HealthyLifeStyle

On 6/14/2021 at 9:54 AM, BayougirlMrsS said:

No she didn't. I do the exact thing. I'm paying for a meal and i want it the way i can eat it. Why should she stay home? She wasn't the one with the bad attitude...... If anyone needed to stay home it was the server.

Thank YOU!!!

11 hours ago, Jaye W said:

I am allowed to drink up until I start eating. I drink Water while waiting for my meal. Is your plan no drinking 30 mins before and after?

Yes, even though I am 9 months out. I double checked with my nutritionist last week and she told me that this is a rule I should always go by. Also, if I drink up till I eat, I won't have room for food. I still get very full quickly.

2 hours ago, BayougirlMrsS said:

first @HealthyLifeStyle there is no reason you need to defend yourself, you did nothing wrong. I waitressed for 20+ years and no customer deserves a rude server. It's not so hard to Not bring Water to the table, and it's not hard to get a grilled turkey burger, no bun, no mayo add tomato..... It doesn't matter if you are dining in a 5 star or a dang Denny's (just example).... A server should always be courteous.
Next time simply say with a smile, I'm so sorry you are having a terrible day..... when they say they are not..... shake your head and say... what a pity. They will get the point.

TY for understanding. I was also a waitress and was never rude to anyone. It just really made me mad when she was being rude to my elderly mom for no reason.

2 hours ago, ShoppGirl said:

I think that how one treats a waitress is just about as controversial as abortion or politics. I have seen spouses argue over this on more than one occasion. I can only speak to My personal experience and as a waitress I would not have found ANYTHING you described as overwhelming or a burden. I would have thought to myself wow this person is telling me they are anxious and if I don’t turn this around I am not gonna get a decent tip.

And I don’t even care if you had asked for a Water and then asked me to take it away as long as you asked me politely. (Granted I would have thought you were crazy but I wouldn’t have cared). And I wouldn’t care how many changes you made to the food because I am not preparing it. The only thing I had to do was enter it into the computer. I would have honestly heard you that you were anxious and had some dietary concerns and thought to myself challenge accepted and figured out how to make you happy.

Now the fact that your order got messed up twice was most likely the kitchen. Assuming she entered it into the computer correctly and that itself can be frustrating to a waitress cause they can do everything right and still get a crappy tip cause the kitchen messed up. I wouldn’t let this experience cause you more anxiety or stop you from eating out though. Most people i have known in customer service WANT you to tell them exactly what you want so they can give it to you because that’s what makes happy people and happy people tip well and make for happy managers.

Thank You for your understanding. It was not a difficult order. My mom even told her that she knew it wasn't her fault and probably that of the sandwich maker.

2 hours ago, LaoDaBeirut said:

The thing is it sounds like you basically made up your own menu. If you have to say no to 4 different things, change something, and add something else...that's a lot. I've also been a waitress before and if someone asked me to remove the free Water I would also probably immediately flag them as a "difficult" table that wasn't going to tip me.

I've eaten at a lot of restaurants since my surgery and haven't had an issue. Red Robin probably isn't the kind of place to go though. It's easiest to go to a health focused kind of restaurant first where all you have to do is find some lean Protein on the menu.

How did I make up my own menu. Turkey burgers is on the menu and so isn't the choice of getting a lettuce wrap instead of a bun. I asked to add a Tomato and hold the mayo. I asked if the turkey burger was actually grilled and that I didn't want added butter, or oil, etc. It was not a difficult order.

I have worked as waitress at different places before and this is not a difficult thing to do.

If you read my post. My mom even said to the waitress that she knew it wasn't her fault, and probably the fault of the sandwich maker.

This waitress had an attitude from the very beginning. She was very rude to my elderly mother and I.

If you want a decent tip, then act like a nice person. I always tip on the heavy side if the person deserves it. Just because I asked her to remove the Water shouldn't be a red flag for crappy tippers.

13 hours ago, BigSue said:

Sorry to hear you had a bad experience, but there are things you can do as a customer to make things go more smoothly. Yes, it's her job to serve you, but it looks like you might have overwhelmed her by giving her so much information about your situation. She just wanted to take your order, and probably wasn't prepared to hear your whole story about your COVID anxiety, your surgery, your medical restrictions, etc.. It's not really fair to put that responsibility on the server. It's probably standard protocol for them to bring Water to people who don't order a beverage, and assuming you didn't get charged for it (which you typically don't, even if you ask for water), did it hurt anything to have an extra glass of Water sitting on the table? It's good to be assertive about what you need, but you don't need to go out of your way to make additional demands.

