Sleeved in DFW :-)

Told my husband, my mom and my daughter. My mom has a big mouth and told my brother. His wife had RNY and lost A LOT more weight than me. I had VSG. I feel judged by both of them which sucks. Wish my mom had kept it to herself like she promised. Huge betrayal. Anyway, like someone else said, no one cared or asked how I got fat so why do they need to know how I lost it? If I had an abortion would it be lying to not tell anyone about it? Should I walk around saying “Hi, I had an abortion, that’s why I’m not pregnant any longer.” I find it ridiculous that some people on here say it’s lying not to tell people you had the surgery. That’s BS. I’m extremely private about all of my life and this is no different. I am 18 months post-op and I am so happy I kept it to myself and my immediate family. It’s my body, my business. I had 70 lbs to lose so my weight loss was fairly slow and that probably made it less obvious to others. I feel that telling people (when they ask) that I eat low carb, smaller portions, very little processed food and I do 50 minutes of cardio four times a week is an accurate description of HOW I lost the weight. Seems honest enough to me. But everyone is different.

Hi Jess,
I had a 16 pound gain my third year. It was work and slow to get it back off. It can be done and you have a lot of support here.
pouch reset works for some of us. For me the calorie range was too restrictive. liquids never kept me feeling full. I went back to real food stage basics. Logged my food, hydrate and exercise. I had to find the calorie and carb range my body started losing again.
Get temptation out of the house
Eat dense Protein sources and real whole food to keep you feeling more satisfied
Realize you will feel crappy detoxing off sugar and extra calories and carbs. It will pass.
The mental battle is a big part of getting back on track. Here are a few threads that may help.

Doing the head work
https://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/425354-the-importance-of-doing-the-head-work/?tab=comments#comment-4776743
Intermittent fasting as an option for weight loss
https://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/419144-intermittent-fasting-daily-menuresultsaccountability/?page=172&tab=comments#comment-4779301
Weight loss challenge for motivation
https://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/424941-❤-may-2019-challenge❤/?tab=comments#comment-4771502

Told my husband, my mom and my daughter. My mom has a big mouth and told my brother. His wife had RNY and lost A LOT more weight than me. I had VSG. I feel judged by both of them which sucks. Wish my mom had kept it to herself like she promised. Huge betrayal. Anyway, like someone else said, no one cared or asked how I got fat so why do they need to know how I lost it? If I had an abortion would it be lying to not tell anyone about it? Should I walk around saying “Hi, I had an abortion, that’s why I’m not pregnant any longer.” I find it ridiculous that some people on here say it’s lying not to tell people you had the surgery. That’s BS. I’m extremely private about all of my life and this is no different. I am 18 months post-op and I am so happy I kept it to myself and my immediate family. It’s my body, my business. I had 70 lbs to lose so my weight loss was fairly slow and that probably made it less obvious to others. I feel that telling people (when they ask) that I eat low carb, smaller portions, very little processed food and I do 50 minutes of cardio four times a week is an accurate description of HOW I lost the weight. Seems honest enough to me. But everyone is different.

I saw someone post once, "No one asked me the details about my weight gain or how I got there, so they don't need to know the details of my weight loss or how I'm getting there" LOL!
For me only my immediate family know as well as 3 close friends.

My only question is if you rule someone out based upon weight alone how do you know this isn’t something they are actively working on?
Are you saying you would never date someone that has had the same issue as you did? There are women that may be actively losing weight that aren’t going to share this with someone right out of the gate.
For me it’s like saying I would never date a short man or a man that was losing some hair. I’ve learned basing attraction solely off of looks does rule out some prospects for no reason, but some of this comes with age and experience.
Things like intelligence, a great sense of humor, integrity, manners, and the like are more things I look for now.
Not saying you should be with someone you aren’t attracted to, but sometimes just because you don’t feel overwhelming lust for someone at first sight doesn’t mean they aren’t worth a look.

