FreetheSkinnyGirlinMe

How evil. No wonder... Lord have mercy with this biatch

Don't be concondescending. I read the whole thing a couple of times. Your first line "I am actually beginning to wish leaks on people." Do you think posting like this will help anyone? Your story could change peoples life. Yet, you post things like this. I don't understand. Leaks are awful, dangerous, and sad. But you are doing better now! Change the way you are and help people!

Read past line one darling. I did say "not as bad as a life threatening leak" in the third sentence. Just concentrate and you'll see it there....

Don't you think you are rude. Yes people know you had a leak. Everyone knows. But to wish it on someone. I think you need to take tiime away from this board. This is a support system. People ask questions just to ask for opions. Yet, you think it is okay to type you wish people can have leaks. You are rude. You could actually used your story to help people, but yet you wish people to have the same problem has you. Proudgrammy tells people how it is but she is nice about it. And it comes along way.

Haven’t watched the video yet but I will. I love me some Dr. V.
I tried explaining to someone once, I have no idea what normal feels like. I wore a size 24 women’s in the 6th grade. I’ve already lost more weight now than I ever remember losing at one time. My surgeon has a goal for me but my own goal will still leave me obese and in my mind if I could reach 250# I would be a success!! Still obese but not giving a damn. I know that’s how I feel now and maybe I’ll feel different later.
I’m scared to get excited about anything I’ve lost so far because it is no where near enough. I also know it’s only been 3 months total and 4 weeks post op and that it’s going to take time.
This process is already weird to me - I don’t like my ankles touching because I can feel the bones, my wedding set is loose on my finger and I’m starting to see the veins beneath my skin more. Very weird but totally neat at the same time.

We all deserve to be in the normal bracket, worked for it, planned for it, even slightly rearranged our bodies to achieve it. Normal -yes, Average-no, average is as close to the bottom as the top. We will not settle for being bottom feeders, we are and will,be slim, trim and sleek! Power to Us All! [emoji106]
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This video was what I needed to see yesterday. I have been struggling with some emotional drama with my SO and reverted to my old bad habits -- eating trash to deal with my feelings even though I felt like trash afterward. This was just Thursday and Friday so I didn't get all the way off course but he's right. I have to change my relationship with food AND with others. Have to.
Also, I realized I was self-sabotaging. I have been fat for so long (see first diet at 5) I'm not sure I believe I deserve to be a healthy weight. I talk a good game but deep down I have doubts. I need to work on showing myself the same grace I would show to a friend who was going through this process.
I will discuss with my therapist and I appreciate all the information and support here.

Fluffy,Mr F. is one lucky rooster[emoji215] to have you in his coop. And I am happy you are starting to see Onderland shining in the distance. Someday it will shine for ME I believe it and it will be so. Might not,be as fast because I'm Coming down off a higher weight ledge, I'll have to see Twoferville first but I believe I can achieve, even if it takes 12-18 months. I'll join you down there, as the old standard says "It's Only A Matter of Time"
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It's so true! And I'm with you on hopefully finding a good balance. Since Nov, I've either overcompensated by making 3 course meals for the family or been leaving them high and dry because I'm so disinterested. Hopefully, things settle down and normalize where food isn't such a big deal, ya know...

I really loved his distinction of 2 groups: those who've dealt with lifelong obesity and don't know what it feels like to live life as a normal sized adult. And those who were once thin and deal with adult-onset obesity. I'm the former and OMG. Is my outlook different from those who were formerly thin!
I also loved how he advised that we do really have to examine our relationship with food and its importance in our life. My struggle IS to de-prioritize its importance without completely conducting an exorcism. I don't want to get to the point where food is ONLY fuel. I'm hoping their can be a balance. But maybe that's just my fat brain telling me lies still? Dunno. But I'll figure it out in this coming year.

I like Dr. V's down to earth approach and wanted to share: https://www.sleeveacademy.com/p/MindGames
Disclaimer: there are a few f*bombs and profanity used for those who are offended by cursing

I had mine done this morning. Definitely in more pain than I thought I would be in. This gas pain is no joke!