Ok so the only reason I told her no water was because that was a suggestion from someone else on here when I told everyone I was apprehensive about eating out for the 1st time. I really didn't think about it, but I guess I just didn't have to take that advice and could have had the water sitting there. No biggie there. I was very nice about it when I asked to have it removed.

My story was very short and all I said was that it was my 1st time out since Covid and that I was on a strict eating plan. It took all of 30 seconds to tell her that.

I certainly didn't go out of my way to make any "demands". I simply told her no oil, butter, or salt, or mayo. Lettuce wrap and add Tomato. My moms order was veggie burger with lettuce wrap and it came in a bun. How is that being demanding?

Our order was messed up twice, and the waitress was very rude to us from the beginning. So tell me again how did I make "additional demands"????

I was told by different people on here that I shouldn't be nervous about letting wait staff know about my dietary needs, and now after this experience, I am more nervous about eating out than I was in the 1st place.

19 hours ago, GummyBearQueen said:

Every paying customer deserves a respectful and pleasant experience. Yes, it’s Red Robin, but that doesn’t mean a server should be unprofessional.

TY not be rude to myself and my elderly mom. She was very rude to us.

19 hours ago, lizonaplane said:

Yes, and OP should go to a restaurant where servers are making bank, not Red Robin, if she wants a fine dining experience.

I did not want a fine dining experience. I simply wanted the waitress to be nice.

19 hours ago, ShoppGirl said:

Actually the restaurants I have worked at in college had to pay minimum wage if you do not claim at least that much in tips. You probably wouldn’t be employed there very long if that was the case more than once in a while but they do make minimum wage. Not that minimum wage makes it much better. I agree waitresses work very hard for their money and it’s way too often that they get shafted in tips, But it’s still not an excuse to roll your eyes and mumble under your breath at someone.

TY I worked as a waitress so I know exactly what it is like. I always got paid less than minimum wage plus tips. She was just plain rude to us.

20 hours ago, lizonaplane said:

I am sorry you had this experience, but right now there is a serious shortage of people willing to work for the poverty wages that restaurants pay. Usually restaurants pay just over $2 an hour (yes, less than minimum wage) because they figure people will make up the difference in tips. So, be very kind to your servers and tip more than 20% especially when you have a special order. My semi-ex-boyfriend and I went to Red Robin last weekend and we had to wait for a table even though the place was empty because they only had two servers. When we sat down, realized the server was brand new, and it was a bit painful, but we just tried to be patient. Despite many mistakes, I tipped over 20%.

Don't complain if the server brings you a Water you don't want - just don't drink it. That's just rude; she was clearly doing her job as it was described to her in her employee manual. It doesn't hurt you to have the Water sitting on the table undrunk.

Maybe try a more expensive place or someplace that's not a chain if you want personalized service. Red Robin is a low-end burger joint.

There was no shortage of waitress/or waiters at this place. I know first hand about being a waitress as I was one for various places, including low and high end. She was just extremely rude to us for no reason. When I go out I always tip at least 20% and if they are extra nice I tip more. TY

20 hours ago, ShoppGirl said:

Wow, what a hot mess. She deserves to be fired, not for the mistakes but for the attitude. It’s called customer service industry for a reason. Sorry for your bad experience.

TY Like I said it takes a lot for my mom who is 74 yrs old to get mad. This waitress was just being very rude to us.

I finally bit the bullet and decided to try going to a restaurant yesterday for lunch with my mom. We were at the mall and ended up at Red Robin. I have been there a bunch of times before surgery and knew that had some healthy options.

When the waitress came to take our drink order I let her know I do not want anything. My mom orders iced tea. She comes back to the table with my moms iced tea and a big glass of Water for me. I tell her that I didn't order any water, and could she please remove it. She gives an attitude. When she comes back for our order, I let her know that I am very nervous because it is my 1st time ordering out at a restaurant since COVID #1, and I also tell her about my surgery #2, and let her know I am nervous about ordering because I want to make sure the order is correct, as I can not eat certain things. She rolls her eyes, starts to talk really fast, and is now rushing us. Mind you there is hardly anyone in the restaurant at this time. It is after the noon time rush. She literally had only 1 other table besides ours.

