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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from Zebby67 in Presenting our Monthly Subscription Box to meet all your dietary needs   
    Is there a cost for these boxes? If so, how much cause you've piqued my interest.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from ClarkRomulus in Regrets???   
    My regrets may or may not be responsive. I regret when I grew up, when I reached late adolesence I was told stop being such a tomboy, stop playing softball and running wild with kids your age and younger, you are a young woman ---sit down and calm down. My parents even sent me to finishing school type classes to teach me to" deport" myself better. All I remember learning were make-up techniques, how to walk smoother and seductively and how to,balance a book on top of my head. But I listened, after all Mama and Daddy told me to do it and didn't they always have my best interests at heart? So although my appetite remained the same my activity level decreased phenomenally. Sit down, do your embroidery, crochet, knit, you can get up if you go cook, the only exercise you need is vacuuming or other housework. You'll never get a husband unless you move slow, smooth and act like a perfect,lady. As i look back, I probably didn't have a boyfriend because I was starting to look chubby but about as stimulating as thick vanilla custard. I regret marrying the first man who,seemed to,look past my body to my mind. They say you always marry a man like your father, well the" late lamented" did share the "my way or the highway" mindset, although he. was taller and heavier than me he seldom missed a chance to make snide remarks about my size. But I as least had gotten a husband, in the 60 and 70s every girl was supposed to have one, so I stiffeled my snappy retorts and bore up under the burden.Although he was a city boy he ate like a farmhand. Every meal better have potatoes and meat. When I married him his idea of a good meal was creamed corn, macaroni and cheese,(and that better not be from a box! )and mashed potatoes. I could throw in a platter of some sort of roast beast or fried chicken. Dessert better be cake, pie or choco-chip Cookies. Salads-- well they were evil, I could have one if I wanted but,I sure didn't expect him to eat any, did I?" I'm not a cow or other farm animal.after all."
    And I "dumbed out", me with the Mensa level brain, but I couldn't keep a man that way, could I? So I played the game, if I raged I did it in the bathroom or behind closed doors. Oh I promised to love, I did not promise to obey but it still was implied, wasn't it?
    I had a baby 13 months later, a little girl, he wanted a girl, so did both grandmothers. Both grandmothers set out to spoil her rotten , when one of them hadn't taken her shopping he was marching her around town. Meanwhile I cooked , cleaned and sublimated my will. I guess it wasn't a bad life, just not a great one.
    When" little precious" started school I decided to try to diet,in earnest, what was my reward? I lost 50 lbs and. I got pregnant. Yeah I had begged for years to have" little precious" a sibling, now when I had picked myself up out of low self esteem-ville. I got another baby, lost weight during my pregnancy, then regained it afterwards, did it again 3 years later, same scenario except after child #3 I went into peri-menopause and the weight remained, creeping up increment by increment. I wish then I had sought bariatric surgery but no-- I would surely find the right diet, I had lost weight before, I could do it again. But no matter how I tried I didn't, got ridiculed for my salads etc so I gave up and ate the carb -heavy diet I was expected to provide my family. In 1987 I started working, activity level went up and I started yo yo-ing the same 30 lbs, family members started dying-' many of them from obesity, did it sink in? Not really, still thought I could beat it on my own. And the arthritis I had since 25 started to take its toll. Yeah I had snuck in a little playtime and activity with the children but that started to become difficult. I ended up having 2 knee replacements, one in 2014, one in 2017. I started saving my energy so I could continue working for money. And although l.l. had parted ways with his Columbus corporate job in 1985 and worked sporadically after that, I kept chugging along. Like the bumblebee that doesn't know his wings are too short to support his body weight, he keeps flying and I guess I did too.
    And my life kept on, finally when I.I. died (and God forgive me, a relief) after 44 years of marriage in 2012 I had finally time to consider my health or what remained of it. Started going to my PCP, yeah another thing I.I. was against, doctors. They're only after your money, so many a time I went to work marginally sick. Only thing PCP stated on my 1st visit" You know you are overweight" [emoji197]No I'm obese but if you aren't going to say it I won't either. Finally after several years I got brave enough to bring up bariatric surgery. He told me at that time its something I think you should consider, when you feel you're ready I'll help you find a program. Finally in August 2015 I consulted a Bariatric surgeon in Columbus and started on his hospitals program, I was getting all my prerequirements done , had dietary assistance and had even,made a noticeable weight loss and my job and health insurance terminated in January 2016. I had 5 of the 6 I thought required when this happened. So I thought there would be no use in pursuing any further, I had no money for private pay and no covering insurance. Wasn't like I was personal friends with Obama and could ask him to underwrite it. Unbeknownst to me when I got new insurance the New insurance had looser requirements, I could have had surgery then. I regret not getting in touch with the surgeon's office then but on the other hand they could have volunteered the information to me also. I started again in autumn 2017 to seek surgery from the same place, since it had been 2 years I had to duplicate all the prerequirements once again. I did so, feeling I had jumped through every hoop they requested. I was waiting to hear back from them since my stuff had been finished in mid January. Waited and waited and waited, was told February 20th all 3 surgeons in the practice had a commitee meeting and decided not to perform my surgery. I regret returning there, I regret trusting these people with my life, I had felt my best interests were being respected there, I regret being told a lie as an excuse, what I was told made no sense to me or to anyone who truly knows me.But most of all I regret the abject waste of time out of my life. Oh I can and will find a placement in another program, maybe go in with my eyes wider open. But I can and shall make a success out of shambles. Just watch me folks![emoji197]
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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from ClarkRomulus in Regrets???   
