darcyjae

I'm there too— Surgery was 7/31 and down 34 lbs as of today (259 to 225). And I DO exercise every day, with either a 3-5 mile walk or a 45min rowing class.
I was worried I was behind based on some of the rapid drops others here have reported, but my nutritionist at MGH said I'm at a normal and very good pace, so I think we're doing great. Personally I don't want to drop so quickly that my skin can't keep up, so it's probably a good thing.
It's hard not to constantly compare our journeys, but it's also worth noting, when we do, that the people who seek out a forum like this are particularly motivated, and therefore not an average sample of all people with this surgery. 😃

I am glad I got sleeved bc It’s working just fine for me. I think a lot of issues get highlighted and magnified here. If everyone had issues with sleeve surgery they wouldn’t do it. My bloodwork was a 180 within a month of getting it done. I know some people have problems but I also think taking your doctors best advice is the way to go. Asking an online forum is not how I would treat cancer or an infection so I’m sticking with medical advice from the doc.

I'm there too— Surgery was 7/31 and down 34 lbs as of today (259 to 225). And I DO exercise every day, with either a 3-5 mile walk or a 45min rowing class.
I was worried I was behind based on some of the rapid drops others here have reported, but my nutritionist at MGH said I'm at a normal and very good pace, so I think we're doing great. Personally I don't want to drop so quickly that my skin can't keep up, so it's probably a good thing.
It's hard not to constantly compare our journeys, but it's also worth noting, when we do, that the people who seek out a forum like this are particularly motivated, and therefore not an average sample of all people with this surgery. 😃

Baby spinach salad with chopped leftover chicken tikka (2oz), ash goat cheese from this weekends farmers market (.75oz), 6 almonds, chopped, and 1.25oz raspberries, tossed with 1.5 tsp white peach balsamic vinegar and 1tsp Croatian olive oil. ~295 calories. Yum.

Baby spinach salad with chopped leftover chicken tikka (2oz), ash goat cheese from this weekends farmers market (.75oz), 6 almonds, chopped, and 1.25oz raspberries, tossed with 1.5 tsp white peach balsamic vinegar and 1tsp Croatian olive oil. ~295 calories. Yum.

Baby spinach salad with chopped leftover chicken tikka (2oz), ash goat cheese from this weekends farmers market (.75oz), 6 almonds, chopped, and 1.25oz raspberries, tossed with 1.5 tsp white peach balsamic vinegar and 1tsp Croatian olive oil. ~295 calories. Yum.

The idea that this is some easy way out of obesity is laughably ridiculous to anyone familiar with the effort it takes to undergo this process successfully. That fact alone should give you the strength to blow off that guy. Sure, surgery gives you a limitation that provides a safety net but the work is yours. Sounds to me like this is a “friend” you don’t need in your life.

The idea that this is some easy way out of obesity is laughably ridiculous to anyone familiar with the effort it takes to undergo this process successfully. That fact alone should give you the strength to blow off that guy. Sure, surgery gives you a limitation that provides a safety net but the work is yours. Sounds to me like this is a “friend” you don’t need in your life.

The idea that this is some easy way out of obesity is laughably ridiculous to anyone familiar with the effort it takes to undergo this process successfully. That fact alone should give you the strength to blow off that guy. Sure, surgery gives you a limitation that provides a safety net but the work is yours. Sounds to me like this is a “friend” you don’t need in your life.

The idea that this is some easy way out of obesity is laughably ridiculous to anyone familiar with the effort it takes to undergo this process successfully. That fact alone should give you the strength to blow off that guy. Sure, surgery gives you a limitation that provides a safety net but the work is yours. Sounds to me like this is a “friend” you don’t need in your life.

To be honest, it IS her wedding. I'd try and let it go. Take the high road and write her a mea culpa letter saying you didn't intend to spoil her day and are sorry, and then move on. I wouldn't try to get her to take accountability because she's clearly not in that space. But you CAN take control of it all by forgiving her and rising above it. (And of course, you can be polite without "letting her back in" or making yourself vulnerable to her opinions.)
She might have thought that by inviting your daughters she was honoring you, but either way it seems everyone is on the defensive, which is good for no one. The more you indulge in the drama, the more upsetting it will be to you. But if you make it a non-issue by falling on your proverbial sword you can move on and be the better person in everyone's eyes—including your own.