I decide on the Turkey Burger, ask if its grilled and she tells me yes. I let her know I am on a very strict eating plan, and can not have butter, oil, salt, etc. I want it plain and on a lettuce wrap with Tomato only. She asks me if I still want the chipotle mayo and I let her know I can not do spicy anything. I ask what the side options are that are healthy and I chose broccoli. My mom orders the veggie burger with the lettuce wrap, and broccoli as well.

Our food gets to the table. Mine looks great so I take a bite and burn my tongue because it had the friggin chipotle mayo I told them I did not want. I hate spicy and couldn't even do it before the surgery. Upon further investigation, I see that the tomato is missing also. My moms is in a regular bun after she told them she wanted the lettuce wrap. My mom motions to her and she clearly sees her and ignores us. We finally see the manager go by and motion to him. He comes over and we explain what is going on. We let him know about the mistakes and we just want them fixed. My mom even says that it is not the waitresses fault but probably whoever made the sandwiches.

Here comes the waitress again now with our corrected order. She never apologizes, gives us a major attitude, mumbles something under her breath and walks away before we could even check our food. I double check to make sure my order is right, this time their is no mayo on it, but my tomato is missing again! OMG My moms was correct this time. I didn't even bother to ask again because at this point we just wanted to hurry up and eat and leave.

Time for the check....she tells us as she is walking by in a very fast speaking tone that we can check out using the table top kiosk. My mom was buying and always uses cash, she tries getting her attention once again to ask her how does it work, as we only know it to use a card. When we look at the total we knew it was wrong because it was for 2 orders of everything we got. Now my mom is pissed (it takes a lot). She gets up and gets the manager, explains how the girl has been rude to us the entire time, orders wrong, etc. The manager tells us we owe nothing, and we ate for free. He also tells us that he is firing the waitress today. Ummmm ok that is your problem and not for our knowledge, but now at least we know why.

Wow! What a bad 1st experience that was. I am afraid to try other places.

3 hours ago, lizonaplane said:

I'm glad you found something that's working.

Thank you very much. Me too! LOL

8 minutes ago, Lynn12345 said:

I just bought some silicone popsicle molds with little lids from Amazon- and filled them with my Protein Drinks and slowly had them. My plan after surgery is mix plain nonfat greek yogurt with 1/2 teaspoon of pureed blueberries (just for taste) and make frozen yogurt popsicles. Also- these were inexpensive for eight of them. They also say you can put any juice, or crystal light in them and they will freeze, thus making sugar free popsicles. I am scared for the pre-op all liquid diet for two weeks. I just cleaned out the entire refrigerator and freezer and either threw stuff out, or gave to a neighbor. I also made a huge batch of chicken broth (found 5 bags of bones from leftover chicken I made) and then got square containers at the dollar store, about 1.5 cup size- and they stack well. So I am stocked up for a while. I also made pea Soup (no meat) and pureed it silky smooth and have those when the time comes. I put plastic wrap on before the lid so no freezer burn. I live alone and have to have things easy for myself. Hope these ideas help someone.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B013JTIBK4/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Thank You for these ideas. They are great!

51 minutes ago, Chantrella said:

Anyone ever tried grits after having RNY.

I eat them now at 9 months out. I can only eat a little bit (2 bites) before I feel full. My hubby makes cheese grits. Yummy!

Have any of you that are least where I am now (9 months) stopped taking the bariatric Vitamins and started the over the counter ones?

I looked into the Centrum Silver and I may start taking these instead now that I am this far out.

The price difference between these and the ones I have been buying thru this website is huge.

4 hours ago, Lisa LoVuolo said:

Gastric bypass

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I also had the bypass 9 months ago. Did you figure out why you were having the cramps? Mine was eating Maltitol, a fake sweetener found in a lot of foods. I stopped eating it and feel a lot better now.

Still have a very hard time with carbs at 9 months out. If I eat them, it makes me so full that I end up feeling really sick. I am talking only eating one spoonful of rice, or Pasta, etc. I just don't bother trying to eat it anymore.

5 hours ago, Starwarsandcupcakes said:

You can always try freezing some Protein Shakes partially and eating with a spoon.
I’ve also blended one with ice so make it thicker to eat with a spoon.
Hang in there. For me it got easier the longer I did was on it.

