Jeffrey Stern
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I've been silent for a few days...I really don't want this to go any further than it has (this is far too stressful and not good for my HEALING AND HEALTH) ... however...This is a reminder of (below) the very first message Greensleevie sent me. I had never spoken to her before this... the tone in this message is angry...and calling someone IMMATURE is not an insult ? and name calling ??? (BULLY) . I never said I had anything figured out...but I do have a mind and I have done the research to make my own (with the help of the medical staff at the hospital) to make my own decisions. Just because she has crowned herself the queen of bariatric surgery..all hail the queen. No one else is allowed an opinion especially on there own recovery and outlook on health....very sad. Everyone is different and everyone recovers differently. Not to mention I had the bypass not the sleeve that alone will tell you the difference in outcomes.
I have actually been scolded by Alex Brecher ( founder ???) not to mention someone called Outsidematchinside ( another someone of royalty) ???
I thank all those who have supported and been kind to me ...however I am going to delete my account here with Bariatric Pal (the monarchy has put a bad taste in my mouth)
Oh does anyone know how to delete this account (I'm not very tech savvy) ...maybe Mr. Brecher can help me...???
DIRECT QUOTE :::****Yup. I remember thinking I had it all together, too. It's easy when you're not hungry and the weight is falling off effortlessly.
Glad you have this ALL figured out at a whole 2 months post op.
I never understood how people presume to know what the future holds when they have no idea what challenges lie ahead? How immature.
Are we saying you're absolutely going to be one of the almost 50% of people who are going to gain some or all of their weight back? No. We are saying to KEEP that from happening, you need to be aware of the pitfalls to PREVENT it from happening.
You no more know what's going happen 3 years down the road at 3 months post op as I do 6 years down the road at 3.5 years post op. You can at least admit that, right?*****END QUOTE:::
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Unfortunately, it doesn't look like you can:
Also, I know advice coming from a 21 year old probably won't be given any credence, but perhaps assuming the best in others and having a positive and humble outlook would help with your healing process. It would definitely help with stress levels, reducing cortisol levels in your system. If you decide to continue to participate in this forum, a humble and positive attitude and a thicker skin would also really help in terms of interacting with others. We're all here to learn and lean on each other when things get tough, it'd be nice to think of the members of this site as a family. Please don't assume every comment that doesn't praise you is malicious. Some people might just use a different tone when writing.
I legitimately think Greensleevie was coming from a place of good and trying to help you in the comment quoted. Perhaps the tone wasn't particularly pleasant, but let's look at what she's actually saying: we should be humble (weight loss is relatively easy right now because we're so fresh out of surgery, we also don't know what struggles lie ahead), she's asking you to be cognizant of the fact that a large number of people do gain some weight back and she doesn't want you to be one of them, finally, she admits that she also doesn't know what happens down the road for her just like you don't know what happens in your future. The vets on here have experienced everything we're going through. It would be wise to learn from their mistakes and successes.
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Hi YA, I didn't get in on any of this but...I have had the wrath of a few of the other members. It doesn't feel right to me. Yes we learn from each other and should always be kind and offer the upmost support!! But at the same time watch how we word things so noone gets their feelings trumply on!! The time I mentioned things did get a little out of hand. Over something that I will use now and beyond today!! So hold your head up and stay here with us. If things come up again you have every right to post your feelings and not get dragged down the rabbit hole. Sorry this happened to you. Keep on keeping on!!
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Dude. Really?
You're going to flounce because someone you don't know on an internet forum told you that you may not have all the answers as a newbie?
Don't give it a second thought and just move on. Don't be so thin skinned. It's an internet forum, and not everyone is going to agree. And guess what? That's okay! Most of us here are big boys and girls and we can handle it.
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