jlindenman

I have a great suggestion . Date me. Lol, but we live too far apart.
John. Lol

Me too. Bensalem /Philadelphia area

I am so sorry about your partner. That is,a horrible thing to have to deal with by v yourself. I hope you are doing ok.

Me too. Bensalem /Philadelphia area

Nothing weird about that at all. You are experiencing something amazing. You are supposed to be happy and excited about the changes in your body. That is the reward for going through a very difficult procedure.
I am looking at myself and I still think I'm fat even though my family says I am getting too skinny.

You are so correct. That to me is a sign of a very shallow person. This surgery is a difficult adventure as it is without negative people like that. I usually don't even get to telling them about my surgery because I have to tell them that I am also disabled. I an sorry this is happening to you. You are an extremely beautiful woman inside and out. I hope things change for the better. It will. I'm sure.
john

That's a great attitude you have. I have on my experience that if you ask a woman to a ball game or a nice place for dinner they give you the slow down tiger bullshit. I am to do g that every woman is different and if you try to be respectful and not too fast and you invite to meet for coffee you are labeled like you just did. Its impossible to figure out the right way to start. I personally don't like when a woman says slow down tiger when all I'm tryi g to do is get to know her. Then sometimes I spend a good amount meet I g someone for dinner and they decide they don't want to see me again for whatever reason and cannot even be decent enough to tell me. They just ignore my messages, then I feel I just wasted $150 or whatever it cost. Might not be an issue for you, but I don't want to waste my money on someone who doesn't have a clue what they want. Can't win no matter what we do. I don't think asking a woman out to an event or a nice dinner is moving too fast and I'm not just trying to get in her pants. I want to know as much as I can about her and you cannot get that from email or texts.

That's a great attitude you have. I have on my experience that if you ask a woman to a ball game or a nice place for dinner they give you the slow down tiger bullshit. I am to do g that every woman is different and if you try to be respectful and not too fast and you invite to meet for coffee you are labeled like you just did. Its impossible to figure out the right way to start. I personally don't like when a woman says slow down tiger when all I'm tryi g to do is get to know her. Then sometimes I spend a good amount meet I g someone for dinner and they decide they don't want to see me again for whatever reason and cannot even be decent enough to tell me. They just ignore my messages, then I feel I just wasted $150 or whatever it cost. Might not be an issue for you, but I don't want to waste my money on someone who doesn't have a clue what they want. Can't win no matter what we do. I don't think asking a woman out to an event or a nice dinner is moving too fast and I'm not just trying to get in her pants. I want to know as much as I can about her and you cannot get that from email or texts.

Well you dodged a bullet. She is used to bums and isn't used to being treated nicely. In the end she would have treated you badly because she doesn't feel worthy of a good man.
When people show you what kind of person they are, believe them.
She was a low quality woman and you are lucky you didn't waste time on her.

If a guy isn't contacting me on a daily basis, and he hasn't told me before hand he is busy. He goes to the bottom of the pile or is blocked.

Well, hopefully by the time you feel comfy enough to get down n dirty with someone you feel comfy enough to talk about your weight loss n how you're a lil insecure about being naked in front of someone..
Munky

I don't think you need to tell them that you have had surgery. If you are worried about what reaction you might receive, you may just tell them that you have lost a large amount of weight a heads up on what to expect. Some may have a problem, others will not.

The biggest thing that I look for, and am attracted to is confidence.
If a man lacks it, two things are going to happen.
1. I'm probably not going to be that interested
2. If I still happen to like the person, I'll take charge, as I am a naturally dominant woman. That's just who I am.
I love Alpha males. Not the chest beaters, those guys are really beta males trying to convince you they are Alphas. A true Alpha male (imo) is a man who knows how to create his own space. He is in control of himself, and his emotions. He is never desperate or needy. He is not the guy going around from table to table at a club looking for a woman. An Alpha male is the guy sitting alone, comfortable in his own skin, enjoying himself...he always draws the women to him. He is neither controlling or overly dominant, because he has total control of himself. He is not insecure or jealous either. Now that's exactly what I want. That kind of man, I feel safe with. Which for me, is very high on my list of needs, where a mate is concerned.
The smell thing....maybe I'm different, more animalistic, or primal, but I don't mind a little musk on my men. I like to be able to smell their natural body odor. I do not mean rank. But I don't need a soapy smelling apple/pomegranate in bed. You mask your true scent, and that's what makes me want a man more...his true scent.
Very good questions @@OKCPirate
Uh oh, sorry I thought these questions were geared towards women, looks like I'm in the wrong room. Carry on with your discussion.

WOW. CONGRATULATIONS. YOU HAVE DONE AN AMAZING JOB. YOU SHOULD BE SO B PROUD OF YOURSELF. WE WERE ALL BEAUTIFUL AND HA SOME PEOPLE BEFORE OUR SURGERY BUT WE WERE NOT HAPPY OR HEALTHY. YOU MADE A LIFE CHANGING DECISION AND IT WAS THE HARDEST THINGS YOU HAVE EVER DONE, BEAUTIFUL UT YOU DID IT, AND YOU LOOK FABULOUS. I WAS 255 AND NOW 4 months later I am 185 I know I feel so much better and healthy, I can only imaging how you feel. You look so beautiful and I'm sure that any man would love v to have you as his girlfriend /wife, ect. I wish you the best of luck and thank you for sharing you personal photos with us. You are an amazing woman. Great job.
Johnj

Hello baby. You wete. Eautiful before your surgery, but you look even more beautiful now. Great job. I feel great and I only lost 80 pounds. I cannot imagine how great you must feel. You are so beautiful and I want to tell you that I love you, and wish nothing but the best for you. You are so brave and you added so many years to your life. I would love to talk privately to you if you would like. If you email me, we can exchange contact numbers if you like. Great job baby.
Johnj

WOW. CONGRATULATIONS. YOU HAVE DONE AN AMAZING JOB. YOU SHOULD BE SO B PROUD OF YOURSELF. WE WERE ALL BEAUTIFUL AND HA SOME PEOPLE BEFORE OUR SURGERY BUT WE WERE NOT HAPPY OR HEALTHY. YOU MADE A LIFE CHANGING DECISION AND IT WAS THE HARDEST THINGS YOU HAVE EVER DONE, BEAUTIFUL UT YOU DID IT, AND YOU LOOK FABULOUS. I WAS 255 AND NOW 4 months later I am 185 I know I feel so much better and healthy, I can only imaging how you feel. You look so beautiful and I'm sure that any man would love v to have you as his girlfriend /wife, ect. I wish you the best of luck and thank you for sharing you personal photos with us. You are an amazing woman. Great job.
Johnj

I am so sorry about your partner. That is,a horrible thing to have to deal with by v yourself. I hope you are doing ok.

You are a true inspiration to all of us. I would love to talk to you on the phone. 2673708303. You really did a great job . A lot of hard work and I can only imagine how great you feel. I list 70 pounds and I walk around like I'm some kind of god. Lol
John

Crazy! All your work shows!

Wow! Remarkable, good job!

Amazing!!!!! 😊

Amazing!!! Congrats

Wow, awesome! You look fantastic! Congratulations on your weight loss and hard work. Thanks for sharing.

You look amazing!

Down a total of 190 pounds, sometimes I still can't believe it!

Amazing