That is an awesome idea! I wish someone had told me about this. I am actually going to do this now. It will seem like I am eating ice cream but healthy. Thanks

Feeling more confident about my picture being taken at family functions, holidays, etc. I used to actually hide when the cameras came out because I feared of my pics being shown to everyone to see how big I was.

Not being embarrassed to eat in front of others. When I was bigger, I didn't like to eat in front of anyone because in my mind they were making fun of me for being so fat.

Anyone who has been following me knows I have been asking about the Water recommendations. Even though I am a little past 9 months, I was told by a few people on here and also my docs office that I should still be doing the required 64oz of water per day.

At 6-7 months I cut down to 6 cups per day so I could eat more Protein. If I didn't do that, I wouldn't be able to get in all my food because I was just too full. It was concerning because I had already reached my goal weight and couldn't maintain. I let the docs be aware of this and was told that I still had to do the 8 cups per day. I made my own decision not to listen to them.

At this point, I am drinking only 4 cups of water per day. By doing this I am able to eat more. I have been doing this for at least a week. I was excited to get on the scale today because I just knew I had put on a few lbs. but alas I have actually lost more. I am so frustrated because I really thought this was going to work. Less water being less full means more food intake means weight gain. Isn't that how it would logically work?

I was on lithium for 27 yrs. and 2 months (45 lbs. lighter) after my surgery became "toxic" and ended up in the hospital because they never lowered my dose.

My husband said I was acting weird one day. I was changing in and out of different pj's every 20 minutes or so. Then he told me I was taking out bath towels one by one, wetting them and placing them around the house in different spots. Cussing at him for no reason and just acting out of character.

He called my parents, and when they came over, I was in the bathroom naked crouched in a corner and bawling my eyes out. My mom kept telling me to get dressed and I refused. She said she couldn't understand what I was talking about because apparently I was mumbling and couldn't form sentences.

They called the ambulance after they were able to put some clothes on me. I was cussing at the EMT's the entire way.

A lot of other stuff happened. I do not remember ANY of it. They told my husband and parents that I almost died from being so toxic. I ended up in the hospital for 4 days.

When I got home, I called the surgeons office to let them know what happened, they blamed it on my psychiatrist office. Then I called my psychiatrists office and they blamed it on the surgeons office. No one would take responsibility for this.

I still don't remember anything from that awful time. Hubby told me a lot of other weird stuff I was doing, and saying. I am still going to counseling for it because it was so traumatizing that I have a hard time just being in a car. (I was told that it's because of my body remembering the ambulance ride as the last time I was in vehicle)? Even though my mind can't remember, my body remembers.

I am slowly working on it, and can be in a car for a little bit longer each time.

It was and still is bothering me because I can not remember anything that happened.

PLEASE make sure you tell your docs about this. Make sure they are adjusting your meds as you lose weight. Your body won't be big enough to handle the current dosages your used of taking.

I am now taking Gabapentin for anxiety, and it's also used to treat my neuropathy pain from when I was diabetic and now have permanent nerve damage in my feet.

I also take Ativan if I have to go anywhere in the car. If I don't take it, I can't go anywhere.

So for those of you who have been following my posts. My doc had told me to take Miralax every single day due to Constipation. When I was no longer constipated and now getting diarrhea every day, I called the office and they told me to cut down to every other day. Then when that wasn't working either, I called them again and they told me to keep taking it no matter what. So I had to make my own decision at that point and stopped taking it all together. It has been over a week now and I have been regular. I am not one to tell others not to listen to their docs, but I know my own body, and had to do what I thought was right for me at the time. Sometimes the docs are not always right.

Just curious to know if and when you started to exercise after surgery? If so what are some of the things your doing?

I do some light stuff, like walking my dog around the neighborhood.

I suffer from Fibromyalgia and am in a lot of pain most days.

Looking forward to swimming very soon as the weather is getting nicer.

I don't want to join a gym because I know I will never go and it will just be a waste of money.

On 6/3/2021 at 6:13 PM, Chantrella said:

When was your surgery? I have this same issue with sugar free drinks and crystal light. I tried Chick-fila unsweetened tea and diet lemonade 3 days ago it went well. They use Splenda

Last August. Good to know about Chick Fila. I went there today for the 1st time since before surgery, and didn't get a drink because I was scared it would bother my belly.