Abeille213

I realize this post is several years old and I'm not sure if you still use this app, but I love your post. Thank you so much. I am vegetarian and, as I ready myself for surgery, I am having some difficulty finding the "right" kinds of proteins to add to my diet. Your post is really helpful. Thank you. Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

No, hun, you're not throwing anyone under the bus. I truly appreciate hearing this. I am terrified that I will be one of the people who fail and that's the last thing I want. I need to hear stories like this as a type of reality check. That being said, I do hope very much your sister finds a way to become healthy. Life is hard. Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

I have my RNY transition on June 12 and I am terrified I will fail and not lose weight. I had the lapband in 2008 and lost 100 pounds, but it was very slow and took about 5 years. I did keep it off though (with an occasional up and down of 15 pounds). I have always looked at my lapband as a failure. I figured out the "tricks" and how to get around the restriction of the band and I took advantage of it. I was weak. I am weak. It's so hard not to eat. Am I the only one who is afraid of failing? Of being that one person who is such a disgusting fat pig that even TWO weight loss surgeries can't keep her from eating? I know it's all up to me and I hold the choices in my hands, but there are times I just don't care. I eat and eat and do not care. Not until afterward. Is there anyone else like me out there? Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

Mandy, ignore that person. No matter where you go whether it's work, with friends, with family or online... there is always that one person who enjoys arguing and trying to bring others down. I feel badly for them because people like that are typically incredibly miserable human beings. Your instinctive reaction to be kind to others is a good thing! Don't let anyone make you question that. It's funny... For a group of people who have dealt with obesity for many years and have (most likely) endured the cruelty from people who love to make fun of overweight people, one would think that compassion amongst this group of people would be here in spades. But, unfortunately, there is cruelty everywhere. Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

Lol you sound like me. Netflix, a comfy place to relax and a few books. I'm doing the more practical things too. Making sure all the laundry is done, bills are all paid, little errands are run and stuff like that. I went out and bought my post-op shakes and vitamins. I bought a food scale and made sure I had the right size measuring cups. I'll talk to my nutritionist again, also, and will get some of the foods she suggests. If your doctor didn't require you to have a session with a nutritionist, I would still highly recommend seeing one. She asked me a bunch of questions and is tailoring a personalized diet plan for me to insure I get the nutrients I need post-op. My session with her was only $49. Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

Exactly as you said, for most of us the issue is psychological. That's what terrifies me so much. The surgery is an incredible tool, but it won't be fully successful without addressing the psychological aspect of things. That's something I have to really start facing. My surgery is coming up really soon. I need to find a therapist. I don't want to fail. Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

My surgery is in two weeks and I've been wondering the same thing. Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

That's amazing news! It gives me hope! My surgery date is June 12 and I'm constantly nervous about failing and not losing weight. I love these success stories. There are so many things I can't do now. I really look forward to be able to do the little thing. Walk up stairs, fit in the chairs at the sports stadium, buy clothes that don't have to be ordered online, go outside without sweating. I hope I have your kind of success! Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

It was the right decision! You are going to do great. Do you mind if I ask how your sister gained 100lbs post surgery? Doesn't the small stomach size make it very difficult to overeat? I don't mean to sound ignorant at all, but I'm just unaware that's all. Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

You're absolutely right. We are in control here. The fear is really of ourselves and our own actions. But we are the ones who hold the control. Nobody else. We can do this. I hope your pre-op diet is going well. Mine begins this coming Monday the 29th. I'm determined to do well. Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

Thank you for this! I needed to hear that my fears are common and others are worried too. Thanks so much. Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

Ugh I haven't even had surgery yet and my hair is falling out. I stopped eating meat about 1.5 years ago and my hair is falling out terrible. I've even lost most of my eyebrows. So, I'm super worried about this with my upcoming surgery. Hopefully my appt with the nutritionist will point me in the right direction. If I learn anything that hasn't been mentioned here I will repost. Transitioning from lapband to bypass on June 12! HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

Wow. Emotionally blackmailing you? That's horrible. I'm sorry. Currently waiting on surgery date to transition from lapband to bypass. HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185

As a therapist myself as well as someone who is going to have WLS, it sounds as if this intern is probable unsure herself about how to approach your situation. Most likely, she is having you do what she has seen her predecessors do... which is assign a very good book (IF you were an emotional eater) and "force" them to discuss it, i.e. force the client to face their emotional eating issue. I'm sorry you're being made to do this when it doesn't seem relevant, but it most likely isn't worth the fight to argue or discuss with her about her. She may deny your surgery just because she feels you're being non-compliant with treatment. Read the book, take notes as you read. That way you won't have to remember everything you read. It will all be written down in your notes. Then go back and review the notes before you discuss it with her. Also, you can go on Amazon and read the reviews. You'll usually find a synopsis there. Kind of like Cliff's Notes. As for not contacting your therapist yet, if she's an intern then it's likely she isn't there every day. She's probably busy with a million other things right now including finals, work, etc. And, since interns are unpaid, she probably isn't going to be putting work in after hours in order to contact your therapist. I would gently remind her when you see her that you're on a timetable here and need it ASAP. Good luck! Currently waiting on surgery date to transition from lapband to bypass. HW: 402, CW: 314, GW 185