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april042019

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    april042019 reacted to GettingThere24 in Extremely rude nurse   
    I’m so sorry to hear of this experience! How awful!
    I have a hospital operations management background and you absolutely should report this discriminatory behavior. Most hospitals have a patient representative who take complaints such as this and thoroughly review the issue in a methodical way. These more flagrant issues are also reported to senior leadership so they’re aware. My suggestion is to check with the hospital and see if they have this type of person who can assist you.
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    april042019 reacted to Separ1418 in Extremely rude nurse   
    Definitely report her - there should be a nurse manager that you can speak to, if you don't get a response I would then go to the hospital admin.
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    april042019 reacted to GradyCat in Extremely rude nurse   
    Hopefully you have the nurse's name and you can report her to the hospital administration calmly and in detail as to what happened during your stay.
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    april042019 reacted to KCgirl061 in Extremely rude nurse   
    Oh yes this should be reported. Start by simply calling the hospital and telling the operator that you have a complaint they should connect you to the proper department for doing so.
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    april042019 reacted to jepalmer in Extremely rude nurse   
    Call the hospital and ask to speak to the director of nursing. I cannot believe that she is getting away with it. Because you know that it is not just you that she’s treated that way, and will continue to do unless stopped!! At the very least, she should be fired and/or arrested for a hate crime.
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    april042019 reacted to SusieQ2019 in Extremely rude nurse   
    I am so sorry you had to experience this kind of treatment at a time when you are at a vulnerable state. I had to help my son inject blood thinner and it is a very stressful and delicate process. Please report her, because she may cause another patient harm. Clearly she brought her bias to the workplace which is unfortunate and unacceptable.
    Wishing you the best.
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    april042019 reacted to toodlerue in Extremely rude nurse   
    Ohmyword. I’m so sorry you were treated so badly! She needs to be reported ASAP. This cannot be tolerated! My heart is aching for the emotional & physical pain you are in. What is wrong with people ?!?!?
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    april042019 reacted to Colorchic in Extremely rude nurse   
    Report her to hospital
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    april042019 reacted to MrsGamgee in Extremely rude nurse   
    I'm flabbergasted on your behalf. I think some sort of formal complaint to her supervisor or administration of the hospital is in order. I'm not sure what the process would be (sorry, I'm not much help), but this has to be addressed. I'm horrified that you and your family were treated in such a way.

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    april042019 reacted to Hop_Scotch in Extremely rude nurse   
    Report the nurse to the hospital. Be clear and succinct in your feedback as well what you would like to occur...eg cultural sensivity and/or patient-customer service training for the nurse etc.


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    april042019 reacted to NYJenn in Extremely rude nurse   
    I would report her to the hospital for unprofessional behavior
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    april042019 reacted to LearningToLoveMeAgain in Extremely rude nurse   
    As an RN myself, this infuriates me! We have to take courses for cultural diversity in the nursing program. She needs to be reported because she is NOT holding up the oath we take when we graduate from nursing school. I'm sorry you went through this and I'm embarrassed for the nursing profession as a whole. We are NOT all like that. Hugs and I hope you heal well. Might not be a bad idea to talk to your surgeon about the nurse's behavior. I say this because surgeons have a great deal of pull within the hospital system and he/she may be more likely to get something done about this. At the very least, you deserve an apology and the hospital needs to provide cultural diversity education for their staff but I think this nurse needs to find a new profession.

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    april042019 reacted to DeanaNJ in Extremely rude nurse   
    Definitely report her!
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    april042019 reacted to MIZ60 in Extremely rude nurse   
    As a nurse/nurse practitioner for the past 38 years, it is appalling to me that any nurse treat a patient this way in any situation. I recommend thorough documentation of everything that occurred as well as a statement written by your mother and any other witnesses. This should go straight to the hospital administrator and director of nursing as well as any type of patient advocate. Additionally, I would recommend making a formal complaint to the state board of nursing in whatever state you had surgery in since this level of behavior is inexcusable and violates every professional standard I have ever heard of. I know the state board here in Texas takes consumer complaints VERY seriously and this "nurse" needs consequences.
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    april042019 reacted to SusieQ2019 in Extremely rude nurse   
    Agree with you @Dabeyhive and in some cultures people are taught to be respectful to people in authority and in some cases people are just not confrontational and do not know how to deal or handle conflicts.
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    april042019 reacted to Aprilgal in Extremely rude nurse   
    As a person of color whenever, situations like these occur (so sorry you had to deal with this when in so much pain and just in general) - in your mind you are always debating whether or not you should say something and how will it be received.

    Will other people see your side of the story or will they say you are blowing events out of proportion?
    It is even worse when you are ill.
    Don't assume that everyone has your privilege or your temperament (to the person who thinks this is a hoax).
    Lastly racist or xenophobic or big ass bullies need to be put in their place. I hope everything with your report goes smoothly and disciplinary action is taken.
    I also hope you are healing up well.
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    april042019 reacted to Darci kendall in Extremely rude nurse   
    Need to speak with the Nurse manager
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    april042019 reacted to KateBruin in Extremely rude nurse   
    As a patient you are extremely vulnerable. You rely on staff for nearly everything immediately post op. Many, many patients and family members have trouble advocating for themselves or a loved one. It doesn’t make her story a lie. I had a nurse force me to wet me bed when I could not walk after breaking my back but was past the catheter stage. There are bad nurses. Lazy nurses, racist nurses.

