pinkdreams87

Hey Everyone!
My surgery date is November 21st and I would love accountability buddy’s.

I'm scheduled for Nov. 21st! I'm totally up for support buddies!

I’m scheduled for November 20th. I’m excited and nervous.

New sleevers welcome to group feel free to follow and communicate with us all we are here for each other along this journey I am November 1 and it’s fastly approching I’m about as ready as I can be

Liver shrink diet in full effect y’all please pray for me that I can and will get thru this with out cheating at all 🤦🏾‍♀️💃🏾

Funny how each of us approaches this differently.
It’s also a shame that we have to have this conversation.

Think about it— if someone were to need surgery to have an appendectomy, a hysterectomy or have a tumor removed or have any other physical condition corrected there wouldn’t be this level of discussion.
But WLS is still so judged.
No matter where people are— whether they’ve never struggled with obesity or have struggled their entire lives, they will be all over the spectrum from extremely positive to negative.

I’m generally a pretty open person, but sharing this is difficult.
I too find myself more able to share with complete strangers than with people I’ve known. Maybe bc I don’t have anything invested in the strangers.

I’m also a natural empath and I feel like I can read most people when they comment or ask.
If one of my patients comments and I can sense that they genuinely care and are concerned (I am after all a cancer survivor and a lot of people know that) then I tell them briefly about the WLS and that I’m “okay” and “not sick again” If I feel as if the person commenting doesn’t deserve the info, then I tell them I’m on a medically supervised diet and exercise regimen.
When the inevitable “oh, so you’re doing Keto? ” comment follows, I nod and tell them “yes” because I don’t eat carbs anyway due to the restriction so I figure that’s as accurate as I need to be.

There are some patients I have who are MO and weirdly enough, many of them don’t ask. Maybe they already know, but I think mostly they understand the burden of MO and know better than to ask or comment.

Almost every single of my close friends are MO, and they all knew.
Sadly most of them are avoiding my right now, but that’s the topic of another thread and I’m working my way through that

Told only my husband, my kids, my brother, and 1 trusted co-worker who helped by trading some work days with me so I could get enough time off. There are some hospital employees who know because of my required follow ups (lab), but no one else - not even my parents. I just did not want to deal with judgement and everyone's opinions.
When asked how I lost the weight, I say, "This is what I am doing (present tense):" and then go into my mantra about healthy eating and exercise. Honestly, many people have asked, but they have all been moderately overweight - not morbidly obese. What I tell them about diet and exercise is exactly what they should be doing, as they are not candidates for surgery anyway. NO morbidly obese people have ever asked at all. So I don't think I am being dishonest. I have never been asked point blank about whether or not I had surgery. And interestingly, of all the people who have asked, I have not seen a single one actually change their lifestyle. It really does take commitment and maybe hitting the bottom before real change happens.

I wanted to weigh in (no pun intended) on this subject because I have chosen to keep this a secret with the exception of a very tiny group of people who I trust. Here is what I have found now that I have lost 100lbs+ and I am nearly 7 months post-op.
People are smart, generally, and they tend to figure things out. But the good thing is that if they respect or like you, they won't tell you that they know unless you tell them. Besides, it's nobody's business but your own. If someone asks how you lost all the weight, you need to be prepared if your'e going to be completely honest or just slightly honest.
Most folks just don't understand that it's actually hard work to go through this process. After the first 4 to 6 months or so, you actually have to work to keep the weight coming off, it's not about restriction anymore when you're at the point I'm at. I have been working out every single day since a month ago and I've only lost about 5 pounds, but I figure it's my body figuring things out....hopefully.
Good luck in whatever decision you make, there's no wrong answer.

Tell, don't tell. Everyone is different and I don't think there is a wrong answer.
If I had to do it all again I would limit the people I told even more so than I did. You might be surprised that some people you thought would be supportive are the biggest critics! and vice versa!
Just remember, YOU are the only person you can control. If you tell someone, they can and may tell others. It happened to me and it was one of the last people I expected it to come from....
I guess what I'm trying to say is if you are questioning whether to tell someone, don't. Wait. You can always confide in them later. Just my $.02 !

I've decided not to tell anyone other than my husband. I just don't want to deal with the judgment, or feel like I'm the subject of gossip. I'm hoping to be back at work 2 weeks after surgery (I have a sedentary job), so will hopefully be able to just use some vacation time. My husband is 100% on board with the surgery and with keeping it a secret, so I'm very thankful for that!!
Anyone else keeping it a secret? Or are you telling just a few people, or the whole world?

Hi everybody, I brand new here and my surgery date in 11/19/19.

@Shoppindiva02 That’s so exciting! How is your pre-op diet coming along?

WELCOME @Shoppindiva02, @pinkdreams87 @attymom1 .Hey guys whats up ,what stage are you at now..let us know .
@Shoppindiva02 hook up with your twin . You guys stick together with supporting each other as we all will do. Im so excited I think about this the last thing when I go to sleep and after thanking God for waking me the first thing in the morning. Am I the only one kinds obsessed with the idea of losing so much weight and asking some people you know who have kinda snobbed you Sooooo how you like me now?,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,I know im terrible..LOL

Hey Everyone!
My surgery date is November 21st and I would love accountability buddy’s.