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  5. Hello all...

    On May 1st. 2018 it will be one year since my Roux-en-Y...gastric bypass..surgery. I had met my goal weight by the end of 2017...I have been able to maintain it since. It was the best thing I have done in my life. I had an easy recovery...(that's me..not everyone does). I did have some issues with "dumping" on occasion, that was the worst of it... ( but not many times)..but have done away with that issue..learning how to eat again..helps the situation.

    I started my surgery with a 50 inch waist..and am now at a 34-36 inches (depending on the pants)..LOL. I started my surgery wearing a 4XL shirt and now wearing.. L-XL (depending on the shirt). It is so nice to walk into any men's fashion/clothing store and be able to pick something off the rack and buy it. NO MORE !!!!! big and fat stores for me !!!!!!  LOL People don't recognize me and tell me how great I look. WOW !!!...great for my ego !!!...LOL LOL LOL. I do have some flabby skin issues..and hope by weight lifting or have some surgery to deal with that..but my doctor says I should wait at least another year..in case I lose more weight.  

    I feel fantastic !!! I am turning 58 yrs old on July 26 th and feel and act 25 yrs.... well maybe 35 yrs. lol lol lol. I wanted to see my 60th B-Day. I have lot's of energy..and have a whole new life. I started my surgery with type 2 diabetes... that was out of control and living on Insulin...I had high Cholesterol and high Blood Pressure..both for which I took medication to control. I no longer take Insulin nor medication for High Blood/Cholesterol. Medication free...yippy !!!! I suffered from Arthritis in my knees and ankles and was popping Type 3 Tylenol like it was candy. It did nothing. No more of that **** !!! LOL. My Doctor is doing cartwheels he's so happy for me !

    I am eating healthier than I have in my whole life...I personally have made some serious food eating decisions. I "DON'T" eat white bread, pasta, rice. I eat alternatives. I eat "Gluten free" foods...mostly, well I try !!! lol lol lol . I don't eat enough to worry about calorie counting..I eat by portions...so that's not an issue. I eat a variety of legumes (beans). I eat lot's and lot's and lot's of fruits and vegetables. I am trying to..slowly (yeah not easy) to become a vegetarian. There is so much healthy, good and nutritious food to eat. Without feeling you are depriving yourself. I read labels and mostly buy low fat and fat free items. BUT YOU MUST WATCH FOR SUGAR AND SODIUM CONTENT OR IT'S FUTILE...I have even splurged and had some small nibbles of "junk food" ..chocolate, ice cream, cake, on a special occasion..but look you only live once and once it's out of your system, you get back on track.  I stay away from..and never will go back to fast food or anything battered and deep fried !!!!!!! No burgers, fries, pizza !!! there are alternatives for that. I do admit; I miss "Fish and Chips"..wwwaaaa!!!!!. Look there are websites and blogs out there to guide and help you with all kinds of recipes. 

    The only thing  I can say is this (I'm not preaching) ...everyone is different. What's good for me may not be good for someone else. You must really want ..want ...want.. to be a better you !!!! It's will power.!!! 

    I am happier than I have been in a very long time...I was an emotional eater ..like many of you. Like they say food can't give you happiness...only you have the power to be happy and healthy.

    I hope this maybe inspiring for someone...I can only "wish you the best" on your adventure and eat healthy and be strong the outcome is near and it will reward you in so many ways.

    ALL THE BEST !!!!22528257_1313341592127518_8132736741614246919_n.thumb.jpg.54e66b1af55ca9139db3e373b1dac482.jpg



    1. jules1


      Hi Jeffrey, reading about you made me feel much more positive. I am on my preop diet and I think it does make you dread about not being able to enjoy food again. You sound so positive and excited about good wholesome and healthy food that it reminded me not to feel down as I love all that food also and avoiding fish and chips etc shouldn't be a big deal.

      It was good to hear about your diabetes as I had gestational twice and was having 3 injections a day, hypo's + worrying about eating all the time etc.

      i also have hip dysplagia so I am hoping losing weight takes a lot of my pain away again and I'm able to be more active with my kids.

      anyway seeing your lovely photo has made me want to get out in the fresh air and sunshine with kids(I'm in Australia so it's morning here🙂) thanks for the motivation and enthusiasm.

