MzTrip

My surgery was 5 mths ago. Since then I have left a relationship, started a new job, fallen in love, and started a new relationship. I went from completely miserable to the happiest I've ever been. It didn't take long before my new boyfriend saw how filling up on food really hurts me and he's become even more conscientious of my eating than I am sometimes... Same with my daughter.... My point is I have full support surrounding me. I feel, however, that I have stretched my pouch in the last month. I'm able to eat a good amount of food compared to what I could eat a mth ago. I can even eat foods that I wasn't able to eat. I haven't lost weight or inches in 3 or 4 weeks. I'm really scared I've ruined it for myself. Should I do a pouch reset? Do you think it would help? Thank you in advance for any advice.

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Thank you! [emoji171]

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I'm a little over 3 mths and lately I have had a few days where I can't stop eating. I tell myself no and next thing I know it's in my hand. I ate my first candy bar. A Snickers. About 30 minutes ago. I feel sick to my stomach. I have rejected only a few things. Candy bars aren't a habit I'd get back into but even once in a while isn't worth this feeling. On those days I can't stop eating I don't know what to do. It's funny, too, because I seem to even have more room in my stomach. It's maddening.

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I'm almost at the one month mark and feeling the same way...not sure if I'm losing as much as I should be. My scale and clothes tell two different stories. Seeing your loss gives me so much hope!! Keep up the great work!!

5'4"
Starting weight 297
VSG on 7/31/19
Surgery wt: 266
CW 245
GW 135

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I am 6 months post op and I have lost 141 lbs. feeling great!
318 lbs to 177 lbs.

9 months in and 107 lbs down...I still have about 10 lbs to lose but I am so happy I had this surgery...I am now confident and feeling pretty inside out!
Congrats to all of us for taking this step [emoji173]️

That is awesome!! You look amazing!! Congratulations

5'4"
Starting weight 297
VSG on 7/31/19
Surgery wt: 266
CW 248
GW 135

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Thank you!! Congrats again and keep up the fantastic work!![emoji108][emoji106]

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Wow!!!! Congratulations!!! You look amazing! Please can you tell me what your caloric intake is and exercise regimen if you have any! Thanks![emoji169]🧡[emoji169]🧡[emoji169]🧡

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I don't know if I'm sharing this in the right place but I wanted to share my progress after 3 mths. I'm down 50 pounds. I'm at 178 on my way to 135. I'm 5'3 and started at 228 pounds. I'm so happy.

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[mention=352955]DanieHall[/mention]
yum yum !!! umm ummm good - hail, hail to pistachios!![emoji39]
buttttt, they are dangerous for me!! got it under control though.
bought a bag couple of weeks ago - put a good portion in small baggies.
grab them from the pantry that way. otherwise, i might have
prob stopping. but i'm good with one bag - not tempted to take
another bag.
btw - don't worry about the ER, as with everything moderation is key
good luck
kathy

I'm a night worker, too. I walk to and from work because it's around the corner but I find it a lot easier to exercise right after work. I'll get home, change, and go right back out to walk. Sometimes it's hard to get the motivation after I wake up or before work so it really works best even after working all night. It's my wind down. Meals I usually eat within an hour of being awake. Then I eat about every 4 hours. I do have one shake a day which I save for when I know it's going to he hard to get a break to eat. I almost always have some sort of small snack ... Pistachios are my favorite but I don't eat a lot of them because they sit kind of heavy in my stomach which, ironically, is also the reason I choose them... I don't feel full so quickly. It doesn't always work so picture perfect but trying to stick to a time schedule works for me. Good luck [emoji171] I hope you find something that works for you.

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no reason to take it if you don't need it. Constipation is constant problem for many of us, but not everyone. Consider yourself lucky!

I've never used it. I don't take any type of laxative or fiber at all. I haven't had any problems with bowel movements.

My mother did the same thing to me last week. She brought homemade banana nut bread and chocolate chip Cookies to my house. It was nice but she wasnt thinking. She knew i give in alittle with my temptations of food. Its the way my mom is i just dont take things to personal anymore and let it go cause shes alittle bit of a beautiful airhead like myself. Like mother like daughter is how i start noticing in myself. Lol.

Well, I might try killing it with kindness.
Tell your Mom that you are so excited right now to be on the same journey she went on two years ago. Explain to her that she has been SUCH an inspiration to you, that HER weightloss has been very motivating and that you are proud of HER. Tell her how much you admire the choice(S) she made to get healthy, and that it helped you want to get there too.
THEN flip the switch a bit and ask for her help. Tell her you need her support in this, not just for you but for her Granddaughter. Be honest and explain that these food items, while awesome and made with love, are just not good for you now. Ask if she will help you find healthy alternatives. Tell her you need her to put those awesome cooking skills to work in ways that will help you succeed. Maybe even ask if she will cook WITH you, if that is something you would like.
Moms love to be needed, and nothing is better than helping your "baby". If she sees herself as your role model and has a way to help you it may work for you both. You get real support and healthy food. She gets to feel needed, admired and, if she is backsliding into bad food choices, a great reason to stay on a better path. [emoji170]

Is she jealous that the attention might be shifting to you, now that her weight loss is “old news”?

That's different considering she's been there, done that. Give it to a neighbor and don't eat it. Have the "You need to be supportive" talk with her again.

Is she still thin? Maybe she's reverting to old eating habits and subconsciously wants to make you into her?
Throw it out or give it away. Have the talk.
((hugs))

My diagnosis: a control thing- by sabatoging you she wins- and it's "Poor Rosemary", to all her friends, " I warned her" We Sicilian aren't built for THOSE POOR DIETS- THAT RADICAL A SURGERY- We were meant by GOD to eat healthy home- cooked FOOD!" Nonna wins , YOU lose, and in her [emoji173], all is WELL. Meanwhile there you are , nauseous on the sidelines, wondering why your own mother acts this way? And I believe you're trying your best, for yourself and trying to be a good example for your Daughter, but her fine Italian thumb is right on top of you again! How do I know this? A long life and although I'm as American as Hot Dogs and Apple Pie, on my street were Italian neighbor Mamas, 2 streets over were the Greeks , and between Pasta and moussaka, and Paczi from the Polish Mamas the other direction, I became a Dietary Delinquent at an Early Age and now at 73 I'm still shedding the weight!
Finally, You know how you now feel about banana bread? I'm 10 going on 11 months out, someone made me what they called an Healthy smoothie, put a Banana in it, same General Body Reaction, Maybe the Yellow fruit and I will never be Friends Again! Sad, before my surgery they had much A-Peel for Me, just couldn't resist a Pun There!
Much Love, Much Sympathy because I have been" food- repulsed" also [emoji21][emoji113][emoji14]

the generic name is polyethylene glycol, so the brand name(s) might be different if you live outside of the US. It's just a mild laxative that's safe to use every day (well, unless you take a ton of it - but a capful or less is fine for daily use, according to my doctor). It's a tasteless powder you mix into beverages. A lot post-ops take it to stay on top of the Constipation issue.

I could understand if she hadn’t had surgery but when she has been through it herself it seems very odd

Maybe negligence not sabotage... Only you would really know
BUT
I would suggest telling her EXACTLY what you do and don't want. Clarify everything so no one is in the dark about the new family diet moving forward. Adamantly saying no to non-Bari friendly foods people offer isn't rude its self preservation.
Good Luck [emoji171]

Were you honest with her when you talked to her the first time? Mom, at this point my daughter and I can’t have that type of food in the house. Some suggestions of things you can bring are ______.

I just take it when I'm backed up - maybe once or twice a month. I do take a capful of Miralax every day, though.