Tony B - NJ

No worries...for what it is worth. I may come off cold at times but I am truly trying to help. I truly believe that people can be successful in their journey if they get out of their own way and commit. Some people need a good boot in the ass at times to open their eyes and get serious.

So, I hate to be a wet blanket here and I know everyone is trying to be supportive, but to get major weight loss surgery and after a year being only 22 pounds lighter seems to me to be a bit of a failure....I am just being brutally honest. Part of supporting people is to sometimes tell them the truth and try to get them to take action. If I were in the same situation, I would go back to a low calorie, high Protein, low fat, low/no carb diet and get exercising ASAP. The fact is, there has to be a calorie deficit and it we are gaining weight back, there is an issue with that deficit. Maybe we are not counting all our calories....maybe we are not counting at all......maybe we are doing ZERO exercise......maybe a lot of things but what we do know is that it is not working and we are gaining weight. It is time to reevaluate EVERYTHING and get back to what made weight come of in the first place.

I had my surgery because of a little girl. My granddaughter has had such an impact on my life that I did not want to be limited in any way in the way that I interact with her and I wanted to make sure I was around when she grew and became a young woman. She was 4 when I made the decision and the last year with her has been exceptional and now, having lost over 100 pounds I know I am going to be able to continue being active flying kites, riding bikes, running around, crawling around playing on the floor etc, etc.

I had my surgery because of a little girl. My granddaughter has had such an impact on my life that I did not want to be limited in any way in the way that I interact with her and I wanted to make sure I was around when she grew and became a young woman. She was 4 when I made the decision and the last year with her has been exceptional and now, having lost over 100 pounds I know I am going to be able to continue being active flying kites, riding bikes, running around, crawling around playing on the floor etc, etc.

I had my surgery because of a little girl. My granddaughter has had such an impact on my life that I did not want to be limited in any way in the way that I interact with her and I wanted to make sure I was around when she grew and became a young woman. She was 4 when I made the decision and the last year with her has been exceptional and now, having lost over 100 pounds I know I am going to be able to continue being active flying kites, riding bikes, running around, crawling around playing on the floor etc, etc.

Go to Poshmark.com. You can buy slightly worn clothing for pennies on the dollar for some really good designer names. As a man, I have bought Polo, J Crew, banana Republic, Zegna etc. After I grow out of them I sell them to someone else on the app and buy something new. It is a really good way to have really nice clothing that even if you could not resell them, you pay so little that it is worth it. You can make offers on things to get them for prices you can afford. Many times they accept much lower prices.

I had my surgery because of a little girl. My granddaughter has had such an impact on my life that I did not want to be limited in any way in the way that I interact with her and I wanted to make sure I was around when she grew and became a young woman. She was 4 when I made the decision and the last year with her has been exceptional and now, having lost over 100 pounds I know I am going to be able to continue being active flying kites, riding bikes, running around, crawling around playing on the floor etc, etc.

I had my surgery because of a little girl. My granddaughter has had such an impact on my life that I did not want to be limited in any way in the way that I interact with her and I wanted to make sure I was around when she grew and became a young woman. She was 4 when I made the decision and the last year with her has been exceptional and now, having lost over 100 pounds I know I am going to be able to continue being active flying kites, riding bikes, running around, crawling around playing on the floor etc, etc.

I had my surgery because of a little girl. My granddaughter has had such an impact on my life that I did not want to be limited in any way in the way that I interact with her and I wanted to make sure I was around when she grew and became a young woman. She was 4 when I made the decision and the last year with her has been exceptional and now, having lost over 100 pounds I know I am going to be able to continue being active flying kites, riding bikes, running around, crawling around playing on the floor etc, etc.

I had my surgery because of a little girl. My granddaughter has had such an impact on my life that I did not want to be limited in any way in the way that I interact with her and I wanted to make sure I was around when she grew and became a young woman. She was 4 when I made the decision and the last year with her has been exceptional and now, having lost over 100 pounds I know I am going to be able to continue being active flying kites, riding bikes, running around, crawling around playing on the floor etc, etc.

I had my surgery because of a little girl. My granddaughter has had such an impact on my life that I did not want to be limited in any way in the way that I interact with her and I wanted to make sure I was around when she grew and became a young woman. She was 4 when I made the decision and the last year with her has been exceptional and now, having lost over 100 pounds I know I am going to be able to continue being active flying kites, riding bikes, running around, crawling around playing on the floor etc, etc.

