Pearldrop

Surgery was yesterday June 14th and I’m taking fluids right now and it’s horrible and feel so uncomfortable. I feel great until I drink or take a pain pill so now I’m on just Tylenol. I’ve been walking a lot because that makes me feel great. I wasn’t able to pass gas at the hospital until today I got into the car with my awful driving husband 😂😂😂lol. So that’s they plan when I stall at passing gas. Car ride around the corner 🚗 . I’m just so great full to have him take off and spend this journey with me from the beginning to the end. He did almost more than the nurses. Overall I have no regrets on day 2 let’s see what tomorrow brings.

You right, I am already crazy enough, I don’t need any extra.

@pearldrop so no infection, yeah ! But 3 out of 6 incisions are open - healed inside but they are not closing any time soon. So I need to go back to the clinic every two days so they can check for infection and change the bandage. Oh well. How was your day back at work ?

How is everyone doing ? Are you all losing like crazy ?

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I had a miscarriage between my kids and also did not appreciate people asking when I was going to have another.
WTF am I supposed to say? "I tried, but it died and had to be surgically removed. Thanks for asking"

You guys are so nice! Your responses let me know how much maturing I still have to do. I’ve been working on just ending those conversations - by any means necessary. I’ll do better.

I know there are a million posts about Hair loss. But I'm putting this here because I just want to whine about it.
I started shedding heavily at 3 months post op. The last two weeks have been so much worse. Literal handfuls in my brush, in my shower drain, when I run my hand through my hair, in my dryer screen, loose hairs all over my clothes (so professional looking!).
I'm getting my Protein in. I've taken Biotin since before surgery. I added L-lysine and zinc two weeks ago. I take a good Multivitamin. I rarely blow dry or flat Iron my hair. I feel like I'm doing everything right.
I don't think it is noticeable yet, in most circumstances. But I can feel it is significantly thinner. It is also thin at my hairline and temples. I was at a industry golf tournament last week, and I pulled my hair up into a pony tail. The thinning at my temples and hairline was completely obvious. I wanted to cry. I hope that my visor mostly covered it up.
If this continues, I'm going to have to do something other than whine. I've googled weaves for Caucasian hair. It seems possible, but it's not common. Seems like there is a serious upcharge vs. salons that specialize in AA hair (not that that is inexpensive!).
The only thing I can see that might be contributing diet wise, is my calories have been very low since surgery. I am almost always under 500 cals/day, except sometimes when I'm traveling and eating every meal out. Some days I'm well under 400 cals. I really don't want to up these cals, because I have a lot of restriction and mostly don't have physical hunger. I don't want to eat just to eat. That's a big part of why I needed WLS. I also want to get to goal as quickly as possible. I have a small window at the end of the year to have plastics. If I'm not at goal by that time then my work and travel schedule will make it very difficult to find the time in 2019 for surgery and recovery.
Ugh, thanks for listening

Both!
Work related drinking, it's because it stands out that I'm not participating. As the wine is passed around the table, or as we are sitting in the lounge area of a bar and the waiter comes around. Just ordering Water is both unusual for me and unusual in my company/industry. I'm much more comfortable fitting in than drawing attention to myself, especially in this way.
With friends. I miss a nice glass of wine with a good meal. I also miss the feeling of relaxation and looseness a little buzz gives you. Things are a little funnier, stories are a little more engaging. I just feel a little "flat" when I'm stone cold sober in a group that's had a few drinks.

