Pearldrop

Had champagne for Christmas and ouch! Switched to a dry rose after 2 sips and it was divine with the seafood buffet. I ate well, stuck to my portions and had a great day

The post surgery heart burn.... I’m a year out and still take my daily tablet for heartburn, dr did mention it, but I was overly optimistic that the weight loss would get rid of it.
the daily Vitamins, for the rest of my life, I really notice if I forget for a day or two. The neck when you are losing weight can look a bit loose, fine now! But for a month or so looked really odd....think fat barstard from Austin Powers lols
But I will take all of this for how amazing I feel, I have so much more energy, and enjoy seeing myself in the mirror. Wish I’d done it earlier!

A few people lately have told me I am exercising too much. Going to the gym and taking classes is something I love doing now. I don't go multiple times a day. I feel healthy and fit. But several people really close to me have expressed "concern" that I've transferred my food addiction to an addiction to exercise and I am overdoing it and using it as a new coping mechanism. These people never said a word to me when I was literally eating myself to death. I don't know how to feel. I don't feel like I am overdoing the exercise - I give myself time to rest and work different muscle groups each time or alternate with cardio. I am kinda angry that now these people are giving me a hard time about something I feel is actually bettering me physically and emotionally, when they sat idly and watched me eat bags and bags of fast food and gain 150lbs in the last 9 years and never expressed any concern over that. Today I hit 130lbs down in less than 9 months and I'm well on my way to my personal goal weight well before my one year anniversary. I am finally proud of myself and confident and angry that these people aren't happy for me and are now telling me I am taking things to the extreme.
I was about to apologize for the rant, but realized I'm in the right forum. LOL.
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Well Pearldrop I might be 3 months behind you but I see my GOAL shining ahead also. Just 4 kilos away if my equivalents are correct. I always kind of liked myself inside but now I am a Proud Frustr8 booster and I don't care who knows it! Come a long way, didn't think at first I COULD DO IT but I found hidden reserves of strength, kept going over obstacles and around bends, and I AM A PRETTY FINE LADY. when all's Said and Done!

You all look fantastic. I’m almost at goal, those last few kilos is proving difficult. But since the surgery, and the 30 kilo loss, I’m finding I like myself more and I treat food as fuel as opposed to the enemy. This means I chose better options based on Vitamins and nutrition as opposed to ‘comfort’. I have more energy and excising is physically easier, still mentally hard in winter! Best thing I ever did

You are doing the right thing by taking back control. Reread the information and advise you were given at surgery. Check your Water intake, are you drinking enough? Be mindful of what you are eating, time, amounts and Snacks. Eat tasty salads and Soups for your veggies and eat your Protein first.
youve got this, be kind to yourself.
you may also want to check in with a nutritionist, Keto/Atkins ect aren’t always good for everyone

I’m sorry you are dealing with the loss of your parents, that is tough. Remember to be kind to yourself and go back to basics.
lots of Water, some exercise, healthy tasty food and reach out here and to your friends for emotional support.
if you can speak with a nutritionalist to find out what else you can do related to your food/fuel needs

I’m sorry you are dealing with the loss of your parents, that is tough. Remember to be kind to yourself and go back to basics.
lots of Water, some exercise, healthy tasty food and reach out here and to your friends for emotional support.
if you can speak with a nutritionalist to find out what else you can do related to your food/fuel needs

You are doing the right thing by taking back control. Reread the information and advise you were given at surgery. Check your Water intake, are you drinking enough? Be mindful of what you are eating, time, amounts and Snacks. Eat tasty salads and Soups for your veggies and eat your Protein first.
youve got this, be kind to yourself.
you may also want to check in with a nutritionist, Keto/Atkins ect aren’t always good for everyone

Didn’t corsets go out with the Victorians? Do we really need to put ourselves through that kind of discomfort?

Push up bra or like get on the floor and exercise?!?

Any way here are my swim suits for this season. No bikinis. Just not my style. I love the black one but my butt squooshes out. Probably not noticeable to anyone but me though.

Got this black push up bikini with tummy control at Target!

