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Moaning Myrtle is hilarious. I love them all....

Ariel the Pisces is still over talking me and doing what she wants, which annoys the Virgo in me. My grandson always looks at me crazy and says, "your stomach Nana!"

Best wishes on your journey.

On 6/9/2020 at 2:16 PM, ms.sss said:

...its funny because when I was bigger, I thought I was smaller than I really was. Now that I’m smaller, I think I am bigger than I really am....

Truth, I'm feeling the same way. I never thought I would experience, Body Dysmorphia.

The chicken patties, I miss salads, Soups, dinners packaged by costco to go.

17 hours ago, JRT Mom said:

Hah! Before the stay at home order I was struggling to justify all the time I was spending being a couch potato. Now I don't need an excuse--it has been mandated by my Governor- I'm just being a good citizen! 🤣

I was asked by a male friend when can he come and see me, my sarcastic response was: I'm social distancing per the order of the Governor.

In other updates, I want to go walking in my neighborhood and get some fresh air, but I have pre-existing respiratory conditions and I don't want to chance it. I was really sick towards the end of last year and was off of work for 2 months due to respiratory problems. My stress levels are up and down, which I know compromises my health at times as well. Insomnia is real!!!

I still have to be optimistic about everything and pray for the best, while socially distancing myself from the world.

11 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

You *may be* eating too quickly and not chewing thoroughly,so your satiety is not prompted before the food triggers the restriction feeling (this has personally happened to me plenty of times 😒)

Try chewing and eat as slow as possible to see if there is any noticeable difference

Good Luck ❤

I know that I need to chew even slower. Thank you.

4 hours ago, rjan said:

AJ Tylo is probably going to pop in here any moment to tell you about how hunger is all in your head. Personally, I don't agree. Your body has multiple metabolic pathways that stimulate hunger in response to multiple physical triggers - bariatric surgery changes some of those pathways fundamentally, but it does not affect them all and it does not not erase the ones it does affect.

I got this surgery because pre-op, I was struggling with feeling starving all the time - even after a full meal. I was on metformin 3 times a day, my blood sugar was steadily inching up towards the diabetic range, and I am nearly the same age as my dad was when he got diabetes. My pre-op hunger was not head hunger - it was physical hunger from a broken metabolism.

I'm 3.5 weeks post-op - a few weeks behind you. I've noticed really interesting changes in my hunger throughout this process. The first week after surgery I was starving - once I moved on to full fluids and found a Protein supplement I could tolerate, this hunger vanished. In the past two weeks, I have gone back and forth a few times between not hungry at all and fairly hungry. For instance, for about 4 days my weight didn't change at all and I was so not hungry that I barely got my Protein in. Then I dropped 4 pounds in a day and suddenly felt hungry again.

You might need to do a little detective work to find out the cause of your particular issue. It could be that you're eating too much carbs in your meal, and your blood sugar takes a dip at the 1 hour mark. (I don't know if you're carb sensitive like I am.) Or it could be that you're hungry for a nutrient you're not getting - like how many people are hungry right after surgery until they start getting enough protein. Or it could be that you'd benefit from eating a smaller amount but more often for a while. Does this happen at a particular time of day? Maybe you're just more hungry in the mornings or something? (Or it could be that this is some funny symptom that entirely goes away in a week 😂.) Try out some different things.

Very informative and helpful options for us to try. I don't believe all hunger is in your head either. In the beginning of your individual journeys, I think its important to decipher what is going on with you. Also, eating less more frequently may help me for sure. I'm trying that theory for the next 2 days and increasing my protein intake.

I never liked edibles, I preferred to inhale and exhale. I also liked the sensation of smoking, oral fixation and etc., it comes down to preference. Edibles didn't allow me enough control of my high and it also felt different from the high I obtained from smoking. I have edibles that someone bought me for my birthday last year, I've been giving them away to my friends who do partake in edibles.

If it takes 4 hours for you to experience the high from edibles, indulge before you are actually ready to feel the effects. It may take some planning, but you can make it work for you.

I'm extremely gassy and I'm not consuming vegetables until this upcoming week. My issue will be that cruciferous vegetables are my favorite, especially broccoli. I will have to find other vegetables to eat for awhile, until I'm further along the journey. Today makes 1 month post op for me, let's see how it goes.

5 hours ago, Lily66 said:

Hi BariPals, I’m 3.5 weeks post op and that wiped out, low energy stage is still with me. Wondering when energy usually kicks back in? I’m getting my Protein & fluids in, averaging 600-700 cal daily. I walk 1.5 miles daily but/and have little energy for much of anything else. Do you remember when your energy returned? Thanks!

I was just whining about my lack of energy today, I'm looking forward to this emergence of energy I've heard about post wls. I'm cleaning my room and working on a closet, it will probably take me until Tuesday to finish. Geesh, I haven't statred exercising yet and today is my one month surgiversary. Going to start the resistance bands and walking my neighborhood.

