boringtessa

@FluffyChix Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, and thank you for your advice. You're right, of course, I need to stop being complacent about my intake and really get control over it.
So I will make an appointment to see my surgeon again and try to find a therapist. Again, I appreciate your response. I've just been feeling so sorry for myself.

Come post on the main board where we all see you. And in answer. You are still in the honeymoon. You can STILL lose weight. But, maybe YOU personally can't do anything BUT be perfect? Maybe you have to go back to your forever diet basics and follow the book? Maybe quit the cheats. Start weighing daily. Plan, weigh, measure and post all your food in a journal like MFP.

I will tell you honestly, if I didn't do that, no way would I be where I am now. I don't know too many of the posters here who would be. Most of us who have above average success in % put a heller amount of work into our daily food plans. And no, we're not perfect, but we do not try to wing it. Cuz we know that way leads to maintenance and not loss.

For me to lose, SLOWLY, I have to keep my cals consistently in the 650-850 range, 50-80g protein, and usually around <35g of carbs. It's sad. But true. ANd that's my reality. But the payoff of seeing the scale move is worth way more than that "fill in the blank" off plan food or drink. Just sayin.

Follow up with your doc. It's important and maybe your RD can help. Maybe you need to also see a therapist to help with the head work? Maybe there is a medical issue that needs to be addressed? Follow up hon. All else is pure speculation.

@CrankyMagpie, I actually just now measured (I usually measure once a month), and it looks like I WAS losing inches - that makes me feel better.
How have you been doing? Have you stalled at all?

I bet you're losing inches!

Girl, that stall will break. Give your body a minute to realize what's happening and catch up with itself...it'll kick back in gear! 💓

I am sorry to hear you are struggling. Do what you need to do to stay healthy mentally and physically. I hope you can get to the other side of your depression. Hang in there.

That is great news! I cannot wait to be smaller in the waist!

That is fantastic! I'd love to lose that much from my waist! Congrats!

Hang in there. It improves. Try sf popsicles, and many of us drink right up to 10 minutes before eating, it's more important to have the 30 minutes after the meal. At five weeks you still need protein shakes and bone broth. Anesthetic takes awhile to leave the body and you are in recovery from major surgery give it time to get your energy back, it took me awhile. Also hormones are out of whack and can cause your mood to be down. Take naps, try to get more liquid in.

I always intend on doing those things, but I go into a frenzy! But you're right to remind me of this because I NEED to make more of an effort and do the basics. Thank you!

Have you tried the usual strategies? Putting down knife and fork between bites and leave there until about 30 seconds after you've swallowed the previous mouthful. Deliberately slowing down the chewing and counting each chew until 30 or 40?

I'm so sorry for your losses. You take care, and we'll see you when you get back.

I'm sorry to hear how badly you were treated in the hospital - I was so lucky, the hospital I was at was obviously trying hard to provide amazing service.
How are you able to get that much protein during clear liquids?! Are you able to drink protein drinks already? Are you just drinking a lot of broth? I have just been drinking water and diet clear juice and trying to choke down a little broth. Tell me all your secrets!
I am glad to hear that you are doing so well, hope that walk is refreshing!

Glad to hear you're okay! I'm freaking out a little about trying to get 64oz of fluids - it seems so impossible!
I'm also glad you were able to give yourself the blood thinner - clots are a scary thing!

Tessa, every one of those feelings will still exist after the surgery. The "head" work is by far the most difficult part of this process. Are you working with a counselor? If not, try to find someone, and a bariatric specialist would be best. We all need to get our emotional/mental demons under control before we can succeed in a major life change like this. Use the members on this board for support and information. But you need personalized attention, as well. I wish you all the best.

good luck

welcome-you sound like you are in the right mind frame. talk calmly, show him that you are ready to follow ALL the rules to success with WLS. - good luck - kathy