Pearldrop

I have not had mine yet, but honestly that is my fear. I’m afraid that I’m not going to lose fast enough or that I can’t do it and get so discouraged. But reading the comments is incredible. I love the support I see on here. Brassapple, it may be easier for me to say right now because I’m only in pre op stage, but we’re running a marathon and not a sprint. You got this.

And just found out I get another shower and can start walking in an hour! Yeah

It’s the morning after and I’m feeling good, considering.
i wet the bed last night, I was a little too comfortably numb, and now have bladder control back this morning. I have some pain from the gas, it is manageable at this stage. I’ve taken my drs advice and am having all the pain relief offered. I am able to move around on my own and am having ice chipsand using lip balm. That with the drip is stopping me from being dehydrated. I drank a lot of Water leading up to the surgery so my body was well hydrated prior to fasting so I think that helped. I don’t feel hungry, but would love a coffee. Will see the surgeon later today to see when I’m on liquids.
hope all my surgery twins are doing great.

@bluehat I definitely understand where you are coming from. For me, I don’t want people talking about my weight or the weight I’ve lost because that would mean I would have to acknowledge that I’m obese. It’s no secret but saying it out loud makes it all that much more real.

I agree with shedo. It will get better, because your friends and family will get bored with the subject, and something new will come along to claim their attention. That's human nature.
But I do think it's worth saying--it's just not appropriate to comment or ask questions about a person's body unless they've given you an indication that those questions are welcome. If I were talking nonstop to my family about my diet and my weight loss and any discomforts I was feeling, that would be an opening, but since I don't do that, I find it rude to get any of those questions. I would never ask a coworker if they meant to get surgery to correct their bad knee, or if they were going to get implants to fix the receding hairline. And if I knew a family member had had breast reduction surgery, I would never think to ask what size bra she was taking now. But somehow people think weight loss is open for all manner of intrusive comments and questions.
If it gets real bad, you could always stage a breakdown. Just stare at the offender for a minute with your lip quivering, then run out of the room crying. I guarantee you that the word will travel fast that you are "touchy" about being asked about the surgery.

Hey everybody,
I'm still pre-op, but my surgery is June 20th, so we're getting pretty close now. I started dieting last October, just before Halloween (I remember because of all that candy I miraculously chose not to eat) and I've managed to lose just about forty pounds so far, and gone down one pant size, though not a shirt size, weirdly... But anyway, at work and at home, my friends/co-workers/family have all started talking to me about how I look. They say it's clear I've lost some weight, that I'm looking really good, aren't I excited for the surgery... One co-worker even has this thing she says all the time about me coming back after the summer (I work in a school) as a "whole new person".

I know these sound like compliments, but I hate them. I don't know how to respond, or act, and it makes me feel really awkward and embarrassed when people start talking about me and my weight loss -- even though they're actually being nice! Complimenting me! Supporting my efforts! Am I being a jerk for wanting to tell them to buzz off and mind their own business? I did come out and tell everyone about my weight loss surgery, but I did so because I didn't want to answer questions down the line about why I was refusing to eat/drink anything other than Premier Protein and tiny little half-cup portions of veggies and fruit.
I have a co-worker who actually went out of her way to research the surgery I'm having, and came back asking me questions about how I plan to deal with the loose skin afterward. I think it was out of genuine curiosity but I was so shocked by the question that I answered kind of snottily and she hasn't brought it up again, but jfc, I hate my weight being a topic of conversation so much.

I've mentioned this to my co-workers, and I've asked my family not to discuss it with other people without asking me first, but I guess it's too exciting for them to remember, because my mother can't go five minutes without bringing it up to random strangers at Wal-Mart, and my co-workers bring it up so often... well, at least now summer has started, but I'm cringing at the thought of losing more weight before the school year begins in September. Or worse -- not losing very much weight and completely disappointing everybody around me. I'm feeling resentful of all these people, despite their well-wishes and support, and it's driving me a little crazy to feel like this on top of the constant starvation of a liquid-diet and the anxiety of the major surgery I'm about to have.
It kind of feels like... like I'm excited, but I'm not as excited as the people around me, and I'm not sure what to do with that. Am I already failing mentally as a WLS patient? Does/did anyone else feel like this?

Sorry for the essay, ugh.

