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This is brilliant. It doesnt matter youre going by yourself, enjoy your own damn company and live your life! Ive been doing more outdoor activities by myself and its a great way to grow and challenge yourself! Sure having a partner would be great but that will happen when it happens.

I have so many things I would like to change , its a mixture of things I need to do or reward myself with:

Sort my hair, changes glasses, get decent underwear and get clothes that fit!

In terms of activities, anything really! I ve been doing day trips lately. Would like to go to the beach soon...But ultimately would like to socialise more.

On 2/3/2022 at 11:15 PM, sleevedshereen said:

I had surgery July 2017 and I’m almost 5 years out. Highest weight 228lbs Current Weight fluctuates between 148-150lbs. 80lb weight loss maintained. Here’s my before and after

Amazing!! I have a before and after but I need to glam up!

Yeah I get this when I ve eaten alot or when my blood sugar drops.

I have spent so much money on personal trainers. From local to private gyms where the head trainer was a former olympian. My experience of it was all over the place. What stuck with me was the weight training, bought 10kg dumbells to use at home to keep up my strengh. The funnest was the trainer who warmed to me, he advised and talked to me like a friend. He use to do these vulcan death grips on me because my shoulders were so tense and no joke I would squeal because it hurt!

4 hours ago, Splenda said:

I walk outside nearly every day (minimum 5, usually 6-7 days a week). I walk anywhere between 2 miles and 6 miles. My usual walking route is 3.25 miles and it takes me almost exactly an hour.

I prefer walking outside to using a gym because it "traps" me. There comes a point at around 1.5 miles where my legs start to feel heavy and I'm a bit tired and I honestly want to quit. At the gym, it is very tempting to hit the pause on the treadmill and call it a day. But if I am walking outside, I am 1 to 1.5 miles away from home. Unless I want to call my wife to pick me up (which I did once when I felt like I might be close to dehydration/heat exhaustion), I have to suck it up and walk home. And then I keep telling myself this quote, "Everything you want is on the other side of hard."

The dead leg thing use to get to me. I would jog the day before and try the next day but couldnt. This has stopped happening because my legs are use to cardio now. Also great quote!

57 minutes ago, Coexister said:

I am post op bypass 13 months ( surgery was 10/07/2020) ) and am I now drinking alcohol every night . I have gained back a few pounds Like 8 and am scared to death. I feel like I am heading back toward terrible habits and need to regain back control now. I am working with a Psychologist that's not very good for PTSD issues and major depressive disorder. I have got control of that but I have now a new problem= alcohol! A year ago, I would never think of drinking on a week night or much at all but now it's become my new addiction and it leads to me over eating and then the dreaded weight gain. I have now drank every night for the past two months and I can't seem too let it go. This had never been me before as my family is filled with alcoholics and I could never understand it and now I do? It kills pain and drowns out so much. It definitely affects me differently after surgery and takes very little to have any affect at all. I am drunk or affected at sip 3. It is such a great escapism and good lord with Covid and the way of the world all I want to do is escape in a legal way and alcohol is legal. I am on disability and have a lot of pain issues and the doctors and psych's try to say its a lot mental / PTSD/ Stress related but they haven't lived in my body. I have had over 15 surgeries and have had many scars and all kinds of mesh - They don't live this body and don't feel my pain. They tell me I need to learn to live with it. Well hell , I am doing the best I can and alcohol does a great job of dimming that. But I know I need to find a better answer and am looking to my community as I know I can't be alone in my pain or journey. My New Year's resolution is to get back to that person that doesn't drink in response to pain. That learns to deal with it. That get's her weight under control in the meantime. Sending out an SOS to my community and asking for good advice or just shared empathy to know I am not the only one and that we do not travel on this journey alone.

Hey,

I am sorry to hear you're going through this. Just to say a few things if I can ?

Youve lost so much weight in roughly a year and that's no easy achievement so well done you.

If your psychologist isn't suited for you then you need to see someone else. I am not from the US so I don't know how it works , but definitely request a change.

You say you drink because of escapism / pain which is two different things right ? In regards to the pain, keep seeking medical advice, maybe look into alternative medicine that's more homeopathic ? Either way it needs to be addressed, don't give up on finding help.

I know these times are difficult, covid and isolation is making it a struggle. Keep your support systems close to you, whether that be certain family members or friends or online communities. Keep reaching out for positive support.

Please take care and keep us updated.

