MarvelGirl25

Thank you for all the amazing advice!! I love hearing it all no matter how tough or real it may be!I 1 - I'm going to try this! I think its a great idea and it will keep me in check. I tend to get caught up in my life and with whats going on that I forget about certain priorities and reasons why I am doing something. I'm going to add @GreenTealael advice on a sticky too and put it on my fridge! 2 - I needed to hear this! 4 & 5 - The not going to places where you are tempted is something I need to follow! It sounds like such an obvious thing to do but you know, i never thought about that lol. For the other sentences of yours from #'s 4 & 5 I highlighted (sorry if it sounds confusing, Im not good at explaining): I think this starts with how I became so morbidly obese. I haven't found anyone on here with a similar struggle so anyone reading this feel free to chime in but my reason for obesity wasn't sugar, junk food, fried foods, or snacks. There was never soda in the house growing up, there was bread but I personally don't like anything doughy or bread like (besides tortillas here and here), all food was made with barely any oil and when meat was fatty, the oils would be scooped out while cooking. There was no bottled juice in the house, only homemade, and there were no snacks. If I was hungry my dad would say "makes some eggs".......... that was my snack. Overeating and eating super late was what got me morbidly obese . No, i wasn't overeating a salad (although at times I would) but I was overeating chicken, pork, red meat, fish, and rice... lots and lots of overeating because that's just how i was raised. Since I was a kid my dad and family would serve me huge portions because that was their norm. I remember being a 10 yr old getting served this humongous bowl of beef soup with lots of veggies, chunks of meat and a big side of white rice. You would think that would be the only meal for the day, but no it was just breakfast. Lunch was always late and it was just as big and dinner was eaten even later and it would be something like chicken stew with a mountain of white rice, boiled potatoes, salad, and usually a homemade dressing. The most common thing on here that i read all the time is that many folks struggle with unhealthy food, including sweets, soda, fast food, bread, and pasta cravings. I cant say this is the case with me. I didnt eat that slice of cake yesterday out of temptation, I ate it because i was really hungry. The cake that I had planned to eat this Saturday wasn't because I'm cake obsessed, it was because its my bf's birthday. I need to learn to be ok with not indulging in every celebration like @GreenTealael has pointed out ... which is something I 100% believe i can do! I feel that my true struggle is in my everyday meal prep and eating. The overeating has now stopped because of the surgery, but how do I change the mentality that what I am making is in fact not good in the long run or too heavy? Or is it good? I was taught to believe that what I have been eating my whole life is healthy. I can recognize that the potatoes, and rice are not the best choices but its hard for me to recognize that the soups, stews, and other dishes I have been eating my whole life and continue to make in my meal prep cant stay in my everyday diet even though I make it even healthier than before. Should I be doing the "very clean, very light, super nutrient dense foods" like salads with some kind of meat everyday until I get to my goal, then have my regular dishes that I consider healthy when I'm in maintenance? Side Comment/Personal Note: Sometimes I think about how weird obesity is. My biological mother, and her family were all overweight and morbidly obese. Their diet consisted of junk food, Armenian food, and fatty American food. I never had any influence at all by her or her side of the family because I just never saw them. After my folks divorced when I was four, I think I saw my mom twice more (her choice) and that's it. Over the years I heard she became morbidly obese. Her and a lot of her family members passed away because of obesity. I know genes play a large role too but it still blows my mind how the weight problem followed me even though I didn't grow up on her diet. I was on the same diet as my dads family and they are all skinny and fit and I'm a giant ball... Anyways as far as the "Embrace boring. I'd eat the same little Breakfast over and over, the same kind of lunch over and over." I agree and this is something im currently working on with my nutritionist. She tells me "meals don't have to be this amazing, glamorous thing." "Sometimes they need to serve their purpose which is give you protein and nutrients and nothing more." This is something else thats taking me a while to learn because " Un Peruano no come para vivir, vive para comer" which basically translates to a Peruvian doesn't eat to live, we live to eat. Yeah it sounds pretty crazy but its true. Breaking habits of a culture that focuses on food more than any other aspect of their culture is extremely hard and sometimes I wish I could trade the junk food and sweet crave problem a lot of other people have for this problem. @FluffyChix You've done so well at losing and staying very strict its amazing and I hope one day I experience that very same feeling you have when looking at your body!

