MissLindseyR

See I did that thing where I was all nah, it's been a rough Monday, I don't want to go walk, even when my 9 year old suggested it!! And then tried to eat more than needed. That's those old behaviors! Walking and exercising help me, I need to get back to them. Thank you for your reply. I'm going to check this article out!

It is just a tool! I enjoyed food too. I think that's my problem, I looked at food and eating almost as an event instead of fuel. How have you overcome some of these mental struggles? I will say I am proud I am realizing what I am doing now and not in denial over it.

It is hard. It is so hard! I'm going to work on this. I understand about the muffins. In my mind, I would say hey they are good and eat way more than I should, or have one everyday and it would make things worse. Dang the food! Well, I am thankful for my tool and don't want to mess this up. I'm going to work on thinking of more things to do in the evening. I need to also break my idea of tv and food as one.

See I did that thing where I was all nah, it's been a rough Monday, I don't want to go walk, even when my 9 year old suggested it!! And then tried to eat more than needed. That's those old behaviors! Walking and exercising help me, I need to get back to them. Thank you for your reply. I'm going to check this article out!

I will keep these tips in mind. It is true, life isn't fair, no matter which side you look at. And I enjoy the feeling of being 80lbs smaller, so why does my mind want to sabotage it. Maybe it's an old habit I'm trying to break.

I agree!! When I was 3 weeks out, my surgery office allowed mashed potatoes. Well I ate those potatoes, and I gained weight! At 3 weeks!!! I stalled for 3 weeks as well, we realized I couldn't have the mashed potatoes. Even though I ate like 200 calories, my body still held on to them and gained weight. I realized then that even though I have had this surgery, I still have to work at it. I will not be able to eat whatever and lose weight. To this day, I'm scared of mashed potatoes haha!

I feel you. Evenings get me, I'm learning to fill them with other things though. I could say I don't sit and watch tv, but that's a lie. I have a full time job and I'm a mom and soon to be wife, so sometimes I just want to turn my brain off and watch tv. But I have to limit it and try to keep busy, like I'll do laundry and tv. It seems if my hands are kinda busy then I don't snack. It's sad but it's what I have to do. It's crazy to think this is what we have to do the rest of our lives! But we did pick this decision and if you were like me, the benefits of being able to do more out weight the food. So the fair will be here next weekend. Last time I went, a few years ago, I was hot, sweaty, large, and just ate all the foods. I'm excited to actually take the girls. I used my weight as an excuse for not doing stuff with them. It hindered their lives, I feel horrible about it. But I don't get near as hot or out of breath so we do more!!! They love it, I love it, and it's ok that I won't have a funnel cake.

That's so crazy. I've always been told we never loose our fat cells, they just shrink. So it makes perfect sense. I follow a few ladies that are a couple of years out of surgery and they still track, work out, meal plan, all the things we do today. I track my food everyday. I have to, or I'll over eat, even with my new stomach. I have to see those calories. I also wear a fit bit to see how many calories I burn in a day to know I'm in a deficit. It's hard, but it's the new way of life in order to stay healthy. My sister in law told me she could not do what I did, surgery wise, because she loves food. I told her it's hard, but I love being able to walk without being out of breath, and chase my 2 year old at the park. The benefits out weight the food I'm missing. But honestly, their are so many other options now with everyone going Keto or low carb. I made Protein brownies a couple of week ago, the girls loved them. But even with that, I have to make sure I have 1....not 5 or 6.

Yeah, I can't do moderation, I know if I have a bite of Pasta, I will over do it and not look back. If I want this to work, I have to limit what foods I allow and this is probably forever. I agree with you, we will always be in recovery and I'm pretty sure I'll always be fat, even if just mentally. It took 30 years to get me to the size I was preop, you can't just erase that. Granted, it was a lot of childhood trauma and such, and I'm much happier and heck even safer than as a child, but that damage was done and I'm trying to recover and just be a better and healthier person for my family. I will say it is hard with having two younger girls, I allow them treats and such, I just don't eat them along side them now. Speaking of, they put a Cinnabun in our mall, OMG! I'm so glad smells don't have calories because that's all I do, just take in the smells. haha. See, still a fat kid!

Ugh, I've been doing so good and then my mind tries to destroy it. On Saturday night, my fiancé and I ordered Mexican. That's not a big deal, I get just chicken and veggies and eat like 1/16th of it. But I was mad that I couldn't eat more. I kept waiting every 30mins and taking more bites. It got ridiculous. I realized it was ridiculous. I know this is all a mind game and my mind is just catching up and realizing my new stomach can't do what it wants. But I fear if I do not get this under control, I may stretch my pouch out. Does anyone have any issues similar with mentally wanting to binge? How do you cope? I wasn't even that hungry, but it was almost like I was sad I couldn't watch tv and binge like in the past. I did it again last night, I kept wanting to eat more food. Thankfully my food choices are not bad, but if I'm already fighting this, I worry about the future.

See mine would be after dinner time (6ish) until sleep time (9sih). That's my witching hours. I'm going to start calling it that! Haha.