I'm going back to basics with the new year. I didn't gain, but I did indulge myself and now I need to keep my healthy habits going. I did my walk early this morning and I am on my 4th glass of Water. I am caring for myself again. I am worth the effort. 🐵

Long story but i originally lost 140 lbs in about 2 years overall. Sleeve did 100 of it and lots of cardio etc did the rest.
then gradually weight crept back, very slowly at first, grazing, life happened, stopped the extreme exercise, let carbs back in. So 3 months shy of my 5 year surgiversary I had gained 65 back.
I knew I had to fix this or i’d be right back to 315 in no time.
I used the concepts in “Never Binge Again” book (free on kindle) and also Jason Fungs 2016 Obesity Code starting on Jan 1, 2018.
I am now down 22 lbs and know I can get the rest off.
I never “fixed” my insulin problem. I ate too much Protein. and so when the extreme exercise ended the weight crept back, the protein and “healthy carbs” encouraged the insulin and thus the cravings that the normal exercise couldn’t burn off.
I am back on track. My sleeve is bigger now but still gets fuller than a regular stomach so it hurts if I eat too much. Reduced ghrelin only helped me for 3 months after surgery.
I am thankful to the sleeve for the first 100 lbs but now it’s all on me and the right choices i make.
I recommend those books if you need to get back on track or even if you are in the euphoric losing stages because eventually you will need to make the right choices without all the early benefits of the surgery.

Surgery weight was 229, I’m 5’6 and 46 y/o. It’s been 13 months for me since my sleeve was done. I now weigh around 170. I saw 168 last week for a day or two :-) I wouldn’t worry about losing too much. Did you say what your weight is now? You can always increase calories if it becomes an issue but I haven’t heard of anyone with that problem. I went from a size 24 to a size 12 and feel amazing. I would chose to do it again over and over. Very happy sleever.

I didn’t tell people I work with. The weight doesn’t fly off 30 lbs at a time, so when they see you everyday it’s not as noticeable. My body, my business

Surgery weight was 229, I’m 5’6 and 46 y/o. It’s been 13 months for me since my sleeve was done. I now weigh around 170. I saw 168 last week for a day or two :-) I wouldn’t worry about losing too much. Did you say what your weight is now? You can always increase calories if it becomes an issue but I haven’t heard of anyone with that problem. I went from a size 24 to a size 12 and feel amazing. I would chose to do it again over and over. Very happy sleever.

I an 5'6, 38 years old and was 229 on the day of my VSG. I lost 47 pounds in the first 5.5 months, but have been stalled for the last month, at a weight of 182. I too was afraid of losing too much weight, but believe me, when your weight falls, the weight begins to fall off at a slower pace. I would be perfectly content at my current weight, but I really want to get to 170. It is going to take a long while, but slow and steady wins the race.

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I’m the OP. I’m 10-months post-op now. I took @introversion advice and came to realize and then eventually accept that I am a slow loser. As of today, I am down 63 lbs. and have gone from a BMI of 38.3 to a BMI of 28. I am now classified as “overweight” and not obese. I went from a size 24 to wearing a 12 or 14 now. My average weight loss is 1.41 lbs weekly and my monthly average is 6.34 lbs. I no longer use a cpap machine and my plantar fasciitis is fine or in submission. All good non-scale victories.
I wish it had been quicker. But we are all about instant gratification and I have learned to be more patient. I am 23 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 and I am 5’6. At my current rate it will take another 23 weeks to get there and that means I won’t reach goal until November which is 15 months after surgery. I just keep telling myself what @introversion has said on many occasions that there are slower losers and it’s not necessary a bad thing. Usually people who start with a lower BMI lose slower. Although I have seen people on here that have lost 30 lbs more than me and started at the same weight. It could also be my age (46 now) and the fact that I am on a medication cocktail for depression and have been for 20+ years. The other thing I deal with is that my weight can fluctuate 4-6 lbs depending on the day. I want to see it go down and never go back -up but that is not the case and some days I will go up 4 lbs and I start to worry again.
I’m glad I had the surgery. I still get 60-80 Protein a day and keep my carbs for special occasions. I don’t have problems eating any foods but I do feel my restriction and I am so thankful it is there. I hiccup when I’m dull and I know to stop. I pray it never goes away.
Here are some B&A pics if interested.
Thanks for asking how I’m doing. I really appreciate it.