HW: 210 +

CW: 124

GW: 112

I havent reached my goal weight yet but losing weight now has got tougher. So I ve structured my eating more and started cardio. The before picture is unreal, I didnt see myself like that at the time. Anyway, I am grateful for this place and the support I received from everyone

How are things now ?

If possible , dry Beans are really cheap. All you have to do is soak them for hours and boil it until mushy (to suit your phase of diet). Lentils are also good for Protein. With salt, pepper and broth cubes it can go a long way.

Congrats, I am hoping to reach my goal weight too.

yeah initially post surgery . Your body and mind is going through alot of changes so its expected I guess. The head hunger I had didnt help either but with time, everything settles.

You know whats interesting ? I am now the weight I use to be a decade ago but I dont remember feeling this cold all the time. Also , I am sure I have a lower body fat this time around because I can see my collar bone more clearly than ever and have less love handles.

Ah, its nice to see ppl checking back on this thread. Its been over a year and I ve had my ups and downs like everyone. Had started a new job and the stress caused me to eat badly for 3 weeks. But I went back to my food plan after. Every time I messed up I always went back to the plan.

I wish I could do more for my diet and exercise , develop good life long eating habits....

I havent reached my goal weight yet and weight loss is real slow now. Hopefully by the start of 2022 I'll have implemented some changes to kick start the weight loss again.

Take care everyone.

On 11/17/2021 at 8:55 PM, Queen ApisM said:

If you are losing weight and feeling good, I wouldn't worry about changing something that is working. Have you spoken with your surgeon's office to get their advice? That's where I would start.

Yeah, everyone is different. Personally I focus on calorie counting because its what I know.

If youre feeling hungry all the time, its cause you need more Protein and veggies (at least thats what my dietician told me.)

1 hour ago, ShoppGirl said:

Have you tried the chewables that are not gummies. Bariatric Advantage makes a good one. I switched to capsule cause it’s cheaper but they did not upset my stomach at all and Your nutritionist or clinic may have samples. My nutritionist game me samples of the Multivitamin and the Vitamin C chews which are quite tasty (like candy).

I looked up Bariatric Advantage , it's a bit expensive but looks really good. I am tight on money right now , but good to know what works.

Thanks for the replies. All of your advice is noted

Quick update ! I increased my lunch by 100 calories which was a lean meat Protein salad. And wow it made a difference, didnt feel tired or as hungry by the end of work. Gonna look into decent salads and use the energy to do exercise.

I have had a couple of blood tests since WLS and nothing stood out...anyway gonna try again with the Vitamin gummies, melts, patches.... anything is better than nothing I guess.

Hi

Its been a year since my WLS and I am roughly a stone / 14lbs away from my goal. I have been a slow loser, there are times I have slipped up which lasted for weeks, due to changes in my life.

However when I am consistent about my eating, weight loss widely varies. All I do is make sure I eat around 700 calories a day. The content of the food is mostly carbs / processed food, but it keeps me happy. I dont monitor my Water intake but I do drink alot of tea / coffee. I also dont take Vitamins or supplements as I hate swallowing pills, but I suspect that has an effect on my energy levels.

dinner is my main meal , so doing physical activity before that is difficult.

Also....I know u cant eat and drink at the same time. But for half of the year, I ve not been leaving a 20 min gap between food and drink. Mostly because of time constraints (work) and yeah laziness. This is definetly gonna stretch my stomach inthe long run right?

So any tips to improve weight loss is appreciated, thanks.

hey well done , look great inthe suit !

Yeah I didnt feel any constriction at first either. It took maybe after a month, dont worry.

Also yeah I remember head hunger still being there after surgery, kept thinking about junk food which worried me....But thats only because your head needs to catch up with its stomach. Honestly youre fine, everything is part of the journey.

I too wonder what my maintenance calories are because never in my life have I reached that stage. I am quite short so any sort of weight gain is always apparent , so dont really wanna gain 10 pounds extra down the line when Ive reached my weight goal....

I woke up from surgery thinking they hadnt done anything yet as I felt no pain. The first initial month I felt no restriction and had hunger pangs , but as time goes on you definitely feel it. I found that if I mistepped and ate too much or too quickly then it would hurt, big time.

Dude is just an ex, not family or anything. You are not obligated to help him. And even then, if anything compromises ur weight loss then cut it out of your life.

Same, I take anti anxiety meds. Havent noticed a difference since the bypass, as in my anxiety is still **** lol.

well done ! what does your strength training look like ?

to be honest, after first couple of months post op, Ive been drinking sips of wine everyday, less than a cup. Hasnt affected my weight too much althou I get dizzy very quickly haha.