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Pearldrop

Gastric Sleeve Patients
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    Pearldrop reacted to deltagirl93 in Non Scale Victories   
    Recently took a flight that had to be rebooked due to weather conditions in the northeast. The only available seats were middle seats. I was completely freaking out and just knew that I was going to be miserable the entire flight.

    To my surprise, I was completely comfortable and did not encroach on anyone’s space. Even though I’ve lost over 100lbs and down to 188, I’m still “big” in my head until proven otherwise. 🤪
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    Pearldrop reacted to BeanieSprouts in Non Scale Victories   
    Yesterday I fit an ENTIRE TOWEL around myself. EXCUSE ME?????!!!! Unheard of. Fake. Unrealistic.
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    Pearldrop reacted to alwtg in Non Scale Victories   
    I’m quite a long way out but these things still happen - jumped on a packed commuter train this morning and siddled on through to the empty centre seat in a bank of three and sat down with no thought, concern or hesitation. It’s weird how every so often these things still surprise 😁
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    Pearldrop reacted to Jazzy1125 in Please help me, I have terrible regret RNY   
    Think about this.. in all aspects of life.. the only people you see say something for the most part, are those that have issues. Whether it be with surgery, restaurant experiences,shopping online issues.. customer service issues, any issues.. 10 bad to 1 good as the good have no reason to complain, they rarely will say anything.. There is a lot of good out there. This is your journey, not those of others. I saw a post on fb the other day where somebody said.. i have had no issues, am i the only one.. It was nice to see over 100 comments of the same thing.
    I for one have had no issues, yes i had the sleeve, but still no issues. No pain issues since awakening in the hospital, no food issues (besides the occasional eating too fast). no Water intake issues.. so there is good out there.. Stop reading what everybody else is going through and focus on what you can do for you. There is so much information on the boards of what happens to others, but that is others, and doesn't necessarily mean you. What you can do with the information is be prepared in case something does happen to you and you will be armed with how to tolerate or handle it which will then make your transition a lot easier.

    Good Luck and feel better!
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    Pearldrop reacted to pinksparkle1965 in Please help me, I have terrible regret RNY   
    I've had my surgery in 18th with a surprise hiatal hernia repair..I finally broke down and told my oldest daughter after a melt down..I asked her to promise she would not tell a soul.. I feel so betrayed I think she told people..I have no support from my husband he has always made fun of my weight..since I started packing on weight. After 9th child age 41. I PRAYING I heal within this 3 weeks so I can go back to work.. but as of now I'm still moving around slow. Vsg was okay it's the hernia deal that's killing me

    Sent from my SM-N960U using BariatricPal mobile app

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    Pearldrop reacted to Lucyelle in Single DUE to surgery   
    This happened to me as well ... I was in a long term relationship (5yrs) with an apparent narcissist- he stole my money, my self esteem and left me while I was going through presurg approvals.
    He held my belongings hostage- still has my furniture some from my first marriage in his new apartment. My surg is 12/26 and I cannot focus on what he did - I filed a police report- he was violent when he left- but other than that I turned my focus toward not letting him derail me from this. Hoping for some empowerment and energy like you all have mentioned once I recover and begin to see progress .....then I can go after my $$ and possessions! I was completely blindsided btw. Turns out he wanted a nice place to live and then he wanted my $$. It was what I am now told “classic” behavior: idolize at the start... then they devalue you.... then they discard. It has been one of the most painful experiences of my life... turns out he has done it to other women before me.
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    Pearldrop reacted to AshMarie794 in Single DUE to surgery   
    Well 7 pm night before my surgery my fiancé pretty much told me to go F&&^% myself and I was selfish for doing it. And that I had to find a ride the next morning to surgery.

    Fast forward to now that I am loosing and feeling GREAT. He doesn't get it and is so negative and controlling. I am finally seeing changes in myself and he pulls the rug out from underneath me and I am left feeling worse than before surgery.

    And he is overweight and unhealthy. Doesn't care what he eats or drinks. HATES veggies. Eats out all the time. BUT yet he will go to the gym with me........ to control that situation I am sure.

    Just UGH at the point and very stressed out. I hope I don't put myself in an plateau due to stress.
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    Pearldrop reacted to sideeye in Do you tell a new partner about loose skin?   
    Nah, don't tell them. It's on the same level as worrying if someone approves of your landscaping or a hidden tattoo or whatever. If they've been hugging you and didn't realize that there's probably some slack going on in there, then that's on them.
    But honestly I think by the time all your loose skin is on show, whoever your partner is is into it enough that it's not really going to matter. And if it does? Ditch 'em. Life's too short to worry about someone eyeballing your bingo wings when they're supposed to be VERY FOCUSED on entirely different areas.
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    Pearldrop reacted to OutsideMatchInside in Do you tell a new partner about loose skin?   
    Men never admit they have small penises up front or say anything about their shortcomings when naked. Why should I handicap myself when men don't.
    I've never had a man be like oh girl let me warn you, I don't have a 6 pack!
    I don't disclose anything about loose skin and no one has ever commented on it once. I don't hide the fact I have lost weight, but men I date don't even ask me about it or care. They know I'm active.
    I've lost a lot of weight. Even though I look good in clothes, you can look at me and tell I used to be fat. The arms are a dead give away. They already know what they are getting into before I take my clothes off.
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    Pearldrop got a reaction from Frustr8 in Confessional - Lets post our cheats/confessions/etc so others can see that we are all human   
    Had champagne for Christmas and ouch! Switched to a dry rose after 2 sips and it was divine with the seafood buffet. I ate well, stuck to my portions and had a great day
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    Pearldrop got a reaction from Frustr8 in Confessional - Lets post our cheats/confessions/etc so others can see that we are all human   
    Had champagne for Christmas and ouch! Switched to a dry rose after 2 sips and it was divine with the seafood buffet. I ate well, stuck to my portions and had a great day
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    Pearldrop got a reaction from TheRealMeIsHere! in Absolute petrified to step foot inside   
    I e just started back at the gym, and like you I was nervous about the judgement. The people at my gym are so focused on themselves and their workout they don’t have time to judge me 😊
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    Pearldrop got a reaction from TheRealMeIsHere! in Absolute petrified to step foot inside   
    I e just started back at the gym, and like you I was nervous about the judgement. The people at my gym are so focused on themselves and their workout they don’t have time to judge me 😊
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    Pearldrop got a reaction from TheRealMeIsHere! in Absolute petrified to step foot inside   
    I e just started back at the gym, and like you I was nervous about the judgement. The people at my gym are so focused on themselves and their workout they don’t have time to judge me 😊
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    Pearldrop got a reaction from TheRealMeIsHere! in Absolute petrified to step foot inside   
    I e just started back at the gym, and like you I was nervous about the judgement. The people at my gym are so focused on themselves and their workout they don’t have time to judge me 😊
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    Pearldrop reacted to LynnV1964 in Non Scale Victories   
    These amazing Cookies appeared at work courtesy of my boss......and I didn’t touch them! Major victory!!!🎊🎉