I’m the OP. I’m 10-months post-op now. I took @introversion advice and came to realize and then eventually accept that I am a slow loser. As of today, I am down 63 lbs. and have gone from a BMI of 38.3 to a BMI of 28. I am now classified as “overweight” and not obese. I went from a size 24 to wearing a 12 or 14 now. My average weight loss is 1.41 lbs weekly and my monthly average is 6.34 lbs. I no longer use a cpap machine and my plantar fasciitis is fine or in submission. All good non-scale victories.
I wish it had been quicker. But we are all about instant gratification and I have learned to be more patient. I am 23 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 and I am 5’6. At my current rate it will take another 23 weeks to get there and that means I won’t reach goal until November which is 15 months after surgery. I just keep telling myself what @introversion has said on many occasions that there are slower losers and it’s not necessary a bad thing. Usually people who start with a lower BMI lose slower. Although I have seen people on here that have lost 30 lbs more than me and started at the same weight. It could also be my age (46 now) and the fact that I am on a medication cocktail for depression and have been for 20+ years. The other thing I deal with is that my weight can fluctuate 4-6 lbs depending on the day. I want to see it go down and never go back -up but that is not the case and some days I will go up 4 lbs and I start to worry again.
I’m glad I had the surgery. I still get 60-80 Protein a day and keep my carbs for special occasions. I don’t have problems eating any foods but I do feel my restriction and I am so thankful it is there. I hiccup when I’m dull and I know to stop. I pray it never goes away.
Here are some B&A pics if interested.
Thanks for asking how I’m doing. I really appreciate it.

I’m the OP. I’m 10-months post-op now. I took @introversion advice and came to realize and then eventually accept that I am a slow loser. As of today, I am down 63 lbs. and have gone from a BMI of 38.3 to a BMI of 28. I am now classified as “overweight” and not obese. I went from a size 24 to wearing a 12 or 14 now. My average weight loss is 1.41 lbs weekly and my monthly average is 6.34 lbs. I no longer use a cpap machine and my plantar fasciitis is fine or in submission. All good non-scale victories.
I wish it had been quicker. But we are all about instant gratification and I have learned to be more patient. I am 23 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 and I am 5’6. At my current rate it will take another 23 weeks to get there and that means I won’t reach goal until November which is 15 months after surgery. I just keep telling myself what @introversion has said on many occasions that there are slower losers and it’s not necessary a bad thing. Usually people who start with a lower BMI lose slower. Although I have seen people on here that have lost 30 lbs more than me and started at the same weight. It could also be my age (46 now) and the fact that I am on a medication cocktail for depression and have been for 20+ years. The other thing I deal with is that my weight can fluctuate 4-6 lbs depending on the day. I want to see it go down and never go back -up but that is not the case and some days I will go up 4 lbs and I start to worry again.
I’m glad I had the surgery. I still get 60-80 Protein a day and keep my carbs for special occasions. I don’t have problems eating any foods but I do feel my restriction and I am so thankful it is there. I hiccup when I’m dull and I know to stop. I pray it never goes away.
Here are some B&A pics if interested.
Thanks for asking how I’m doing. I really appreciate it.

I wish you had taken the time to actually read this post. It’s 10 months old now and there is an update from me right above your post. That aside, wow. Your post is rude and unhelpful. I am so glad no one responded this way when I posted this ten months ago. I received so much love and encouragement, advice and kindness. I guess that is not your style. While others lifted me up, you chose to do the opposite.
Quick piece of advice, if you are only eating 400 calories a day, you are going to have serious Hair loss and other issues with mal-nutrition. May be a good idea to discuss thoroughly with your doctor. Good luck to you.