Yep, that one last bite isn't the same as before surgery. My mind was thinking, you are eating such a small amount of food, the one more bite isn't going to hurt. Oh does it hurt and terribly bad.

My goal is to monitor what my full is, before I physically feel full. This is my immediate goal during April, learning "Ariel's " likes, dislikes, when she's had enough without hurting both of us, lol.

12 hours ago, biginjapan said:

I was also told to take about 5 minutes between bites but I find that impractical - especially for hot food, I want to eat it while it's hot! I do my best to be mindful however - not to eat while distracted (watching YouTube, etc.). I focus very much on what I'm eating and I chew thoroughly until there's nothing left to chew. I also try to put my fork/spoon down between bites - it's amazing how much that one simple action does in terms of forcing me to slow down and remain mindful. It doesn't last long however (!) but it makes the difference between me finishing my meal too quickly (which can result in pain), or not chewing enough (again, pain).

I ditto this comment. I don't want to eat a cold meal that was intended to be hot. 5 minutes between bites is a tad excessive and obvious as a secret sleever, in addition to my drastically reduced portions.

2 hours ago, CammyC said:

You guys!!!! After getting home from my first day at work in month...to come home and open my safari for the first time today....I feel so blessed to have so many people I don’t know Physically that care about me.

So I found out today that my bldg that usually holds 300 people is going down to 15 people. Everyone else is going to work from home. Guess who isn’t one of those 275 people—me. But okay, we (my group) are considered the last line of defense. We’re double checking the i’s were dotted and the t’s were crossed as it were. As we are the ones who send out the actual checks and get packages ready and reviewed for UPS and FedEx. I work in auto and home loans.

I picked the wrong time in my career to go for a promotion 8 months ago lol! But I feel better knowing it’ll just be 15 of us there in that bldg and not 300, less exposure.

Tonight when I got home, I stripped buck nekkid lol in the garage and ran into the shower. It’s just Mama and I on the ground floor. I washed up went and put my clean jammies on and headed back out with gloves and a garbage bag to collect my clothes. I Lysol’d everything in my car and my purse and my shoes. I threw my clothes in the washer and I was done.

This will be my routine for the next indefinite time frame. I feel so much gratitude for the health care personnel. They don’t get to do what I just mentioned. They’re treating those with the virus while their families pray for their safety. For all of you essential workers, thank you for going to work today and for all you health care workers...I mean, HEROES-

THANK YOU! ❤️❤️❤️

I know you look amazing with your weight loss already, any compliments or stares?

Congratulations on your new routine, I'm going back to work around the 16th.

Praying for you and all of the other ppl in the world to be touched by blessed hands, kind hearts and healthy healing. This applies to the wls, Covid 19 and all other health matters. May each and everyone involved in the process, including the patient and medical staff be safe and protected.

🙌🏽🙏🏽🙇🏽‍♀️💜

43 minutes ago, AJ Tylo said:

NOPE YOU ARE NOT HUNGRY

SEARCH THIS SITE FOR HEAD HUNGER!

Its you head and addiction to eating! Trust me we all have been there, stop thinking about food and fix the noggin.

There are a ton of posts here about that and you are right in the time line.

I'm drinking Water and ignoring this loud growling that "Ariel " is doing at 3:30 in the darn morning. Insomnia is real and on my nerves.

I almost went to get some cheese, another Jello or something. I opted for Some water. I hope to be sleep soon.

Per my plan, I'm allowed cooked vegetables (not cruciferous vegetables) at week 5-6 (next Tuesday). Talk about excited and happy to have fresh foods again, even if I have to cook the vegetables softer than I prefer. I like a nice steamed vegetable, not boiled or mushy. My Bariatric Nutritionist recommended mushy / soft vegetables to start. I can also incorporate canned peaches in Water next week as well, I'm dancing in my head.

oatmeal is also making s comeback, yes!!! Soups haven't been in rotation, but I'm going to add it back...Ground Turkey is on the list and I want it with the smooth refried Beans and a little guacamole.

I have menu ideas, but I don't know how to navigate this new stomach yet.

Prayers of protection and safety as you return to work. Your mother is going to be safe, that's our prayer for all of you.

I will be 4 weeks postop tomorrow, I'm hungry too! I went to Walmart Grocery store today and finding Protein rich foods without it becoming monotonous is a real task. I found some egg bites premade with cheese and Turkey sausage, I don't eat pork, but they had bacon as well. I found a large container of Oikos Yogurt which is 12 grams of protein per serving, egg whites, cream of wheat, oatmeal, Sargento cheese Snacks, milk for Protein Drink mixes and few other items for my family. I miss having ftuit, vegetables, salads, fish because my body is rejecting my favorite protein.

I'm also feeling tired of sweet liquids, not being able to drink plain old fashioned Water without an enhancement to tolerate it, I want cold Cereal, I want cashews and pistachios for a healthy protein boost. I miss some of my favorite healthy staples that would satiate my hunger, but Ariel aka my stomach is still healing and I have to respect it. I'm hungry too.