Love this post Ash!
I agree, food is everywhere. Food and alcohol is embedded in my work life, they are embedded in my personal life.
Go out on a date, let's meet for a drink. My mom meets me for lunch on weeks I'm not traveling. Extended family BBQ for birthdays and holidays. Out to dinner with friends. Vacations focus on delicious and unique local foods. With work going out for a meal and drinks is invaluable for building relationships that can't happen across a conference table or the phone.
I have a love hate relationship with my restriction. I love that I am satisfied with a couple of ounces of food. It is still crazy to me. But that is such a small amount of food it is absolutely noticed by dining companions and wait staff. I hate the attention it draws.
I absolutely feel strong every time I ignore the bread basket. Each time I order the chicken vs. the Pasta dish. I honestly never thought I was capable of making good choices over an extended amount of time.
I do really miss social drinking though. It is a big part of my work life. I feel very self conscience and awakward drinking my Water while everyone else is having drinks.

food is everything, everywhere, imbedded in every aspect of our lives. Today, like many many days, my boss came up to me and asked "would you like ice cream from Mc Donalds?" and naturally it is for a "reward" of sorts for good performance for the day. I looked at him and said "you know my answer" in a playful way. It's crazy how food is our natural go-to for reward. I yelled out of my office to my friend across the way, "I am one STRONG lady!" because it's true. These last 5 months, I have withstood so many potlucks, ice cream socials, food truck days, donut or bagel Breakfast, boxes of dilly bars, I COULD GO ON AND ON!
A part of me feels defeated, the reason why? Why couldn't I lose the weight differently and still be able to partake in some of these things in moderation? I know the answer why.... I would never have done it. I need the dumping syndrome to prevent me from partaking. This surgery FORCED my hand.
The other part of me feels accomplished, strong, and amazing. I have powered through every hard moment, candy on Valentines day, birthday party cupcakes, s'mores at cook outs, frozen margaritas at the health club pool, bread at the restaurant, baked goods at Easter, ice cream on a hot summer day,....... I have said NO to everything. I have been strong and it has paid off.

I did have fertility issues - I was able to get pregnant, but had multiple miscarriages. “Well intentioned” people said some of the most awful things or asked the most hurtful questions, having no clue of their impact. After my fifth miscarriage, and someone telling me, “Well, maybe God’s just telling you that you don’t need to have anymore children” the DAY I came home from the hospital with empty arms, I decided that I didn’t have to be “nice” when people inserted themselves into my life uninvited. I thankfully WAS able to have another child. People just don’t think before they speak.

It is hard to give people the benefit of the doubt when they are prying into your personal business.
My husband and I married young and chose to wait 10 years b4 having children. People said lots of stupid things to me over the years prying about fertility issues and my desire to have children.
Examples:
I couldn't want kids that bad since I didn't have them right away. And since I didnt want them I was going to be a bad mother.
I was getting too old and needed to have kids soon. This was said to me at 27. (had 1st at 32 and 2nd at 35, not exactly ancient)
Then the million questions about who had failing parts, was it my uterus or my husband's balls?
This got old enough that I would pretend to get emotional and tell people it was probably never going to happen for me. This definately worked, succeeded in making them think twice about asking me or anyone else.
I pick and choose who I tell about my surgery. Thankfully some of my more intrusive relatives live far away. The real bonus is none of them saw me at my high weight, so crossing my fingers that my look won't be a shock to them.
Oh, and I love my kids. Waiting to have them allowed us additional financial security and life experiences.

I don't have huge mirrors at my house, and was a little shocked by something new I saw in a dressing room yesterday...
Dressing rooms are really the only time I get that full view, you know? With the extra mirrors that show you your body all the way around.
So yesterday I was changing clothes and went...holy crap....MY BACK FAT!
LOL!
My back fat...all the weird little extra ripples, the bra bulge...the icky little segements that made my back resemble a roly poly insect....are GONE!
My back is looking all sleek and shite:) Like, with a nice dip in the middle and shoulder bones and everything. It is a damned fine looking back!
I've been looking at my lumpy front....which, don't get me wrong...has improved significantly...but I've got a little extra skin (looks better than expected!)...but still, it never occurred to me to check out the back.
So yeah...that made my day. Still makes me smile.
When I go to the fat lady prom this fall (they don't call it that...it's a formal wear celebration event put on by my surgeon's group...where we walk a cat walk and get to Celebrate our skinnier hotness..LOL), I might have to consider something backless:)
Looking forward to the extravaganza!

As a sleever I’m not suffering with the too stinky poo.....yet, it may be a gift later down the track as I’m only week 3, but my gas is bad.
Its loud, not overly smelly, and I can’t hold them in. It’s worse when I’m walking fast. So embarrassing in the office!!

