sunflower71609

I know that's it's dumb to need reassurance. I know I'm doing what's best for me. I shouldn't care what anyone thinks anymore. But I have to say, you all have made me feel SO much better! Lol. Thank you everyone for all the kind words and support. It's exactly what I needed. [emoji173]️[emoji173]️

Actually the DS is the same in complexity as Bypass, it's just different. DS is actually older than Bypass but the current iteration of the DS is different. The surgeons have learned from past mistakes and made adjustments. The complications from surgery are minimal. Statistics show the number one cause of post WLS complications is patients non compliance with dietary restrictions.

I meant out of jealousy, not joyously. oops.

[mention=326145]sunflower71609[/mention], that's why only my husband and my kids know. As close as I am to my siblings and cousins, I didn't tell them. Everybody will have an opinion. My husband was never really on board with the surgery. He thinks I can just magically all of a sudden lose the weight on my own...well I tried that and it didn't work. Sometimes I hate I had to tell him, but I couldn't get around that. I will tell you like I had to tell myself, this is for me, my health depends on it and I'm going to do this with a smile on my face. I'm ready to start living the rest of my life as a normal or at this point an under weight person, just not an over weight person ever again. You do you honey and don't let anyone stop you. Sometimes I wonder if peoples opinions are out of joyously of what you're gonna look like after the weight is loss.

My husband is my biggest supporter as well as my daughter. Other people that I have told don't seem to have a good reaction. I have gotten many rude and ignorant comments. It is a shame that some people do think this is the easy way out! They have no idea do they? LOL and some people make comments about my vanity, like the things we do for vanity! I try to stay calm and tell them the surgery is not for vanity it is for survival and health. It really gets me that I have to defend myself. I'm getting to the point where I don't anymore. I really don't care what they think. All I care about is being healthy and living a happy fulfilled life! I'm 3 months post-op gastric bypass. I've lost over 50 pounds and and feeling so much better and I'm so much happier. So hang in there and don't listen to the naysayers just listen to your heart!

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Not every surgeon does the DS because of its complexity. Bypass has been around for a long time so they consider it the "gold standard" but I wouldn't necessarily say that makes it better. As mentioned another commenter, DS doesn't have dumping which is a plus in my book [emoji4]

I'm also going back and forth between the two surgeries. I'm leaning towards the one and done. I'm reading that a lot of surgeons will lean you in the direction of their expertise which is Sleeve or Bypass my thought is to go with their recommendation since they are not confident in performing the DS. Being self pay I'll choose the DR that is confident in doing the DS and has performed enough with great reviews. I'm leaning towards Dr A Lopez but am going back and forth on Facility.

From what I've seen, about 5% - 10% of people regret their surgery long term.. which means 90-95% DON'T regret it.
Short term regret in the first weeks postop is extremely common.
The ones with long term regret don't hang out on message boards full of happy patients for long.
It seems the majority of regret is fueled by physical complications or unresolved emotional issues.
We've seen regret stemming from religious beliefs.
Sometimes people find that perfect diet/exercise program that they are sure would have worked without surgery.
And the biggie... "he/she wouldn't have left me if I hadn't had the surgery".

The big difference is dumping syndrome. With Bypass the pyloric valve is not usable. So whatever food you eat drains straight into the small intestine through a created connection to the stomach. The small intestine cannot handle sugars. And reacts badly to exposure.

With th the DS the pyloric valve is left intact and functions normally. This prevents dumping syndrome and produces a much more pleasant experience with sugar, for sugar addiction this can be bad but the Malabsorption caused by the DS mitigates. Keep in mind refined sugar causes the infamous gas and loose stool. I consider that motivation enough to stay away.

Yea, and ugh, this is why I am not sharing with my family (other than H and kids). Sometimes I wonder if their own regrets may be a factor. What would my 63 yo future self say to me if she had a time machine? I'm pretty sure she would kick my butt for staying obese and unable to live the life she/I deserves. (I'm 53 haha)

For the most part, it stems from fear. Fear of complications, fear that YOU'll begin regretting it..
My own family did the same thing.. they just want what's best for us...

But the bypass also runs the risk of malnutrition. I'm not certain that the there is an increased percentage of complications of the DS vs the bypass. I think they're pretty comparable. DS has a better long term outcome when it comes to regain.

The SIPS is a modified DS having a single anastomoses vs the two anastomoses of the traditional. The SIPS also has a longer common channel that also helps reduce the risk of malnutrition and eases the whole gas/diarrhea issue. SIPS is also known as SADI or LOOP.

Again this being a personal decision, you have to go with your gut [emoji173]️ good luck with your decision [emoji4]

Thanks. Just seems like every time I talk to one of them they have something negative to say. I would say they're just concerned for me, but it doesn't feel that way! Lol

So....I'm new to the group. Will finish my insurance mandated diet October 18th and will schedule ds surgery for November. I've been working for months with doctors and have informed my family of the plans. Now that it's getting closer to the date they're all starting to say things like...."why not just eat healthier?" Or "are you sure you can go your whole life eating like that?"

Anyone else have similar issues? How can I get them to see this is necessary for me to live a happier, healthier life?

I have four family members who had Bypass and have all gained back a good amount of their weight. I had the DS three years ago and have had no regain at all. Also I only watch my diet, I do not exercise.

Can I ask what are the extra risks? I have the SIPS DS, not the traditional but am curious as to what extra risks are on your list? All surgeries come with risk, the choice is yours as to which you're willing to take.

I'm still struggling between having a ds, and a bypass. I'm terrified of surgery, and want to only have to do it once. My doctor has assured me that I have narrowed it down to the correct two surgeries for me, but says it's a personal choice. I have done tons of research, and am leaning more towards the ds, but am scared of the extra risks. Any advice would be great! My insurance mandated diet is over next month. I'll be having surgery hopefully in November.