    2. Jeffrey Stern

      Jeffrey Stern

      Hi Jules

      I joined this forum a few weeks after my surgery last year. I had a very bad experience with some folks on the site telling me because I was a so called newbie at this Bariatric program. I knew nothing of what I spoke. I would be tempted again, by all the bad foods and that I would fall of the so called "wagon". I would start to regain my weight after a year. Well if that didn't give me more incentive to prove them wrong ..nothing would. I didn't have this invasive surgery for anyone but myself. I really needed to take control of my life again. The health issues I was having were more con than pro. I can only speak for myself, and I'm not preaching. However the best decision I ever made in my life...and I've made some pretty dumb stupid decisions in the past. wwwaaaa!!! LOL

      I have become a new person and feel terrific. I wanted to see my 60th B-Day and the way my health was going..that wasn't going to happen especially with the type 2 diabetesarrow-10x10.png. I was afraid of losing a limb due to it. Living on a daily bases with the pain agony was getting unbearable.

      I guess what I'm trying to say..is that you must take control, mind over matter and will power is all important. I eat better than ever. I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. I have treats once in a while..I have learnt all kinds of tricks and food hacks to take care of those little cravings from time to time...don't need to feel discouraged ever.

      I love going for walks and am very envious that you live in such a climate like Australia...try the cold and snow and ice of the frozen north in Canada...lol. It means a lot of snowbound days during the winter months and feeling like yeah a nice bag of potato chips and some sweet dessert would be great right now just to get through this horrid weather. LOL LOL LOL

      I know you will do great. As well you have little ones who need a mommy to run and play with for a very long time. Like I mentioned there are so many alternatives nowadays to healthy eating... not just eating carrot sticks and celery...like a rabbit...lol

      good luck and good health..


  6. I just want to give a New Year update...

    I  don't deal with this site any longer..'cause of all the drama from a few people on it...however I have reached my goal weight 185 lbs..from my surgery in May 1st.

    I am holding well had my six month follow ups with the dietitians...surgeons... nurse practitioner..it's all good... ......even after the holidays...and yes I even indulged a little...A LITTLE !!!...the secret. I enjoyed "SOME" pasta (1/2 A CUP)...chocolate, cookies and even a small piece of cake or two..you only live once..it's called self control....right !?

    I am eating healthier than when I was in my twenties..and am enjoying it...NO ****.!!!!

    I have whole new wardrobe..from a 50 inch waist now at a 36 inch waist and I'm wearing "skinny jeans"....from 4 XXL shirts to XL-L size shirts..

    it's all good..

    1. MowryRocks


      I'm happy to read of your success!

  7. I really don't know why I'm here...I don't like this forum ( and some of the people). However I will update after being gone for some time.

    I hope this will encourage some one who is feeling down. I am at a 100lbs loss since May 1st. I am eating well and feeling great. My sugar levels from diabetes 2 is at perfect level. My doctor has taken me off insulin ( I use to take 60 plus units a day) and I only take metformin twice daily. My doctor has also taken me off ramipril (for high blood pressure). My arthritic pain in my joints is non existent. I have gone from a 50 inch pant size to a 40 almost 38 inch pant waist. I was wearing a 4xL shirt size and now XL.

    I am eating healthy foods...veggies, fruit, legumes, protein and have stayed away from processed carbs and gluten such as bread, pasta, rice.  All this is because I have the WILL TO WIN  !!!!! (hear that people that's the ticket !!!! MIND OVER MATTER !!!) Of course NO sugar. except the odd DQ ice cream cone ( I don't eat the cone and maybe half the ice cream)...(you only live once LOL). All my vitamin and mineral levels are good (my B12 was a little high so I cut back on that vitamin.) have had numerous blood work done.  I have had two visits with a Nutritionist and Nurse practitioner as a three month follow up since surgery both are pleased with my outcome. Next month I will see the surgeon as a follow up.   

    For exercise : I walk as much as I can EVERYWHERE !!!! ride my bike occasionally. I also do some muscle training (at home) to firm up.

    Listen people I don't pretend to have all the answers...(like some people) I know whats good for ME and with the help from the medical staff. Everyone is different !!! Don't get discouraged and hating. I can only say ...you must know yourself and your body and limitations. again MIND OVER MATTER !!!

