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Home from Jesse Brown VA Medical Ctr in Chicago, surgery was on 7/21, they kept me in ICU the entire time. First 2 days were rough on me, my breathing was shallow & my heartrate was lower than they liked. Day 3 was easier, but they kept me 1 more day, day four (today) made the over 350mi ride home, over 6hrs. Stopped a few times to walk, go to the bathroom(#1). Still on clear liquid diet, boy those sugar free popsicles sure taste good. Crushed ice has been my fav too. I am sipping on water, broth, sf Gatorade & sf jello as instructed. Holding a pillow on my tummy helped along with walking, they sent me home wearing a binder, that was a godsend along with a pillow, it softened the seatbelt and rough spots in the road. Doing ok, Boy, was my trip home miserable, my husband b*****d at me for every & anything, said this surgery was elective & is bogus, said he was disgusted with me & wanted to divorce me. He also loaded up on a dbl qtr pounder, fries & soda infront of me, I had no desire for his food, thank god, but that wasn't nice of him! This journey has really made me determined to stand up for my self when I recover. We've been together for 34yrs, since we were 17yo, but his words & actions today hurt the most. I know I have to stand strong & do what is best for me, even without his support.
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Thanks to all, I usually don't air my dirty laundry but needed the support at a time when I am not receiving it at home. He's always been an a**h*** to me. I do have my own bank acct & income & medical care, through the years I've tried to put safety plans aside for myself. I also own my home, my name only, clear & free. I guess if I am smart I'd beat him to filing divorce. It's just so much to digest & years wasted. It really hurt when I couldn't get ahold of him to come pick me up from the hosp during discharge, later he screamed & cursed me that he wasn't ready. He knew that day would come, he should've been ready, but no, he wanted to drink the night before & sleep it off when I was being discharged. I am just glad I am home. I am determined to do what is best for my surgery & health.
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