    My regrets may or may not be responsive. I regret when I grew up, when I reached late adolesence I was told stop being such a tomboy, stop playing softball and running wild with kids your age and younger, you are a young woman ---sit down and calm down. My parents even sent me to finishing school type classes to teach me to" deport" myself better. All I remember learning were make-up techniques, how to walk smoother and seductively and how to,balance a book on top of my head. But I listened, after all Mama and Daddy told me to do it and didn't they always have my best interests at heart? So although my appetite remained the same my activity level decreased phenomenally. Sit down, do your embroidery, crochet, knit, you can get up if you go cook, the only exercise you need is vacuuming or other housework. You'll never get a husband unless you move slow, smooth and act like a perfect,lady. As i look back, I probably didn't have a boyfriend because I was starting to look chubby but about as stimulating as thick vanilla custard. I regret marrying the first man who,seemed to,look past my body to my mind. They say you always marry a man like your father, well the" late lamented" did share the "my way or the highway" mindset, although he. was taller and heavier than me he seldom missed a chance to make snide remarks about my size. But I as least had gotten a husband, in the 60 and 70s every girl was supposed to have one, so I stiffeled my snappy retorts and bore up under the burden.Although he was a city boy he ate like a farmhand. Every meal better have potatoes and meat. When I married him his idea of a good meal was creamed corn, macaroni and cheese,(and that better not be from a box! )and mashed potatoes. I could throw in a platter of some sort of roast beast or fried chicken. Dessert better be cake, pie or choco-chip Cookies. Salads-- well they were evil, I could have one if I wanted but,I sure didn't expect him to eat any, did I?" I'm not a cow or other farm animal.after all."
    And I "dumbed out", me with the Mensa level brain, but I couldn't keep a man that way, could I? So I played the game, if I raged I did it in the bathroom or behind closed doors. Oh I promised to love, I did not promise to obey but it still was implied, wasn't it?
    I had a baby 13 months later, a little girl, he wanted a girl, so did both grandmothers. Both grandmothers set out to spoil her rotten , when one of them hadn't taken her shopping he was marching her around town. Meanwhile I cooked , cleaned and sublimated my will. I guess it wasn't a bad life, just not a great one.
    When" little precious" started school I decided to try to diet,in earnest, what was my reward? I lost 50 lbs and. I got pregnant. Yeah I had begged for years to have" little precious" a sibling, now when I had picked myself up out of low self esteem-ville. I got another baby, lost weight during my pregnancy, then regained it afterwards, did it again 3 years later, same scenario except after child #3 I went into peri-menopause and the weight remained, creeping up increment by increment. I wish then I had sought bariatric surgery but no-- I would surely find the right diet, I had lost weight before, I could do it again. But no matter how I tried I didn't, got ridiculed for my salads etc so I gave up and ate the carb -heavy diet I was expected to provide my family. In 1987 I started working, activity level went up and I started yo yo-ing the same 30 lbs, family members started dying-' many of them from obesity, did it sink in? Not really, still thought I could beat it on my own. And the arthritis I had since 25 started to take its toll. Yeah I had snuck in a little playtime and activity with the children but that started to become difficult. I ended up having 2 knee replacements, one in 2014, one in 2017. I started saving my energy so I could continue working for money. And although l.l. had parted ways with his Columbus corporate job in 1985 and worked sporadically after that, I kept chugging along. Like the bumblebee that doesn't know his wings are too short to support his body weight, he keeps flying and I guess I did too.
    And my life kept on, finally when I.I. died (and God forgive me, a relief) after 44 years of marriage in 2012 I had finally time to consider my health or what remained of it. Started going to my PCP, yeah another thing I.I. was against, doctors. They're only after your money, so many a time I went to work marginally sick. Only thing PCP stated on my 1st visit" You know you are overweight" [emoji197]No I'm obese but if you aren't going to say it I won't either. Finally after several years I got brave enough to bring up bariatric surgery. He told me at that time its something I think you should consider, when you feel you're ready I'll help you find a program. Finally in August 2015 I consulted a Bariatric surgeon in Columbus and started on his hospitals program, I was getting all my prerequirements done , had dietary assistance and had even,made a noticeable weight loss and my job and health insurance terminated in January 2016. I had 5 of the 6 I thought required when this happened. So I thought there would be no use in pursuing any further, I had no money for private pay and no covering insurance. Wasn't like I was personal friends with Obama and could ask him to underwrite it. Unbeknownst to me when I got new insurance the New insurance had looser requirements, I could have had surgery then. I regret not getting in touch with the surgeon's office then but on the other hand they could have volunteered the information to me also. I started again in autumn 2017 to seek surgery from the same place, since it had been 2 years I had to duplicate all the prerequirements once again. I did so, feeling I had jumped through every hoop they requested. I was waiting to hear back from them since my stuff had been finished in mid January. Waited and waited and waited, was told February 20th all 3 surgeons in the practice had a commitee meeting and decided not to perform my surgery. I regret returning there, I regret trusting these people with my life, I had felt my best interests were being respected there, I regret being told a lie as an excuse, what I was told made no sense to me or to anyone who truly knows me.But most of all I regret the abject waste of time out of my life. Oh I can and will find a placement in another program, maybe go in with my eyes wider open. But I can and shall make a success out of shambles. Just watch me folks![emoji197]
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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from ProudGrammy in Husband/Wife, both post GB interested in swinging   
    I'm living in a non sophisticated area and a little naive, I guess. I though at first of those big tall swings they have at the State Fair. You get on, then they swing you to the side when they start turning and it's like being,on a kiddie playground on steroids. Duhh i completely disregarded the other 2 kinds.
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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from jo ann c troupe in LGBT   
    Hopeful you and your partner both have a successful weight loss journey.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from jo ann c troupe in Gastric Sleeve on Wednesday!!   
    Hi gator girl- are you going to be a VSG or RnY? And when,is your surgery day so I can send good thoughts your way? Do you have a good surgeon and,if you like them? I'm still pre surg but love hearing of other journeys on here. Keep us updated on yours, okay?