    DO NOT ..I repeat..DO NOT  respond to my status update submission as I don't want to hear from anyone...positive or NEGATIVE !? (I don't efing care ...got it!!! ) I only hope to help or encourage someone having a difficult time. After all isn't it why we are here to be supportive....and NOT HATING !!!   

  8. I've been silent for a few days...I really don't want this to go any further than it has (this is far too stressful and not good for my HEALING AND HEALTH) ... however...This is a reminder of (below) the very first message Greensleevie sent me. I had never spoken to her before this... the tone in this message is angry...and calling someone IMMATURE is not an insult ? and name calling ??? (BULLY) . I never said I had anything figured out...but I do have a mind and I have done the research to make my own (with the help of the medical staff at the hospital) to make my own decisions. Just because she has crowned herself the queen of bariatric surgery..all hail the queen. No one else is allowed an opinion especially on there own recovery and outlook on health....very sad. Everyone is different and everyone recovers differently. Not to mention I had the bypass not the sleeve that alone will tell you the difference in outcomes.

    I have actually been scolded by Alex Brecher ( founder ???)  not to mention someone called Outsidematchinside ( another someone of royalty) ??? 

    I thank all those who have supported and been kind to me ...however I am going to delete my account here with Bariatric Pal (the monarchy has put a bad taste in my mouth) :75_skull::75_skull::75_skull:

    Oh does anyone know how to delete this account  (I'm not very tech savvy) ...maybe Mr. Brecher can help me...??? 


    DIRECT QUOTE :::****Yup. I remember thinking I had it all together, too. It's easy when you're not hungry and the weight is falling off effortlessly.


    Glad you have this ALL figured out at a whole 2 months post op.

    I never understood how people presume to know what the future holds when they have no idea what challenges lie ahead? How immature.

    Are we saying you're absolutely going to be one of the almost 50% of people who are going to gain some or all of their weight back? No. We are saying to KEEP that from happening, you need to be aware of the pitfalls to PREVENT it from happening.

    You no more know what's going happen 3 years down the road at 3 months post op as I do 6 years down the road at 3.5 years post op. You can at least admit that, right?*****END QUOTE:::




    1. PAstudent


      Unfortunately, it doesn't look like you can:

      Also, I know advice coming from a 21 year old probably won't be given any credence, but perhaps assuming the best in others and having a positive and humble outlook would help with your healing process. It would definitely help with stress levels, reducing cortisol levels in your system. If you decide to continue to participate in this forum, a humble and positive attitude and a thicker skin would also really help in terms of interacting with others. We're all here to learn and lean on each other when things get tough, it'd be nice to think of the members of this site as a family. Please don't assume every comment that doesn't praise you is malicious. Some people might just use a different tone when writing.

      I legitimately think Greensleevie was coming from a place of good and trying to help you in the comment quoted. Perhaps the tone wasn't particularly pleasant, but let's look at what she's actually saying: we should be humble (weight loss is relatively easy right now because we're so fresh out of surgery, we also don't know what struggles lie ahead), she's asking you to be cognizant of the fact that a large number of people do gain some weight back and she doesn't want you to be one of them, finally, she admits that she also doesn't know what happens down the road for her just like you don't know what happens in your future. The vets on here have experienced everything we're going through. It would be wise to learn from their mistakes and successes.

    2. Sherrie Scharbrough

      Sherrie Scharbrough

      Hi YA, I didn't get in on any of this but...I have had the wrath of a few of the other members. It doesn't feel right to me. Yes we learn from each other and should always be kind and offer the upmost support!! But at the same time watch how we word things so noone gets their feelings trumply on!! The time I mentioned things did get a little out of hand. Over something that I will use now and beyond today!! So hold your head up and stay here with us. If things come up again you have every right to post your feelings and not get dragged down the rabbit hole. Sorry this happened to you. Keep on keeping on!!

    3. Greensleevie


      Dude. Really?

      You're going to flounce because someone you don't know on an internet forum told you that you may not have all the answers as a newbie?

      Don't give it a second thought and just move on. Don't be so thin skinned. It's an internet forum, and not everyone is going to agree. And guess what? That's okay! Most of us here are big boys and girls and we can handle it.

