FlabulousQueen

Hi. I'm in the same boat. I wanted to go through with the WLS in 2014 and even got my surgery date but he refused to take me and I had to cancel. This time, I will do the whole thing with or without him. We started seeing a therapist and I told the therapist that I'm not willing to give up on this. The therapist said that he should be supportive regardless of his feelings against the surgery. He took me to my endoscopy on Monday and complained for nearly the entire way back (until I put on my headphones). He said, "why should you get to lose weight the EASY way and I have to lose weight the hard way." He doesn't understand me. I'm doing this for me. He can either get on board or not but this time, I will not be swayed and will take an Uber to the hospital if I have to (all of our family lives in another state).

I was just sitting here with my coffee and had all these thought running through my head so I started putting them down on paper as sometimes do. Hope you enjoy it----
Twas the night before bypass and all through my head
Was a mixture of feelings, thoughts, and cheers.
I have worked hard to get here and this day has come,
Its time to cheer and shout, Tell the world “Here I come”
No more will I hide behind this wall of shame
That kept me from being the person I am,
The true me is coming, I’m ready to shine
So onward pride, happiness, love, peace, and joy
You will show the sadness, guilt, and loneliness where to go,
There is a new me inside all ready to show.
So know that the fear, anxiousness, and worry is there now,
But remember just what the purpose is and it will bring a big smile.

I won't miss getting out of breathe when I walk up or down the stairs.
I won't miss my legs rubbing together causing a rash.
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable on theme park rides.
I won't miss standing up to wipe my bottom after using the bathroom (tmi).
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable sitting in a booth.
I won't miss sweaty under-boobs!

I won't miss getting out of breathe when I walk up or down the stairs.
I won't miss my legs rubbing together causing a rash.
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable on theme park rides.
I won't miss standing up to wipe my bottom after using the bathroom (tmi).
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable sitting in a booth.
I won't miss sweaty under-boobs!

Yes, do what you have to do YOLO, I will be having surgery in 2 days and he still acting kinda funny but, idgaf I'm happy for myself and my kids are my biggest cheerleaders. I made a commitment to myself this year and with the grace if God I will see this thru. Good luck to you dear I hope it all works well for you

I brought a robe, long socks and my laptop!! No one else was allowed in my room because of CoVid so I was all by myself for HOURS... the laptop helped so much!

good morning.... Pretty much the same status i started with .... it was 2009 and at 5'2" and 232lbs. I had NO self confidence and NO sense of self. My x brought me to nothing. He (6'4" not overweight) is the most self-centered, selfish, controlling, norcicistic man you will ever met. I took it for 26 years... technically 29, we dated for 3 years. It was a gradual thing... At first it was my friends, then my co-workers, then my family. We would only do things with his friends and family. I could never do anything with friends and co-workers only if he was there. Family, i could on holidays and he would never come. He controlled everything even though i work all the time (2-3 jobs sometimes). He took all of my main jobs money. I was able to keep the cash of the other (waitress). This is what i used to buy personal stuff and my kids things. I couldn't even buy underwear without his approval. I would sew up the holes just to avoid an argument. Cut my kids pants for shorts for school.... it was ruff.
I thought all those years ago, if only i were skinny i could make him happy. Make him love me again, make him want to be with me sexually... and life would be fine. But NO, life after the band got worse. From day one he hated the thought of me losing weight. He was very degrading to me and one of the biggest was my weight. Of course, he told me all the "normal" things you tell a large person..... Your fat, no one will ever want you, you are disgusting, Lazy.... that i was ugly... But when i tried to lose weight he would always sabotage it. He knew and would still make me bring him home cake, pie, ice cream...., Then say, you don't have to eat it. Well when i decided to have WLS, he fitted out... he did everything in his power to get me to change my mind, and when i didn't and was doing my 2 week liquid diet..... he decided to go on a 4 day bike drive to the mountains. I stood strong and didn't cheat not once. As it would turn out, that trip saved me.... My company did a massive lay off and i was to be part of the over 100 to be let go. But because i wasn't there they couldn't lay me off. That Tuesday i had the band sx and went back to work the following Monday and lost my job and insurance.... It was a blessing in disguise. Over the next year, i lost 69lbs. the next year i lost 20lbs and that's pretty much where i stayed. In 2012 without him know till two day before i had a TT w/MR and Lipo to the flanks..... HOLY HELL was he mad. I thought i didn't come all this way to be left with saggy skin... As my confidence grew my tolerance of him got less and less. Even with him still degrading me.... I was too skinny, looked like a bag of bones, still ugly, but now he pointed out the wrinkles. And through it all...... Why are you losing weight? You must be cheating... NO. In 2014ish.... i got to the point where i hated going home. My oldest was out the house and married and my youngest was on his way. There was nothing at home except my dog and a hateful miserable husband. I asked him so many times for counseling... he said, if you pay for it, i'll go, but i don't need that, there is nothing wrong with me.... It's all you. That was it, the last straw... i started preparing my self to be on my own. In July of 2015 i told him that if things didn't change, i was filing for divorce come January. He of course didn't believe me, well January came and i filed. He still didn't believe i would go through with it.... but when i started going out and leaving him home he finally got it. I was gone forever. I made him move out July 4th.... My independence day..... It was like the world was lifted off me. I could breathe. And i figured if i had too, i would work 3 jobs again... My weight went up and down over the years, but never more than 20lbs.... i was at my lowest when he left 130ish. But got back to my normal 143lbs.
Dating was exhausting and fun all in one. Then in Oct i signed up for Match on a "free" week just to see what was out there in crazy land. And i met the man of my dreams.... we talk, texted for a few weeks and then met in person. I never knew men could be like this. Opened doors, pulled out chairs, walk nearest the road, carried my luggage, complimented me, listen to all my crap... Including that i was dating others and was NOT interested in a relationship. But i found myself comparing all the other men to him... and my friend said, men like him and one in a billion, take him before someone else does..... and i did. He is the most incredible man, supports me in everything including my revision to the sleeve a year ago..... and our 1 year wedding is on the 28th...