I’m the OP. I’m 10-months post-op now. I took @introversion advice and came to realize and then eventually accept that I am a slow loser. As of today, I am down 63 lbs. and have gone from a BMI of 38.3 to a BMI of 28. I am now classified as “overweight” and not obese. I went from a size 24 to wearing a 12 or 14 now. My average weight loss is 1.41 lbs weekly and my monthly average is 6.34 lbs. I no longer use a cpap machine and my plantar fasciitis is fine or in submission. All good non-scale victories.
I wish it had been quicker. But we are all about instant gratification and I have learned to be more patient. I am 23 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 and I am 5’6. At my current rate it will take another 23 weeks to get there and that means I won’t reach goal until November which is 15 months after surgery. I just keep telling myself what @introversion has said on many occasions that there are slower losers and it’s not necessary a bad thing. Usually people who start with a lower BMI lose slower. Although I have seen people on here that have lost 30 lbs more than me and started at the same weight. It could also be my age (46 now) and the fact that I am on a medication cocktail for depression and have been for 20+ years. The other thing I deal with is that my weight can fluctuate 4-6 lbs depending on the day. I want to see it go down and never go back -up but that is not the case and some days I will go up 4 lbs and I start to worry again.
I’m glad I had the surgery. I still get 60-80 Protein a day and keep my carbs for special occasions. I don’t have problems eating any foods but I do feel my restriction and I am so thankful it is there. I hiccup when I’m dull and I know to stop. I pray it never goes away.
Here are some B&A pics if interested.
Thanks for asking how I’m doing. I really appreciate it.

I’m the OP. I’m 10-months post-op now. I took @introversion advice and came to realize and then eventually accept that I am a slow loser. As of today, I am down 63 lbs. and have gone from a BMI of 38.3 to a BMI of 28. I am now classified as “overweight” and not obese. I went from a size 24 to wearing a 12 or 14 now. My average weight loss is 1.41 lbs weekly and my monthly average is 6.34 lbs. I no longer use a cpap machine and my plantar fasciitis is fine or in submission. All good non-scale victories.
I wish it had been quicker. But we are all about instant gratification and I have learned to be more patient. I am 23 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 and I am 5’6. At my current rate it will take another 23 weeks to get there and that means I won’t reach goal until November which is 15 months after surgery. I just keep telling myself what @introversion has said on many occasions that there are slower losers and it’s not necessary a bad thing. Usually people who start with a lower BMI lose slower. Although I have seen people on here that have lost 30 lbs more than me and started at the same weight. It could also be my age (46 now) and the fact that I am on a medication cocktail for depression and have been for 20+ years. The other thing I deal with is that my weight can fluctuate 4-6 lbs depending on the day. I want to see it go down and never go back -up but that is not the case and some days I will go up 4 lbs and I start to worry again.
I’m glad I had the surgery. I still get 60-80 Protein a day and keep my carbs for special occasions. I don’t have problems eating any foods but I do feel my restriction and I am so thankful it is there. I hiccup when I’m dull and I know to stop. I pray it never goes away.
Here are some B&A pics if interested.
Thanks for asking how I’m doing. I really appreciate it.

I wish you had taken the time to actually read this post. It’s 10 months old now and there is an update from me right above your post. That aside, wow. Your post is rude and unhelpful. I am so glad no one responded this way when I posted this ten months ago. I received so much love and encouragement, advice and kindness. I guess that is not your style. While others lifted me up, you chose to do the opposite.
Quick piece of advice, if you are only eating 400 calories a day, you are going to have serious Hair loss and other issues with mal-nutrition. May be a good idea to discuss thoroughly with your doctor. Good luck to you.

Take a chill pill nobody is badmouthing you. Such negativity. Which YOU brought

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I’m the OP. I’m 10-months post-op now. I took @introversion advice and came to realize and then eventually accept that I am a slow loser. As of today, I am down 63 lbs. and have gone from a BMI of 38.3 to a BMI of 28. I am now classified as “overweight” and not obese. I went from a size 24 to wearing a 12 or 14 now. My average weight loss is 1.41 lbs weekly and my monthly average is 6.34 lbs. I no longer use a cpap machine and my plantar fasciitis is fine or in submission. All good non-scale victories.
I wish it had been quicker. But we are all about instant gratification and I have learned to be more patient. I am 23 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 and I am 5’6. At my current rate it will take another 23 weeks to get there and that means I won’t reach goal until November which is 15 months after surgery. I just keep telling myself what @introversion has said on many occasions that there are slower losers and it’s not necessary a bad thing. Usually people who start with a lower BMI lose slower. Although I have seen people on here that have lost 30 lbs more than me and started at the same weight. It could also be my age (46 now) and the fact that I am on a medication cocktail for depression and have been for 20+ years. The other thing I deal with is that my weight can fluctuate 4-6 lbs depending on the day. I want to see it go down and never go back -up but that is not the case and some days I will go up 4 lbs and I start to worry again.
I’m glad I had the surgery. I still get 60-80 Protein a day and keep my carbs for special occasions. I don’t have problems eating any foods but I do feel my restriction and I am so thankful it is there. I hiccup when I’m dull and I know to stop. I pray it never goes away.
Here are some B&A pics if interested.
Thanks for asking how I’m doing. I really appreciate it.