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from jo ann c troupe in Gastric Sleeve on Wednesday!!   
    Greetings from snowy Ohio. I feel you're making a good step for your future health, if she couldn't support in this she wasn't the right person to share a future with. I know my late husband would have been the same way, sad isn't it? I'm going thru RnY in a few months and I'm probably old enough to be your grandmother. Shoot there are days I think I could be Methuselah s granny dragging this fat body around but I'm gonna have a good tool to,help me continue on living. Let us all know how your surgery goes you've got a worldwide Bariatric family here and we groove on success.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from Frustr8 in Incision dent   
    Think of it as a dimple, just in a strange location. Maybe you could put a small,precious,jewel there later? Just a suggestion.
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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from AEdoesRnY in Husband threatens divorce if I have surgery   
    My late husband the Somewhat Lamented was cut from much the same cloth. I sublimated my will, played roulette,with my health and 5 1/2 years after his death I've finally,booked for surgery. I am 72, had 2 knee replacements after having arthritis since 25. Was even told I did that for attention, wouldn't let me walk with the cane which would have helped my mobility. Please go forward with your plans, like others have said it is your body and,you shouldn't have. to face your mortality any sooner than necessary. If you want to talk more I'm always here and more than many others I do understand. I'm 72 and facing RnY surgery, I'm more afraid of not having this surgery, getting slower, more broken down and finally expiring. I will use this tool and use it for my health. Hope you'll still join me on this journey.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from AEdoesRnY in Husband threatens divorce if I have surgery   
    My late husband the Somewhat Lamented was cut from much the same cloth. I sublimated my will, played roulette,with my health and 5 1/2 years after his death I've finally,booked for surgery. I am 72, had 2 knee replacements after having arthritis since 25. Was even told I did that for attention, wouldn't let me walk with the cane which would have helped my mobility. Please go forward with your plans, like others have said it is your body and,you shouldn't have. to face your mortality any sooner than necessary. If you want to talk more I'm always here and more than many others I do understand. I'm 72 and facing RnY surgery, I'm more afraid of not having this surgery, getting slower, more broken down and finally expiring. I will use this tool and use it for my health. Hope you'll still join me on this journey.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from AEdoesRnY in Husband threatens divorce if I have surgery   
    My late husband the Somewhat Lamented was cut from much the same cloth. I sublimated my will, played roulette,with my health and 5 1/2 years after his death I've finally,booked for surgery. I am 72, had 2 knee replacements after having arthritis since 25. Was even told I did that for attention, wouldn't let me walk with the cane which would have helped my mobility. Please go forward with your plans, like others have said it is your body and,you shouldn't have. to face your mortality any sooner than necessary. If you want to talk more I'm always here and more than many others I do understand. I'm 72 and facing RnY surgery, I'm more afraid of not having this surgery, getting slower, more broken down and finally expiring. I will use this tool and use it for my health. Hope you'll still join me on this journey.

