Skc150

Practice exactly what you are going to say to him when he tries to slither back into your bed. It will happen at some point. Even if you never actually say it to preserve your co-parenting. You could say, sorry I only go to bed with men who work out/ have a full head of hair/ good teeth... whatever his Achille's tendon is.

Love the ice cream idea and I so needed to hear this right now - thank you!

Freeze a Protein Shake and pretend it's ice cream!!! You don't need that jerk, you are going to move on and find someone who loves the whole package. 😍 My ex told me I was getting too fat (right after having a baby!) and he left me. Best damn thing that could have ever happened!

I am so sorry to hear that. I know you have probably heard this already but you deserve better! Marriage is for better and for worse. He clearly just was not in the time frame for a marriage anymore. Dont let yourself think it was you. People like that do not ever end up happy. Show everyone including him that you are the new happier and stronger you!! Kill it with your results and progress. I know the hunger sucks but it will be worth it in the long run. Try going out with friends. Or have someone over. Anything to get your mind off food. I must say it has sure helped me out these rough few weeks.

Sorry. 😢

Watch comedies!!! As many comedies as you can! Follow your plan (the plan from the surgeon). Get outside to do your walking or go to the mall to do it. Know that you are going through "The Deep Suck" all at once! And it "might" get worse before it gets better. But be assured...The Deep Suck ends! It honestly does!!! And you WILL feel better/look better/feel happiness and find someone to share your new life with!! You can do this! Talk freely about your feelings with family and close friends! Go to a grief/support group through church. Lean on people if you need!
I'm so sorry you're going through this -- especially right now. Don't sabotage. You've come too far!!!

Yes! I actually bought a package for myself for Christmas this year that expires in 1 year. I know I won't be perfect, but it's my motivation to have them done around this time next year!

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Thank you! Definitely shed some tears and I'm sure there are more coming. My family and friends were actually so against my having the surgery that I didn't tell anyone. They know I had the LapBand removed - just not that I also had the sleeve done at the same time.

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6 months ago I decided with the support of my husband to start the long insurance approval process for gastric sleeve surgery.
5 months so my husband of 12 years informed me he was no longer attracted to me didn't think the surgery would work, and wanted a divorce so he could "live his true life."
The last few months have been unreal but I decided to go forward with the surgery even though most everyone recommended postponing it. I had the surgery last Tuesday (12/11) and my divorce was finalized today (12/17).
All I want to do is eat ice cream and drink wine, but since that is obviously no longer on the menu, does anyone have some advice for how I can get through the next 24 hours? Drowning my sorrows in Gatorade and chicken broth is not cutting it!
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I am so sorry. But let me tell you. Surgery is a tool and you get out of it what you put into it. I am down 120lbs since March 22, 2018. Changed my eating habits, portion sizes, no alcohol and nothing fried. I walk a lot but not exercise in the gym but want to start that to tone up. Prove him wrong! Do it for you and no one else. Be the best you for you! Take care... let him see what he is missing out on

I've never owned a dress as an adult or even teenager and I'm 38. Haven't been swimming and enjoyed it since I was a kid. Every day of my life I've been self-conscious in some form or fashion about my fat. I can't wait for the day when that's no longer an issue. And when I can feel pretty for once and believe it myself.

@Skc150: my surgeon makes ppl wait 6 months after Band removal so their stomach can heal, so as not to staple the delicate tissue left after scar removal. She also believes that the time will allow our body to go back to normal so the sleeve will feel like a new WLS. My insurance changes in January, so she agreed to let me have the sleeve surgery in dec

I couldn't get the link to work for some reason, but I Googled it and you're right - they have a lot of really good options. I have a journal I've been writing in but I haven't tried meditation yet - thank you!

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I'm so sorry. But good for you for continuing to care for yourself during this. Maybe screaming into a pillow (careful not to blow your sutures). Write down what you're feeling? What about a meditation? Kaiser has some good ones on various topics - anger/forgiveness, grief, stress, relaxation, etc at the link below.
https://healthy.kaiserpermanente.org/health/care/!ut/p/a0/FchBDoMgEADAt_iAzYZEYfFmhH6hhdsGiZIIGELt99seZ9DjC33hO-3cUy18_uxCLD22md9bqnCnLVZ8okd_Nd4zoysVAocj_o9bT-GM6IzVap2MBamlBCGsgEWPBohoUkKp8UErXjnTZxmGL2IKPpI!/

So very sorry : ( I don't have anything to add but...stay busy, hang out with your friends and family. Hold them close.

Sounds like you need the support of friends and/or family right now, if that isn't possible do some things that keeps both your hands and mind occupied. You have probably cried a few tears by now, but if you need to do more don't hold back.

Sorry you are going through this.
No brilliant ideas. Maybe you could go and watch a movie, one that you want to see but know that he would have hated.
Get together with friends . Go shopping.

That's a good idea - with 2 sons I always get outvoted and always have to see the super hero movies! Now to convince myself that popcorn, soda, and Junior Mints are not requirements for seeing a movie ... [emoji849]

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6 months ago I decided with the support of my husband to start the long insurance approval process for gastric sleeve surgery.
5 months so my husband of 12 years informed me he was no longer attracted to me didn't think the surgery would work, and wanted a divorce so he could "live his true life."
The last few months have been unreal but I decided to go forward with the surgery even though most everyone recommended postponing it. I had the surgery last Tuesday (12/11) and my divorce was finalized today (12/17).
All I want to do is eat ice cream and drink wine, but since that is obviously no longer on the menu, does anyone have some advice for how I can get through the next 24 hours? Drowning my sorrows in Gatorade and chicken broth is not cutting it!
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My boobs sticking out further than my belly !

Straight up and down buttocks instead of having,them curl out and up like Daisy Duck! Also having my ankles look less like Water balloons are tied around,them and my lymphedema to drain and be less of a pain!

I am currently laying in a bed in Mexico awaiting surgery tomorrow. Pre-op diet hasn’t been all that fun, but I’m down 58 pounds in six weeks. Looking forward to the future of not being hungry all the time.

Im super excited and hella nervous
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