I wish you had taken the time to actually read this post. It’s 10 months old now and there is an update from me right above your post. That aside, wow. Your post is rude and unhelpful. I am so glad no one responded this way when I posted this ten months ago. I received so much love and encouragement, advice and kindness. I guess that is not your style. While others lifted me up, you chose to do the opposite.
Quick piece of advice, if you are only eating 400 calories a day, you are going to have serious Hair loss and other issues with mal-nutrition. May be a good idea to discuss thoroughly with your doctor. Good luck to you.

I wish you had taken the time to actually read this post. It’s 10 months old now and there is an update from me right above your post. That aside, wow. Your post is rude and unhelpful. I am so glad no one responded this way when I posted this ten months ago. I received so much love and encouragement, advice and kindness. I guess that is not your style. While others lifted me up, you chose to do the opposite.
Quick piece of advice, if you are only eating 400 calories a day, you are going to have serious Hair loss and other issues with mal-nutrition. May be a good idea to discuss thoroughly with your doctor. Good luck to you.

I wish you had taken the time to actually read this post. It’s 10 months old now and there is an update from me right above your post. That aside, wow. Your post is rude and unhelpful. I am so glad no one responded this way when I posted this ten months ago. I received so much love and encouragement, advice and kindness. I guess that is not your style. While others lifted me up, you chose to do the opposite.
Quick piece of advice, if you are only eating 400 calories a day, you are going to have serious Hair loss and other issues with mal-nutrition. May be a good idea to discuss thoroughly with your doctor. Good luck to you.

I’m the OP. I’m 10-months post-op now. I took @introversion advice and came to realize and then eventually accept that I am a slow loser. As of today, I am down 63 lbs. and have gone from a BMI of 38.3 to a BMI of 28. I am now classified as “overweight” and not obese. I went from a size 24 to wearing a 12 or 14 now. My average weight loss is 1.41 lbs weekly and my monthly average is 6.34 lbs. I no longer use a cpap machine and my plantar fasciitis is fine or in submission. All good non-scale victories.
I wish it had been quicker. But we are all about instant gratification and I have learned to be more patient. I am 23 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 and I am 5’6. At my current rate it will take another 23 weeks to get there and that means I won’t reach goal until November which is 15 months after surgery. I just keep telling myself what @introversion has said on many occasions that there are slower losers and it’s not necessary a bad thing. Usually people who start with a lower BMI lose slower. Although I have seen people on here that have lost 30 lbs more than me and started at the same weight. It could also be my age (46 now) and the fact that I am on a medication cocktail for depression and have been for 20+ years. The other thing I deal with is that my weight can fluctuate 4-6 lbs depending on the day. I want to see it go down and never go back -up but that is not the case and some days I will go up 4 lbs and I start to worry again.
I’m glad I had the surgery. I still get 60-80 Protein a day and keep my carbs for special occasions. I don’t have problems eating any foods but I do feel my restriction and I am so thankful it is there. I hiccup when I’m dull and I know to stop. I pray it never goes away.
Here are some B&A pics if interested.
Thanks for asking how I’m doing. I really appreciate it.

I wish you had taken the time to actually read this post. It’s 10 months old now and there is an update from me right above your post. That aside, wow. Your post is rude and unhelpful. I am so glad no one responded this way when I posted this ten months ago. I received so much love and encouragement, advice and kindness. I guess that is not your style. While others lifted me up, you chose to do the opposite.
Quick piece of advice, if you are only eating 400 calories a day, you are going to have serious Hair loss and other issues with mal-nutrition. May be a good idea to discuss thoroughly with your doctor. Good luck to you.