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  12. Haha
    kakatlady612 got a reaction from pugmom234 in The first poo   
    Or maybe No S*** Sherlock!

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  13. Haha
    kakatlady612 got a reaction from ProudGrammy in Husband/Wife, both post GB interested in swinging   
    I'm living in a non sophisticated area and a little naive, I guess. I though at first of those big tall swings they have at the State Fair. You get on, then they swing you to the side when they start turning and it's like being,on a kiddie playground on steroids. Duhh i completely disregarded the other 2 kinds.
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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from George OG in Guys: What do you do to relieve stress   
    Yeah but guys can be a generic term like" Hey you Guys " can include all of peoplekind. Peace and I'll slink my paws out of here. here. Bye bye

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from Frustr8 in Surgery, “it’s the easy way.”   
    @vanelifejourney, this sounds so familiar. Had an almost parallel coversation with someone possibly 140 lbs soaking wet. Wished he could have walked a mile in my moccasins but he b would,have found they pinched.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from Frustr8 in Surgery, “it’s the easy way.”   
    @vanelifejourney, this sounds so familiar. Had an almost parallel coversation with someone possibly 140 lbs soaking wet. Wished he could have walked a mile in my moccasins but he b would,have found they pinched.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from GreenTealael in How Come We Never Look Like We Think We Look (Especially in Photos)???   
    I have hazel eyes but when they take my pictures my eyes look red like I'm a demon.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from Frustr8 in Surgery, “it’s the easy way.”   
    @vanelifejourney, this sounds so familiar. Had an almost parallel coversation with someone possibly 140 lbs soaking wet. Wished he could have walked a mile in my moccasins but he b would,have found they pinched.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from Strivingforbetter in How Come We Never Look Like We Think We Look (Especially in Photos)???   
    I think,i look like Mama Cass of the Mamas and Papas and my father would be either Chris Farley or John candy. Yeah their love child.

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  20. Haha
    kakatlady612 got a reaction from ProudGrammy in Husband/Wife, both post GB interested in swinging   
    I'm living in a non sophisticated area and a little naive, I guess. I though at first of those big tall swings they have at the State Fair. You get on, then they swing you to the side when they start turning and it's like being,on a kiddie playground on steroids. Duhh i completely disregarded the other 2 kinds.
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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from BeeCat in cure for skin/fat roll irritation?   
    Do you know the nickname for this and panni,? Dunlap disease cause it done laps over. I can joke cause I've got it too.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from Deb100 in June 2018 RnY   
    What is so rare as a day in June?
    Then if ever come perfect days.
    Does your road to better health start
    with the beautiful days of June?
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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from moondoggie1983 in Surgery, “it’s the easy way.”   
    Once upon a time I had a doctor ( not my Bariatric Surgeon,not even my current PCP) tell me: I'd like you to weigh 148 lbs. My answer: I would too but I don't see that it Will be happening without Bariatric Surgery. If wishing weight away would work none of us would be overweight.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from madscientistmommy in WTF DID MY HUSBAND JUST SAY?   
    Since the original post etc went bye bye let me give you one from my own life
    Late Husband: You don't appreciate having,a good man.
    Me: I would if I had one, I just know I would.
    He liked to belittle me for my size and he was 3 inches taller and 35 lbs heavier , only ,thing small about him was his mind. But he firmly seemed to believe he was 185 lb like he was in high school. Sad isn't it, he came from a long line of chubby-haters, cut them out of my life after he died. Life is too short to spend mine being treated that way, took it for too long as it was. I'm a fine human being, truth is I've always been eligible for Mensa so why let them treat me like I'm the village simpleton? Thanks everybody for letting me rage, I feel MUCH better.

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    kakatlady612 got a reaction from clsumrall in The Six Month March   
    Charity will be watching you. So will I. You have 2 Bari-sisters in your corner, she'll be watching from Illinois, I'll be watching from Ohio but there will be many many more before you're through. Best wishes to Elizabeth and you tonight. We know if you set your mind to it you will be a success.

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