  9. It seems I've hit raw nerve with Greensleevie. According to her everyone fails at the bariatric surgery no matter what. And only she knows better because she has experience so all the doctors and nutritionists and all the programs that the hospital has put me through to make sure I do have a successful outcome are full of crap because Greensleevie says so. 

     So what is the point of going through all this if there is no hope for a successful outcome.  According to her I don't have the will to have a good outcome. I MUST FAIL and she says so. Weeee ...here goes a very sad and depressing road to no where. So if she fails or has a hard go of it...than everyone else must follow suit. NO ONE can have a positive experience and have good and healthy life after bariatric surgery. Again what's the point of going through this ??? 

    I am told I'm immature and  I protest too much because I'm a "newbie" I don't get to say how I should live my life... I must be a moron.

    Any one out there looking for positive feedback or a good role-model or some positive reinforcement look some place else... this is sickening

    I have made a conscious decision to be the best and healthiest I can be. Why does that bother people. Too much negative feed back I must say good-bye this is very sad and I won't be a part of it.  

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    2. Greensleevie


      So he can call me out on a status update for all to see, but I'm not allowed to respond?

      I never personally attacked him. I was hypothetically pointing out the pitfalls of regain and bariatric surgery. He instantly personally attacks me and insists I said he and everyone else fails at this surgery. I said no such thing. Then he slams me in a status update, but I'm supposed to just let it go while he can continue to talk ****?

      I see a double standard here.

    3. MowryRocks


      @Greensleevie I think its completely appropriate to respond, but I think your response was borderline cruel. Regardless of your intent, you obviously hurt his feelings. Yes, he called you out publicly, which I don't necessarily agree with either, but publicly defending yourself and throwing it back in his face only proves his point.

      This is really all that was needed...

      "I never personally attacked him. I was hypothetically pointing out the pitfalls of regain and bariatric surgery. He instantly personally attacks me and insists I said he and everyone else fails at this surgery."

    4. Greensleevie


      Fair enough @MowryRocks. I agree.

  10. Well Ms. Greensleevie I didn't want to go the route of name calling...however you started it. Immature??? really The very reason people start the name calling is they have NO ARGUMENT to defend. And because I won't join your "pity party" you feel threatened by my MATURE attitude towards my life long commitment to be healthy. Just because you are a failure doesn't mean everyone else must follow your weak and IMMATURE attitude. GROW UP !!! I didn't have this surgery on a whim. This was a decision with my doctor and then a year long process with the hospital performing the surgery. Surgeons, nurses, nutritionists, psychologists ( to make sure I was mentally prepared) to venture into this new lifestyle. And post surgery I have a 5yr program to follow with the same. I have my first post surgery meeting with the nutritionist on Aug 11th, then the nurse practitioner Aug. 22th, then another nurse practitioner Nov. 3rd, then the same day with a social worker, and then to end the year another nutritionist on Nov. 10th where I will get the schedule for the next year...so you see for the next 5yrs I am good...by that time I should be well on my way to having a healthy life. BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT I WANT !!! Like I said before it took a good kick in the pants to get here. And I ain't gonnna screw it up. Sorry I won't be joining your pity party this time. If you are in addiction like you say...than doesn't AA say you must admit you have a problem before you can get help. I admit I HAD a problem...now I got help... so sue me. So my dear if I fail and I won't....it's because I didn't take this surgery seriously. Just like you !!! your weak... and you are looking for other people to join your Debbie Downer pity party. I really don't understand why it's so difficult for you to GET THIS !! oh wait your a loser. Jack Canfield (Jack Canfield is an American author, motivational speaker, seminar leader, corporate trainer, and entrepreneur). said quote: "success depends on getting good at saying no without feeling guilt. You cannot go ahead with your own goals if you are always saying yes to someone elses projects. YOU CAN ONLY GET AHEAD WITH YOUR DESIRED LIFESTYLE IF YOU ARE FOCUSED ON THE THINGS THAT WILL PRODUCE THAT LIFESTYLE." end quote. this was given in the many pages of information from the Toronto Western Hospital were I had my surgery. You see they don't want me to fail either. I'll take a rain check on your negative attitude. Be Healthy and Prosper
  11. Well to all those who are saying how easy it is to so called "slide down the slippery slope" or hit "those rocks in the road" and us newbies who "have the tiger by the tail" and every other idiom out there all say that you obviously weren't mentally ready to engage in this new world of self awareness. Again...having surgery which ever method you decide to have..lap band, sleeve, or bypass... THIS IS NOT MAGIC SURGERY. It does not give you the permission to go out after words to the nearest buffet or fast food place or buy a family size bag of potato chips, and think OOHHH boy I had some magic surgery now I can eat anything I want (not to mention the unmentionable...exercise) . NO NO NO. So you need to decide am I going to be successful at this or not. If you are making excuses like "nobody is validating me any more" ... you're becoming healthier ..are you doing this for them or yourself? I'm going to try eating more sugar...why? I personally have type 2 diabetes and got so tired of taking large amounts of insulin everyday. I can't drink alcohol any more... boo hoo...maybe you have another issue to deal with?? What's an occasional splurge ? really? Cut out carbs all together.. again I made a decision to not eat carbs/ gluten anymore. There are so many subs to replace all the bread, rice, and pasta you crave. Try some. Any one of your Nuts out there will tell you if your putting more calories in your body than your burning your doing something wrong. SO NO SLIDDERS ! So if all you who have been out for 3 or 4 or 5 yrs plus have just forgotten why you had the surgery to begin with. Maybe you need a second so called "HONEYMOON" a few of you mention all the failures out there...what about all the successes !!! which I will be one of...It's not BULLSHIT... Obesity is manageable. Some of us need extra help such as the surgery of your choice...but healthy eating is a close second option. So make all the excuses you want. That's what they are EXCUSES. Nobody has a gun to your head saying eat that junk.. it was all your decision. So hate me all you want I will talk to you in 3 or 4 or 5 yrs from now and still be on my "HONEYMOON".
  12. HI everyone

