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Futuresleevie18

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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Carolinagirl64 in Hand my Sleeve on Sept. 5, happy and miserable!   
    Hi guys, after canceling two previous surgery dates out of fear of death and losing my partner, I finally did it! I'm super happy as I'm already 23lbs down in 3wks, but I'm so miserable because I want to eat and I can't!!! lol I'm still in my liquid phase, but I've cheated a few times and thankfully I don't have any nausea or dumping. Water is still hard to swollow even with sugar free mixes, the same goes for Soups. It almost feels like it all gets stuck in my throat and then I have to wait for it to slowly digest. Overall, my scars have healed and I'm super happy with my decision. My bf still thinks it's the easy way out, but I can tell he's enjoying my newly developing body. Thank you for all your support!
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Carolinagirl64 in Hand my Sleeve on Sept. 5, happy and miserable!   
    Hi guys, after canceling two previous surgery dates out of fear of death and losing my partner, I finally did it! I'm super happy as I'm already 23lbs down in 3wks, but I'm so miserable because I want to eat and I can't!!! lol I'm still in my liquid phase, but I've cheated a few times and thankfully I don't have any nausea or dumping. Water is still hard to swollow even with sugar free mixes, the same goes for Soups. It almost feels like it all gets stuck in my throat and then I have to wait for it to slowly digest. Overall, my scars have healed and I'm super happy with my decision. My bf still thinks it's the easy way out, but I can tell he's enjoying my newly developing body. Thank you for all your support!
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Carolinagirl64 in Hand my Sleeve on Sept. 5, happy and miserable!   
    Hi guys, after canceling two previous surgery dates out of fear of death and losing my partner, I finally did it! I'm super happy as I'm already 23lbs down in 3wks, but I'm so miserable because I want to eat and I can't!!! lol I'm still in my liquid phase, but I've cheated a few times and thankfully I don't have any nausea or dumping. Water is still hard to swollow even with sugar free mixes, the same goes for Soups. It almost feels like it all gets stuck in my throat and then I have to wait for it to slowly digest. Overall, my scars have healed and I'm super happy with my decision. My bf still thinks it's the easy way out, but I can tell he's enjoying my newly developing body. Thank you for all your support!
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    Futuresleevie18 reacted to ProudGrammy in Hand my Sleeve on Sept. 5, happy and miserable!   
    @Futuresleevie18
    glad you made the wise decision to have the sleeve
    many OP are sad/mad about not being able to eat good food anymore.
    GET OVER IT
    you will eventually be able to eat other foods that you miss and like.
    Key to the sleeve and other surgeries - moderation. following the rules of
    water, Protein, carbs etc.
    you will hear the true statement on this board - that alllll docs and NUTS
    are different/theories/comments food plans. Listen /use all the good comments/advice/experiences from OP - but at the end of the day ONLY
    follow the directions/advice of your DOC. Like you said plans etc varies -
    soooo NEVER/compare your stats to OP. Some OP loose diff amount of weight shorter/longer time. Don't worry - as long as you follow your plan - drinking/
    protein etc - you'll be a success too!!
    Many of us (me) will cheat a little one time or another. But at 3 weeks -
    too early in the game for you to cheat (IMO) . 23 lb down is great -congrats
    keep up the good work
    kathy
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from ProudGrammy in Hand my Sleeve on Sept. 5, happy and miserable!   
    Wow, really?! When I went for my one week follow-up, the doctor told me I'll be able to eat "mushy" foods in two weeks, but the nurse told me in 30 days. Hmm, it definitely varies. Good to know!
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from MargoCL in Hand my Sleeve on Sept. 5, happy and miserable!   
    Hmm, I'll have to try that. So far, I can only drink cold liquids. I eat ice and popsicles. I'll try room temp. To see how my body accepts it. Thanks! Congrats to you as well.
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    Futuresleevie18 reacted to MargoCL in Hand my Sleeve on Sept. 5, happy and miserable!   