Same thing happened with me I lost a ton and sizes weren't budging at my higher weights. Now a much smaller even five pounds changes my sizes. Once I hit size six or eight on the way down things started moving much faster size wise. You're doing great hang in there.

Sizing is so weird! I've lost 177 pounds, so you think I would be down a ton of sizes right? Not really. I started at a 4x shirt, and I'm now in a 2x shirt. Pants, I was in 32s and I'm now in 26s (3 sizes down). I'm keeping at it though. You've got this! Also, I see the original post was a couple of months ago; how are things going now?

Dee is right, the higher your starting size the more weight you will need to drop to drop an actual size. You will notice once you get down to the lower end of plus sizes, or higher end of misses, say 16-18, you do not have to drop as much. Ten or fifteen pounds makes a much larger difference in size than it does above say a size 22.
To me, this is similar in the way that the more weight one has to lose, the longer it takes for people to notice and comment.
I am on my second closet clean out now at over 130 pounds down so it does get pricey, although it is fun to buy new things. Get as much use out of things you can and only buy things that are deeply discounted as you lose!

It's so sad! I'm craving vegetables because I can't have them! I'm so jealous! I never thought that I would ever crave veggies in my life

I work from home, when I'm not traveling. Desk job of emails, spreadsheets and conference calls while at home.
I technically took no time off. I worked the morning before surgery and the next day both at the hospital and once I got home. I didn't travel for 2 weeks, and then at 3 weeks post op started work travel and have traveled nearly weekly since.

What are you drinking out of? Are you drinking out of a Water bottle? Glass did they give you one ounce medication cups? Water bottles hurt me for the first 5 weeks out. I can drink out of them now with no problems.
One ounce cups, med cups (30ml) took me 3 sips to finish. If you don't have them try using a shot glass, (measure it to see how many ounces).
I was able to get down 1 ounce (sip sip sip) 2nd ounce (sip sip sip) 3 ounce (sip sip sip) and then I couldn't do another. That was my limit then I needed a break. Do some sort of testing to see where your threshold is.
Some people had an easier time with room temperature water, some cold water. I found myself drinking a lot of decaff Peppermint tea with truvia the more of that I drank the easier water became.
Best of luck to you.

It's funny but the Simply Gogurts (yes the ones for kids) only have 6g of sugar total and they are also great frozen.

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I am two weeks out and will admit to getting a tsp and just eat it by itself! Love the stuff!

I was in pretty bad shape post op. Everyone is different so it’s hard to go in knowing how you will tolerate. Usually I skip all pain meds because I just don’t need them, this was way different. I was even a perfect patient walking, getting in fluids, etc, but only when my pain would get under control with meds.

Had my surgery Friday morning September 14, 2018 at 7:45, was sent home by 5pm that evening, it was laparoscopic mini sleeve with a hiatal hernia repair, needless to say the doctor said I could return to work the next day, didn’t happen, the pain was unbelievable and then trying to swallow liquids every 15 minutes did not happen because the pain of swallowing was intolerable, ended up in the ER the next morning from a severe allergic reaction to the liquid Tylenol with codeine that I have never taken in my 48 years, on day 4 post-op and still having difficulty swallowing but gas pains are slowing down, was very weak yesterday, feeling like I’m a little stronger today, hopefully this gets better, am already down 12lbs, was 63 lbs overweight according to the doctor day of surgery, looking forward to being just healthier inside and out!

The incision was sore but the gas was worse. I was not prepared for that. It was awful. Not everyone gets it. Brace yourself if you do.

You can expect to continue to lose for 6 months if you stay on the plan and exercise as you are. I was 3x and now I am a large after losing 90 lbs in 6 mos.

I’ve lost over 160 pounds. My first main goal is to get under 200 pounds, and at a touch over 5 foot 10 I’m ok with that. My surgeon thinks I could reach 175 but who knows.
If you start out a bit higher, it may take a bit longer to get there....but you are right. Once the main bulk comes off, it is exciting. I can shop in regular size clothes, walk without being exhausted, I’m not constantly anxious about having to go to social situations due to my weight. You don’t have to reach goal before you start seeing the benefits and it definitely helps to keep you motivated to keep working towards that final goal!