    there has been some talk about "falling of the wagon" I get that... we are all human. Having said that...I don't know all the different programs all of you went through for pre and post surgeries but mine was a year long and then some with a psychologist and nutritionists and doctors/surgeons  and the same post... a five year program.

    One thing all of them mentioned is that "this is not magic surgery" you are not going to be able to eat everything and anything you want post surgery. This must be understood!!!!

    There will be some foods you ate before you will never eat again. You must understand this !!!!! This is not "get out of jail" for free card.!!!!  You will and always have to watch what you eat. Therefore you and only you are responsible for the results of your surgery. 

    This message was pressed into our heads  again and again.   

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    2. Jeffrey Stern

      Jeffrey Stern

      I know it is very difficult for some people and easy to fall of the wagon. I've said it before... food is like an addiction. Some people turn to drugs, alcohol and some to food. I myself was one. This seems to be an on going theme with some people. However like drugs and alcohol they say you must admit to yourself you have a problem and hit bottom before you can get help. My bottom was being 325 lbs and gaining with health issues (high cholesterol, high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, arthritis, back pain) find clothes to wear.

      My surgery was covered by the government ( you had to have three medical issues to qualify for the surgery.. high blood pressure, high cholesterol and of course the queen of all ...type 2 diabetes... so yes I'm lucky in that ...I could never be able to afford the surgery on my own ). Now my blood pressure is better and my cholesterol is better and of course my diabetes is better I was taking upwards of 60 units of insulin a day ( my sugar levels were in the high teens and low twenties now they are in the single digits between 5.7 and 7 ) plus metformin. Now I have no longer to take insulin.

      I'm not saying it's easy.. however I made a conscious decision and speaking with my doctor to have the surgery after a significant weight gain ( turning to food for depression).

      I did say one thing before the surgery... I'm not going to fail this... I've hit my rock bottom. (like so many other things in my life) I'm not going to go through all this and not succeed. I needed a good kick in the butt.

      I guess what I'm saying after all this, It is a life altering change and being mentally prepared is just as important as the surgery.

      Good health and prosper ;)

    3. PAstudent


      I'm really happy for you! Putting your diabetes in remission is huge! Good luck to you man.

    4. Greensleevie


      Once again, the guy who is 3 months post op thinks he has all the answers.