@Pearldrop Week 3 is supposed to be mushy foods, so next week. I did try soft scrambled egg last night and it was AWFUL!!! I love eggs, but to me it tasted terrible and it was so difficult to get down that I abandoned it. So I could easily see how solid foods will make us more aware of our shrunken stomach.
However, I did eat a square of dark chocolate with no problems. Scary that I can eat that. I am stuck at 271 lbs for almost a week now.
Good for you for getting so much Water in. Geez, I can barely get 40 oz

I do a lot of food based Protein. I do have one protein smoothie every morning that gives me a good "head start" for the day, buy the rest comes from 100% food based.
I would research high protein foods and get an idea of what you like vs. what you don't like. Your taste buds could change after surgery, but it mostly has to do with things being overly sweet after surgery. I eat a lot of the following:
- eggs, all different ways
- Greek yogurt
- tuna packets
-jerky
-cottage cheese
-chick peas
- Brussels sprouts
-Fairllife Milk with Sugar Free Chocolate Syrup.< br /> -Almonds
-Meat, meat and meat. I don't discriminate with meat. I also eat soy meat 2-3 times per week. I find different ways to mix it up, as to not get bored.

I do truly believe that many people get the procedure due to wanting to get someone to notice or think that with this surgery their insecurities will be gone. Society has already made it a trend that smaller is best, instead of healthy is best. So that I believe is where people on here begin to obsess over the rate of weight loss even as little as 5-6 days out.
This surgery WILL NOT...I repeat WILL NOT fix mental health issues. And recognizing depression or other mental struggles early in the process, I believe in the end will enhance the weight loss long term. Stress and other mental factors can cause weight gain, ultimately leaving the sleeve ineffective.
I personally don’t think that all know they are suffering mentally until after the surgery. So a post op therapist should be something to consider.

Thank you all so very much for the suggestions! And I really appreciate the support!
It is so wonderful to be in a place where there is so much understanding and great advice!
Much love to you all and best wishes on your journeys!

My surgery is over. Even had hiatal hernia repaired while in surgery. No pain, no vomiting or dry heaves! First week was hardest with Clear Liquids only. Second week so much better with yogurt & Protein Drinks for strength. Dr. Ponce was awesome even though he doesn’t speak English! I’m looking forward to eating solids in the future!

I don’t think that your throat and stomach are showing signs of being hungry. These feelings/sensations are normal for almost everyone. After surgery my throat was dry/sore and a bit pulsating but I contribute that to the breathing tube; my stomach gurgled and made all sorts of loud noises the first few post op. My stomach still makes those noises but not as loud.
These feelings will fade, just continue with your doctors orders and make sure you get your Fluid in

I got a rash too. But I left the hospital with it, they think I had a reaction to the sticky film they cover your belly with when they do surgery. Mine stayed with me for two weeks...all gone now. I was sleeved May 14 and I am happy to say that I am almost in Onederland! Weighed in at 200 lbs this morning! I was 250 at Christmas, 232 when I began my pre-op diet and 226 the day of surgery...color me happy!

I had my sleeve 4-3-18. My husband knew and some other people knew, but not the date. I definitely didn't want his family knowing because they are drama fanatics. So, I told his Aunt because she invited us for Easter and I couldn't eat because I was on my pre op diet and I told her not to tell anyone. We told everyone else I was dieting. Well, guess what she ran her mouth and now won't even talk to me at all. Oh well, it's my life. I've also had people tell me I didn't need the surgery. I'm 5'2 and weighed 230 which medically is morbidly obese. Plus, I had co-morbidities. To hell with everyone else. I'm happy with my decision.

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Because she also has some issues that contribute to the problem that aren’t her fault. I’m mainly just frustrated.

She is also obese but she also has some other issues that make it worse because she almost can’t control it.

So I haven’t told many people about me going through the process to have WLS my surgery is scheduled for July 3rd and I just don’t particularly care to hear about others opinions on it at this point in my journey. Well today I find out my grandmother is going around telling EVERYONE who will listen about me having the surgery. I. AM. PISSED. I didn’t even tell her about it so someone else apparently needed to share information about it as well. Now all I’ve heard all day is how I don’t need the surgery and how I don’t even look “big” enough to have the surgery. I’m 5’3 and weighed 250 lbs at the beginning of my pre-surgery weight loss. That is medically considered obese. I’m so frustrated right now and I just don’t know what to do about this situation. I can’t necessarily tell my grandmother to STFU lol. I tried telling her I wasn’t okay with her sharing that information but it didn’t phase her at all. I’m seriously going to lose it if I hear one more time that I’m being stupid or making a huge mistake. I don’t need the negativity when I’m this close to surgery.

Thanks, Pearldrop! I'll start preparing my bariatric-friendly appetizers!