    As far as your liquids go, you may have to experiment with temperatures. My new pouch changes its mind almost weekly ss to how hot or cold it wants something. Immediately post surgery it was room temp, then it wanted ice cold, back to room temp... there's a pattern here and my best advice is change it up, your body knows best.

    Congratulations on a successful recovery, keep up the good work
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    Futuresleevie18 reacted to Jingle123423 in Hand my Sleeve on Sept. 5, happy and miserable!   
    I wonder why post-op instructions very so wildly. I was sleeved Sep 5, and I am cleared for cottage cheese, refried Beans, ricotta, oatmeal, certain fruits, chicken and fish.
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    Futuresleevie18 reacted to J San in Hand my Sleeve on Sept. 5, happy and miserable!   
    Congrats on your surgery!! Try slowing down when you drink and/or taking smaller sips, consuming less. I had the same issue and figured out that I was taking in just a bit to much. By consuming less each time but sipping more often it worked out great. Good luck to you on your journey!!!
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Carolinagirl64 in Hand my Sleeve on Sept. 5, happy and miserable!   
    Hi guys, after canceling two previous surgery dates out of fear of death and losing my partner, I finally did it! I'm super happy as I'm already 23lbs down in 3wks, but I'm so miserable because I want to eat and I can't!!! lol I'm still in my liquid phase, but I've cheated a few times and thankfully I don't have any nausea or dumping. Water is still hard to swollow even with sugar free mixes, the same goes for Soups. It almost feels like it all gets stuck in my throat and then I have to wait for it to slowly digest. Overall, my scars have healed and I'm super happy with my decision. My bf still thinks it's the easy way out, but I can tell he's enjoying my newly developing body. Thank you for all your support!
  11. Like
    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Carolinagirl64 in Hand my Sleeve on Sept. 5, happy and miserable!   
    Hi guys, after canceling two previous surgery dates out of fear of death and losing my partner, I finally did it! I'm super happy as I'm already 23lbs down in 3wks, but I'm so miserable because I want to eat and I can't!!! lol I'm still in my liquid phase, but I've cheated a few times and thankfully I don't have any nausea or dumping. Water is still hard to swollow even with sugar free mixes, the same goes for Soups. It almost feels like it all gets stuck in my throat and then I have to wait for it to slowly digest. Overall, my scars have healed and I'm super happy with my decision. My bf still thinks it's the easy way out, but I can tell he's enjoying my newly developing body. Thank you for all your support!
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Frustr8 in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Thank you! I am to an extent. I've spent the last seven years of my life with him and he's been there for me through all of my ups and downs, even when he's contributed to my downs, and that is why it hurts me so much.
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Matt Z in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Hi all, I just found this website while searching for information on how to cope, when your significant other doesn't approve of your decision. Well, I am very pleased to have found this site.
    I've been struggling with my weight all of my life and I've had little successes, but somehow the weight lost, always came back 10-fold and I have had it! My primary physician gave me an initial referral about a year ago, but I didn't use it due to the fact that I wasn't completely sure that it was the best thing for me. My boyfriend also expressed his dislike towards the idea, so I went ahead with life until late last year, when I thought long and hard about putting my obesity in my past. I got another referral around December and I went in for a seminar in January, where I was given my first consultation appointment for two weeks later. I kept my appointment and when I got the chance to meet with the surgeons, I expressed to them that I would like to have my surgery done as soon as possible. I was given an initial surgery date of March 12th, however it got pushed back to April, which was fine and then it got pushed back even further in April for the 16th. Anyway, I kept all of my appointments and was very prepared for my surgery on April 16th, but when the day came, my anxiety rose and all I thought was, "God, I don't want to die," so I did not go. I called, left messages, but was later told that it's ok to not show up, but I should still get in touch with my coordinator, which I ultimately did. I asked to have my surgery at a later date because I wanted to push myself to see if this was really the best option for me. They were very gracious to give me another date in July as I had requested. I was set for July 10th and so I went back to eating regular healthy meals and working out even more. I worked out 5-7 days a week and ate clean. I love weightlifting, so I made it a priority while eating more Proteins, vegetables, Water and Protein Shakes and eliminating dairy, sugar, fried foods, etc. I was incredibly motivated to the point where I snacked on broccoli and humus, even cutting out fruits to stay away from sugars. Then I saw the scale going up and things went awry. During my pre-op liquid phase for my initial surgery date I lost 10lbs and from these pounds lost, I saw a two-pound increase within two weeks. I tried not to stress about it, but it was inevitable this past week when I saw an extra 3lbs on the scale. Unfortunately, I'm on my period and it's definitely the reason why I gained the extra 3lbs, so in the middle of my freakout I decided to go ahead and have the surgery no matter what. I emailed my coordinator and the next day the doctor called me to find out how soon I wanted it done and I told him this month. He then gave me a new surgery date, May 14th. I was happy, but still with concerns because I've never been ill and I have a fear of illness. Living alone doesn't help my fear either. Anyway, I told my boyfriend and things are not the same between us.
