Pam_2-06-2017

First you probably are being sensitive. Hormones post-op are a mofo.
Is your best friend a plus sized woman?
As far as your husband, so many things could be going on there. This is a bad time to jump to conclusions or make rash decisions.
First he could just be trying to support you in your weight loss by taking you places
Previously you might have made him feel like you didn't want to go places and he made excuses to make that okay
He could be insecure and feel like he needs to court you now to keep you.
Men are visual, he might just be enjoying the new you.
I love when my dog gets groomed he is super cute but I love him when he isn't groomed. When he is freshly groomed I dress him more than when his hair is long. It has nothing to with loving him less or more, it just is.
You should be happy your husband still wants you. There are lots of people that post here, lose weight, and their husbands don't want them, ignore them and abuse them.

What outside said. Every word.
Also, women feel perfectly fine commenting on each other's bodies, which is weird in many ways because we fight so hard to stop body shaming. My guesses are that they're trying to compliment you but may be insecure as well. If it's meant mean spirited you'll know. For now assume it's you and not them because you're definitely in the hormonal phase (luckily it didn't happen to me but I'm the outlier here) because I have an issue holding my tongue and then have to apologize a lot.
Try not to project or assume why people are behaving the way the are and enjoy your new figure and your new life. Change is tough. Even good change.

@OutsideMatchInside says it good. I've had the same feelings/resentments with my hubby from time to time, BUT I know that I cannot hold on to what may be not even true. I love my husband and am happy he is embracing me getting smaller. You'll have to make the decision to let go, forgive and move on. So YOU can be a better person about it all.

They are the same people they were before. You are the one that has changed. Some people deal with change well, others do not. Embrace the new you. Don't worry about the old.

Today's weight...198!!
Can't believe onederland is here to stay! Never been under 200 in my adult life!!

Summer challenge goal reached [emoji2]

7/21/17 - 173.5

1. It is amazing how we see ourselves as opposed to how others see us. We look in the mirror through a lens of years of negative self-talk. Stop looking at yourself and instead soak up what others say about you. If you only have 60 pounds to lose then there is no doubt that 27 pounds are noticeable...own it!
2. My stomach healed awesome! Be thankful for that. I was so bummed to think that I was taking a perfectly healthy digestive system and making drastic changes to it with the possibility of having food sensitivities, GERD and a host of other possibilities that I just never had to deal with. Thankfully that did not happen and I am super happy about it.
3. If your "normal" is like before surgery then say bye, bye to normal:-) A new normal will begin to emerge. My new normal is being able to pass every junk food restaurant without even once thinking of giving it a go. It is having the control to stop eating when I'm full and push the plate away while I concentrate on the amazing friends and family I am with. It is enjoying a hike with my husband and son. Now is the time to create a new normal for yourself. In no time you will be eating out, enjoying friends and family, and living an amazingly fuller, happier life because you are a new, healthier normal.
I have ~39 pounds of the 80 that I had to lose. I love the way my body feels, moves and looks. Would I like tighter skin? You bet...but I'm completely ok with it just as it is now. Wow! What a revelation! Like I said...own it!!!!
Take care.

Another thought is that pre-sleeve I was eating nutrient deficient foods. Most of what I ate was probably pretty bad for me.

Now I eat dense Proteins and few carbs. What carbs I do get are from veggies.

My body is fed better than it ever has been.

I was not told to take a Calcium supplement either but it just made sense.

Take care

Another thought is that pre-sleeve I was eating nutrient deficient foods. Most of what I ate was probably pretty bad for me.

Now I eat dense Proteins and few carbs. What carbs I do get are from veggies.

My body is fed better than it ever has been.

I was not told to take a Calcium supplement either but it just made sense.

Take care

Yes....it does pass. Congrats on coping. You have the right attitude.

I had my gall bladder removed in 2009 after losing lots of weight very quickly on HCG. I gained weight back but it was because I stopped doing HCG and went back to my old, nasty way of eating. I had vsg on 2/6/2017 and am eating healthy and happily and steadily losing weight.
The gall bladder is simply a storage unit for bile to be released into the stomach when bile is needed. If you eat high fat foods more bile is needed to break down the food so the gall bladder goes to town. The reason we don't necessarily need a gall bladder is because the pancreas can do the same thing. As a matter of fact the pancreas is what fills the gall bladder in the event that bile is needed. When we crash diet or go on a very low calorie diet the gall bladder just sits there with all this bile just waiting for you to pound down a couple Big Macs again. When you don't, it just sits in there and crystallizes into stones. The stones move into the opening where it hurts like hell. Then into surgery for gall bladder removal.
As you can see, this has nothing to do with weight loss or gain. You will not gain weight because you do not have a gall bladder.
Take care

@melty29 monitoryourweight.com I downloaded it from the app store.

Today I have moved into a class I haven't seen in my entire adult life. I left Obese Class I and am now just overweight with a BMI of 29.9!!!
I am through the roof with happiness.