I’m RSVPing to your party. I’m so sorry you are going through this, I hope there is something that can be done to help you.
Wishing you all the very best xxx

He gave me odd instructions. Come back in 2 1/2 months. That made me think there's some kind of insurance requirement that he needs to meet. I wish I were a quick thinker. I came up with all sorts of questions this morning, but was a total blank in his office. UGH! It didn't sound like there was anyway to give my esophogus dance lessons. But, my gosh, it has been darned efficient up to now! Who'd have thought you could get to 272 lbs without a superb intake system!

I am in the mood for a grade-A pity party and you're all invited!
Some of you know that I'm 3.5 months post-op and got cleared for solid foods at 6 weeks. My formerly cast-iron stomach is now made of blown glass (thanks for the visual, @Frustr8) and can't tolerate much of anything, especially anything that looks or feels like solid food. I decided a couple of weeks ago to give up on solids for now and stick with mushy foods, like Soups and yogurt. I thought I'd try solids again in July.
About 3 weeks ago my surgeon sent me to get an upper GI done to see if he could figure out why I was having so much trouble with solids. I had a follow-up with him yesterday to discuss the results. My esophogus doesn't work! I've never even heard of that! Apparently, the muscles in your esophogus are supposed to contract in a coordinated, rhythmic pattern to push and guide food down to your stomach. Instead of getting coordinated ballroom dancers, my muscles are more like the lanky guy that looks like a spider on a hot plate. The muscles just randomly contract all over the place and do nothing to help the food get to the stomach. So, when I've felt like the food was backed up to the back of my throat, it really was. That was why I was miserable for 2 hours after eating anything solid. My esophogus "tube" literally got stuffed and didn't empty. I've also got severe acid reflux which he thinks can make the esophogus even worse, besides the possibility of acid erosion and increased chances of esophogeal cancer.
So for now, he told me to stick with mushy foods until I see him again in September. At that point, he'll run some more tests and decide if I need a sleeve-to-bypass conversion. It wouldn't help the esophogus muscle contractions per se, but by lessening the chances of acid erosion it would keep the esophogus from getting any worse. He doesn't know when or if I will ever be able to handle real, solid foods like beef or chicken. Fortunately, I can eat ground meats if they are in a liquid, but absolutely nothing without liquid. Fish is fine since it was always on the mushy-food list, but 1 oz. max. And, absolutely no breads, rice, etc. as they would be easily stuck.
I guess I never noticed the problem because I always drank so much with meals that I would just wash the food down. The doc doesn't want me doing that though, probably because that makes it so much easier to overeat. Anyway, he says he's never seen anything like this in the thousands of surgeries that he's performed. Lucky me! WAAAAAAH!
OK, rant over. Feeling better now Thanks for "listening"!

So today I realized a work dress I have not worn in 3 years fits, I lost 6 pound in a week, and I choked on a Tylenol. Grind your pills people.

How are you all doing ?

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I had my surgery 6/5 and I feel good so far! My highest recorded weight was 256.12 lbs. The day of surgery after following the 10-day liquid diet I was down 13.8lbs. I was diagnosed with NALDS last fall. Hopefully The RNY will help me with my other commobidities. Please share your journey on this thread with words of encouragement and support.

Thanks guys I am taking the soonest appointment

So I am going to preface this by saying I work in surgery at a hospital affiliated with the hospital I am having my WLS at so not telling people was not an option for me.
I have to do six nutrition appointments for insurance approval and have my last appointment next week. After that appointment they submit to insurance and will call when approved (they say a few days our insurance is fast I am told). That is when I will get my surgery date. My mom had surgery at the same place last week and when they called her to set a surgery date it was two weeks out...so I will not have a lot of notice.
I work directly with one other woman, she is a huge gossip so I didn't tell her I was having WLS until about three weeks ago, she assured me she would not tell anyone else since I am anxious I won't get it for some reason but she told everyone, and she complained a lot about me, saying I was selfish to have this surgery in the summer and I was going to screw up her vacation in September...
I was upset, IMO understandably so, but I am hoping to have my surgery early in July so even with 6 weeks off work I would be back in time. I came in to work today and she starts grilling me on a surgery date which I still don't have. (I called her out on telling everyone so I believe she thinks I will no longer tell her anything which outside of a surgery date and work info I will not be sharing anything with her). She informed me she is taking off two weeks in July now too...
So after stressing and counting out weeks to try and accommodate her September vacation, she is throwing more time off in around when I need to have surgery.
Does anyone have any advice, I had fully intended to take first available surgery date, is that selfish? Should I schedule later to accommodate her July time?
I know right now I am running what ifs through my head they might not schedule me as early as I had hoped...but I feel lik she has pushed me into an impossible situation. Any suggestions on what to do and how to handle her jealousy?