    My boyfriend thinks that I'm taking the easy way out, that I have zero control, that I am being inconsiderate of him, that I will become ill and regretful and he's also expressed that he wants out of the relationship because he doesn't want someone who's lazy and wants a leg up. I tried explaining to him that it has nothing to do with getting a "leg up" or taking the easy way out, but simply for the peace of mind knowing that I'd add several more years to my life. I understand his concerns and how he's feeling, but his thoughts are so extreme that it's stressing out the both of us. I love him so much and would do almost anything for him, but I respected his views on surgery and refrained from it for many years with the hopes of losing the weight naturally, but instead I gained more weight, so right now it's difficult for me to continue respecting his feelings. I want to lose weight! I want to feel good about myself, more than I already do and I feel like this is my best option, but I am also afraid to lose him. I am stuck between a rock and a wall and I don't know how to get out. Help! How can I make him see that this is what's best for me? How do I choose between my love and my well-being? What would you do in this situation? I'd appreciate any advice you may have and thank you in advance!
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Matt Z in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Hi all, I just found this website while searching for information on how to cope, when your significant other doesn't approve of your decision. Well, I am very pleased to have found this site.
    I've been struggling with my weight all of my life and I've had little successes, but somehow the weight lost, always came back 10-fold and I have had it! My primary physician gave me an initial referral about a year ago, but I didn't use it due to the fact that I wasn't completely sure that it was the best thing for me. My boyfriend also expressed his dislike towards the idea, so I went ahead with life until late last year, when I thought long and hard about putting my obesity in my past. I got another referral around December and I went in for a seminar in January, where I was given my first consultation appointment for two weeks later. I kept my appointment and when I got the chance to meet with the surgeons, I expressed to them that I would like to have my surgery done as soon as possible. I was given an initial surgery date of March 12th, however it got pushed back to April, which was fine and then it got pushed back even further in April for the 16th. Anyway, I kept all of my appointments and was very prepared for my surgery on April 16th, but when the day came, my anxiety rose and all I thought was, "God, I don't want to die," so I did not go. I called, left messages, but was later told that it's ok to not show up, but I should still get in touch with my coordinator, which I ultimately did. I asked to have my surgery at a later date because I wanted to push myself to see if this was really the best option for me. They were very gracious to give me another date in July as I had requested. I was set for July 10th and so I went back to eating regular healthy meals and working out even more. I worked out 5-7 days a week and ate clean. I love weightlifting, so I made it a priority while eating more Proteins, vegetables, Water and Protein Shakes and eliminating dairy, sugar, fried foods, etc. I was incredibly motivated to the point where I snacked on broccoli and humus, even cutting out fruits to stay away from sugars. Then I saw the scale going up and things went awry. During my pre-op liquid phase for my initial surgery date I lost 10lbs and from these pounds lost, I saw a two-pound increase within two weeks. I tried not to stress about it, but it was inevitable this past week when I saw an extra 3lbs on the scale. Unfortunately, I'm on my period and it's definitely the reason why I gained the extra 3lbs, so in the middle of my freakout I decided to go ahead and have the surgery no matter what. I emailed my coordinator and the next day the doctor called me to find out how soon I wanted it done and I told him this month. He then gave me a new surgery date, May 14th. I was happy, but still with concerns because I've never been ill and I have a fear of illness. Living alone doesn't help my fear either. Anyway, I told my boyfriend and things are not the same between us.