Your Birthday Suit !
Congratulations ♥️

I can only hope that this will be my experience on Monday! Thanks!

I'm here!!!
1 more hour before I go. SO nervous.
HW: 416.8 CW:350.2
Hope everyone is having a good day. 😶😁

Okay. I am DONE with the endoscopy with NO issues. I talked to the anesthesiologist prior to the procedure. Told him what happened last time and I'm glad to say, It went really well. I was asleep for the whole thing. No sore throat. I am so happy that this experience went much better. Thank you all for your feedback! One hoop is behind me!

I won't miss getting out of breathe when I walk up or down the stairs.
I won't miss my legs rubbing together causing a rash.
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable on theme park rides.
I won't miss standing up to wipe my bottom after using the bathroom (tmi).
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable sitting in a booth.
I won't miss sweaty under-boobs!

I won't miss getting out of breathe when I walk up or down the stairs.
I won't miss my legs rubbing together causing a rash.
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable on theme park rides.
I won't miss standing up to wipe my bottom after using the bathroom (tmi).
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable sitting in a booth.
I won't miss sweaty under-boobs!

I won't miss getting out of breathe when I walk up or down the stairs.
I won't miss my legs rubbing together causing a rash.
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable on theme park rides.
I won't miss standing up to wipe my bottom after using the bathroom (tmi).
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable sitting in a booth.
I won't miss sweaty under-boobs!

Normal to wake up during an endoscopy with a tube down your throat? s 👀 uh, what?

I won't miss getting out of breathe when I walk up or down the stairs.
I won't miss my legs rubbing together causing a rash.
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable on theme park rides.
I won't miss standing up to wipe my bottom after using the bathroom (tmi).
I won't miss feeling uncomfortable sitting in a booth.
I won't miss sweaty under-boobs!

Wow! That’s crazy. I have had several & never woke up!

I was going to say the same thing. I'd tell the person so they'll make sure it doesn't happen this time.

I had mine on Wednesday and I was sooooooper nervous. I had never had one and had no idea what to expect. They wheeled me in the room at 11:48 and then told me the anesthesia was going to burn my hand. Thats the last thing I remember. They woke me up at 12:05. I had THE best nap I have had in soooooo long. I'll keep my fingers crossed that yours goes as well!!