I had my surgery because of a little girl. My granddaughter has had such an impact on my life that I did not want to be limited in any way in the way that I interact with her and I wanted to make sure I was around when she grew and became a young woman. She was 4 when I made the decision and the last year with her has been exceptional and now, having lost over 100 pounds I know I am going to be able to continue being active flying kites, riding bikes, running around, crawling around playing on the floor etc, etc.

I think you will be fine....only the first day or so is an issue for the physical part of things. After that, if you need help or advice, that is what we are all here for. We have gone through it and can ease your concerns or tell you how we got through various things like stalls, vomiting, bloating, Constipation etc, etc as well as understand all the Non scale victories you will inevitably come across.

Go to Poshmark.com. You can buy slightly worn clothing for pennies on the dollar for some really good designer names. As a man, I have bought Polo, J Crew, banana Republic, Zegna etc. After I grow out of them I sell them to someone else on the app and buy something new. It is a really good way to have really nice clothing that even if you could not resell them, you pay so little that it is worth it. You can make offers on things to get them for prices you can afford. Many times they accept much lower prices.

Go to Poshmark.com. You can buy slightly worn clothing for pennies on the dollar for some really good designer names. As a man, I have bought Polo, J Crew, banana Republic, Zegna etc. After I grow out of them I sell them to someone else on the app and buy something new. It is a really good way to have really nice clothing that even if you could not resell them, you pay so little that it is worth it. You can make offers on things to get them for prices you can afford. Many times they accept much lower prices.

I think you will be fine....only the first day or so is an issue for the physical part of things. After that, if you need help or advice, that is what we are all here for. We have gone through it and can ease your concerns or tell you how we got through various things like stalls, vomiting, bloating, Constipation etc, etc as well as understand all the Non scale victories you will inevitably come across.

You have to stay strong and stick to the program. If you cheat at this stage, when you can eat, you will be cheating then and losing the effectiveness. Try taking some different foods and puree them so you can eat. At this point you should be able to puree any vegetable, eat pea Soup, puree some tuna or chicken etc. I was eating foods like this at this point without a problem. How about Tomato Soup, cream of mushroom soup etc, etc. There are many options that can keep you satisfied. You can also get some Protein Powder that is unflavored and mix them into these things previously mentioned.

You have to stay strong and stick to the program. If you cheat at this stage, when you can eat, you will be cheating then and losing the effectiveness. Try taking some different foods and puree them so you can eat. At this point you should be able to puree any vegetable, eat pea Soup, puree some tuna or chicken etc. I was eating foods like this at this point without a problem. How about Tomato Soup, cream of mushroom soup etc, etc. There are many options that can keep you satisfied. You can also get some Protein Powder that is unflavored and mix them into these things previously mentioned.

I could not do the shakes much more than a few months. I went to other forms of Protein like the Unjury chicken Soup which is 20 grams in a glass of warm Water. Much easier to deal with the taste. I also like the Protein Bars that have low calories..there are a couple out there. Be careful of the Keto bars though, they have higher calories. The brands I use have between 130 and 140 calories which is right about where most shakes are. The unjury is only 90 calories or so.

I think you will be fine....only the first day or so is an issue for the physical part of things. After that, if you need help or advice, that is what we are all here for. We have gone through it and can ease your concerns or tell you how we got through various things like stalls, vomiting, bloating, Constipation etc, etc as well as understand all the Non scale victories you will inevitably come across.

I am married to a wonderful husband but he could careless what size I am so he is neutral on anything related to weight. My family are all asking and live across the nation and we rarely speak except happy birthday, Merry Christmas... Etc. so I think I would classify myself as going through it alone.
No true support system but no adversity from family or others since I do keep to myself. I prefer it this way, to do it alone, to cook, log and track. I find it more difficult if I had to take care of kids or people who do not have dietary restrictions. If I need support, I have you all.
As far as right after post op. I slept for day one and was fine after that.

It's gas from the surgery. Use a heating pad, walk a lot, take it slow. It's normal.

I rarely eat enough to get to my restriction. A 4 ounce can of tuna does not get me there but any more than that and it will hurt and be uncomfortable. Just eat what your teams tells you to eat, no more and no less. You will develop habits that are way more important than the physical restriction. Again, I rarely if ever reach the restriction. It is working for me since I have lost over 100 pounds and my BMI is almost in the normal range now.

On the right track seeing a psychiatrist. Looks like you need another distractions outside of baseball. I am a huge sports fan as well and I know the feeling when your team lets you down. Since my surgery I am really into bicycle riding which helps with my anxiety and gets my head in the right space, not to mention makes me trimmer and in better shape all around.

112 pounds in 10 months