Thank you sooo much for this! Perfectly worded and like @Deedee12 said, it was something I needed to hear as well! A lot of these really stick out to me like: "I didn't have to eat celebratory foods because it was a celebration." "Eat what I wanted/needed (on plan) vs what's expected." "People in my life can conform to my food standards too vs always conforming to theirs." All things I'm currently struggling with. I definitely need to learn that celebration one! When I started this journey I told myself that when its a birthday or celebration I would indulge a bit but I'm beginning to see that rule wasn't the best idea. I didn't realize how many parties there actually are and at this rate i will be eating crap every few times a month!

You might be right but I just can’t seem to find a balance. The last few weeks I was barely eating a thing and then last weekend I go out to eat and my hunger came back full force. i wasn’t dying for cake but it was there and I was still hungry after my meal so I said what the heck. I’m going to try packing more protein and lay off the potatoes for a while. I’ve been eating them all week and I don’t think it’s doing me any good. Potatoes.... and rice have always been my weaknesses I wish I didn’t get so tired of eating the same thing. Back to the drawing board for meal prep!

Just ate some cake and feeling guilty.... I think I need this thread 😅

Yes! I’m very familiar with this and it’s awful! It also made everything taste bad, even water. It will go away though just give it time

Why did I accept the piece of cake when I know I’m going to be eating more cake this Saturday for my bfs bday 😩 I think I’m going to go on a liquid diet and have 3 fairlife protein shakes a day and if I’m hungry a small salad. I’m on week two of stalling and I don’t want to make it a month of no weight loss. Has anyone done a liquid fast post op? Sorry if I’m posting in the wrong place!

Good to know! But what if you're not full? could you still do damage? Im assuming if you're not overeating then you're okay...

Wow that is a lot! Good for you for trying to get rid of it! I got my eyes on that Haagen Dazs 😋

LOL 😂 I said the same thing to my bf while we were eating. Ironically I was scrolling through Facebook and saw this... I’ll be more willing to try this!

Inspired by the chicken Madeira I had at cheesecake. Didn’t eat much of the mashed potatoes but omg I’m stupid full off of a couple bites. Not sure what it is because I made this with zero oil, zero butter, and zero cream. I used about 1/2 cup of fat free fairlife. And the cheese is made with skim milk so idk. Maybe the mushrooms or wine?

Thank you for the inspiration! You look amazing!

Congratulationssss!!!

I'm going on a two week stall as well and it suckssss Im going to try what @Sammi_Katt suggested and play with my daily cal intake. I've done that before and it usually breaks my stall. We'll see!

Yes! I was just recommended them by someone on here and they are delicious. Doesnt even taste like a protein drink!

I feel like if I lost more pre-op it would have helped me get to my goal faster. I'm aware we have a honey moon stage and after that the weight loss usually slows down so that's whats concerning me now. I'm not in a rush to lose but it would have been nice to start at a lower weight like most folks on here. I've already lost over 100 but i have another 100 to lose which is a lot. I dont see a lot of people on here who started over 300 lbs Ahhhhh girl scout cookies..soo good yet soo bad! I feel you lol Im currently staring at a batch of brownies one of my coworkers brought it

I havent lost all my weight yet but I wish someone pushed me to lose more weight pre op. My doctors made it seem like its not a big deal if I didnt lose weight before my surgery but I really wish i had lost more. Oh and yea same, I miss chugging water and i didnt think it would be this hard living without a straw!

Ive was curious about trying this too but I heard its best to start it or biotin before your surgery which I didnt do. I suffered from severe hair loss but it stopped around month 4/5.

Ill usually do the same! Ill google or go on Pinterest. Lately Ive been cooking dishes I would normally eat pre op and making them vsg friendly.

Congratulations! That's an enormous loss!

Same! if he has a cold he will sound sick but when someone asks him if hes sick he will make himself sound wayyyy worse. Then he starts coming up with other symptoms he thinks he has 🙄

Thanks! And good idea I didn’t even think of ordering that way. I was going to order Sashimi but I had too much food already. I’m working on not beating myself up over something so small. It’s been worse because I’m stalling but I guess I just gotta stick to the plan.

Good luck! I hope everything goes well today! ❤️

@GreenTealael I had a Japanese lunch date today too! Your food looks delicious! My entree was chicken Katsu don. I substituted the rice for a salad but I didn’t touch it and ate half a bowl of miso soup. I also had one piece of sushi (the one with the spicy mayo on top), a few bites of sips of my bfs veggie soup, and two bites of negima from the bento box. Stuff for the whole day! I feel a little bad about that one sushi piece because it had rice but it’s one and I’m trying not to beat myself up.

Here was Saturday’s meal at my uncles. It’s a seafood soup called Parihuela. The whole sea is in one bowl lol Very delicious and filling because it’s just broth and meat....no noodles, no rice, no potatoes.