  17. Congrats!
    Pearldrop reacted to Swimmer in Non Scale Victories   
    Nsv

    Buy jeans of the rack and they always fit
    Not being able to buy pants at costco because I was too big and now because I'm too small
    Walk around a crowded room without stress
    Got scuba certified and was actually the smallest there, blew my mind as this is a dream come true. I'm going on a diving excursion by myself and not stressed, boom.
    I went zip lining in Costa Rica
    I actually will eat in front of others, huge for me
    I'm not worried about being judged for my grocery cart
    I no longer wish to be or feel invisible
    I tuck my shirts in
    I love getting dressed up and going to events
    I can talk with anybody and be present and not focused on negative thoughts
    I can enjoy social settings again
    I can swim for hours at a time again
    I am not afraid of failing anymore because of my weight
    I am more aware of others needs and am more able to help them. When somebody drops something I quickly pick it up for them.
    I saved ten bucks on flannel pj pants because instead of the adult xxl I used to wear I fit into a youth size
    I say yes to adventures now
    I have the courage to say no too without beating myself up
    The negative self talk is being replaced with thoughts of gratitude
    Food is finally just food again
  18. Congrats!
    Pearldrop reacted to ALFxRNY in Non Scale Victories   
    I haven’t been around the forums in a little while. Today’s non scale victory is clothing. Prior to surgery I wore a 3x top/size 24 jeans. Today I went to try on clothes and fit a large top/size 17 jeans. I’m so proud of my progress even though it can’t really see a difference most days

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    Pearldrop reacted to GreenTealael in Non Scale Victories   
    Had to go to the ER, hurt my foot. Regular set of questions, smoker, drinker, height, weight...
    I told the Triage Nurse I didn't know my current weight because I don't weigh myself
    Nurse: "ummm, i'd say 130lbs"
    Bi+(#...!!???!!???
    Im actually 156lbs (we checked) but if I look 130lbs I'll take it!
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    Pearldrop reacted to Orchids&Dragons in Non Scale Victories   
    I don't want it to pass! I'd much rather be cold and put on a sweater than too hot and have to dress professionally.
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    Pearldrop reacted to FluffyChix in Non Scale Victories   
    You look so beautiful and happy!!! Congrats on your major accomplishment!!!! So glad you had fun!
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    Pearldrop reacted to Rainbow_Warrior in Non Scale Victories   
    Yes ... almost exactly my (male) experience.
    * Down to just one medication now ... apixaban/Eloquis ... and that won't change any time soon
    * My knees and ankles appreciate that I've shed more than a third of my mass/weight in 52 weeks
    * Yep ... the bath-sheet is too big now when it would not quite go around me 15 months ago. A regular-sized towel is enough to dry me adequately after a bath or shower or time in the pool.
    * Aeroplane and bus seats have room left-over
    * My driving position in the car is not cramped by my obesity like 12-25 months ago. My seat belt is NOT all the way extended as in the past.
    * My shirts/tops are down from Australian 8XL/9XL (USA 5XL) to 2XL/XL (USA XL). Ditto underpants ... from 7XL to 2XL now.
    * My slacks/trousers are down from 177cm/172cm [about 70 inches] waist to 122cm/117cm range [about 45 inches]
    I gave away 19 shopping bags of "super big" clothes and 22 pairs of slacks/trousers to the charity shop in the last few months.
    Once the plastic surgeon removes my excess skin before xmas 2019, I expect to shed another two to three pants sizes.
    I also noticed that my feet lose weight/width proportionately with my upper body. I no longer need 4E shoe widths. I can get by with E or 2E in leather shoes and regular joggers/trainers/tennis-shoes.
  23. Congrats!
    Pearldrop reacted to MegPRN in Non Scale Victories   
    This week I started a new job - I'm an RN, but my new position is office work and non-clinical (so I can't wear scrubs anymore). Today I'm wearing professional pants in a size 16, purchased off-the-rack at a regular store. I don't think I've been this size since high school - my entire adult life I've bounced between 18 and 22. I feel amazing.
  24. Congrats!
    Pearldrop reacted to sideeye in Non Scale Victories   
    I found a pair of jeans in my closet - size 14, still in the plastic wrap. They fit. I’ve worn them at a conference all week and they look f**king amazing. Yes, Spanx are still in play to control the muffin top effect, but I look leggy and well put together and people’s reaction is significant.
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    Pearldrop reacted to iattcom in Non Scale Victories   
    Being post menopausal this is one issue I do not have to worry about thank God!
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