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Thanks again for all the advice guys.

I never did go see that personal trainer lol. Decided they would probably be too judgey.

I want to learn how to scuba dive and go swimming with sharks!

I want to make it clear that I came to this decision knowing full well that no matter what there's going to be loose skin, I had just heard that body toning exercises can help. I'm seeing the trainer either way because I want a work out plan that works well for me, I probably won't tell him about the WLS and I'll probably only go until my surgery and then use what I've learned at my own gym by myself.

On ‎9‎/‎27‎/‎2017 at 8:18 AM, Rainbow_Warrior said:

BARTENDER: Hey fella, why the big pause?

BEAR: No idea. My dad had 'em too. It must be hereditary.

DYING!!!! I laughed so loud at my desk.

1 hour ago, Angelnrs said:

I told my supervisor at work and yesterday she told me that she had thought I was too self confident to need it and was surprised that I had low self esteem. WTF? I specifically let her know when I told her it was for medical reasons and never said anything about my looks or my self-esteem LOL. I tried to set her straight when we were talking but I'm not sure she got it. In addition I'm also worried that it's going to get around the office and it will be her who starts talking about it.

If she's anything like my supervisor she'll be a chatty cathy and the whole office will already know.

One thing I love about my supervisor is how supportive she's been which is another reason I don't mind that she told other people because now upper management knows and they can't punish me for taking excessive time off for all of these pre op appointments. Also she wants to be my personal cheerleader and work out buddy so that's pretty cool.

5 minutes ago, BigViffer said:

There is nothing you can do to prevent or lower the chances of loose skin. Once skin has stretched past its elastic limit, it tears and stretch marks happen.

Well that's sorely disappointing, I was told by other people that body sculpting would at least help reduce the amount of skin.

So I'm starting to see a Fitness trainer tomorrow, and I'm wondering if anyone out there has also gone through a personal trainer during their journey. I'm not sure if I should tell them that I'm getting WLS, I already get talked down by other people who think I'm taking the easy way out but I really want to get a clear work out plan for post op body sculpting to lower the chances of lose skin. My insurance is covering the surgery but they will not cover anything they deem cosmetic. So I'm just wondering what everyones take on having a trainer has been.

59 minutes ago, LillieDuFran said:

I am NOT sad to let go of popcorn, although I love it. It's an indigestible food & with colectomy, not a great idea any way, lol

Popcorn is one of my all time favorite Snacks. I found out that even the light options have palm oil in them which is carcinogenic and gave it up completely. I miss popcorn though.

OH you guys mean the pre op diet directly before the surgery, I think we have to fast the day before, but other than that yeah we're on what my best friend calls a starvation diet. lol

1 hour ago, KH1958 said:

I don't get to have any foods, just liquids for 14 days for pre op. It is very hard.

My headaches stopped about day 5, I'm on day 16 of the pre op diet, it's intense. I'm not sure if you all are on the same diet I'm on.

I'm not allowed to have protein/meal replacement shakes until post surgery during the liquid diet.

The biggest thing that I've had to get used to is meal prepping. I meal prep like 4 chicken breast that I cut into strips every Sunday and portion them out for the 9oz of Protein I'm allowed a day, it's obnoxious but I've already lost the 5% of my body weight so I would say it's working.

You too will get passed the headaches!

So I'm still in the beginning of my process.

I attended the seminar in June, took the summer to REALLY think about it and then the last week in august I started the journey officially. I had the nutrition seminar on September 11th, the physical on the 19th, Ultrasound yesterday, psych eval is scheduled for late October, nutrition 1:1 is scheduled on October 10th, sleep study in early November. I'm only required to have 2 1:1 nutrition appointments, and I need to lose 5% of my body weight which I've already accomplished. So far everyone I've met at my appointments have been amazing, not a single person has treated me how I expected, I had this fear in the back of my mind that this was going to be like fat camp where all the fit counselors are only interested in judging you for making bad life decisions. I can not recommend this hospital enough if you're in Rochester and are thinking about getting bariatric surgery!!! I'll post a reply on this once I have my 1:1 with Dr Johnson with a review about him!

How do you make holy Water? You boil the hell out of it.

What kind of magic do cows believe in? MOODOO

On ‎9‎/‎25‎/‎2017 at 2:55 PM, BigViffer said:

All of that being said, if he says "Thank goodness you lost that weight, now I can be seen with you in public!" Write him off. Not even worth having as a friend IMO.

EXACTLY!!!

Thank you for what you've written, this is why I've come to love this site!

6 hours ago, Wumbo said:

HOOOLEE crap! You need to contact your HR department immediately. Seriously. Major FMLA and ADA violations. You may even want to consider talking to an attorney or the EEoC. Or both.

I don't think it's that serious yet, I want to be open about my surgery and that way I can be a success, I want people to know that this is a tool to help you with your life if your in the same situation. I don't mind that it came out in the office, it's about a 75%-25% positive to negative feedback from the people in the office who found out. To the negative 25% I'm sure they have their reasons but I can't wait to see their faces as I slowly turn into a skinny human lol

@outsidematchinside That's sad to think about, but I'm sure your right.

On ‎9‎/‎21‎/‎2017 at 2:46 PM, OutsideMatchInside said:

You are probably going to find that a lot of people you are friends with now, you won't be at a normal or close to normal weight.

You might not change but how people view you will.

I suppose hat would happen with chat rooms lol. Thank you for you replies!

I'm not sure if this has already been mentioned, but what about adding some chat rooms?

A termite walks into a tavern and says "is the bar tender here?"

C'mon we all know some, I'll start.

I asked my friend to help me with a math problem. He said: “Don’t worry; this is a piece of cake.” I said: “No, it’s a math problem.”

I would wear that tee shirt! haha

I didn't tell the world, at least I tried not to, I informed 2 of my supervisors because I figured I should tell them at the get go about the next few months being loaded with doc appointments and then needing 2 weeks off. One of my supervisors kinda has a big mouth and it very quickly became the topic of conversation in my office.

And even friends and family who I assumed would've been supportive have gone out of their way to make "suggestions" it's just annoying.

Alright I'm new to the lingo, what does VSG mean?

@coyote does he have a brother? Can I jump through the computer and give you a very big hug?!?!

No he's never said anything about my weight and he's been an amazing friend and we continue to get closer. I'm 100% focused on my goals right now so I'm not looking for any commitments. I got enough on my plate without dealing with boyfriend drama lol.

It really does feel like that liking a bigger woman is considered a fetish more than anything, it makes it hard to really get attached to anyone.

@Introversion I guess I don't want to hide the fact that I'm doing it. I want people to stop shaming for people for using WLS as a tool for success rather than continuing to call it the easy way out.

@Waler Yeah I try to explain it that way to them and for some reason it still always leads to an argument and more questions that just end up hurting my head. I feel like half the hard work is just dealing with the haters haha.

Good luck to you as well @christysworld