    My boyfriend thinks that I'm taking the easy way out, that I have zero control, that I am being inconsiderate of him, that I will become ill and regretful and he's also expressed that he wants out of the relationship because he doesn't want someone who's lazy and wants a leg up. I tried explaining to him that it has nothing to do with getting a "leg up" or taking the easy way out, but simply for the peace of mind knowing that I'd add several more years to my life. I understand his concerns and how he's feeling, but his thoughts are so extreme that it's stressing out the both of us. I love him so much and would do almost anything for him, but I respected his views on surgery and refrained from it for many years with the hopes of losing the weight naturally, but instead I gained more weight, so right now it's difficult for me to continue respecting his feelings. I want to lose weight! I want to feel good about myself, more than I already do and I feel like this is my best option, but I am also afraid to lose him. I am stuck between a rock and a wall and I don't know how to get out. Help! How can I make him see that this is what's best for me? How do I choose between my love and my well-being? What would you do in this situation? I'd appreciate any advice you may have and thank you in advance!
  15. Sad
    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Matt Z in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Hi all, I just found this website while searching for information on how to cope, when your significant other doesn't approve of your decision. Well, I am very pleased to have found this site.
    I've been struggling with my weight all of my life and I've had little successes, but somehow the weight lost, always came back 10-fold and I have had it! My primary physician gave me an initial referral about a year ago, but I didn't use it due to the fact that I wasn't completely sure that it was the best thing for me. My boyfriend also expressed his dislike towards the idea, so I went ahead with life until late last year, when I thought long and hard about putting my obesity in my past. I got another referral around December and I went in for a seminar in January, where I was given my first consultation appointment for two weeks later. I kept my appointment and when I got the chance to meet with the surgeons, I expressed to them that I would like to have my surgery done as soon as possible. I was given an initial surgery date of March 12th, however it got pushed back to April, which was fine and then it got pushed back even further in April for the 16th. Anyway, I kept all of my appointments and was very prepared for my surgery on April 16th, but when the day came, my anxiety rose and all I thought was, "God, I don't want to die," so I did not go. I called, left messages, but was later told that it's ok to not show up, but I should still get in touch with my coordinator, which I ultimately did. I asked to have my surgery at a later date because I wanted to push myself to see if this was really the best option for me. They were very gracious to give me another date in July as I had requested. I was set for July 10th and so I went back to eating regular healthy meals and working out even more. I worked out 5-7 days a week and ate clean. I love weightlifting, so I made it a priority while eating more Proteins, vegetables, Water and Protein Shakes and eliminating dairy, sugar, fried foods, etc. I was incredibly motivated to the point where I snacked on broccoli and humus, even cutting out fruits to stay away from sugars. Then I saw the scale going up and things went awry. During my pre-op liquid phase for my initial surgery date I lost 10lbs and from these pounds lost, I saw a two-pound increase within two weeks. I tried not to stress about it, but it was inevitable this past week when I saw an extra 3lbs on the scale. Unfortunately, I'm on my period and it's definitely the reason why I gained the extra 3lbs, so in the middle of my freakout I decided to go ahead and have the surgery no matter what. I emailed my coordinator and the next day the doctor called me to find out how soon I wanted it done and I told him this month. He then gave me a new surgery date, May 14th. I was happy, but still with concerns because I've never been ill and I have a fear of illness. Living alone doesn't help my fear either. Anyway, I told my boyfriend and things are not the same between us.