  13. Dear Introversion I don't think I'm being fooled...thank you. I can barely eat anything without "dumping" if I do. If I eat too fast or too much I get incredible indigestion and start to puke. I think the sleeve gives you a little more room for food than having a bypass and you technically still have a stomach (hence the term "bypass" your intestines aren't being re arranged) I'm just saying. So what you call a "Honeymoon period" has never existed for me. I have also made a conscious decision to eat a healthier lifestyle... I didn't go through all this just to run to the nearest Burger King or all you can eat buffet. Which I think some recipients of any of the surgeries fool themselves that they can. So there will never...and I do mean NEVER !!! be a so called slippery slop for me. Why didn't I do that before you ask yourself...because like many bariatric patients we turn to food for comfort and I loved my junk food. I did that. I guess I didn't have the will power. But now as fore-mentioned it's impossible for me to do so. So some of us need a good kick in the pants. So the only thing looming for me is a weight loss of 80lbs (to date still more to come) and a smaller waist line and smaller shirt sizes. My type 2 diabetes is back on track. I'm not about to jeopardize that for a hamburger and fries. I thank you for the Forewarned and forearmed. And I can say Never say never. NEVER !!!!! Eat healthy and prosper
  14. Hello MsBrown76 I don't know a whole lot about the sleeve...I had the bypass. Having that procedure makes it next to if not impossible for me to over indulge. It is a shame you have gained those 20 - 25 lbs, after all that you've been through. Food can be an addiction just like drugs and alcohol. People don't see that because we do need food to survive. Here's some tough love MsBrown76. STOP IT !!!! LOL LOL Falling off the wagon is a state of mind and you know your doing it ... WHY ?? you work so hard at blaming and belittling yourself...WHY ??? Your sabotaging yourself.... why??? Yes food is like a sin to some of us ( we have all been there).... and we gravitate to medicate for something. But you have done some very positive things for yourself you have had the surgery...that's the first step and on to many other things. Healthy food does not have to be boring nor tasteless nor a sign of punishment for being heavy. (Notice I didn't say fat) words have dramatic effects on our minds. I also stay away from the word "DIET" because it has come to be a dirty word for food deprivation and again we equate it with punishment for being weight challenged. "Only FAT people DIET" !!! There are so many blogs and bariatric websites out there now for people like us who need to watch what we eat. Some great healthy alternatives full of flavour and a lot less calories. A quick story for you... a friend and I had a quick lunch at a fast food court lots of junk food places and the like. I found a bowl of chili (who doesn't like chili a much healthier option) at a Tim Hortons... personally I like Wendys better (but I digress) my friend had Burger King, I so wanted to reach over and take a fry or two, but NO!...I said NO! It was tough but I felt good. So I don't bore you anymore...keep in mind it's all in the mind and even if I don't know you... I know you have the strength to carry on. This blog has many wonderful people on it who are here to help and all know what you are going through. So keep yourself proud and happy of what you have accomplished those 20 - 25 lbs are a thing of the past and will be a small stumbling block on a road to success . EAT HEALTHY AND PROSPEROUS NO -...YES -
  15. Jeffrey Stern


    I would say I'm 90 % vegan LOL I am eating far more vegetables and legumes as well fruit than meat or fish. I also have cut out carbs/ ie bread, rice, pasta. There are so many more options out there to sub. Cauliflower seems to be the new veg on the go right now and I find it subs for a lot of carb related recipes. Another veg I use if I feel like pasta is Spaghetti squash it really looks and acts like real pasta. Here are some websites I found www.bariatriccookery.com http://theworldaccordingtoeggface.blogspot.ca/ /www.facebook.com/bariatriceating/ good luck and good health
  16. Okay I need some tough love...I have lost a considerable amount of weight in 2 and a half months. I need to start firming up. I walk a lot however I really need motivation for excercising. I have a Pilates ball and skipping rope and even a rubber tension rope (you know for muscle and pec building) but can't get myself going. I HATE TO EXCERCISE !!!

    HELP !!!!!!:57_cry:

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    2. Meryline


      Take a look at youtube, there are so many great videos there to help you get motivated. Look for exercises that includes the items that you have. You can do this!

    3. Apple1


      I think you need to find the activity that you really enjoy doing that way you will be more likely to continue. I will list a few, swimming, running, bicycle, sports games, dancing, lifting weights, zumba, yoga,

      the list is endless.