Solidarity ✊

In an effort to embrace reality and with a healthy dose of encouragement from “Shrill”, I decided I’m wearing a bikini this summer. stretch marks, scars, loose skin and all. All of these bathing suits are at Target. I bought the red one in a smaller size.
STATS: I’m 202lbs. I’m 7 months post gastric bypass and I’ve lost 119 lbs. My goal weight is 145. Yes, I plan to have plastic surgery down the road but that won’t fix my brain so I’ve been working on that for now.
Don’t leave me hanging -- PLEASE POST YOUR BATHING SUIT OPTIONS FOR SUMMER!

As a sleever I’m not suffering with the too stinky poo.....yet, it may be a gift later down the track as I’m only week 3, but my gas is bad.
Its loud, not overly smelly, and I can’t hold them in. It’s worse when I’m walking fast. So embarrassing in the office!!

Could it be linked to your cycle? Prior to having a hysterectomy my weight would fluctuate around 5 pounds a week before and the week of my period. Mostly due to bloating and Fluid retention, and a little bit cravings.

I'm so excited today! I am no longer "Obese." I weighed this morning and am officially "overweight!" My highest recorded weight about 3 yrs ago was 242 lbs. That equals a BMI of 48.9 and is Class 3 Morbid obesity. I had a BMI of 46.2 when I started my bariatric journey last June. Today, at 147 lbs, my BMI is 29.7! I am finally just "overweight!"

I just want to cry. Scratch that, i have cried. Today is 4 months since surgery (sort of, since I had surgery 10/29). I had a great first two months. Felt good, everything was going smoothly. Then the acid reflux started. A bit at first, then worse, even on 2 Nexium a day. OK, I could handle that. Then, about a month ago, the nausea started. I just can't deal with it. Seems to be getting worse every day. I feel worse now than I ever did before surgery. I can eat less now than when I started on solid foods. This is the first time I haven't been able to hit my Protein goals since day 3 after surgery. I even have trouble getting in all of my liquids because I can't drink for forever after eating (maybe 1.5-2 hours). And I have to eat All.The.Time because I can eat so little at a time now. I'm doing my best, but the nurse is starting to worry they need to put in a PICC line to get fluids/nutrition in (luckily, she told me today she doesn't think that is necessary yet.
Had an upper GI. They found a hernia, but saw no GERD. I got a hold of my doc's nurse. She'd talked to my doc. They don't really know what is causing it. She said they could do an endoscopy, but that he thinks he won't really find anything new. And he doesn't want to repair the hernia (again) until I lose more weight. Doc apparently wants to revise to bypass. But, for a number of reasons, I don't. Particularly since they don't really know what's wrong and can't tell me the bypass will help. I mean, I can barely eat now - and if bypass doesn't fix it I'll be even more malnourished than I am now. So, for now, he's prescribed a different reflux med, given me anti-nausea meds, and OK'ed me to lower my protein goals (protein supplements REALLY make me sick).
my nurse keeps telling me that this isn't the rest of my life and they'll figure it out. But, I'm still worried and frustrated and sick as a dog. I'm not really looking for suggestions, or reasons I'm wrong not to want the bypass. My two close friends are having family emergencies and I don't want to burden them now. So I just need a space to let it out. Thanks.

And really glad I have an appointment with my therapist on Tuesday.

Thanks for your thoughts guys. To update, I spoke with her today and was gently honest with her about my feelings. I said I understood if she couldn't be part of my support system in this but that I really needed her to not be overtly negative about my body or my choices. She responded by saying that I was being frivolous with my money considering that I'd probably need a bunch of plastic surgery to fix all the "hanging skin" I'm going to end up with. She must've been holding on to that one for a while.
I'm making the healthy choice not to contact her. Turns out that for my own self preservation I can't support her through whatever she's going through mentally right now. I hope things change for her down the road and I'm leaving the door open for our friendship to heal if it can.
I didn't say this so thanks for letting me say it here:
But do you know what just pisses me OFF?!?! Frivolous with money?? Guess who decides that? Me and the person I'm married to FFS. Also, for her information my husband, who has lost 75lbs and looks sexy AF, is pretty on board with my decision to get new boobs down the road! And she is the epitome of a money waster. Spent the inheritance from her mother (25K!) to get necessary training and certification for a new career/starting her own business. And guess who's not working right now because she's decided, 9mo later, that it's not really her "thing" Now THAT is frivolous. I saved my own life with my money thanks very much, *insert immature name-calling here*

