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Xapphirea

Gastric Bypass Patients
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from Its_Kai in How did you calm your nerves before surgery?   
    wishing you a speedy recovery
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from CR0610 in Help! Am I CrAzY?!   
    I would say if you are steady in weight that you might not want to do this? I don't know your BMI but in the Netherlands the minimum for a gastric bypass/sleeve is 35 with co-morbidities or 40 without. If your lap band is giving you problems, you can consider it, but I wouldn't expect too much weight loss after? Good luck either way
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from Pippa1703 in How do I know I'm not being impulsive?   
    Oh, that has easily been a year. or more. I did my share of research, decided to wait and try with weight watchers (again) for at least 6 months. But once the decision was made it was a no-doubt one.
    I would seriously suggest to take a couple of weeks, see how it feels for you. Ask around, read up, listen to your heart. It is a irrevocable procedure, and also a life changing one. Are you willing to give up old habits? Do you really feel okay with no more carbonated drinks, careful with what you put in your mouth, never have drinks with your food and so on. You really need that determination, it is not an easy process and there WILL be bumps in the road. Some people have life long problems, others go through it like a breeze, but you will never be the same anymore, that is for sure.

    Then again, if the decision clicks, and you are no longer in doubt, I would say go for it, and don't forget to enjoy the ride!
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from Its_Kai in How did you calm your nerves before surgery?   
    I didn't have the time to have nerves. Once I entered the hospital, someone was having problems with their IV, and they had to take the medicines 1 hour before surgery, so she and I switched places. 40 minutes after entering the hospital, i was under. It went so quick that I did not have time to adjust. They should have given me a couple of minutes to relax, but yeah, maybe for the best?
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from CR0610 in Help! Am I CrAzY?!   
    I would say if you are steady in weight that you might not want to do this? I don't know your BMI but in the Netherlands the minimum for a gastric bypass/sleeve is 35 with co-morbidities or 40 without. If your lap band is giving you problems, you can consider it, but I wouldn't expect too much weight loss after? Good luck either way
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from catwoman7 in Changed mind about WLS?   
    For me it was a bit like fallling in love. I was thinking about it, doubting, asking around, reading the internet. But once I took the decision it was like a click, no more doubts, Boy that gave me a lot of rest in my head. Still do not regret, even though my road is bumpy
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from Pippa1703 in How do I know I'm not being impulsive?   
    Oh, that has easily been a year. or more. I did my share of research, decided to wait and try with weight watchers (again) for at least 6 months. But once the decision was made it was a no-doubt one.
    I would seriously suggest to take a couple of weeks, see how it feels for you. Ask around, read up, listen to your heart. It is a irrevocable procedure, and also a life changing one. Are you willing to give up old habits? Do you really feel okay with no more carbonated drinks, careful with what you put in your mouth, never have drinks with your food and so on. You really need that determination, it is not an easy process and there WILL be bumps in the road. Some people have life long problems, others go through it like a breeze, but you will never be the same anymore, that is for sure.

    Then again, if the decision clicks, and you are no longer in doubt, I would say go for it, and don't forget to enjoy the ride!
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from Pippa1703 in anybrits Here that had surgery abroad within Europe?   
    I had my bill a few weeks ago, the whole surgery including all was a little over 9000 euro's so quite comparable to the UK, I'd say. Luckily my operation was completely covered by the insurance, apart from the mandatory 350 euros per year, which I had already spent. Yay for a good health insurance system right?
    Anyway, good luck finding a good place for surgery.
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from JaminJ in How often to snack???   
    I know some hospitals say eat 3 times a day, no snacking. But we were advised to have 3 meals and 3 healthy Snacks during the day, all 2-3 hours apart. Healthy snacks are Protein high and low in calories.
    As for unhealthy snacking, I take some chocolate now and then , or some crisps. Nowhere near the amount i used to, but still a bit. Not every day, of course
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from JaminJ in How often to snack???   
    I know some hospitals say eat 3 times a day, no snacking. But we were advised to have 3 meals and 3 healthy Snacks during the day, all 2-3 hours apart. Healthy snacks are Protein high and low in calories.
    As for unhealthy snacking, I take some chocolate now and then , or some crisps. Nowhere near the amount i used to, but still a bit. Not every day, of course
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from ProudGrammy in Surgery In 2.5 Weeks and I Haven't Told Husband Yet...   
    I do not know you, and the chances are slim that I ever will. But if we meet, I will give you the biggest hug imaginable. I hope you are doing fine and everything works out well. Wishing you all the luck and wisdom in the world
    Greetings from the other side of the planet
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from Angel'sFaith in 6 weeks out what's going on...   
    I think you are giving your own answer, you are losing weight rapidly. Try to keep up your Protein, vitamines and liquids. If you keep feeling this way, contact your hospital/doctor
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    Xapphirea reacted to Frustr8 in Surgery In 2.5 Weeks and I Haven't Told Husband Yet...   
    You are the proof the Irish are never vanquished, many have tried, none have succeeded. From another Celtic Maiden , albeit several generations removed. I am very very proud to know you, even through this limited media we use. Like my Dutch Bari- Pal Sapphires I too will hug you if ever we meet, the difference? I'll dance an Irish Jig with you as well.😛🍀😛🍀
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from catwoman7 in shocking the system   
    I heard about this , and if it doesn't feel good or fit your lifestyle, then don't. Everybody and every body is different so what works for one might not work for you. If you feel one cookie will make you turn the wrong way, then don't. It is perfectly fine to not do so. It is your journey, you are behind the steering wheel. Go for it and enjoy the view!