My nutritionist says rice expands in your stomach after eating it and frequently causes discomfort. She advises steering clear of it.

There’s a great book on management called “First Break all the Rules”, which taught me an awful lot about relationships at work and at home. One of the best pieces of advice I got from that book was around not trying to score points or win every battle, (even when you’re right), but instead focusing on the end result you want and thereby winning the war. Sometimes that means doing counterintuitive things.

There’s no reason for you to apologize if you’re happy enough to continue with overt hostility or break off ties entirely. But now is a great time for you to think about what it is you DO want to achieve in the end, and then take the action that is most likely to get you there. I gave you the advice that I did because it seemed like you wanted things to go back to something like the way they were, and if that’s the case, someone’s going to have to be the person to make the first move and swallow their pride. (Even if it’s just going through the motions for now to set the stage for her to come around on her own.)

Anyhow, keep the end result you want in mind—whatever that may be.

I’m sorry that you’re having to go through this.

There’s a great book on management called “First Break all the Rules”, which taught me an awful lot about relationships at work and at home. One of the best pieces of advice I got from that book was around not trying to score points or win every battle, (even when you’re right), but instead focusing on the end result you want and thereby winning the war. Sometimes that means doing counterintuitive things.

There’s no reason for you to apologize if you’re happy enough to continue with overt hostility or break off ties entirely. But now is a great time for you to think about what it is you DO want to achieve in the end, and then take the action that is most likely to get you there. I gave you the advice that I did because it seemed like you wanted things to go back to something like the way they were, and if that’s the case, someone’s going to have to be the person to make the first move and swallow their pride. (Even if it’s just going through the motions for now to set the stage for her to come around on her own.)

Anyhow, keep the end result you want in mind—whatever that may be.

I’m sorry that you’re having to go through this.

To be honest, it IS her wedding. I'd try and let it go. Take the high road and write her a mea culpa letter saying you didn't intend to spoil her day and are sorry, and then move on. I wouldn't try to get her to take accountability because she's clearly not in that space. But you CAN take control of it all by forgiving her and rising above it. (And of course, you can be polite without "letting her back in" or making yourself vulnerable to her opinions.)
She might have thought that by inviting your daughters she was honoring you, but either way it seems everyone is on the defensive, which is good for no one. The more you indulge in the drama, the more upsetting it will be to you. But if you make it a non-issue by falling on your proverbial sword you can move on and be the better person in everyone's eyes—including your own.

To be honest, it IS her wedding. I'd try and let it go. Take the high road and write her a mea culpa letter saying you didn't intend to spoil her day and are sorry, and then move on. I wouldn't try to get her to take accountability because she's clearly not in that space. But you CAN take control of it all by forgiving her and rising above it. (And of course, you can be polite without "letting her back in" or making yourself vulnerable to her opinions.)
She might have thought that by inviting your daughters she was honoring you, but either way it seems everyone is on the defensive, which is good for no one. The more you indulge in the drama, the more upsetting it will be to you. But if you make it a non-issue by falling on your proverbial sword you can move on and be the better person in everyone's eyes—including your own.

To be honest, it IS her wedding. I'd try and let it go. Take the high road and write her a mea culpa letter saying you didn't intend to spoil her day and are sorry, and then move on. I wouldn't try to get her to take accountability because she's clearly not in that space. But you CAN take control of it all by forgiving her and rising above it. (And of course, you can be polite without "letting her back in" or making yourself vulnerable to her opinions.)
She might have thought that by inviting your daughters she was honoring you, but either way it seems everyone is on the defensive, which is good for no one. The more you indulge in the drama, the more upsetting it will be to you. But if you make it a non-issue by falling on your proverbial sword you can move on and be the better person in everyone's eyes—including your own.

