HeyItsRene

Surgery October 22, 2018, went from 303 to 281 in a few weeks now UP to 285! Reading others stories definitely help, it's an amazing feeling knowing your not alone or sabotaging yourself before you have started. Thank you.

Surgery October 22, 2018, went from 303 to 281 in a few weeks now UP to 285! Reading others stories definitely help, it's an amazing feeling knowing your not alone or sabotaging yourself before you have started. Thank you.

Surgery October 22, 2018, went from 303 to 281 in a few weeks now UP to 285! Reading others stories definitely help, it's an amazing feeling knowing your not alone or sabotaging yourself before you have started. Thank you.

I’m post op 3 weeks and the scale hasn’t moved. I’m trying so hard not to be discouraged. I’ve lost 20 pounds and then it just stoped! Stopped nothing for a week.

WOW, 18 lbs is a huge feat! Congrats.
I had the same exact problem. I stalled out almost right after surgery. I lost a substantial amount during pre op and then lost for one week post op, before a 2 week long stall.
Just focus on hitting all your goals. The sale will move. I promise you. And even if you don't lose one more pound this month, you've had tremendous success.

Stalls are the most frustrating part of this journey but also a necessary evil so our bodies can adjust. 18lbs is a major loss in this amount of time so try not to be too mad at your body, as it just worked really hard for you. These stalls are going to happen again and again and unfortunately there is no written rule as to how long or why, but take solace in the fact that if you are following your guidelines, your body will do remarkable things for you. Best of luck!

Thanks I needed that I am in a stall and I'm frustrated only 3.5 weeks post op

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It's time to address what's going on. Cross addictions after surgery are common. It's important that you have recognized that you are having an issue with alcohol. Look up treatment options in your area.

Addiction is a primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory and related circuitry. Dysfunction in these circuits leads to characteristic biological, psychological, social and spiritual manifestations. This is reflected in an individual pathologically pursuing reward and/or relief by substance use and other behaviors.
Addiction is characterized by inability to consistently abstain, impairment in behavioral control, craving, diminished recognition of significant problems with one’s behaviors and interpersonal relationships, and a dysfunctional emotional response. Like other chronic diseases, addiction often involves cycles of relapse and remission. Without treatment or engagement in recovery activities, addiction is progressive and can result in disability or premature death.
You can overcome this!
Wish you the best,
Jenn

This is what the pre-op psy exam is supposed to help flush out. Get to some addiction counseling / AA. Several bottles of wine a day, sadly, makes you an alcoholic. You seem to be accepting the addiction to wine, now you need to step up and get some help. Alcohol is in no way a healthier option than food, I don't see how you can justify wine as being healthier. 2 bottles of wine puts you into the 1300 - 1500 calorie a day mark, and with no Protein or other required nutritional value... it's pure empty calories. So it's really no better than soda from a "health" standpoint.

I hope you do get some help... this is bad on a few levels for a non-altered person, worse so for a WLS patient.

I had been sober for 9 years before weight loss surgery. Everyone told me I had to be careful after surgery and really protect my sobriety. About 3 months after surgery I ended up relapsing and almost died. Like literally almost died, had to be taken to the ER in an ambulance. I have since regained sobriety but it has been very hard. You have two choices, continue to drink like an alcoholic and see where that takes you or get into a program of recovery. I got sober in AA and I know the program works if you are committed to it. Ultimately it’s your choice and no one else’s. If you choose to keep drinking then more power to you. No one can make you get sober.

First of all... good on you for recognizing and admitting you have a problem. That’s not an easy step and is honestly the hardest part. You should be proud that you’re able to be so honest with yourself. Most people go years and can never manage to do so!

At this point, I would really recommend finding a therapist or counselor who specializes in addiction treatment. They will be the ones that can help you figure out what you’ve been using food and now alcohol to really cope with.

Best of luck to you! It’s time to take control and you’ve already taken the hardest step!

You are not alone. Studies are showing that people that have had bariatric sergery are more likely to get late onset alcoholism.
I suggest to start cutting back if you noticed that cutting back causes you to have physical effects such as shaking I would mention it to your primary care doctor. You colossal look into AA meetings and your community.

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I agree with the others, you need help

Big difference especially with losing 40%+ of my weight. I have more fun riding my Harley now.


HW = 360
SW = 292
GW = 220 reached 3/7/18
CW = 204 @ 6'5"
156 pounds lost! [emoji106]

Me and my husband both have harleys....it is definitely easier to ride with less weight. And i suppose its easier for him as well when i ride with him!

I've always wanted to take flying/pilot lessons,but most of the small planes used for that require you to be under 250lbs. Now that I'm holding steady at 220, I'm ready. I'm hoping my wife gets me this for Christmas.

Mine was scuba diving and I got certified in Seattle last month. Can't wait to continue.

A progress selfie is a great idea!

I was dating someone when I started considering surgery, and only told them once my surgery was approved and scheduled. ( I had no pre-op diet, so my process was quick). We stopped seeing each other shortly after my WLS for unrelated reasons. We then started dating again. He gave me no reason to believe he was any more or less attracted to me +/- 70 or so lbs. It ultimately didn't work out, but again, unrelated to WLS.
After that I intended to not date until I got to goal and had plastics. But someone interesting contacted me on a dating site and I decided to go with it. I was about 70 lbs lighter than the pics on my dating profile. Before we went out I sent him some current full body pics, so he get the an idea I had lost weight, but didn't say anything. On our second date we had dinner, and he noticed how little I ate, so I told him about my WLS. I kept it positive and light, and he just asked a couple of not very probing questions. We've been dating 3 months now. It's honestly, pretty great. We've talked more extensively about my WLS. I asked him about the body type he is attracted to. He said he likes curves, and the exact size of those curves he's flexible about. I have no reason to doubt that's true, as he contacted me thinking I was larger, and is dating me now that I'm smaller.
Couple of thoughts ...
"she thinks it would be better to start dating someone before I lost the weight, so I know they care about me no matter my size."
Time goes so fast. My advice is don't put your life on hold for some point in the future where you will meet such and such goal. After you lose the weight, will you want to wait for plastics? It's easy to let time fly by and feeling like your in some kind of holding pattern. Just embrace who you are, put yourself out there and see what happens

"Did you mention it in your dating profile?"
IMO, that's a bit much for a dating profile. Just bring it up when you feel it is natural, it should happen early on. That will screen out people that have an issue with it. I think you are overthinking this a little.
@Ed_NW ... I think that is a bit pessimistic, and that has not been my experience.