BrittneyH

Maybe I am worried that the men who will like me are dirt bags who only like skinny girls. At least now I am not concerned because I know they don't mine extra weight on me.

Brittney let me be kinda practical. At 148 you'll still have curves, your boobs won't have to compete with your belly for attention and your booty will be small enough a guy can hold each cheek in his hands when he pulls you close to him. Put out your sweet personality toward him and rein him in, if he has even half his hormones working he'll like what he sees, want to get closer to you, and from then you two will write your own kind of music. I wish you the best,because you deserve the best life can offer. Go for it!

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I am so glad someone posted about this now. I had sex recently and I know I have had bigger but holy wow I was tight! I am only 3 weeks out. I do not understand but I am not unhappy about it one bit!!

Thanks everyone!
I wanted to change my nutrition goals in My Fitness Pal to reflect what I should be eating.
In the early stages the goal was 75% Protein and 25% carbs but as I get farther away from my surgery date I'm finding that unrealistic to keep up with.
Before I started this thread I set mfp at 40-40-20. If I'm eating 900 calories/day that's 90g-90g-20g.
So my next question is....how many calories per day are you eating (or did you eat from 3-6 months out)?

Yes!! I've had this same thought myself. Do normal people just walk into a kitchen and leave without things on the shelves in the pantry and fridge calling to them? Was this always their life? There are times I have actual hunger and I'm in front of the fridge and nothing in particular is screaming my name. It makes it so much easier to make a healthy choice when I don't have that burning desire to eat the salty-fatty-starchy thing anymore.

I eat the tops off of pizza all the time! No bread for me.

My dear, there will be plenty of men out there! I will be perfectly honest with you I like my wimmen curvy. But at the same time the figure does not make or break the relationship. It is in the personality of the woman, if the guy doesn't see the " real" you then please leave the no good, non deserving bastard by the road and move on! You deserve the best and if he can not support you on your journey then he obviously isn't worth your time to begin with!

Maybe I am worried that the men who will like me are dirt bags who only like skinny girls. At least now I am not concerned because I know they don't mine extra weight on me.

so I don't have to do any more kegels?

That is great advise! Yes I guess it is ok if they only like skinny girls. I am normally attracted to skinny guys too so I can't be mad about that. I do know I deserve an amazing man. I guess maybe I will have more options.

yeah, you loose your front meat, my camel toe is really non existent.

Attraction is a weird animal, it can be started by eye contact, a sly smile, the voice, the rear view, rogue haircut...etc The initial impression can then be reinforced or completely spoiled by behavior or personality or lack of education. (Also bad kisser)
A person has to be well groomed, and in my experience a lot of obese people lack self esteem and as a consequence neglect themselves, not all, but a great many. No hairstyle, sloppy clothes, not smiling, not making eye contact, slouching, etc. (I also see normal weight people disheveled as well, but percentages are higher in the overweight category)
In my past, I have only had a couple flirting/dating occasions with obese men (not morbid, just obese) but they had on suits or stylish clothes, polished shoes, smelled devine, smiled, could hold a conversation beyond the weather, and were polite. I would not have eliminated them based on being obese.
My husband of 20 years is normal weight, is an amazing man - but did not have the looks that normally attract me - (dark hair, dark eyes, grinning, witty-chatter-tight-jean-wearing dude) - BUT he is super intelligent, blond (ish), responsible, respectful, loves to dance, loves music, reads, and the best kisser....and at times still surprising. And loves me entirely for me - that is key, as we all know you cannot fall in love with just part of a person - and you cannot change anyone.

so I don't have to do any more kegels?

I am also a single cat guy. I have one beautiful floof and my roommate has another. I couldn't imagine not having cats!

so I don't have to do any more kegels?

Just you wait girl, its amazing and overwhelming the amount of attention that happens ( well from my experience) dont worry too much what will happen will happen just continue with openmindedness

I dont like people at any size. That doesn't mean im not a good person. someone 400lbs is not what I am attracted too sexually or any other way , i am still a good person and treat everyone well just not my type the whole " find someone who would like you at any size makes me laugh , we all have a certain thing that may attract us even if we are open to all people. some men like all sizes sure, but their is nothing wrong with a man that prefers a 130 over 250 or the other way , people think a guy who liks 250 girl is some how less shallow but people dont realise that alot of the time its jut were his sexual attraction lies, which is no harm but swap it round to i prefer slim girls and people get called shallow but its okay if people prefer fat girls lol

but your right since being not super obese my standards are higher and the men who are attracted to me are slim work out etc, its not something im used too. slimmer women had always been attracted to me at any size how ever which is interesting.

Oh no, still do them
But now it'll be worth it
Lol

so I don't have to do any more kegels?

so I don't have to do any more kegels?

I don't understand... I am only 2 weeks post surgery. What gets smaller? The fat around your kitty? Sex feels different? Is it good or bad?

Well I am a week out from my sleeve, I think things are going well, still some pain and discomfort but gets better everyday, I’m getting up in the morning and having a 10oz cup of Decaf coffee with caramel Protein as a Creamer, takes me about an hour to drink it. I’m having a cream Soup or lunch which I can get about 8 baby spoons full down before I’m stuffed. Then maybe a little yougurt at night, I have been walking some and using the nectar Protein in Water so I can get close to my protein goal
There have been some emotional breakdowns especially since my wife has gone back to work but I’m not regretting it.
SW 286
CW 262

My Nutritionist said to try and get 400-500 calories a day for the first week but mostly to focus on getting in enough liquids. 48-64 Oz of liquids a day. I reached my calorie goal easily when I ate Cream of Wheat. I waited about a week after surgery to eat that though, but it is high in Carbs and calories but delicious and pretty easy to get down. I am now in my second week and am told to get in 500-600 calories a day. My surgery was on 2/12 and I just got back to work today. I work a desk job. I am still in some pain and wish I could take some of my harder meds, but I will wait until after work so that I can stay coherent.

I don't have a pre-surgery diet! Just nothing after midnight the night before and had to stop taking all my Vitamins.

I have been thinking about this and I think I will finally treat myself to the lion head tattoo on my back I have been planning. It will look better when I am slimmer and will be a symbol of my strength and courage through this all!