To be honest, it IS her wedding. I'd try and let it go. Take the high road and write her a mea culpa letter saying you didn't intend to spoil her day and are sorry, and then move on. I wouldn't try to get her to take accountability because she's clearly not in that space. But you CAN take control of it all by forgiving her and rising above it. (And of course, you can be polite without "letting her back in" or making yourself vulnerable to her opinions.)
She might have thought that by inviting your daughters she was honoring you, but either way it seems everyone is on the defensive, which is good for no one. The more you indulge in the drama, the more upsetting it will be to you. But if you make it a non-issue by falling on your proverbial sword you can move on and be the better person in everyone's eyes—including your own.

To be honest, it IS her wedding. I'd try and let it go. Take the high road and write her a mea culpa letter saying you didn't intend to spoil her day and are sorry, and then move on. I wouldn't try to get her to take accountability because she's clearly not in that space. But you CAN take control of it all by forgiving her and rising above it. (And of course, you can be polite without "letting her back in" or making yourself vulnerable to her opinions.)
She might have thought that by inviting your daughters she was honoring you, but either way it seems everyone is on the defensive, which is good for no one. The more you indulge in the drama, the more upsetting it will be to you. But if you make it a non-issue by falling on your proverbial sword you can move on and be the better person in everyone's eyes—including your own.

To be honest, it IS her wedding. I'd try and let it go. Take the high road and write her a mea culpa letter saying you didn't intend to spoil her day and are sorry, and then move on. I wouldn't try to get her to take accountability because she's clearly not in that space. But you CAN take control of it all by forgiving her and rising above it. (And of course, you can be polite without "letting her back in" or making yourself vulnerable to her opinions.)
She might have thought that by inviting your daughters she was honoring you, but either way it seems everyone is on the defensive, which is good for no one. The more you indulge in the drama, the more upsetting it will be to you. But if you make it a non-issue by falling on your proverbial sword you can move on and be the better person in everyone's eyes—including your own.

To be honest, it IS her wedding. I'd try and let it go. Take the high road and write her a mea culpa letter saying you didn't intend to spoil her day and are sorry, and then move on. I wouldn't try to get her to take accountability because she's clearly not in that space. But you CAN take control of it all by forgiving her and rising above it. (And of course, you can be polite without "letting her back in" or making yourself vulnerable to her opinions.)
She might have thought that by inviting your daughters she was honoring you, but either way it seems everyone is on the defensive, which is good for no one. The more you indulge in the drama, the more upsetting it will be to you. But if you make it a non-issue by falling on your proverbial sword you can move on and be the better person in everyone's eyes—including your own.

To be honest, it IS her wedding. I'd try and let it go. Take the high road and write her a mea culpa letter saying you didn't intend to spoil her day and are sorry, and then move on. I wouldn't try to get her to take accountability because she's clearly not in that space. But you CAN take control of it all by forgiving her and rising above it. (And of course, you can be polite without "letting her back in" or making yourself vulnerable to her opinions.)
She might have thought that by inviting your daughters she was honoring you, but either way it seems everyone is on the defensive, which is good for no one. The more you indulge in the drama, the more upsetting it will be to you. But if you make it a non-issue by falling on your proverbial sword you can move on and be the better person in everyone's eyes—including your own.

By contrast, I’m 7 weeks out and I’ve tolerated everything I’ve tried thus far—including the aforementioned eggs and cheese, spinach, raspberries, meat and fish. (I’ve not tried fried foods, sugar, grains or starches except sweet potato) so it’s anyone’s guess...

By contrast, I’m 7 weeks out and I’ve tolerated everything I’ve tried thus far—including the aforementioned eggs and cheese, spinach, raspberries, meat and fish. (I’ve not tried fried foods, sugar, grains or starches except sweet potato) so it’s anyone’s guess...

This surgery has the opposite effect. At least for a while. I'm about to enter week seven and the worst part of the whole experience for me is having to think SO much about eating and drinking. I'm sure it's better than not thinking about it and overeating, but the need to think about what I'm eating, measure, log and eat constantly is pretty relentless compared to before.