I'm really frustrated with my best friend and I'm not sure what I'm gonna do about it so I came here to rant into the abyss.
She said some hurtful things that I'm having a hard time letting go of. Every time we speak she comments about needing to get on track with her diet so that I don't pass her up. It sucks! I didn't realize that my role in our friendship was being the fat one and I guess it's important to her that it stay that way. She is also overweight but has never been morbidly obese. My current weight is probably about where her highest weight has been but she is less right now. Every time we speak she asks me how I'm doing with my weight loss and asks a lot of detailed questions most of which I'm happy to answer as we've been friends for 10 years. Then 2 weeks ago, she sent me a text saying that she doesn't want to talk to me right now because watching me lose weight and looking better is upsetting to her. She said it is triggering her eating disorder of which I was unaware. I responded compassionately even though I was upset and told her it was ok for her to be honest with me about her feelings.
I expected to give her some time and space and see how things go but she texts me almost every day with something sad and horrible about missing her mom or depression or anxiety or her wife or her son's behavior problems and it feels like she's leaning really heavily on me. This might just be a season in our friendship were she needs more support than I do right now. But it's hard for me to hang in there when she says unsupportive things to me and then expects me to just keep responding to 2am texts. Luckily for both of us she lives in another state so she never has to see the look on my face when she makes those comments.
I only told 5 people about my surgery: my mom, my 2 sisters, my husband and my best friend. She lives in another state and we probably only talk about once a month these days. I was counting on her as part of my support system.
She is going through a lot, like all of us. She suffers from depression, struggles with money, has some family issues and lost her mom a year ago. I love her and I worry about her. It makes me sad that I feel like our friendship is not healthy for me.

I have a birthday booking 4 weeks post my surgery at my favourite restaurant. I know I won’t be able to indulge like I used to, but I also won’t look like a split sausage in my jumpsuit either! It’s going to be really tough as they serve the best oysters and I doubt I’ll be able to eat even one at that stage. I am mourning that loss.

I’m 6 months out and so far so good with zero Hair loss. I have been extremely lucky in being able to drink a lot of Water from the start, maybe that helped??
I keep up my Protein and Vitamins as well, but haven’t done anything special. I suspect it’s genetics at play.
I did purchase a wig just in case, will leave it another 6 months and will resell it if I don’t end up needing it.
i hope you are as lucky

Not sure what the post care service is for you, but I’d go back to the tea and seek some help and referrals.
prior to my surgery I did hypothearpy, this was helpful for me. I also keep a diary of my moods and what I eat. This helps with the emotional eating, although I do still have some old habits, that I’m continuing to work on. My other thing is to brush my teeth after I’ve eaten and sip on Water til my next meal time.
i wish you well, let me know how you go

Thanks everyone! The most common reaction was a sort of bemused hug for a first greeting, only for them to circle back 15 minutes later for a much warmer hug and a very delighted “you look amazing” or “that dress is killer”, etc. Like they had to process it for 15 minutes to settle on their actual reaction. Women MUCH quicker on the uptake than men and they usually didn’t need the extra 15 mins. And I still suspect people are hugging me so much to check for industrial scaffolding or optical illusions.
The ones who thought I was a wife were mostly junior firm members who SHOULD know who I am but don’t have a lot of exposure to me. Interesting to hear who they were marrying me off to, though!

I forgot to take full body shots at the event, but here's the initial "should I buy this?" dressing room image. Ignore bra straps visible in photo, wore a strapless bra on the night. And I wore MUCH better shoes, and unbelievably, they didn't hurt even after four hours of mingling - these were spike heels. And did I mention that freakishly, my shoe size went down .5? This entire experience is bizarre.
Some of my colleagues didn't recognize me and apparently asked whose wife I was.