Welcome! I first looked into weight loss surgery about 15 years ago, but I didn’t get any farther than the initial consultation with the surgeon before my family talked me out of it. This time, I didn’t tell anyone because it was my decision and I didn’t need their input. Sometimes I wish I had done it back then because I feel like I’ve missed out on so much because of my weight, but I also think that I wasn’t ready at the time to make the changes necessary to succeed in long-term weight loss, and I have a much better shot now than I would have had 15 years ago. It looks like you are ready to do this now, too!
i hope your endoscopy goes well. Make sure the anesthesiologist knows what happened last time so he or she can take measures to prevent it from happening again.

Hi. I just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Denise and I am at the beginning of my journey. I have my last appointment scheduled for February so it is likely that I will have my surgery in February, March, or maybe even April. I have been on this journey before and completed everything but the surgery. My surgery was scheduled for Monday and I called on Friday and cancelled (this was in 2014). Truth be told, my mother had just passed and I don't think I had my heart set on the surgery or the journey. I think that I only wanted something else to focus on. This time, I am set on the surgery, internalizing all of the information, and just looking forward to a healthier me. My husband is not the most supportive but he is trying to be more supportive than he was the last time around. He still can't understand why I want to do this when "I can just lose weight on my own." He's very stubborn and honestly, I don't know how to explain to him why I think this is the best option. Last time around, he refused to take me to any of the appointments but this time, he's learning that it's okay to agree to disagree. It's not his body. I have my endoscopy on Monday (which my husband will be driving me to) and tbh, I'm a little nervous. Last time I had this done, I woke up with the tube down my throat. This time, they said that I will have the general anesthesia so that shouldn't happen but last time, I had the same anesthesia and woke up with the tube in my throat. It haunted me for a week afterwards. I hope I have a better experience.
All in all, I'm glad to be here. I didn't know you were here the last time I went through this but maybe this time, I can have the additional support. Thank you and nice to meet all of you and read your stories.

Hi. I just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Denise and I am at the beginning of my journey. I have my last appointment scheduled for February so it is likely that I will have my surgery in February, March, or maybe even April. I have been on this journey before and completed everything but the surgery. My surgery was scheduled for Monday and I called on Friday and cancelled (this was in 2014). Truth be told, my mother had just passed and I don't think I had my heart set on the surgery or the journey. I think that I only wanted something else to focus on. This time, I am set on the surgery, internalizing all of the information, and just looking forward to a healthier me. My husband is not the most supportive but he is trying to be more supportive than he was the last time around. He still can't understand why I want to do this when "I can just lose weight on my own." He's very stubborn and honestly, I don't know how to explain to him why I think this is the best option. Last time around, he refused to take me to any of the appointments but this time, he's learning that it's okay to agree to disagree. It's not his body. I have my endoscopy on Monday (which my husband will be driving me to) and tbh, I'm a little nervous. Last time I had this done, I woke up with the tube down my throat. This time, they said that I will have the general anesthesia so that shouldn't happen but last time, I had the same anesthesia and woke up with the tube in my throat. It haunted me for a week afterwards. I hope I have a better experience.
All in all, I'm glad to be here. I didn't know you were here the last time I went through this but maybe this time, I can have the additional support. Thank you and nice to meet all of you and read your stories.

Hi. I just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Denise and I am at the beginning of my journey. I have my last appointment scheduled for February so it is likely that I will have my surgery in February, March, or maybe even April. I have been on this journey before and completed everything but the surgery. My surgery was scheduled for Monday and I called on Friday and cancelled (this was in 2014). Truth be told, my mother had just passed and I don't think I had my heart set on the surgery or the journey. I think that I only wanted something else to focus on. This time, I am set on the surgery, internalizing all of the information, and just looking forward to a healthier me. My husband is not the most supportive but he is trying to be more supportive than he was the last time around. He still can't understand why I want to do this when "I can just lose weight on my own." He's very stubborn and honestly, I don't know how to explain to him why I think this is the best option. Last time around, he refused to take me to any of the appointments but this time, he's learning that it's okay to agree to disagree. It's not his body. I have my endoscopy on Monday (which my husband will be driving me to) and tbh, I'm a little nervous. Last time I had this done, I woke up with the tube down my throat. This time, they said that I will have the general anesthesia so that shouldn't happen but last time, I had the same anesthesia and woke up with the tube in my throat. It haunted me for a week afterwards. I hope I have a better experience.
All in all, I'm glad to be here. I didn't know you were here the last time I went through this but maybe this time, I can have the additional support. Thank you and nice to meet all of you and read your stories.