      Give yourself a chance to like an activity. You will be a little sore when you first start so go slow. You may find after a couple of weeks you start to look forward to doing it.

    4. Jeffrey Stern

      Jeffrey Stern

      Thanks ya'll I did start to ride my bike... and was I sore the next day. I just needed a kick in the butt. I am just going to have to start excercising whether I like it or not.

  17. I am back on track after a few stale mates. I am having trouble finding clothes to wear at the rate I am losing. I don't want to keep going out to buy new stuff only for a month or less. :57_cry: such a problem I know. I do frequent second hand stores and the like.  I saw a couple of submissions about people falling off the wagon...stay strong and get back on. We're all human I have had a couple of falls for ice cream ( and I'm not such an ice cream lover ...go figure) .  But the devil made me do it  :72_imp: LOL !!

    1. Newme17


      I've decided to just wear what I've got for as long as I can. But I'm fortunate to wear exercise clothes (stretchy) to work if I want. I wear the same thing around the house and to church. But it is a little frustrating knowing I will need to get more later. I try to keep to inexpensive walmart/clearanced items for new things.

      Still have ice cream in the freezer...untouched. 😊

    2. ProudGrammy


      glad you are back on the right path. i went to thrift shops too. didn't want to spend a lot of money on something i would "out grow" keep your head and pants up. congrats on your 75 lb weight loss. good luck - kathy

  18. Here's some tough love people... STOP !!! You've gone through so much (as far as surgery and recovery goes) and why do you want to sabotage that? Yes we are all human and that can be tough. However... please...you MUST make a conscious effort to eat healthy. BE STRONG!! don't let the devil do it I know you can quick story...out with friend for lunch in a food court not a lot of healthy food options. However I found a bowl of chili at a Tim Hortons...(personally I like Wendy's better they have hot sauce... but I digress) and my friend had Burger King. I so wanted to reach over and grab a french fry...but the good little angel on my shoulder (and not the devil ) said NO Jeffrey you have come too far ! I have made a conscious decision to stay away from carbs/gluten and of course sugar (especially if you have type 2 diabetes like me) . That means NO NO NO pasta, rice, and bread unless it's gluten free. There are so many options out there now to sub for all that. Not to mention blogs and websites dedicated to cooking for bariatric patients. You would be amazed how cauliflower has subbed for so many recipes for example. And tastes great really So PLEASE !! even if I don't know you...I respect you for having gone through the same physical anguish I have and don't F**K it up. Here are a couple of recipes...try and good health Cauliflower Fried Rice-like Ingredients 1 small head cauliflower 2 teaspoons olive oil, plus more if serving with eggs 3 carrots, peeled and diced 3 scallions, thinly sliced at an angle (separate white bottoms and green tops) 1 cup frozen peas, defrosted and drained 2 cloves garlic, peeled and minced Two 1-inch pieces fresh ginger, peeled and minced 1 tablespoon sesame oil 1 tablespoon soy sauce Salt and freshly ground pepper 1 pound Chinese barbecue pork, diced (optional) 4 eggs (optional) Preparation 1. Halve the cauliflower through the stem. Cut out and discard the tough, leafy parts and cut the head into florets. Rinse in cold water and dry. 2. Working in batches (do not overcrowd the bowl, fill it only about halfway), add the florets to the bowl of a food processor fitted with the steel blade and pulse until it resembles rice, about 30 seconds. Repeat with remaining cauliflower. Set aside for immediate use or store, covered, in the refrigerator for up to 5 days. 3. In a large nonstick pan, heat the olive oil over medium-high heat until hot. Add the carrots and the white bottoms of the scallions. Season with salt and pepper and cook, stirring occasionally, until slightly softened, about 3 minutes. 4. Add the peas, garlic and ginger, and cook, stirring occasionally, for 1 to 2 minutes. Add the cauliflower rice and stir to combine. 5. Add sesame oil and soy sauce and continue to cook, stirring to combine, about 2 minutes (do not overcook or cauliflower will become mushy). If using pork, add it to the pan, and toss to heat through. Taste to correct seasoning; add salt and pepper if necessary. Transfer to a serving bowl and top with remaining green scallions. 6. If serving with eggs, in the same pan that you cooked the rice, add about two teaspoons of olive oil and heat over medium until warm. Add eggs, one at a time, keeping them separate. Cook until whites are set and yolks are to your liking, about 5 to 6 minutes. Serve egg on top of rice. Sticky Cauliflower 1-2 tbsp. vegetable oil 1 1/4 cups unflavored soy or almond milk 1 cup whole wheat flour 1/2 tsp. salt 1/2 tsp. baking powder 1 large cauliflower crown, broken into florets 1/2 cup soy sauce 1/2 cup maple syrup (low sugar/or fake syrup low sugar) 1/4 cup rice vinegar 2 tsp. sesame oil 2 tsp. fresh grated ginger 2 garlic cloves, minced 1 tsp. sriracha 1 tbsp. cornstarch 1/4 cup cold water 2 scallions, chopped toasted sesame seeds cooked rice, for serving Instructions Preheat oven to 450° (preheating is crucial here, so don't skip it). Use about 1 tablespoon of vegetable oil to coat the bottom of a large roasting pan or oven-safe skillet. Stir milk, flour, salt and baking powder together in small bowl. Dip cauliflower florets in mixture to coat, shaking off any excess batter. Arrange in a single layer in roasting pan or skillet. Bake 10 minutes. While cauliflower bakes, combine soy sauce, maple syrup, rice vinegar, sesame oil, ginger, garlic and sriracha in a small saucepan. Place over medium heat and bring to a simmer. Allow to simmer for 10 minutes. Stir cornstarch and water together in a small container until cornstarch is fully dissolved. Add to soy sauce mixture and stir to blend. Remove from heat. Remove cauliflower from oven and flip. Lightly brush florets with remaining tablespoon of oil. Return to oven and bake 5 minutes more, until they begin to sizzle and lightly crisp. Remove from oven and pour sauce over florets. Return to oven and bake 3-4 minutes more, just until sauce becomes very sticky and coasts florets. Serve over rice (optional) and sprinkle with sesame seeds and scallions. Notes You can also skip the rice and serve the cauliflower as a wing-style appetizer.
  19. Well my weight loss is on vacation...lost 3lbs in the last couple weeks slow as molasses...and since I'm not eating anything (no appetite) it's really annoying.:angry: 