    It is similar to what happened to me last week. A colleague of his told him I should "train my stomach" by drinking soda and eat and drink at the same time. She also said that doing physical training will prevent loose skin. Because that was what she did. It took quite a bit of talking from my side that no, I will not train my stomach, and no, exercise will not prevent loose skin. If that comes, I welcome it! It means I am successful! But I take my bariatric team serious and even though I do eat chocolate now and then, in general I follow their advice.

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    Xapphirea got a reaction from TroyLynne504 in do you tell your weight lost   
    Hi everyone. Today I encountered something I have seen a couple of times now. I am 6 weeks post operation and I am losing sloooowww. Which is fine. But sometimes people ask me about how much weight I have lost. Can be friends or family or total strangers. Today I was shopping for some smaller size jeans, and I was debating with my SO wheither I should buy 2 or 3 pairs of jeans. His answer was, let's take 2 and come back in a month, to get more. The sales woman looked puzzled and my husband told her I had an gastric operation. She then proceeded saying how good that was for me. And asked how much I have lost. I told her friendly, that I am not saying that, it is private. She really got a little angry telling me that it was only to support me and why was I angry. I told her I was not angry, I just consider that private. She got really upset about that. I ended up paying for my clothes in a bad atmosphere.
    But even other people keep asking me. I do not consider that a rude question or something, it is just private and I don't want to tell people. Maybe because I was hoping for more weight loss, but honestly I think not, I think I just don't want to share that information with people who are not in the same situation.
    What do you think? Do you tell random people your weight lost? Do you tell friends/family?
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from Big Bari in do you tell your weight lost   
    It is nobodies business, even though people will (hopefully) notice soon! Good luck either way.
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from dgrantd in Has anyone kept their surgery a secret?   
    I am a pretty private person, I only told the people I know and trust. I am in a group of 10 people who are in the same phase. One of the women is from the home town of my parents. Boy, do I regret telling her that! Apparantly she gossipped and my mom, who was doing grocery shopping, got asked by a someone random if I were to have the gastric surgery 😕 Why, oh why do people talk about other people.
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from dgrantd in Has anyone kept their surgery a secret?   
    I am a pretty private person, I only told the people I know and trust. I am in a group of 10 people who are in the same phase. One of the women is from the home town of my parents. Boy, do I regret telling her that! Apparantly she gossipped and my mom, who was doing grocery shopping, got asked by a someone random if I were to have the gastric surgery 😕 Why, oh why do people talk about other people.
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from Frustr8 in Almost 9 months out, I think I fucked up.   
    *Waves to Vox* A Dutchie here too
    I'd say just get back to your old plan, I am in no way a veteran, but as long as you don't gain, you are good. Cut back a little on the portion size, maybe cut down carbs and up the Protein?
    Hugs, happy new year, make it the best one yet!
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from Frustr8 in Almost 9 months out, I think I fucked up.   
    *Waves to Vox* A Dutchie here too
    I'd say just get back to your old plan, I am in no way a veteran, but as long as you don't gain, you are good. Cut back a little on the portion size, maybe cut down carbs and up the Protein?
    Hugs, happy new year, make it the best one yet!
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    Xapphirea reacted to mousecat88 in do you tell your weight lost   
    It is a rude question for a stranger to ask, imo. The people closer to me know I had the surgery and they'll compliment me and ask how much I've lost but I don't want to say because it's not as much as I'd hoped so far. But since they are closer to me I don't really know how to say no, especially since I'm already in the habit of telling them. Only my one coworker really asks, the others just say "they can tell". I dunno... it is an awkward situation.

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    Xapphirea got a reaction from Zebby67 in Second thoughts!   
    The operation isn't without danger, true enough. But being overweight isn't without danger either, maybe not now but certainly in the long run. It is a choice you have to make, and if you are anything like me, I read the whole internet, a couple of books, and asked so many people about it, both pro's and anti's. A tough choice you need to make. But...
    Keep in mind that she is only talking about the people where it failed or went sideways. How many people (knowingly or unknowingly) has she met where a WLS was a success? It is always more dramatic to talk about people where it failed, sad as it is, then to talk about the succes stories.

    Wishing you all the wisdom to come to your choice!
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from GreenTealael in Wedding rings - what to do?   
    Now I am 4 weeks post op, but lost a lot of weight pre op aswell (30 kilos/60 lbs in 3 years time). My ring is on my middle finger, I would lose it on the ring finger. Even though it has little balls on the inside to prevent it from sliding off. In just over a year (jan 4th) we will be married for 20 years. (gasp!) By then I would be just over a year post op, and stablilized?? That would be a good moment to look for a new ring. I might get or make a ring guard until that time, or wear it on a pretty chain around my neck till then.
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from MissMissy in Is this hunger normal? I’m VERY worried   
    I experienced this too. I am now 3 weeks further and the hunger is mostly gone. It will all change once you switch to a diet with solids. Don't worry, things will be fine. Congratulations on your operation, and all the best for the future
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    Xapphirea got a reaction from MissMissy in Is this hunger normal? I’m VERY worried   
    I experienced this too. I am now 3 weeks further and the hunger is mostly gone. It will all change once you switch to a diet with solids. Don't worry, things will be fine. Congratulations on your operation, and all the best for the future

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