I’m so sorry this happened. It sounds like this person wants to understand what you had done, from a parental advice giver, but to tell you what you should do rather than as a supportive person. Some people are a bit clueless!
Im keeping my WLS private as well, when people start to notice my response will be that ive changed my eating habits and have returned to the gym.
As to the ‘don’t loose anymore’ comments I’d do the smile and nod response, it’s hard for people to comment when you do this. I know I’m going to have to deal with this when I go home at Christmas from well meaning but clueless family/friends so I hope I do the smile and nod 😀 and ask them about themselves to change the subject

Congratulations on the new job. I work in IT too, it’s a challenging but awesome area to work in. Love getting involved in all the new technology and developing easy to use systems for our end users.

I hope it isn’t an infection, please take care and let me know how it goes

I started purée today. So far the diet is going really well. I’m being careful with my pouch, but so far so good. I’m back to work tomorrow and looking forward to getting back to a routine.
My surgeon closed with dissolvable stitches, prior to the op we discussed his technique and I saw a previous patients scars 10 weeks out, he is very neat.
He made 5 marks, 3 of which are less than 0.5cm - there’s are the ones that have pretty much gone. The other 2 are about 3cm in length, they will take a bit longer to fade.
Are you using anything? My surgeon recommended Vitamin E cream and/or bio oil. It’s working a treat.

That’s fantastic charlotte0606, about the dress not the choking lols
I’m doing great. Had my check up with the Dr today and he’s really happy with my progress. 3 of my 5 incision marks are almost gone! I’m a really good healer😀. I have been rubbing bio oil on my body every few hours since the surgery so I think that’s helping.
Ive recovered from surgery, can’t believe it was only last week!

I’m on the liquids til Saturday, I’m thinking about what to have as my first meal for lunch on Sunday. ATM it’s going to be a little pork mince and refried Beans. The rest of the family will be having burritos or something to use up the rest of what I cook up.
During my liquids phase I generally have a Protein smoothie (aka shake) for Breakfast, broth or thin Soup for lunch and diner. My deserts consist of protein Jello. I’m also drinking lots of Water and have a daily skim latte.
Im really hoping my soft/mushy phase goes as well, I’m having no issues with any fluids and feel great.
I am super paranoid about drinking water though. I set myself 3 goals per day that I try to meet, 750ml before 12pm, then 750ml by 5pm and then another 750ml by 10pm. If my urine looks yellow I drink some more lols

Mine was 4 June. My heaviest is what I was on day of surgery. Over the past 18 months I gained 20kgs (44 pounds).
Im feeling great so far but am staying off the scales until the 30 June. I’m concentrating on Water & Protein intake for the first month. I know I’ll drop weight as I’m not eating a lot.
I’m meeting with my nutritionist next week to talk about calorie & protein goals for my soft/mushy food stage.
im looking forward to seeing everyone meet their goals

As a sleever I’m not suffering with the too stinky poo.....yet, it may be a gift later down the track as I’m only week 3, but my gas is bad.
Its loud, not overly smelly, and I can’t hold them in. It’s worse when I’m walking fast. So embarrassing in the office!!

As a sleever I’m not suffering with the too stinky poo.....yet, it may be a gift later down the track as I’m only week 3, but my gas is bad.
Its loud, not overly smelly, and I can’t hold them in. It’s worse when I’m walking fast. So embarrassing in the office!!

Friday, Nov 13th 1998.
Trying VERY VERY HARD to get back to anywhere NEAR this size! Before our 20th Anniversary this year! (My 40th birthday is 2 days later) Yeah, it's a pretty big year for me... Major Surgery, 20th Anniversary and turning 40!

Nope, I had RNY. I hope that the heat wave breaks as well! We have heat index of 110 degrees yesterday. Doesn't matter how much you lose, 110 degrees sucks at any weight!

Sleeve patients always have an extra week of liquids because their staple line is larger, and more of an area to heal.