It is just a tool! I enjoyed food too. I think that's my problem, I looked at food and eating almost as an event instead of fuel. How have you overcome some of these mental struggles? I will say I am proud I am realizing what I am doing now and not in denial over it.

Hello! I had a few pepitas last night and was fine. I'm starting to think I had overfilled my pouch and that's what caused.

I don't know if this helps, but my program allowed mashed potatoes. Well, I ate them and it halted my weight loss for 3 weeks. We decided for my body, that I can't have straight potatoes like that. Now I limit carbs to around less than 50g a day.

Oh no! Pepitas, spicy, are a common go-to for me when peckish. I have never had any ill effects.
BUT - some people do develop odd inteolerances after surgery, and suddenly react against things like dairy that were fine before.
So play it cautious. Have a 100% safe meal. Add a few pepitas and see what happens... be your own careful lab rat! Let us know!!

I felt this way too at two weeks out. But mine wasn't my tummy, I had a yeast rash all over my incisions and everything, it was pretty miserable. But at two months, I can tell you, I love it. I struggle still, I recently wrote about bingeing and my bypass so it's still a mental challenge. But it gets easier the further you go. Just keep sipping and walking.

I wish you well. This seems to be a normal situation but I haven't heard much about it from men. Also never once did my team mention it throughout my whole process. This concerns me. It seems it would be an important topic.

I am 72,have lost over 15 pounds in August alone on my liver shrinking diet, will be having RNY surgery on September 5th. And I am a sluggish loser of weight so it truly can be done. Age is no barrier to success! If I can do it,others can too.😝🌈😝

First post for me on this great forum and perfect topic for me right now! I had my first consult for a sleeve a week ago and am working on weight loss before my next appointment on 10/5. At first all was well then my beast roared awake and stomping!! I have not lost weight and am eating like a starving fool. Great ideas here—I’m going to start with planning and tracking calories. And walking. It is so crazy, this addiction, and at 67 I am OVER having it run my life, wreck my joints, etc. So there & thanks for great ideas.

I’m starting to do this now. I just thought it was me. Glad to hear others r going through it. To stop I keep saying yo myself that I don’t want to go backwards.

^^^This. It's an important point.
What's the alternative?
You keep doing the same thing over and over and over again that has always failed in the past, and expect "this time to be different."
It's a sobering thought and process to get to the answer of weight loss surgery. I had to release a lot of pride in order to admit to myself that I needed help. And as Kitty and others have said, the surgery is just one of the tools that we receive from the process of WLS and life-after-WLS.
If I had it to do all over again, I would do it in a heartbeat (cept I would ask for a tum as tiny as Kitty's)--only I wouldn't have dic*ed around for 2 years wasting precious time. I woulda just leapt into it and got-her-done!

Cravings and hunger will be there with or without WLS. Some have reduced physical and head hunger (me, most days), but others don't.
But just because WLS isn't a magic wand, doesn't mean we shouldn't go through with it. It is a powerful tool. For me, I have never lost weight so fast and so easily. It's not easy, but it's easier than any other diet I've been on.
What's the alternative? Remain overweight? Yo-yo dieting?

I feel you. Evenings get me, I'm learning to fill them with other things though. I could say I don't sit and watch tv, but that's a lie. I have a full time job and I'm a mom and soon to be wife, so sometimes I just want to turn my brain off and watch tv. But I have to limit it and try to keep busy, like I'll do laundry and tv. It seems if my hands are kinda busy then I don't snack. It's sad but it's what I have to do. It's crazy to think this is what we have to do the rest of our lives! But we did pick this decision and if you were like me, the benefits of being able to do more out weight the food. So the fair will be here next weekend. Last time I went, a few years ago, I was hot, sweaty, large, and just ate all the foods. I'm excited to actually take the girls. I used my weight as an excuse for not doing stuff with them. It hindered their lives, I feel horrible about it. But I don't get near as hot or out of breath so we do more!!! They love it, I love it, and it's ok that I won't have a funnel cake.

That's so crazy. I've always been told we never loose our fat cells, they just shrink. So it makes perfect sense. I follow a few ladies that are a couple of years out of surgery and they still track, work out, meal plan, all the things we do today. I track my food everyday. I have to, or I'll over eat, even with my new stomach. I have to see those calories. I also wear a fit bit to see how many calories I burn in a day to know I'm in a deficit. It's hard, but it's the new way of life in order to stay healthy. My sister in law told me she could not do what I did, surgery wise, because she loves food. I told her it's hard, but I love being able to walk without being out of breath, and chase my 2 year old at the park. The benefits out weight the food I'm missing. But honestly, their are so many other options now with everyone going Keto or low carb. I made Protein brownies a couple of week ago, the girls loved them. But even with that, I have to make sure I have 1....not 5 or 6.

It is hard. It is so hard! I'm going to work on this. I understand about the muffins. In my mind, I would say hey they are good and eat way more than I should, or have one everyday and it would make things worse. Dang the food! Well, I am thankful for my tool and don't want to mess this up. I'm going to work on thinking of more things to do in the evening. I need to also break my idea of tv and food as one.