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Sleeved 12/20/16

Bypass Surgery 5/17/2017
SW 238, CW 156 GW 150

SW- 264
CW- 190
GW-260
Surgery December 19, 2017
 

It’s ok, this is hard. It’s important to be kind to yourself and try to understand why you eat what you eat. The more you understand and learn the more likely you are to succeed

Hi
Don't be so hard on yourself! We forgive ourselves and move on. The pre-op diet isn't easy. If it was, we probably wouldn't need the doctors or the surgery anyway. Try to keep temptations at bay- no reason to keep the left over chinese or Bagels around This is really terrible and I shouldn't even admit it, but I will. If it's tempting me and I'm having trouble resisting it, I shove it right in the trash. (much to the dismay of my kids, sometimes. lol.) No one is touching that! ew!

Hello everyone,
This is my rant about myself!
Today I feel like I have failed myself.... For the last 2 weeks I have been doing really well with watching the intake and monitoring my meals. I have been pushing myself to walk as much as possible. I have even lost 5 lbs so far. Tonight I stood in my kitchen and eat my daughters leftover Chinese food my mom had got her when she took her the other night, on top of that I had a bagel. Now as I sit here writing this I feel extremely stupid for one but I also feel very disappointed in myself.
Mind you all I have just started this process to surgery, it is all still so new and fresh...
I have been working on getting my pre-op testing done and losing the weight the doctor has requested. I was told I would probably have surgery toward October.
This is so hard to express honestly, also it is hard to explain to my family and friends. I never realized how much food truly is an addiction.... I am addicted to food... Seems so silly to say that, but it is so true. I really thought my head was 100% in this and focused on losing the weight.. I know that struggles are definitely normal but its been 2 weeks and I feel pathetic..
How did everyone focus on keeping on track when temptations are close by?
Foods that curve a craving?
I am sorry is this seems all over the place!

I do! It's such a change.

2 months ago I had an arm lift and abdomoplasty. While it’s a painful recovery process and will take a while for the scars to heal yet, I feel great and I am very happy with the results. I look like me finally and I am enjoying my body that I have worked so hard for. So my advice is be realistic about the process but do it.

Not sure what you are looking for in terms of advice exactly. Post my sleeve, I pretty much didn’t eat and stuck with a the liquid diet followed by soft food for 3 months to help me detox my body and start a new relationship with food. For me that was the secret to the success of my surgery I feel. It’s been 5 years and whenever I stray I remember how I and my body felt after those 3 months and that always seems helps me go back on track. Took me 4 years to let go of the weight and 1 year to stabilIze and just had my plastics done recently. I would say please don’t jump into plastics, not only because it’s expensive but also because it’s way more painful than any bariatric surgery and the recovery process is seriously tough. Hope this helps

It really helped me talking to a psychologist. My work situation sounds very similar to yours. I am finding that as I lose weight the tides are shifting. I have continued to do my job well and take care of myself. My coworker who thinks he's my boss is showing his true colors and people are noticing. People are also noticing that I am taking care of myself and my job. I am starting to get much more support from coworkers I never spoke to before. Hang in there. Think of yourself as the butterfly that will emerge from the cocoon.

Sorry this might be a long post.
So, I got the call this week that I have been approved for surgery. I have my pre-op consultation and physical on June 12th, then 2-3 weeks after that will be surgery. Exciting and scary! I've been working on this for months and months now. I feel like I should be more happy about it. I am happy but I'm more scared than I thought I would be. I've gone down this road before with the lap-band and didn't do well with it/ had some complications with it, so maybe that's part of why I'm more scared now than I was when I had the band surgery. I don't want to fail, and I know this is a forever change to my anatomy. I know it's my best shot at long term success. I guess I'm just overwhelmed with the fact that it's happening and my life will be forever changed. I'm also a little sad about it too. Maybe because my size has been kind of a safety blanket (if that makes any sense at all). And I have no idea what to expect because I've never been a normal weight before. I'm also sad because a good friend of mine at work (who was recently promoted within the department) who I thought would be supportive, has gone more into boss mode and being more concerned about work than my life/health, which has really made me sad. I have no problem getting the time off of work, but my department tries to guilt me into postponing any time I've had some sort of procedure done, but never does with anyone else. I'm just overwhelmed with emotions right now, and just needed to get some of it out. Thanks for listening.

I will be getting bypass surgery in 3 weeks. I am SO SICK OF SWEATING as in soaking wet with sweat daily. Has anyone noticed being less sweaty after dropping some weight?

I acknowledge my craziness. 🙄

It takes a while. I still feel bloated some days at over 2 weeks out. But I can finally suck in my tummy if I want to. Couldn’t do that before today! Also, I’ve def lost inches. I just folded up tons of jeans to put on Mercari. I thought, Maybe they will fit now. Um...too big!!! Yay!

June 6th too! Scared more about after ward & doing this right! I’m diabetic & have neuropathy in my feet so the way I look at this is I’d rather have 1/2 of my stomach removed & have a chance at really losing some weight that to wait, thinking I can diet without surgery on my own & end up having toes amputated!

I am on my way to Mexico now to get sleeved tomorrow! Super excited!

I'll be 24 months out in August and some days it looks better than others. I can definitely tell a difference when looking what few progressive pictures I have.

Part of this message is me rejoining this community, part of it is seeing what's in my profile signature., I used to have a weigh loss results bar in there. I had my surgery in 2009, almost a year after my wife did. Having a built in support partner helps. I went from around 270 to 195 in well less than a year. A large part of it was this surgery and the nutritional information. Another part of of it was re-discovering my love of running. I still had running a marathon on my bucket list when I had the surgery and I ran it in 2011 in just over 4 hours. I ended up doing six more.