    1. Apple1


      It will pick up again just have patience. I know it is hard, but if you are on point with your eating and exercise it is just a normal stall. I have had a couple myself.

  20. Well my friend Liltwidget... I am pretty cool... ask any of my friends...LOL I had bypass for the same reason my type 2 D was out of control; and I was taking far too much insulin and metformin. I won't lie I have had a couple of issues with dumping and it's not fun. It's just a learning process don't eat fast and too much at once. However the odds are in your favor. I've lost 70 lbs in two months. My sugar levels are terrific and my doc is doing cartwheels for that. That's pretty damn good. So hold your head high and laugh at all those sleeves (chickens) as you lose weight much faster. good luck not cluck... I just made that up LOL LOL
  21. Jeffrey Stern

    Not sure if I messed up or did right

    here are a couple of websites and blogs for recipes http://www.netwellness.org/healthtopics/diet/pureedentreesalads.cfm#blended vegetables www.bariatriccookery.com /www.facebook.com/bariatriceating/ http://theworldaccordingtoeggface.blogspot.ca/ good luck
  22. Jeffrey Stern


    Your welcome gailkindo You will do just great.. it's all so scary before than poof it's all over with and your saying to yourself what was I so afraid. Look at the number of people on this blog. We all have gone through the same thing and come out better for it. Unfortunately we were all given the short end of the stick... our weight issues. However we all have also made firm decisions to fight the challenges we have been given. It's a new life and a new you... go forth and be healthy !
  23. Jeffrey Stern


    Hi gailkindo Your having gastric sleeve I don't see a date if you've had or having. I had Gastric bypass (some say it's more painful because they are rearranging my intestines.) Regardless it's surgery and there will be discomfort. I was given Oxycontin to take home with me after 2days in the hospital and I only needed it for a few days after...then extra strength tylenol did the job of keeping the pain away. Make sure you have all the info you need from your doc and Meds that will help you through the pain. I won't lie to you the only time I felt excruciating pain was when I was coming out of anesthesia but they soon took care of that. you will be fine and I know your a big girl LOL Good luck and remember this is the beginning of a new you

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