    My boyfriend thinks that I'm taking the easy way out, that I have zero control, that I am being inconsiderate of him, that I will become ill and regretful and he's also expressed that he wants out of the relationship because he doesn't want someone who's lazy and wants a leg up. I tried explaining to him that it has nothing to do with getting a "leg up" or taking the easy way out, but simply for the peace of mind knowing that I'd add several more years to my life. I understand his concerns and how he's feeling, but his thoughts are so extreme that it's stressing out the both of us. I love him so much and would do almost anything for him, but I respected his views on surgery and refrained from it for many years with the hopes of losing the weight naturally, but instead I gained more weight, so right now it's difficult for me to continue respecting his feelings. I want to lose weight! I want to feel good about myself, more than I already do and I feel like this is my best option, but I am also afraid to lose him. I am stuck between a rock and a wall and I don't know how to get out. Help! How can I make him see that this is what's best for me? How do I choose between my love and my well-being? What would you do in this situation? I'd appreciate any advice you may have and thank you in advance!
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Frustr8 in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Thank you! I am to an extent. I've spent the last seven years of my life with him and he's been there for me through all of my ups and downs, even when he's contributed to my downs, and that is why it hurts me so much.
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Orchids&Dragons in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Oh my, Frust8, thank you for sharing your story with me! I am so sorry you had to go through this. It's such a shame when the people we love and care about refuse to show support when it truly counts. I'm happy you've found the strength and courage to do what you needed to do for you. I'm working on gathering my strength again. All the best to you.
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    Futuresleevie18 reacted to Creekimp13 in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Futuresleevie....if he's there after your surgery, and he starts to support you and root for your success......you'll know he loves you.
    If not....you'll know it was time to move on.
    Best wishes for a safe, effective procedure!
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    Futuresleevie18 reacted to GreenTealael in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Choose yourself
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    Futuresleevie18 reacted to TexasMommy80 in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    I’m sorry you are going through this, but if your boyfriend is using this as a way out, the may have more issues than you are aware of. My boyfriend was very much against mine and had no problem expressing that. He thought it was too risky considering my only issue was severe osteoarthritis (even though I’ve already had a knee replacement at 36). He eventually came around and now fully supports me. He is a body builder and he has been looking up healthy recipes we can both eat when I am able to again. He knows that I want to change up my focus in the gym too, so he is making me a new workout plan. I think in the long run, it’s been good for us.


    Age: 37
    Height: 5’6
    Starting BMI: 37
    VSG: 4/16/18
    Starting Weight: 241
    Surgery Weight: 229
    Current Weight: 213 (17 days post op)
    GW: 160
    MFP: Fit4LifeAR
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    Futuresleevie18 reacted to Walter.Sobchak in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Tell your boyfriend to go F**K himself.
    Get the surgery for you and to extend your life.
    Get thin and hot and find a new understanding boyfriend.
    Your boyfriend sounds like a real douchebag, VSG is not the easy way out. It is actually very hard.



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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Frustr8 in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Thank you! I am to an extent. I've spent the last seven years of my life with him and he's been there for me through all of my ups and downs, even when he's contributed to my downs, and that is why it hurts me so much.
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Orchids&Dragons in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Thank you for sharing and the advice! That's great that your bf came around and even help with the process!!! That's what my bf thinks as well because my only issue is my swollen ankles. I literally take a car (if he can't drive me) everywhere! I'm in NYC and there's no way I can take PT because my ankles swell up and hurt when I walk for too far and stand for too long. They even swell up when I sit for too long! It's major problem for me and he knows that, but somehow he is convinced that I don't need the surgery. Oh my God, I am so frustrated and undecided. 😒
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Orchids&Dragons in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Oh my, Frust8, thank you for sharing your story with me! I am so sorry you had to go through this. It's such a shame when the people we love and care about refuse to show support when it truly counts. I'm happy you've found the strength and courage to do what you needed to do for you. I'm working on gathering my strength again. All the best to you.
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    Futuresleevie18 got a reaction from Frustr8 in VSG candidate, boyfriend NOT onboard!   
    Thank you! I am to an extent. I've spent the last seven years of my life with him and he's been there for me through all of my ups and downs, even when he's contributed to my downs, and that is why it hurts me so much.

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