Life was good, my wife and I were even used in commercials as sucess stories by the Bariatric Department of The Ohio State University I will mention my wife though I looked too thin at 195, so I did go to 210 during my marathons. But after 2013 my back began to fail and I had spinal fusion surgery. That slowed me down for a year or or more, but my weight crept up about 10 pounds a year until last May 7th, I got back from a 7 day Caribbean cruise. While I only gained 1 pound on that cruise it was a new post surgery high of 244. I imediately scheduled an appointment with my clinic/hospital. Backn in 2009 I had 3ccs put into a 10cc band and never had it changed. On my visit back I had .25cc added and have lost 13 pounds in about 2 weeks. Here we go again.

I am sorry you are going through this. Not to sound callous, but he sounds like a jerk. The truth is that this situation sounds like a lose/lose. If you decide not to get the surgery to accommodate him, eventually you may begin to harbor resentment. As you continue to push yourself to get results, there is a strong possibility they won't be what you are hoping for. So many of us try to lose weight. And we do. But then it stops. I have a few friends who went from 300lbs+ to a healthy weight, but their life literally revolves around working out and always making the perfect food choices. My doctor explained it that our bodies are like memory foam. They are accustomed to our obese size, and want to get back to that weight. I eat a candy bar? 2lb gain right there. My sister eats a big mac with fries and lg coke? Nada. So if the weight does not come off or stay off, in the back of your mind you may begin to blame him. That is a very ugly situation.
On the flip side, if you DO get the surgery, your boyfriend is going to feel like you didn't value his opinion. That you didn't take him into consideration. While I would love to say that he is a self-centered butthead for thinking this, it really isn't. When people important to us make life-changing decisions, it has a snowball effect so obviously we want our opinions known. You love him, so you care for his opinion. However it only goes so far. You need to take care of you over his feelings.
This situation should make you reevaluate what you want in life. You have a view of how you want to live your life, and if that involves having the surgery to pursue an obesity free life, then you need to ask yourself if you will allow one person's different opinion to trump that.
It is not an easy choice. It might help if you think of it not as a choice between him or the surgery, but instead think of it as two different versions of yourself. Do you want to be a WLS patient on the road to a healthier lifestyle? Or do you want to continue doing what your doing and go for the best results you can?

I would do the surgery. It's really a shame your bf has this attitude. And disrespectful, too - he has no idea how hard it is to be obese - MAJOR SURGERY is not the easy way out. You can do this if you commit to the whole process your surgical team gives you.
Anyone that really really loves you would still support YOU, even if they didn't believe in the surgery. So tell him straight up, ' it's okay if you have this opinion but I am doing it anyway, this isn't about you! '.
Some partners are afraid of the changes, insecure, and some are afraid of complications - but saying 'it's the easy way out' is a judgement call directly against YOU - that isn't real love IMO.
Good luck and Welcome aboard!

Had my pre blood tests today. The technician was so lovely. She had her sleeve 10 weeks ago and was kind enough to show me her surgery marks. We have the same surgeon so it was great to see how tidy his stitching is lols. It was good to see how small the incisions are as well. Few more days to go.

My surgery was on the 29 I am still in hospital. Anyone else feel like they have something stuck in there throat? I know I don’t but it feels like that. I can not keep down pain medication it makes me throw up they are way to sweet.

this is what i was thinking of doing. i know my surgeon changes the pre-op diet requirements on a patient to patient basis so i’m not sure what my requirement will be time wise, etc but i was thinking maybe doing 2 shakes a day at least? to get started?

i guess perhaps i’m caught in between a mental spot of “do i really want to start shakes now when i have another month to *enjoy* myself” or “do i take care of myself and quit that childish attitude because i’ll still be able to eat food after surgery it’ll just be different?”

sorry if that doesn’t make sense, my head is all over the place lately.

well the celebration is over now so it has been easier. i’ve been looking at my macros as well and i’m meeting them give or take a few % on either side. slowly cutting out Pasta and replacing it with protein pasta/pasta alternatives has actually been pretty easy! love veggies and fruit so that isn’t the hardest part. it’s probably exercise which right now is at about 30 min a day but i’m working my way up slowly. just feeling really discouraged all around.

I’m not a “vet” by any means but I’ve had a lot of success since my surgery and I’ve been on this site for a good 9 months. And I love being a part of this community. So I want to say this first, I posted in Rants & Raves for a reason....

- “I’m 5 day’s post op and it’s not working”. Miracles don’t happen overnight. The amount of people who think that they will wake up from surgery feeling amazing and all their problems solved. SMH
- “I haven’t lost anything in 3-4 months and I’m 6 months post op”. I’m all about helping but I hate when people post about how they aren’t loosing and then don’t offer any information on their diet, exercise, Vitamin intake, ect. And half the time they drop off the face of the earth when you ask them.....SMH
- The pre-op diet sucks, that is all. SMH
-“I’m still hungry”. I hate that a common misconception that hunger is going to disappear. It doesn’t happen to everyone. But common sense would tell you that, liquids aren’t filling. Wait until you are on solids again to worry about your hunger levels. SMH

Ok I’m done! Thanks guys for letting me get that off my chest. Some days you just have to rant.

And PS. I know that people don’t always know the stuff I mentioned above, so when I’m not overly irritated by these gross misunderstandings about the process...I’m happy to help!