JennyPenny18

The guy I was dating had the same opinion. He told me multiple times that he was against the surgery because everyone who had it "got skinny, cheated on their spouse, and then left". My response was to ask how many people he knew that had gone through the surgery and had "got skinny, cheated, and left" and he told me 2. I responded with I knew of at least a dozen people personally who had either the sleeve or bypass and hadn't cheated and left. That the surgery was to be a more healthy person and this was all about me nothing to do with him. I also reminded him that if people cheat and leave that has to do with their happiness in the relationship which both parties are responsible for not just whoever is having surgery. I told him maybe he had better look in a mirror and figure out why he was so unhappy with himself and why he would be so certain that if I got healthier Id leave. I was told that I was crazy so I saved him the trouble of watching me get skinny before I left, and I left him. Haven't heard a word since. This is nothing to do with our spouses or partners this a huge step to get healthier and live a happier life. If those around us cant be our cheerleaders and support the good choices that we are making then its really time to figure out what their misconception is and can we help them see what is actually going on. If so yay and if not cut bait and run towards that better life for yourself. Its going to hurt at first but you will be so much happier and healthier in the end.

The guy I was dating had the same opinion. He told me multiple times that he was against the surgery because everyone who had it "got skinny, cheated on their spouse, and then left". My response was to ask how many people he knew that had gone through the surgery and had "got skinny, cheated, and left" and he told me 2. I responded with I knew of at least a dozen people personally who had either the sleeve or bypass and hadn't cheated and left. That the surgery was to be a more healthy person and this was all about me nothing to do with him. I also reminded him that if people cheat and leave that has to do with their happiness in the relationship which both parties are responsible for not just whoever is having surgery. I told him maybe he had better look in a mirror and figure out why he was so unhappy with himself and why he would be so certain that if I got healthier Id leave. I was told that I was crazy so I saved him the trouble of watching me get skinny before I left, and I left him. Haven't heard a word since. This is nothing to do with our spouses or partners this a huge step to get healthier and live a happier life. If those around us cant be our cheerleaders and support the good choices that we are making then its really time to figure out what their misconception is and can we help them see what is actually going on. If so yay and if not cut bait and run towards that better life for yourself. Its going to hurt at first but you will be so much happier and healthier in the end.