.. so when I whine about getting old or whatever she brings me back to what is really important in life.. and if you can even wear a bikini you are 90 % luckier than most of us.. I will never be able to wear another bikini.. too old for one thing and too flabby for another.. gravity is a b...so you go strut yourself on the beach and enjoy..

Nwww happy birthday, my friend. And you know what I think: that at 45, you are still one of the most beautiful women I know. And you have a rockingest bikini body! But I understand the insecurity about it, because I've been there. It's taking that first step, put on that bikini and step out onto that sand, and I promise you, no one is going to laugh at you. In fact, they're going to think you're beautiful, just as much as I do!

Girl, I've seen your pictures and you are rocking that bikini! Just put a smile on your pretty face and own it! Happy Birthday!

i couldnt agree more...
my goal weight by the doctors charts (are something i dont think i can ever get to) and i am not saying that to sound b***h** but its true..for my height, it is what i weighed when i was in my mom's stomach when she was pregnant...i told my surgeon, the number i want to get to is me being healthy, mobile and something i can get to and stay with (and maintain happily)......i believe that the band/plication will help me with that part....
i recall sitting in his office and him asking what did i want to weigh
at the time he said it, i was well over 300+ and i said i'd like to get to 299....and then 289 etc......and he laughed......and then i said eventually, i'd love to see 199.....and if i got there, i am okay with that....he said it is technically (obese still) but i said its something i can get too and right now that is all i care about.....
i am not a hooked on number person
i dont own a scale and use the clothes i have (or now have to buy all the time) as my guide....call me strange, but it works for me...
so do i have a number in mind after all this rambling, well yeah
but right now, i just want to see 199 make an appearance .
GREAT post lellow
GREAT comment missy

have you asked your doctor about starting a clothes swap. We did it among our selves... We posted on his wall what we had to give and people came and got them...
Or if you go to support group.... ask to start one there...
I also, shop ebay and Goodwill... when i was losing. Who wants to spend tons of money on clothes that will only fit for a short time.

mis 73 wrote this and i have been trying to remember it as much as possible....
Comparison is the Thief of Happiness

Hey Jen..... Love your post and can relate to a lot of it. I also looked in the mirror and saw a pretty average looking woman. Growing up i was always a small kid. after my second son i lost all the weight i gain (a whole whopping 35lbs) So yes i delivered via section at 135lbs... omg... looking back now... i thought i was huge back then. Anyway, so that was section #2 and the final one. I would say that LB was not even in the same ball park. my LB surg was so pain free. Most uncomfortable for me was the gas pain after. I equate my TT as being the same as the Sections. LB was like the hysterectomy and the gallbladder surg.
back to the subject... I too looked in the mirror and still thought i looked good, until i saw a picture and didn't recognize myself. I was horrified.....How, when, what did i do to my self. How and the hell did i go from 100lbs to 223lbs... it seemed like over night. So i had the LB done nov. of 09 and i have not looked back. The first few months were hard.. i won't lie. I was thinking that i would have the surg and whammm bammm .. i would wake up skinny. Surprise... nope didn't work that way. So i got my ass in the gym and started working out... and low and behold... the weight kept coming off...Slow, but it was going away. The first year i lost 60lb and the second 20.... i have been about the same for a while now.... i did put back a few since my hubby lost his job only because he is 6'4" and can eat anything...
Ohhhh FYI: I too carry a lot of weight in my chest... I started at a 44H bra... and 80lbs later.... im only a 36G... So don't count on them all going away. if in the past you have lost in the boobs... then maybe there is hope for you. But every time i lost weight in the past... boobs always was the last too go...
Go in with a positive out look, keep telling your self.... Self, i will do this... I will do this... I will do this..... And you will. All the best too you...

in the words of rupaul (and your super fantastic blog), if we cant love ourselves. how the hell can we love anyone else.
can we get an amen in the house

omg... i know the feeling.
after my first son... i stayed at 135 and was not fat by any means... but my ex use to call me fat and ugly and that i should be lucky too have him....
fast forward to now..... him... 5'5" and 320lbs..... bahhhhh bahhhhh

Jules.... please don't let the actions of one pea-brain a*****e determine your self worth. You have made a great decision to have WLS to get your health in order and become who you are destined to be.
Jerks like that are a dime a dozen... Keep your chin held high, embrace every pound you have loss and every future pound you lose.
Take care..

Steph, I am a geek. I have all the dates, first kiss, proposal, etc. recorded in my calendar.

Smart man!! My hubs didn't even propose - we got engaged during an argument- actually we really haven't argued much since. Go Fig.
My hubs also, does buy gifts. I've never gotten flowers, EVER!!!! I keep giving the hubs not so subtle hints- hell I even sent him the damm number in an email, still nothing.
Recreate the way you proposed, or propose all over a gain with a ring or necklace. I would fall out if my hubs did that.

i got one for you.....
i was at 143#...My husband said... so, how much more weight do you want to lose. I said, i don't know.. i guess about 10-20 # ... why i asked.... he said... because your starting to look like a bag of bones...and your face is starting to wrinkle....
my best friend said... chris you need to stop, your face is sinking in...

well, good for you.
just keep following the dr's instructions and you will be at goal in no time.

well scorpio girl... not many view it like you do. i have been called Bitchy and nasty... all for telling the truth.

i removed what i wrote.... i don't have time for all that. People are going to think what they want. I only meant to help, but it got taken the wrong way....
I'm just going to sit back and know that i what i wrote was the truth and if people can't handle the truth then so be it..
Thanks my friends...

i do have problems with that CG... i don't drink near enough. but today is a new day.... putting down the mt. dew is going to be the biggest hurdle...
but i have to lose at least 20 by end of july. I'll be 45 and i want to look great.

hey... girl... you look fabulous as always... Guess i better get my butt back on the bike...
Is that an Iron Fist shirt?