@BayougirlMrsS thank you for the compliment and for sharing your story. I read about it on another thread, hopefully your story will help anyone who reads this and needs it.

@AJ Tylo you generally crack me up, because you are unapologetic about who you are. We can take it or leave it, I may not agree with you on various topics, but I appreciate your honesty about you being you. Can't say that you didn't warn us, lol.

I experienced trapped gas Saturday night and most of yesterday, WTF is all I've got to say.

Feeling better now, happy I'm sleeping alone because I passed gas during the entire time everytime I could, lmaooooo.

I have a few questions for you to pose to yourself, from a viewpoint of support for you as a fellow member of this community that you are lovingly accepted into.

Do you think his behavior is respectful, loving, uplifting towards you?

You do know that you aren't his property and don't need his "consent" to prioritize yourself or your health?

Does he have a fetish for bigger women and is your losing weight a turnoff for him (physically and mentally)?

Is he genuinely a friend who sincerely supports you with other endeavors in your life, without needing to personally gain/benefit from you/it?

Does he encourage you to build your confidence and self esteem daily?

Does he encourage your individuality?

Does he support you having healthy outside relationships with your family, colleagues and etc.?

Do you feel comfortable discussing your individual dreams, goals, achievements and vision for your life/future independent of his benefit?

Do you feel uplifted after talking to him and like he's a positive light in your life?

These are a few things to ask yourself and be honest with yourself about how you are truly feeling. 5 years in a relationship doesn't mean that you are being loved, supported and respected by your mate. I know that we don't know the entire history of your relationship, but he sounds cruel and controlling. His punishment that he's imposing upon you and his request to not be contacted until you can explain yourself to him what he will benefit from you is not the behavior exhibited by a person who cares for someone. He sounds insecure, manipulative and insensitive to your need to get your health on track. He's right there in the dictionary under narcissist!!! His attitude towards you and yes your mother too is disrespectful and you are worthy of being respected, loved and supported. You should be celebrated by your partner for your accomplished weight loss thus far and please don't dream of sabotaging your success and trying to stop your journey. We will cheerlead, shout to the mountain tops and yell praises for you to win!!

You are worthy, beautiful and deserving of whatever your heart desires.

I wrote this with the intention of being a supporter of your journey and not to preach or judge. This is the judgment free zone, I just don't like bullies who rain on other people's happiness and blessings.

On 3/21/2020 at 1:14 PM, loridee11 said:

. I have started to question if I'll get to wear my existing work clothes again -- I'm in CA and working from home for the forseeable future. It's entirely possible when that lifts up none of them will fit. AND I'll be good with that 

I wonder if I will be able to fit my work pants by the time I return to work as well. I have dresses that I'll certainly be able to wear, but the pants and blazers concern me. I will donate those when business resumes for women returning to the workforce in need.

Looking forward to seeing the next size down and a size medium is my goal.

Oh, I forgot to mention that you should reward yourself for your accomplishments thus far. Something to help build your confidence like a nice facial at home, new tennis shoes or workout outfit or etc. Then create a new non scale goal and work towards it. For example I'm looking forward to seeing my collarbones this year. My reward is to wear one of my summer dresses and to feel good with sun kissing my collarbones and being thankful.

My advice is to take the comparison pictures only for yourself. I take one each week, but they are strictly for me. We are visual creatures and you'll encourage yourself, my neck is back and my face is slimmer, my midsection is shapely and no longer muffin top overflowing my pants. I've been stalled for a week or two, but I can see and feel the physical changes.

Are you physically active, toning your body and etc. For example 175 looks different on a toned body as opposed to 175 on non-exercising and not physically toned body. I hope that makes sense to you.

Just now, Lily66 said:

Mmmmm, girlfriend you KNOW good food! All of those sound delish and I would enjoy!! Most often, I prefer a vinaigrette with crumbled bleu, Roquefort or Feta. For the past few years I’ve worked with Ken’s Steakhouse Lite Northern Italian with Basil & Romano. It’s very adaptable in a nice light way. Only 45 calories per 2 tbls., 1 Carb, 0 Sugar.

I think we all know/knew good food too well, lol 🤣🤣🤣!!!! Your Salad Dressing is worth a try, definitely as a marinade for chicken or shrimp, as well as a salad dressing.

Thank you

How long have you been single? I've been single for a while, but I actually have enjoyed the time allowed to heal my heart and to build a better relationship with myself. I know it sounds so cliche, but I'm one sharing my experience. I have dated, had "friends " and hook ups when I feel like it. These days, I have the desire for something deeper than I have experienced in the recent past. I want real connection, friendship, patience, respect, honesty and trust.

Lately in my life, I've thought about companionship and just someone to connect with on a deeper level, especially to share my journey of transition with. I also don't want someone who'll look at old pictures of me and cringe or not be attracted to either version of my physical.

I went on a journal entry, lol...Do you think not being single is going to make you feel better?