    Please report her. Go to the state RN board if you need to. She has no right interacting with patients until she gets further sensitivity training.
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    april042019 reacted to allies journey in Extremely rude nurse   
    Your experience was horrendous and that nurse should be fired.Shes supposed to show you support and not degrade you or your family.
    Please notify the hospital director and your surgeon as i am sure that he will want to make sure that never happens to one of his patients again..
    My daughter is a nurse and would be mortified if I or anyone she was caring for were treated like you were.
    I had the sleeve and I am waiting for approval for the bigger full bypass surgery.
    I hope you and your family don't think every one is like that nasty woman.
    Good luck to you.
    Allie

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    april042019 reacted to LuvDeeDee in Extremely rude nurse   
    What that nurse said and how she treated you was unacceptable in every way! Definitely report that behavior! I'm sorry you had to go through that!

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    april042019 reacted to TheJuice202 in Extremely rude nurse   
    Since we're now in May and I hope you're long out of the hospital have you said anything to the hospital?
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    april042019 got a reaction from TheJuice202 in Extremely rude nurse   
    I just my had surgery a few days ago and while I was at the hospital my mom and friend came to visit (both of them wear hijab). They went home and I took a nap and when I woke up my nurse was standing by my bed putting syringes into my iv and she asked me if the people that visited me were related to me and I told her they're my mom and friend. She started telling me how much she hated the islamic hijab and what it stands for and how she liked other religions veils but not the islamic one. Later, she became incredibly rude and aggressive with me. She was trying to show me how to give myself the blood thinner injection that i'm supposed to take when I go home. She put it in my hand and told me to do it now. I told her to give me a second because I had just woken up and was feeling groggy but she started telling me not to be a coward and to do it now. I told her ok I'm gonna do it just give me 1 second to breathe but she grabbed my hand and pushed the needle into me against my will.
    Later, she told me she would go to lunch for 30 mins and come back to help me walk. I waited for an hour and a half and when she didn't come me and my mom, who had just arrived, went to walk by ourselves. We had walked for half an hour and just got back to my room when the nurse came back and started yelling at me and my mom because she thought I hadn't walked and have been waiting for her the whole time. I told her I just got back from walking but she didn't believe me and was yelling at my mom and saying that my mom is going to be the death of me because of how much she spoils me and doesn't make me do stuff and my mom was telling her that we just walked but the nurse wouldn't have it and kept on going and saying that it's all my moms fault and she can't trust her to take care of me at home and she started trying to pull me up from my chair to walk and I told her I couldnt i just walked and im in a lot of pain now and she started yelling at me and I was crying and telling her i cant and that my stomach and back and arm hurt a lot and she would keep telling me to stop crying and get up and that I'm too lazy. She made me get up and walk and after that I asked to be discharged right away and I left that day. Every time I remember that nurse I get so mad at what happened and wish I could've done something.
    Am I right to be mad? Any suggestions on what I should do?
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    april042019 got a reaction from TheJuice202 in Extremely rude nurse   
    I just my had surgery a few days ago and while I was at the hospital my mom and friend came to visit (both of them wear hijab). They went home and I took a nap and when I woke up my nurse was standing by my bed putting syringes into my iv and she asked me if the people that visited me were related to me and I told her they're my mom and friend. She started telling me how much she hated the islamic hijab and what it stands for and how she liked other religions veils but not the islamic one. Later, she became incredibly rude and aggressive with me. She was trying to show me how to give myself the blood thinner injection that i'm supposed to take when I go home. She put it in my hand and told me to do it now. I told her to give me a second because I had just woken up and was feeling groggy but she started telling me not to be a coward and to do it now. I told her ok I'm gonna do it just give me 1 second to breathe but she grabbed my hand and pushed the needle into me against my will.
    Later, she told me she would go to lunch for 30 mins and come back to help me walk. I waited for an hour and a half and when she didn't come me and my mom, who had just arrived, went to walk by ourselves. We had walked for half an hour and just got back to my room when the nurse came back and started yelling at me and my mom because she thought I hadn't walked and have been waiting for her the whole time. I told her I just got back from walking but she didn't believe me and was yelling at my mom and saying that my mom is going to be the death of me because of how much she spoils me and doesn't make me do stuff and my mom was telling her that we just walked but the nurse wouldn't have it and kept on going and saying that it's all my moms fault and she can't trust her to take care of me at home and she started trying to pull me up from my chair to walk and I told her I couldnt i just walked and im in a lot of pain now and she started yelling at me and I was crying and telling her i cant and that my stomach and back and arm hurt a lot and she would keep telling me to stop crying and get up and that I'm too lazy. She made me get up and walk and after that I asked to be discharged right away and I left that day. Every time I remember that nurse I get so mad at what happened and wish I could've done something.
    Am I right to be mad? Any suggestions on what I should do?
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    april042019 got a reaction from KimB7811 in Approved!!!! 2 Days To GO!!!!   
    That's great news! Congrats!
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    april042019 got a reaction from Charlar in Binge eating disorder   
    I guess they're just afraid you might binge eat after surgery and cause your stitches to open up. I had my surgery 2 weeks ago and I don't feel full at all. Apparently the nerves in my stomach just haven't healed yet so I can't feel food. It's hard because I have to stop myself at a certain amount even though I still want to eat more. With BED that might be dangerous I think. Anyway, I hope this works out and you have your surgery soon! I wish you all the best! ☺️
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