Do you mean the nutritional impacts? The sleeve has only been around since 2011 so the data is not in.
My logical self says that it will not have much impact. Usually when we get old our appetite decreases and our diversity of food choices decrease as well. Consequently, I feel that nutritionally it will have the least impact of all WLS surgeries as malabsorption is not a factor in the equation.
I hope that kind of answer is what you are looking for.
P

Today I have moved into a class I haven't seen in my entire adult life. I left Obese Class I and am now just overweight with a BMI of 29.9!!!
I am through the roof with happiness.

7/14/2017 - 174.5

Today I have moved into a class I haven't seen in my entire adult life. I left Obese Class I and am now just overweight with a BMI of 29.9!!!
I am through the roof with happiness.

Hi Pam,
Thank you so so much for your kind words and encouragement. That's very sweet of you and you made me feel like I'm not alone in this.

I'm so happy things are going well with you and that you've recovered beautifully. It's so funny because you said something I've been thinking which is that I'm hoping to go out to dinner with friends or family and not be a weirdo when the food comes lol I can't wait till that time comes and I can feel somewhat normal.

I just can't wait to be home next months and I'm sure it'll make things better. I do take Protein Shakes now 30g of protein each but since starting week 4 today I'll limit it to only one shake and see how that goes.

I think maybe what I'm feeling is that head hunger also like you said and since I'm here alone I guess I've turned to good whenever I was bored or had any other emotions going on. Now it's just hard to figure out what to do but thank God I have a dog so he does keep me company

Tina, I am so sorry you have to start this very difficult journey so far away from your support. It must be difficult but I hear so much strength in your post. You can do this.

I am nearly 6 months post op and almost all my concerns have faded away. I feel so amazing the little idiosyncrasies I deal with now are minimal.

I do not feel real hunger. This is something I am grateful for. Early on I had lots of head hunger but to this day I don't have any symptoms of hunger. This has enabled me to stick to my eating plan so well.

This group is the only support that I receive. It is an amazing resource and I feel like it is sufficient for my needs. I do not have a support group in my area and I live in a small town. I can't even go to a local therapist because everyone in the neighborhood will know I need a shrink:-)

By about three months out I started to feel "normal". I could comfortably eat 4-6 ounces of food and enjoy a dinner out with friends without feeling like a weirdo for only eating a few bites.

In short, you will be fine. Without a nutritionist it is hard. A simple formula I have learned for success is 60-100 g of Protein a day, no more than 25 carbs, and 64 ounces of liquid each day. Early on I couldn't reach 60 so for now make it a goal that you are trying to reach. The 64 ounces can include the liquid you get from shakes, coffee, tea, etc. At 4 weeks this can be done but for me I needed at least one Protein Shake a day that had 30g of protein.

Take your vitamins...so important.

I know you will do great!

Take care

Today I have moved into a class I haven't seen in my entire adult life. I left Obese Class I and am now just overweight with a BMI of 29.9!!!
I am through the roof with happiness.

Why is it that mom's feel guilty if we're even thinking about doing something for ourselves? I have officially gotten over that:-). I am the shopper in my home so what comes in is all up to me. If junk gets through my door it better be eaten quick or it will disappear. Honestly!
I am nearly 5 months post op so I'm still pretty honeymoon about it. But at this point my family likes the person I've become so appealing to them for understanding is pretty easy. I guess they are also in the honeymoon stage:-/
i still allow some things as my teen-aged son and husband with ravenous appetites and no weight problems need calories. So I practice resisting. I have introduced a few things back into my home and intentionally resisted. I don't beat myself up about it. Things I'm proud to resist are ice cream, crackers, tortilla chips... that doesn't mean I don't eat it. I resist it. Example: if I think about the ice cream in the fridge I resist. But when my son has a bowl I ask him to serve me a bowl with three tablespoons and savor every spoonful and log it in my journal. I want to build a healthy relationship with food.
At two years out nobody has to tell you how to eat or how to get over your addiction. You know the plan. You have to find that mojo within yourself that moved you in the direction of WLS. Food addiction sucks but you have a great tool to help you get it under control.
Take care

I am not complaining about only losing 29 pounds, just want to be sure that this stall is normal. I was also on antibiotics for a month because of a staff infection in my incision. Thank you so much for your input, I have a very hard time being patient.

I love the program. It sure eases you into running. Walk 1 1/2 minutes, run 1 minute. That has been week one. Week two adds a minute to the workout and increases the run time 30 seconds. It prepares your joints for running. I have done it before when I was over 200 lbs and was still able to run a 5k pretty easily. I can't wait to see if I get a better time now!

My weigh in this week is freaking 248.6!!! I'm so excited! I don't know how but I lost 12.6 pounds this week! ALSO I totally BEAT my challenge goal of 250 already and we are only halfway through! I will set my new goal to 235. I'll see if I can make it. I doubt it but I will push myself!

7/14: 217 - didn't go down but more importantly I did t go up! Haha